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Need Reassurance
Mom had to go to the hospital on Monday because of pain in her hip and couldn’t get out of bed. She did not have a break but has a high grade tear in her hamstring and complete tear in one of her butt muscles. She has mid level Alzheimer’s and that is making things 100 times worse. Every time the nurses move her leg she…
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Hospice and the Just Right Mattress
Hello. Caring for a loved one brings so many learning curves. For those who are dealing with so many questions and so few answers, don't give up! My mother is in late stages and has a bed from hospice that allows air circulation. Unfortunately, half of the inflatable "tube," every other one, has deflated. My siblings and I…
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Sleeping or lack there of
My mother has been only averaging 2-4 hours a night. We’ve tried Melatonin and Zzzquil for extended periods and both don’t seem to work. Does anyone have any better solutions that have been helpful? Fyi she hates tea (we tried the sleepy time and Chamomile). I was debating on consulting her doctor on trying low dose…
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Ready to throw the towel in
Brief update: Dad was diagnosed 3+ years ago with VD and onset Alz. He has now been in ASL for 6 months and discussions are being made for the move toward MC. I'm his POA. I've posted about his 2 sisters resisting any directives made by me and they have been sent a cease and desist letter 3 months ago but, still manage to…
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Elderly Aunt....Recent Diagnosis and Home Care Challenges
Hi All, I could use some perspective/guidance/support on our current situation. My sister and I have noticed for some time that our aunt has memory issues, plus a host of other challenges. She has no kids of her own. She was not caring for herself (skipping or cancelling dr apts, not taking or refilling meds, not…
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New diagnosis but extreme condition
Hello everyone, I truly hope and pray for each one of you who is either dealing with this disease personally or has a loved one affected by such a painful condition. I sincerely wish for your strength and that your difficult journey becomes easier. I can relate to your struggles; my mother was diagnosed with dementia last…
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Not Sure What To Do -- Feeling Overwhelmed and Trapped
Hi Again, I care for my mom who has Alzheimer's dementia. She is somewhat independent (own apartment) but can't do grocery shopping, pay bills, remember to take the dog out, go to doctor appointments, etc. I do all of these things for her. I feel absolutely trapped. I used to not only travel often, but also live abroad and…
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Adult Daycare?
Do any adult children caring for parents use adult daycare? In the past year my dad has lost 25 pounds and his memory is rapidly declining. Excessive outbursts anger. Also experiencing fatigue and anxiety. My mom manages this with my help. It has been effecting my mom to be the constant security blanket for him. Do others…
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Some info on elder law attorney fees
An excerpt from Forbes magazine that came across my feed. Hiring An Elder Law Attorney Sorry, scroll back to slide 1 of 7 to start article.
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Mom and Stepdad diagnosed with dementia, Mom and 1 sibling in Denial
This is my first post. I feel overwhelmed. My mom has always been very selfish, conniving, and manipulative. There are 4 kids; sibling R is the golden child (we know it, she knows it). Several months ago mom and her husband were involved in several scams that they carefully hid from us. According to their bank records they…
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Relative and Finance Issues
Thank you for the responses! I really appreciate the advice and support!
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Newly Diagnosed Parent with Dementia - Feel Stressed and Overwhelmed
My 80 year old mother was diagnosed with early Dementia earlier this year. She is also bipolar (diagnosed 30 years ago). It has become very difficult lately as she thinks she does not have dementia - she has forgotten the diagnosis from her neurologist. She told me yesterday her psychiatrist told her she doesn't have it.…
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Rehoming
How do I help my mother understand she is living with me now and can no longer go home?
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Using or borrowing person with incapacitated persons car
I am my parents with dementia poa and they are officially incapacitated and in memory care. I am cleaning out condo. We're donating most stuff, shipping other stuff. she has a nearly new nice car. She has said "take my car. It's new and very safe." can I legally take her car for my personal use in a different state than…
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Father keeps asking where my mother is...
