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Seeking Advice on Initial Steps
My mother is 80 years old and lives with my father who is also 80 years old. Since the beginning of the year, she is starting to show the initial signs of memory loss. She often repeats herself and is unable to retain very much information in her short term memory. I am reaching out for advice on any initial steps I should…
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Incontinence
My mom currently lives in an assisted living community with my dad and struggles with incontinence. She is asked on a regular basis if she has to use the bathroom, always saying no, then will have an accident 5 minutes later. I truly believe she doesn't know she has to go, but I don't know how help her and my dad. We got a…
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Stuck & Need Advice
First Post - seeking advice after a LONG road to present day. Mom first presented concerns 10 years ago but masked symptoms until my sister & I stepped in 4.5 years ago. After going back and forth with her neurologist, we decided to find a new one in a different hospital system local to us. To our relief, in the very first…
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Need new strategy to get Dad into Nursing home
For the past couple of months we have been pressuring (and sometimes its gotten heated and yelling) and it clearly isnt working because he gets defensive and starts crying. And I can't bear watching a grown man cry - it breaks my heart in two and I would do anything for him. But his disabilities are also causing me mental…
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Disarming Mom
My mom is I’d say stage 5/6 she has declined so much in the year she has lived with me. She is verbally aggressive, secretive and lurks trying to listen to conversations. Today I found her in the kitchen garbage with the tv remote in one hand and a pocket knife in the other stabbing in the garbage. I asked her what are you…
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Long time home
Hello, So I finally got my father house situated and it will go up for sale this coming week. It took a village to go thru things and get it cleaned out but Thankfully I had help. Now it seems this week he is on a loop of needing to go home and how he does nothing here. (He is unaware of things that are happening in the…
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Memory Unit or Home Care
Hello guys, I wanted to ask for advice. I'm taking care of my Mom (Russian speaker), she has Alzheimer's dementia. She gets 8 hours a day covered for home care. My brother and I are covering the rest of the time, including nights. It's taking a toll on our families (Mercy Care doesn't want to cover any more hours). We…
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Going Home.
Mom is 87. I am her 60 year old son. She has been in our home since Thanksgiving. She is memory impaired. Family doctor refuses to be helpful. He tells her she has age related memory loss. Then tells her it happens to the best of us. Mom’s house is 180 miles away. She has ZERO support system. All the neighbors have home…
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Not adapting well to memory care
My mom who has stage 4 Alzheimer's moved to memory care a couple of months ago. She went to memory care after living with family for a few months after she could no longer live alone any more. She doesn't seem to be doing well after 2 months. I'm confident that this is the best memory care place within 1 hour of my…
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How to deal with a mom that thinks you're stealing.
Hello, first time poster and just wanted to get some advice. My 87yr young mother is in early/mid stage dementia. Her short term memory is at maybe 30%. And unfortunately she's begun to confuse long term memories with recent ones. Example, she thinks my grandma who passed away 47 yrs ago just passed away a couple years ago…
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Looking for some guidance
Hi, I just joined this group a few minutes ago and why not plunge right in? I'm caring for my father (and have been for close to twenty years) after some health crises and to provide companionship after his wife died as he's never lived alone. The past few years he has begun declining cognitively, but this past year or so…
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Father going into Nursing Home - I am devastated
After multiple hospital visits in the past month my sister has been really pushing that we need to put him in a nursing home. I understand the need and know I can't possibly take care of him on my own. It still really devastates me, makes me extremely sad and upset, and guilty that we have to put him into a home. I am…
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Getting up and disorientated at night
My 94 year old mother was diagnosed with dementia a few years ago. Recently she has been starting to exhibit new symptoms at night and I would appreciate advice from anyone in the community would could help. She gets up in the night, strips the sheets off her bed and starts to pack her clothes as if she is about to go…
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Father driving me CRAZY
My father has early dementia with no short term memory. He is constantly asking me over and over to help him with the computer. He is driving me batshit crazy. It is so annoying and I can't take it anymore. He doesn't know what he is doing on the computer and every time I suggest a way to make it better he just keeps going…
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How to move from assisted living to memory care
My mom has been living in AL almost 2 years after difficult move out to California from Michigan. She did well the first year, but then AL decided to renovate and the disruption triggered fear. She’s 77 years old and was diagnosed with likely dementia, has aphasia and recently has been having auditory hallucinations. She’s…
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Rapid progressing AD because of seizures???
