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Help with going to the bathroom
I am new to this discussion board and I'm hoping to get some help and ideas. I am living with my 89 year mom who has moderate Alzheimer's/dementia. She is not very stable when she walks and uses a walker all the time. She has a bathroom in her room but I put in a commode a few feet from her bed for use during the night and…
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Memantine experiences
I'm a caregiver for my dad, who has been on Donepezil for a while now for his Alzheimer's. He is doing well for now, but it is only a matter of time before the doctor prescribes him Memantine, too, if I understood correctly. I've seen side effects, dizziness, headaches, confusion, etc. But I'm wondering, what are some…
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How Do I Stop Being Angry?
My Asian mom's dementia suddenly surfaced in early March during a traumatizing incident that resulted in me getting kicked out of the house in the middle of the night. Since then, my older sister (who is my mom's long-distance caregiver) has made plans to move me & my mom to VA to live with her in a new house that's…
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New to the Group
Where to begin……… I have so many questions/concerns. My aunt of 68 years young has been forgetting things on a regular basis for the last year. It has gotten progressively worse the last few months. She has owned her own business for the last 40 years and has been a independent single women her entire life, she doesn't…
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Mobile tracker/newly diagnosed
Hello. My dad was recently diagnosed with dementia. It breaks my heart to see the changes. I am so thankful to God that he is still here but it still hurts. He is the best dad in the world. I try not to think about what the future could hold, but its difficult. His doctor suggested we put a mobile tracker in his phone…
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Medicaid or home health? Rapid decline in mom
My mom recently was diagnosed 3 weeks with Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia and is rapidly getting worse. Is this a normal part of this process? Also, I’m trying to research home health care because she is forgetting to take her meds. I’m getting different answers through Medicare for her coverage. Any suggestions? What…
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Taking Away The Credit Card
My father was recently diagnosed with Alz. He understands the situation. Always had a very argumentative relationship with my mother and there are some trust issues. Now I received this from my mom: "A few days ago, your father was listening to a medical sales pitch on the internet, he was convinced that it was a product…
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Need Advice
My mom has dementia and its been hard lately because I can't fix it. Like everyone else no one wants to see their loved one going through anything like this. How do you manage with everything you want to do anything for them but in reality, you can't. It can be overwhelming, stressful and of course depressing because I…
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Trusting the "Experts"
This is my first time posting on this website. I am almost 60 years old and my 90 year old mother was recently diagnosed with dementia. She and my father live in an RCAC 2 hours away from where my sister and I live. In the past few months my mom's memory has declined and has required more care. She and my dad have been…
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PACE and LIFE in NJ, is this my only hope?
As I try to learn "what can be" for my elderly Mom who is caring for my Dad with vascular dementia….I feel I am loosing precious time. Time is focused on the worst instead of connecting with my Father. Should anything happen to my Mom, I need to have an emergency plan in place. My parents do not have a plan. Has anyone…
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Arguing
This was on my facebook and I thought it was so relevant for us dealing with dementia I thought I would share. Relevant for both the pwd and difficult family. Helen Mirren once said: Before you argue with someone, ask yourself, is that person even mentally mature enough to grasp the concept of a different perspective.…
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Dealing with the pain from LO tell me to get out.
My mom and I have always been very close we've either lived together or next door to each for most of my life. She has been my rock and me hers my entire life. She got really sick with covid then rehab, then sick again with stomach issues in hospital for almost 3 weeks then back to rehab took much longer to get her…
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Mom swings from engaged to zombie
Hello all, I’ve been caring for my 91 year old mom with Alzheimer’s for 5 years, along with my sister and a team of in-home PSWs. Over the last 8 months mom will have periods where she is zombie-like, barely awake, sleeps a lot, almost slurs her words, not interested in anything. Then within a week she is back to her…
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Transition into memory care
I moved my mom into memory care 10 days ago. She loves when I take her for rides or out to eat. Do you think it is okay for me to take her to my house some days? Or should I let her get acclimated to her new home first? So far she hasn't fought going back but I have only taken her on rides or to stores.