I'm sure this has been addressed many times previously, but I just signed up today. So I'll ask. I moved my 85-year-old parents into a personal care facility 4 months ago. My mother needed the extra care, but my father was fine even though he was in the throes of dementia. My mother passed away after 3 weeks in the…
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Looking for ideas to a rather specific situation re: mom obsessing
Hi - We moved my mom into AL back in May. She has moderate mid-stage AD and, although she had been living in her own home until then, I had started living with her part time because she was afraid at night and starting to struggle with keeping up the house, etc. The facility we chose has a step up program called "Bridges"…
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Losing patience
My brother who has power of attorney just brought documents for my mother to sign to receive some payouts from life insurance and the military. Since yesterday afternoon she believes that she got a deposit and has been pestering me about paperwork. I suffer chronic illness. I provided care for my stepdad as he died of…
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Helping Mom Get Help
Hello! This is my first post here and I’m glad to have found this group. Mom is is assisted living and will soon be transitioning to memory care. There’s a lot to that which I will unpack later. My immediate focus is that I have added showering and dressing support to her care list. She can physically do both, but doesn’t…
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At home caregiver help
Hello All! I am looking into hiring a helper for the weekdays for my Mom. I feel like she needs more attention than we can give her. What kind of questions should I ask a potential helper? I am meeting with a facility that hires out helpers this Saturday. I have vetted the company itself as much as I can online. I am…
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Alzheimer's and Finances
My 84-YO dad has Alzheimer's and is living independently still. He lives close to me, so I see him every day. As most of our loved ones, my dad does not recognize he has a memory problem. I am his POA, Guardian, etc., but he honestly doesn't remember us putting all that in place years ago. How did everyone take over the…
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The Right Answer
My Mom is in early stages of Dementia, lives along and is very stubborn. My sister and I are her care givers. We have seen her decline while making bad decisions. Our current situation is that she would like to go visit her friends in another state for a few weeks. She has visited early this past summer and things went…
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Depression and Alzheimer’s
The last few months my mother has been really battling depression. She was on a mood stabilizer for awhile, but she wanted to stop that because it was causing her to feel tired all day long. Recently her neurologist prescribed an antidepressant called Auvelity. I’m hesitant to give it to her because of all the potential…
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Zoom Group Meeting?
Is there any way we could all get together and chat on zoom maybe once a week, or every two weeks? I feel so absolutely alone, and I'm sure many of you do too. It would be nice to make friends with others who are struggling with the same collection of difficulties. I have a zoom link that we could all use. Anyone…
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Loved one is pretending
Hello! Just frustrated today. I have caught my Mother-in-law pretending to shower a couple of times now! She turns on the water so I hear it running; she comes out with her "dirty" towels and throws them in the laundry, but when I check the towels are not or barely wet. Maybe she is doing a sponge bath but I doubt it. How…
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Say something/Don't say something?
Background: I went through dementia with my husband so I'm aware of the brain changes that happen. I notice when something is suddenly "off". I have lived with my mom since my husband passed 3 years ago. She loves Christmas so we have done big time decorating for the grandkids. A year and a half ago we did a HUGE project.…
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My parents are stubborn
Hi! This is my first post here. My dad has ALZ. I'm not sure what stage because his neurologist hasn't told us. He's progressing. My mom, my dad's caretaker is really struggling with accepting dad's behavior changes. My dad did a lot, all the driving, yard work, filled the car with gas etc. She's not a confident driver so…
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Geriatric Psychologist
Hi, My mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She is still in stage 1 and can be independent. Has anyone gone to a geriatric psychologist and did it help?? I appreciate all the help I can get. Thank you!!
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When siblings do not help
Hi, I have a mother who was just recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I have 2 other siblings, but they do not move unless I remind them. I am annoyed and frustrated. What can I say or do for them to help out?
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Rexulti , insurance wont cover it
hi there, have a prescription for Rexulti for my mom w dementia & Alzheimer’s, however the pharmacy says Humana will not pay for it, & it’s $1,400.00 if I pay out of pocket. Does anybody know a Canadian pharmacy they trust? Thank you M
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My Mother's Siblings
I have a question, what should I do about my mother's siblings who are coming from out of state and want to spend all day at our house? I think that it's too long and offered a 3-4 hour visit yet they complain. Any thoughts?