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Is Zoloft any good?
My DH just got out of the hospital and was sent home on Zoloft for anxiety. I had hoped they would have given him Klonopin or something similar to use PRN. Nope, it’s addictive. He went in for chest pains and my thought is that it’s more anxiety related. All tests were thankfully negative for a heart attack. I told them…
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Waiting for the trainwreck: What do you do when your LO refuses to trust family or doctors
I will try to keep this shortish. My younger cousin, 56, probably has early onset Alzheimer's and it's being exacerbated by self-medicating. She had an MRI in January and a PET scan in April that showed elevated amyloid in three of four lobes and borderline in the fourth. Since May she has been manic, paranoid, delusional,…
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Caustic Behavior While Traveling in Our Car
My DW and I used to travel extensively all over the US to visit parks and botanical gardens. With her increasing dementia episodes travel in our car is limited to no longer than 15 minutes. My DW tells me very caustically I drive too fast (as we travel at less than the speed limit) that there are cars always right on our…
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I feel likeI have been mourning for the last two years
My sweet husband had to go to a nursing home two weeks ago. I didn't realize how much I cared for him physically. I feel lonely and lost. I just got a cancer diagnosis, and I have to travel for treatment, and I will be gone for weeks at a time. I don't know how to process this feeling of loss I am experiencing, as he was…
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looking for hygiene video recommendations
The last couple of months it has gotten really hard to help DW with cleaning up after using toilet, and with bathing. I have tried different approaches, but they generally all end at the same place. At some point my patience ends. I just take over and do what needs to be done and she has her meltdown. I watched a few…
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I See and Feel her slipping away
My DW is living with undiagnosed ALZ. DW of our 36-year marriage had a cerebral hemorrhage about 1 year ago and I have seen her gradually slip away mentally at times. She was also left visually impaired by the operation which adds another challenge to overcome. She can see some things but not well enough to read. I…
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Is Rexulti an Option?
Hello Friends, I'm so sorry you have need to be here but I am so very grateful for your input. I recently posted concerns regarding my DH's combativeness and aggressiveness with showers and getting undressed for bed. It's become a significant issue and Rexulti has been recommended. Wondering whether you may have thoughts…
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Update on bringing DH home from Memory Care
It has now been 6 days since I brought my husband home from memory care, and he has regained quite a bit of the ground he lost during the 2 weeks there. He is more able to walk since he is walking in the house without a walker so strengthening his leg muscles (can't fix the really bad knees). His initial confusion about…
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Out of Control
My first husband died of Alzheimer's at age 57 in 2011. I remarried in 2015 and now my 2nd husband has been diagnosed via brain scan with early Alzheimer's. I want so much to be a supportive partner, but I feel so angry and out of control. He does what he wants regardless of my feelings. He orders the wrong things from…
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memory care bail out
Well I thought I had done it. I placed my DH, probably early stage 6, in a local memory care facility. I had looked at every likely place and decided this one was the best. No health department citations, many many positive reviews. Chickens and bunnies. I had visited 4 times. It has lots of activities, though I knew he…
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Advice on DH out in public
My DH is resisting sitting down when we go out to eat. He will just stand at the table without moving. After multiple efforts to ask him to sit he will finally cooperate. I would welcome any advice or perspective on how to help him.
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No long term insurance
I know this is not the forum for this but this group may have some good advice and resources to look at, that we may all benefit from Thank you
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Now the hospital has him in a cage?
Because he is so combative and aggressive they said they needed to put him in a Cage ( nylon netting). This was also done so he wouldn't fall. I think this is elder abuse but they said it was for his protection and the staff. Has anyone heard of this and isn't it elder abuse?
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Questions
I don't even know where to start. How this awful disease progresses? What to expect in each stage. Where to get information.My DH sometimes seems perfectly okay, an hour later he ask the same questions over and over. I am very patient, it is so hard to see him go through this, he was always kind, loving, helpful, now I see…
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Son in denial
My wife's son knows his mother has dementia. I tried to talk to him about what happens if I, the sole caregiver, cannot provide for her. He says not to worry, she'll go first. He doesn't understand that it is just me passing away that could cause her to need a new caregiver. I could become incapacitated and not be able to…
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Leaning how to adapt.
