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What Is Looking After Yourself
This might seem a bit silly but it’s said to me often by medical staff “look after yourself” Could I ask what does everyone do to look after themselves. Apart from getting enough sleep which is hard, is it a frame of mind, time out on your own once or twice a week and then where do you go. When you have a baby you never…
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Qualities I Need to Work On
Yesterday, DH wanted to go to the grocery store with me. I should have been pleased about this since he hasn’t had any appetite or energy lately. As he slowly pushed the grocery cart around using it as a walker, I gathered some items we needed; and he filled the cart with items that we don’t need, or he should not be…
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Long Naps
Can I just say…I love it so dang much when my DW takes a long nap. She's at about 3-4 hours a nap every day now. I know that means she's moving along, but I do enjoy these moments of quiet. I'm happy she gets them too.
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Questions About Elder Care Attorneys
I'm exhausted from not sleeping at night because I contacted an elder care attorney and they now want almost $9,000.00 to arrange things like Medicaid application, getting the house/cars/etc. into only my name. We already both had our Power of Attorneys, Wills and Five Wishes taken care of. My question is this - is this a…
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The Cavalry Is Not Coming
Reposting for the new platform. I have not posted here for quite a while, and I want to let you know that I am still here. I hope you all are doing well, and I also have a thought process to share with you. October 1, 2022 will mark seven years since my wife’s dementia became obvious, and that I knew for certain that this…
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Photograph and Memories
Photograph And Memories By Miles Woolley My beautiful wife has an interesting history of high achievement in her education and intellectual advancement. She started her adult life with a bachelor’s degree in nursing and served in the Army Nurse Corps earning the rank of First Lieutenant. Following that, she returned to…
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Increased appetite?
Recently DH has had an increase in his appetite. He will get up during the night and eat. I find the evidence of this when I wake up. I don't always wake up during the night when he gets up because I have a cochlear implant which has to be removed at bedtime, and that leaves me completely deaf. So when I do wake up, I find…
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Says he doesn’t have Alzheimer’s
Background: My DH is 56 and was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer’s after an MRI, Neuropsychological Evaluation, and CT PET Scan. The doctor told him he has Alzheimer’s, and he and I talk about it every once in a while. He has been out of work for nearly a year because he accepted an Early Retirement Severance Package…
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Tracking watches
I am looking for a watch with gps tracking. What would you recommend? We have Tile gps trackers on phones, keys, wallets. Anything else you would recommend? Thank you in advance for your suggestions.
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Having a time coping with Husband
I have noticed big changes in behavior and took him to Dr. and have finally got appointment Oct 1 for neurologist. He has been throwing things away, good things, loosing thing, not knowing what day it is, I ask him all day to make his bed and he say he will get to it and it doesn't happen. I had to start checking on him…
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CHERISH THOSE POSITIVE PEOPLE AROUND YOU
If there is anything I have learned…only in the very beginning of this incredibly difficult and challenging disease process is that you truly learn who loves & cares for you.. and spouse (DH) be it family or friends. As much as you will or have gone out on a limb for others in their difficult or challenging times.. it most…
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My husband isn’t diagnosed yet
his memory is worse every day. So frustrating with all the repeated questions, plus he cat hear wear and has a cochlear implant, so lots of yelling answers to him. Good thing I have the patience of a saint!
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PWD refusing to pee with aide, instead ends up going on floor, help!
