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Advice on Deed
I need to get some advice from you folks on what to do with our home deed. The deed is in both my and my DW name. It is also included in our Trust. I will probably need to sell house to help defray the costs of MC some day. When and if we get to that day, my DW will probably not be able to sigh any documents. I do have a…
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Feeling Fragile
I feel so sad. My DH of 54 years has VD stage 5 or 6 our partnership over the years has been so strong, we've worked together in our own business, sailed together, flown together, had our children together, and always relied on and supported each other, and now it's just me calling all the shots. I love him dearly and I am…
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stability issues at toilet
DH is becoming more unstable in general, he hasn't fallen much -yet- but I'm looking for suggestions using the toilet. He is trying to see if he can pee sitting down, but standing is such an ingrained habit it may not be workable. He needs something to hold onto whether he sits or stands. I have heard the suggestion to put…
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Age 59 early onset with a six year
My husband (currently separated) is in the early stages of being diagnosed. There is a months long wait to get into a neurologist to get an official diagnosis. Meanwhile, I’m now a 41 year old single mom to six year old. His undiagnosed symptoms have caused financial ruin for our family. He isn’t able to work and is…
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Homecare
I’d like to get a caretaker come over twice a week for a few hours. Where do I begin to search? And hubby likes sleeping until 10:30 or so. Therefore I should have the person over when he’s up and about? Thx
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Caring for spouse
my DH has EO dementia. He has an alcohol use disorder. He has guns as we live in the country and have chickens. He is 82 and I’m 83. I at a loss as to how to deal with everything and my family is worried about his gun use against me in his mental condition. I need help.
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Confusion in transition from sleep to awake
I have been searching for information on this site, but cannot find much about this. My DH is developing a pattern of confusion or ??? During the period of coming awake. The duration varies, from a few minutes to half an hour. During that time, he does unexpected things like needing to empty the dishwasher unclothed, or…
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cognitive vs ADLs
I expect that some of you have been in the situation I am in with my DW. Her neurologist described her condition as "severe" last week at a 6-month evaluation, but then went on to say that her ADLs are good and she is physically ok. That leaves me wondering if one is more important than the other regarding the need for MC.…
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Hospice benefits
My DH was just approved for hospice services. He has been in a pretty rapid decline since moving into a wonderful residential memory care home in November 2024. While I am grateful that his remaining time with this wretched disease may be limited, am having trouble figuring out what value add the hospice services might…
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Seizure that came with a gift
My husband had a seizure Tuesday morning. It was the scariest thing I’ve been through on this journey . It started with him yelling and screaming. Then his limbs began posturing . Finally he went completely rigid and his head tilted back and his breaths came in puffs. He bit his tongue and it began to bleed. When it was…
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She Is Dancing With The Angels
My wife Linda’s journey of this earth ended this afternoon. I have mentioned several times in my post how she loved to dance and she continued dancing almost to the very end. I attached the link below of her dancing. She contracted Covid 3 weeks ago which lead to an infection that got out of control. She passed peacefully…
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Hypersexuality
Its been a long time since I've posted, but his hypersexuality is much worse. He is not angry, or mean, or delusional, just talks about sex non stop. The only thing that makes me feel better is that I have caregivers who aren't nt phased by it, having seen it a million times. It makes me feel like I'm in a more normal world
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Unexpected peaceful moment
I just wanted to share with those who would understand. Tonight, I had one of those truly unanticipated moments of peace and dare I say joy? After getting DH into bed, I poured myself an adult beverage, stepped out onto the patio, sat in my chair, and listened to the wind blowing in the trees (it’s really gusting here in…
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Giving up
My dh is in stage 4,also has vd and multiple health issues. Does all his adls. He appetite is poor,has lost alot of weight. Yes I have tried boost and any thing he will eat. Was talking with him this morning. Ask him if point plank are you giving up? He said why? I said your getting weaker and your voice is getting weaker.…
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funny
DH has started Kisunla. I told him we were going to leave soon for his infusion. He asked why we were going as he had enough confusion and didn’t need more.