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Psychiatric Drugs for Alzheimer's patients
My parent has stage 4 Alzheimer's. My parent is in her mid 70s and is not happy with being at memory care which she arrived at 6 months ago. She just isn't adjusting well, won't engage in activities, stays in her room a lot, talks about leaving all the time, is depressed to be at memory care and is anxious. In the past few…
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Sleepiness
Hi - I’m new here. My mom is the primary caregiver of my dad diagnosed this past year with stage 4 Alzheimer’s. My mom is very unaccepting of the diagnosis and keeps hoping for a cure or that any medication he takes will improve his memory. One of the main issues is my dad’s sleepiness. Is this common? He wakes up in the…
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Getting a Diagnosis
Hi All, I'm new here. Over the past several months my mom has been experiencing severe paranoia and delusions. She thinks the house is bugged, the neighbors broke in to steal her house phone, the FBI is coming to get her, etc. Some of her stories have gotten incredibly dark and concerning, including texting family at late…
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The Pain of Putting Parents in Nursing home
I feel so much pain and sorrow putting my parents into a nursing home. They both have dementia and seem to be spiraling further down since I put them in the nursing home just weeks ago. Both of them seem to not like their situation. It just hurts so much to have them suffer and it causes me great pain and grief.
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Hello!
My dad was diagnosed with late on-set Alzheimer's dementia type with depression in October of 2024. Although I have suspected for 4 years before his diagnosis. I have been living with him for 15 years, so I noticed the changes in his memory and how his brain worked as it was happening. I also have a daughter with her own…
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Re: Grandson Wants to Watch his grandmother
Hello, I have a question: My nephew (a police detective) his wife and children want to have lunch with their grandmother, and he seems to want me to leave. They say it's so I can take a break. They've never watched her alone before and have two young children, 3 and 8 years old. I've been my mother's caregiver for nearly…
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Medicaid approval mess
Mom was moved to a snf a few weeks ago. Her money is gone (or almost) and there was no way for her to pay for AL. I have spent the last few weeks getting everything they ask for. I have kept very carful track of money and receipts. They told me yesterday she was approved. I was so excited! I have been stressed about this…
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Went to memory clinic for my dad's mental health, not a positive outcome.
Hi, looking for any information, that may help my parents financially? Not sure where to start? For the past almost 8 years, our family has been struggling to keep up with my dad's mental condition. I would say out of the 8 years, the last 4 years has been really stressful. Recently went to a memory clinic, my dad scored…
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GLP-1's in Demetia Patients
Hello Everyone, Itws been quite a while since I"ve posted and been around. I have some things I'd like some advice on from our community. My Dad started this journey about 2 years ago and it has only become more complex and complicated. He has a myriad of health issues so I wont get into all of them, but with his Demetia…
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Mom lives in Independent Living Fac, needs to move to AL, hard 'No!'
I am new to this forum. I have found many discussions relevant to my situation. I received a lot of good information from these discussions, but I figured I'd post my question on the off chance some more information may come to light. I currently care for my Mother with the help of my wife. My mom moved from out of state…
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ugh I am just so sad
I hope that everyone on this platform is surviving this nightmare. I have been taking care of my sweet husband for 5 years or so. This past week, he ended up in the ER for a bowel obstruction, which is not the first one he has experienced, so I was aware of the signs before it got out of hand. While he was in the hospital,…
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Happier When I leave
Hello, So I noticed after 9 years of seeing my mom. I am happier when I leave the NH than when I go. I noticed that with the other visitors today as well. However thank God I saw her again. God bless.
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Dementia advancing
My mom’s MC called, then hospice social worker who visited. Dementia is advancing. She fell again (getting out of chair), doesn’t use walker, was up all night. I saw her last night and it’s true she REALLY just wants to constantly be walking around. They said the redirection has been hard. They have to lock peoples rooms…
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New stage?
Mom states she had been having urinary urgency for the past 2 weeks. She denies any known symptoms of an UTI. She has an upcoming appointment with a urologist nonetheless. Last week, she was mortified when she did not make it to the toilet in time, ending up having her bladder totally emptying itself on the floor of her IL…
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How to help LO adjust to MC
My parent is mid stage of dementia and was placed in a high quality memory care facility (supposedly the best chain in the country per US World News and Reports). This facility has programs for all levels of dementia including higher functioning people like my mom. She has been there for 6 months and she is just not…
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Mom's been in MC for a week
She is confused by the move. The MC staff say she's handling it better than most. She is "polite and compliant" and willingly joins activities. For that I am grateful, because she was always a very social person. Mom is now early Stage 6, but still has strong social skills, and there are some other ladies in MC like that…