Looking for tips to improve a situation! My husband is not incontinent but sometimes needs help in the bathroom, either verbal cueing, or sometimes a bit of physical guidance, to either stand close enough to the bowl to aim or to sit down and pee that way. The problem is that now I'm back at work, the aide (who's in her…
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i am so confused
My DH has been diagnosed with early stage dementia. He has been tested and it is not Alzheimer's. His short term memory is getting worse every day. He cant remember where we are going at all. I do the driving now. As an example I will ask him over and over to put is partial plate in. By the time he gets up the stairs he…
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when to stop work
Hello family, My DH is not remembering who I am. Has our wedding picutures from one room to another. Im thinking this might be soon til , the is last time he remembers us. He sleeps alot and is awake til ??? During day I work 4 days 730-5. Should I quit working? I dont know
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How do I make this decision
My DH has had Alzheimer’s for about six years. He eats well, is somewhat responsive but does not engage in conversations, forgets to bathe and brush his teeth etc. He is not incontinent. We have hospice in once a week to help him shower, which he objects to, and a nurse to check vitals. He also has congestive heart…
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Update
I want to give an update on what's been happening with DH. In my last two thread I shared that the facility said the state told them he had to move because of an incident where he wandered and got into bed with a female resident and touched her in an inappropriate place. The Division of Health and Senior Services (DHHS)…
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PBM laser light therapy for Alzheimer’s
Have any of your love ones had PBM laser therapy treatments? If so, has it helped for cognition? The research on this therapy for Alzheimer’s is promising for delaying the progression.
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Need advice
I am hoping someone out there has experienced a something similar and can provide some guidance. Background: My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s “with a vascular contributing factor” in 2023. I would say he is probably in the moderate stage now. To the average person, he seems normal. Short term memory is really bad;…
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Ordering Supplements
Hello, this is my first post here, though I have read through many discussions and found them insightful and therapeutic. My DH was diagnosed with AD last year, had been showing symptoms of dementia for several years, and had a previous diagnosis of MCI. For several years, he's been ordering various supplements that claim…
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The Long Quiet
Dear Friends, I am quickly approaching ten years as a caregiver for my dear wife with late Stage 6 dementia. Alzheimer’s and dementia have long been known as The Long Goodbye because of the painfully long duration of the disease. No one knows how long their journey as a caregiver will go on, but I never imagined myself…
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A little pick-me-up
Sometimes the smallest kindest can make you feel so blessed. An old friend from our ski club who found out my circumstances sent me a gift box with this beautiful mug. I loved the message on it and wanted to pass it on to all of you awesome caregivers. We didn’t choose this life but we’re making the best of it out of love…
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Dementia study done by the UK
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-15084673/sleep-brain-ageing-dementia-insomnia-brain-ageing.html Interesting.
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End stage
My father insists on taking care of my mom till the very end. He is struggling medically as well and they need lots of support. They are currently in assisted-living however I’m wondering at one point do I insist on memory care?
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Gentleness and Continuation
I guess after reading about so many other situations I have it very easy. My DH is not aggressive, he’s very sweet and kind the sort of person that everyone loves. He gave up driving relatively easily and is quite good as a passenger, he accommodates most of my wishes if I manipulate the circumstances to suit. We go to the…
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Wedding Ring
My DH lost his wedding a while back but keeps thinking he just lost it. He just told me he lost his wedding ring and said “ I know I had it yesterday” but he didn’t. I’m concerned now cause of the distress this is causing him. I’m acting nonchalant but he’s clearly worried. Should I go buy a new one and pretend I found it?…
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worried about my own memory
My husband was diagnosed with early stage Alzheimers and lately I am wondering if I have alzheimers. I do not know if it is from the stress. He is very negative and constantly talking about what is wrong with him. I try to be patient but it is sometimes difficult with his pessimistic attitude. I am not sure if anyone else…
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"Exhaustion" by Michael J Whelan
I follow Michael on X (Twitter). His is a stage 4 cancer survivor & his wife Rebecca has Parkinson's & now Parkinson's Dementia. He has such a way with words. He expresses what many of us feel. He posted this today: "A Letter to Exhaustion.by Michael Whelan Chapter 21. An except from my memoir. Dear Exhaustion, You didn’t…
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Elizabeth Dole Foundation assistance for caregivers of veterans
if you are the caregiver of a veteran, contact the Elizabeth Dole Foundation for assistance. Veterans do not have to have a disability rating to qualify for assistance. Go on their website and fill out the intake form. I posted further information on the caregiver information page with their phone number and assistance…
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Kisunla
Good morning to all. I hope you’re finding peace somewhere along this journey that we’re all on together. I don’t post very often, but a friend sent me an article about a new monthly infusion called Kisunla. I’m wondering if anybody out there is aware of this or has had any experience with it. This is advertised as yet…