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Questions about Vascular Dementia
My husband was diagnosed Nov 2024 with Vascular Dementia following a MRI. In looking back the signs were present around 3 years ago……..but I the time we didn’t know it was Vascular Dementia. He had a “spell” Feb 2022 that was diagnosed as ketoacidosis due to being a non-compliant diabetic. In looking back to this day there…
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Struggling to get him to do anything
DH is becoming more and more resistant to things he needs to do, like changing clothes, brushing teeth, washing. Maybe I created this problem myself in the way I’ve been handling it but I’m at a loss as to what to do next. He used to get undressed at bedtime no problem, so could slip clean underwear and clothes at that…
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Follow up on Blount Alzheimer’s Center Cuts.
I was devastated by the cutbacks at the Blount Cenetr for Alzheimer’s research. There is no cure for for my DH, but I know the Center is working so that my children and grandchildren will be spared this vile disease. Not expecting much, I contacted my congressperson. A few days later, my congressperson phoned me! He…
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Onesies
My spouse is about Stage 6 and has lived in memory care/assisted living for 2 1/2 years now. He has moved from the more independent through the middle and is now in the section where residents require the most care. The nurse called me this week and said he is peeing wherever he is, and wonders if I mind them trying him…
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All alone
This is a sad story. My partner (F) and I (M) are both 75. We have been together almost 33 years. She is the love of my life. Over three years ago we moved far away to a new area which is more affordable so we could retire. We have only each other. There are no children, family or friends. After we moved, she developed…
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Repetitive questions
How do you deal with the repetitive questions? My DH is driving me nuts. He will ask the same question 8 times or more in the course of 15 or 20 mins. Then later it will start all over. I know it is not his fault but my patience is wearing thin. I have my own health problems (Pancreatic cancer) which he is oblivious to( no…
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When to cancel the cell phone line
My DW is in stage 5. In the past few months, she has lost complete interest in even trying to use her cell phone. She has not gotten a meaningful call or text on her phone in months. I have been moving all her accounts to my phone number. Every month when I pay the cell phone bill it makes me feel financially stupid. The…
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Advice for surgery?
Hi - it’s been a minute since I’ve posted. I hope everyone is doing as well as they can. I’m here because I could use a little advice. I’m going to be having surgery later in the spring. There is a 4-6 week recovery period, including up to 2 weeks of bed rest. My husband is well cared for in his facility. What I’m trying…
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Retirement
Well. I worked full-time during these last six+ years of solo caregiving as my DW has progressed to now Stage 5. I’ve been losing my mojo every year of this, with this past year ending up with me completely burnt out. I am lucky, my employer is a Family Medical Leave Act employer,, so I’ve taken the last 1.5 months off on…
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Feeling So Sad
what do you do when sadness overtakes you. Today coming home in the car with my DH of 54 years he asked who are you?
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Falling apart
It feels like everything is just falling to pieces. I feel like my family is imploding and no matter how hard I try to hold everyone together we're all falling apart in our own self destructive ways. We're in our 40's and DH has EO still in early stages. We got the diagnosis about a year ago and he's still (understandably)…
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Doubting my caregiving
posted tonight about how DH just won’t stay away from me with his awful cold - not Covid yay! Now have a sore throat headache sneezing and cannot take anything. I asked him why he can’t just stay upstairs so I don’t get sick and surprise he said he doesn’t want to. I am really feeling that I am not the best caregiver for…
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I'm ready for adult day care
I have concluded that I have to have help with this. My wife has stage 5 AD and my 50 year old son has a stew of cognitive disorders, and I am the caretaker for both. He lives in an RCF and she lives with me. Taking the two of them anywhere is very stressful for me and them, because they trigger each other. DW needs 24/7…
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Guilt
My DH is in the Severe part of this awful disease and in MC. He has been refusing his meds at times and is experiencing agitation, anxiety and aggression. I have not been visiting because I know that I am a trigger for his anxiety and want him to remain as calm as he can for his own peace of mind and for the staff that…
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Adjustable Bed?
DH will (hopefully) be coming home from rehab in the next few weeks. He’s recovering from a fractured tibia. PT is rough because he can’t follow direction well and doesn’t remember what they’re asking him to do. He is in distress every day here, and his anxiety and (growing) agitation is through the roof. But he is very…