Hi, My wife has been diagnosed with dementia for over five years. I been taking care of her the whole time. Now things seem to get worse and I’m not sure when I should contact professional help. She was enrolled in the memory center for seven years. Just reaching out for the first time to learn what’s next for me to do.…
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Want to bring him home not nursing home
Husband probably need physical therapy to get his legs stronger after being hospitalized for falls and the rage of a dementia episode. and bed bound for a week so far. I am not sure of his cognition or aggression since he has been sedated to keep him calm and stay in bed for fear of falling. How can I request the hospital…
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New way of life
Hi I am new to the group and had many questions and the alz community has been most helpful. The person I'm caring for has always been a very quiet reserved man now all of a sudden he's become so talkative he mumbles and talks all day I'm just wondering if anybody else goes through this? Thank you all for being there and…
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Starting with hospice
at the primary care doctor he suggested it might time to involve palliative care and/or hospice. DH is still ambulatory but needs 100% help and care. Doctor said he would qualify because of weight loss and skin breakdown ( he has pressure sores on his rear). I’m wondering how early others have involved, and what your…
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Overwhelmed at times
I am caring for my wife of 46 years. Her moderate Alzheimer's is progressing every month. Her 2 medications may be working, bit I can't really tell. My emotional and physical albitites are taxed at times. I can continue this hectic pace but feel the need to reach out for help. Any suggestions? My cousin did offer respite…
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Dealing with DH depression.
My DH seems to do well until about 3 p.m. or so when he gets very depressed and confused. Sometimes he gets restless but it is the depression that worries me the most. I can't get him to do any of the things that he used to enjoy doing.
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He Cried
My DH took me by surprise today. He cried one time in our marriage and thst was just for a second. He came in the bathroom and just burst into tears….. over the school shooting today in MN. Lips quivering and sobs. Never saw anything like this from him. Just shocked me. Another part of this dreaded disease, I guess.
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New here
Hi all, I'm new here. I'm my husbands part time care giver. He is moving in to what I think is late stage alzheimers. I have a caregiver here with him while I'm at work. He has trouble speaking, finishing a thought, dressing himself, he can eat alone, but can't make his own food. He can't be left alone anymore. His…
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Treating NPH
Has anyone on this forum actually know, personally, if any one had a lumbar puncture to help diagnose NPH, and if so did it relieve some symptoms, such as cognitive and walking? And how did the person feel after the lumbar puncture? I've been reading that is a relatively rare condition
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Hair cut and shave while in hospital
If my spouse is in a facility or hospital how can he get a haircut or shave or nails cut if he cannot go out or it is not safe to take him, or should I just risk it and take him to get this done Also he needs a shower He can bathe himself but has trouble with turning it on and off (I have to do this for him and then the…
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Ugly Stepchildren Dilemma
I know some of you have written regarding problems with stepchildren, and I am hoping for some advice. My DH is in memory care in early Stage 6, and neither of his children think he should be. His son is the worst and blames all of his dad's problems on improper medication. His daughter realizes that dad is ill, but thinks…
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STAGE 8 - There is no other side of grief...
My soulmate husband Lonny passed August 12. I feel lost most of the time but am trying to find myself without him. Found this on a Facebook post today. So true. I had my own notion of grief. I thought it was the sad time, that followed the death of someone you love. And you had to push through it to get to the other side.…
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Dreams
DH with ALZ has started dreaming. In the past he has said that he was unaware of any dreams. Now, they are vivid enough for him to remember. Additionaly, he is tearing up his bed in his sleep to the point where all bedding is on the floor. I did not aske him about his dreams whichh I see now that I probably need to do. He…
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New here
Good afternoon, informative sight. Thx
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Just went to the hospital HELP
This morning when he got up he couldn't walk very well and could not stand up I called 911 to assist and they suggested to take him in for tests So here I am all tests including,CT came back normal so they will admit him sometime today or tomorrow And maybe do a lumbar puncture for further analysis per his doctor He is…