Hi everyone, My mom is in her late 60's. She was diagnosed with mild dementia about a year and a half ago. She has been having seizures and it seems to be progressing the dementia at a very rapid rate. They're now saying she's got Moderate dementia, which seems accurate based on what we're seeing and the level of care…
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Rapid Progression
My mom is 91 and has had early onset of dementia for the last couple of years. She recently got a UTI and has since then gone into a place that I do not even know how to cope deal with or even have a conversation with her. I have her at a skilled nursing while I figure out how I can either a bring her back home with me or…
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Medicine refusal
My mother has dementia, which has now become more serious with delusions and not recognizing her children and other close relatives. For 3 months following a hip replacement operation she was incapable of doing most daily activities and has had the help of a live-in caregiver for basic things like changing her diaper or…
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Mom
Hello, I have been seeing her with my sister recently. She sleeps all the time and as the desiese progresses well it is really terrible. I still kiss, hug, hold her hand and pray with her. Actually now my sister plays the Our Father in Italian for her. No matter if my mom responds to us, it's really all about her and not…
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2 parents with dementia/Alz advice please!
Hi there, I am brand new to this community and my siblings and I are at a loss. My dad was diagnosed recently with stage 4 Alzheimer's. He has trouble tracking and it is still in denial and continues to tell us he is fine and nothing is wrong. I am unsure if that will ever abate. The issue is that my stepmom is his…
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New Alzheimers Diagnosis for 85 YO Dad
Looking for behaviors or actions that are "normal" ALZ behaviors and others to bring to attention to his Primary Care Doctor
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Concerned about Mom's progression
Hi, First post. Not quite sure how to do this but I need advice. My mom was diagnosed with MCI in 2023. She is only in her mid 40s. She is progressing towards early onset unfortunately more rapidly than we hoped. She also just went through Breast cancer treatment late last year and into this spring. I got married end of…
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Mom is losing weight
Hello, some people say when they stop eating that's when the end is near. I don't know,I believe it's up to God. My mom will be 89 this year God willing. The best part of visiting my mom today was that I saw her with my sister. And we really bonded today. It was very nice today. God bless.
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I'm new to this group
My mom is 91 and has had Dementia for almost 5 yrs. She moved in with me 1 1/2 yrs ago. She fell 2 mos ago and didn't break any bones but was badly bruised, in pain and had to be in a wheelchair. From the ER she was admitted into a PT Rehab. That was awful because they were not for memory care patients and mom couldn't…
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Moved mom to AL on Monday and now (Wednesday) she's in a psych ward
I'm horrified and don't know what to do (or what's even possible.) Sorry this is long, I need someone somewhere to understand the history of this since no one has asked us before (or after) committing her. My mom started having memory issues around 2020 but wasn't officially diagnosed with AD until this past January.…
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Mom has auditory hallucinations need help
My 96 year old mom has alzheimers and recently has been having auditory hallucinations - she hears the same part of a song over and over ( i can't id the song). this started about 6 weeks ago for 1 day, then again a month later the 14 days later and then 4 days later. it really upsets her. she thinks its coming from a…
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Where do I start?
My 63 yr old father has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. He has not been told yet. He is still driving, but recently got in an accident and also lapsed his insurance. Anyway I don’t know where to start with telling him and planning and preparing for the future. What makes it harder is he only has an iq of 74 and lacks…
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DPOA ignored at mental hospital
disregard. found answer.
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Trouble getting mom to shower
My mom has dementia but it's still early onset. The two things I'm having problems with is getting her to change out of her PJs and getting her to shower. She said she doesn't get dirty bc all she does is sit in a chair. What can I do?
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I’m so lost - mother is 90, English is a second language
I am so lost. My father recently passed away - somewhat unexpectedly - and, as an only child, am left to care for my 90 year old mother. I had not realized just how bad her short-term memory loss had gotten (dad never said) and I suspect she has onset dementia, She refuses to talk to a doctor or anyone about her mental…