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Life expectancy
Hello. My husband received a diagnosis of early onset alzheimers. He has lots of questions, one which is about life expectancy. Reading between 4 years to 20. How long after diagnosis do people with early onset alzheiners need more care.
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Lucid and logical
My DH had two falls two days apart at his MC, where he has lived for about five weeks or so. The second fall, yesterday, occasioned a trip to the ER. Other than a knot on his head and some bruises and scrapes, he was allowed to go back to MC. Today when I visited him, he was more lucid than he'd been since he went in there…
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Magnesium Citrate
DH has always been rather constipated, I've been giving him a small dose of MiraLax daily and prune juice for months with fairly good success. ….but now he hasnt had a movement in 10 days. He doesn't eat muh anyway, but he does eat, I know something is there! The hospice nurse said to give him a bottle of magnesium…
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Losing me!
We do so much, give so much, care so much and as a result we lose who we are, who we were! Please I miss me! I miss my belly laughs, I miss my glass full, I miss my friends, family, life, laughter, that joy of each day! How do we reclaim the “me”? I won’t give up on DH nor will I give up on me, but how do I reclaim that…
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VA social worker
I called the veteran's affair clinic because they now offer a 'coordinated' team approach to treating vets with cognitive problems. I received a call back from a VA social worker,but couldn't take it because HWD was hovering and I wouldn't have been able to talk. I was wondering if anyone else has had experience with them…
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Do toddler door knob covers work?
Do toddler door knob covers work or will my DW figure it out? How does a LO respond to seeing them? I don't need another battle. I'm sure it depends on the individual and what stage they are in. I'm just curious because I need something.
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Totally frustrated
I am at the point I hate to see the evening arrive. My DW every evening here lately it's like a switch has been flipped and I become her father and her husband has left. I tried playing the role as her father to assure her she is safe, but she gets very angry as to why her husband has left for the night and nothing I can…
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To those with LO in memory care
My wife has been in memory care for about 9 months. She had a stroke 10 months ago. Our marriage has not been close for a long time, but she doesn't remember what our problems were. I would like to know how others are dealing with their spouses being in memory care. I feel kind of trapped. I can never go back and don't…
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Life Insurance
Unfortunately I had to cancel an expense policy when my husband lost his job. At that time I didn't know he would be diagnosed with ALZ. Now I'm having trouble just getting a basic policy for him. Can anyone offer some help? He's 65. Thanks, CM
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Trouble writing
Hi there...my husband has Alzheimer's at age 64. I can barely sign his name anymore and can write numbers. What do you all recommend I do? Do I need a power of attorney to complete this task for him now? I appreciate anyone with some knowledge on this subject. CM
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Dentist
Hi My husband has Alzheimers and I'm looking for a dentist that is patient and kind when handling someone with Alzheimers. I live in the Lincoln RI area. Any referrals would be much appreciated. Darlene
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Having a hard time choosing between home care and memory care
A month ago my DH with mixed dementia ended up in the hospital. Nothing serious. From the hospital he went to a transitional care program where they adjust his medication because of his aggressive behavior and high anxiety. He has been there for a month and is much calmer and a lot less aggressive. He is also almost 100…
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How to stop concerning behavior
How do you stop your LO from doing inappropriate things? Two examples… When we walk in the neighborhood, DH sometimes wants to walk up people’s driveways so he can look at the water behind their house. I can’t think of anything to stop him other than saying that’s private property, then he gets angry at me and cusses me…
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DW that has a dog...
My DW and I have a dog. She is obsessed over him. I had to remove all of the food from our refrigerator and panty because she kept feeding him, excessively. Luckily, I have a refrigerator downstairs that is out of sight. My DW is obsessed with ensuring that our dog has enough water and food and goes outside. This obsessive…
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Support Groups for Younger Onset
Hello. I just joined this forum and am looking for a younger onset support group for my DH, who was diagnosed with vascular demetia at 62 and will be 65 this year. He currently belongs to a support group that meets twice a month, once on zoom and once in-person. All the other participants in the group are at least 10+…
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Happy I can still find things that make me laugh
My husband lost his phone this morning and wanted help finding it. I was in a different room so I told him I’d call it so he could follow the sound. After calling several times with no answer I went looking for him. He was in his bathroom on his hands and knees looking behind the toilet. When I called again I could tell he…
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Imaginary People in Our House
My DW sees imaginary people in our house at all hours. Right now at 10 AM she is talking to them and telling them to get out. She asks me ifi they are my friends and why I let them in. I am at odds at how to deal with this every day and night occurrence. I welcome any input you may have to help me deal with this. how have…
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Adult Day Care
I live in Cabarrus county, North Carolina and am considering enrolling may DW into an adult day care program I was wondering if anybody has any experience/recommendations on adult day care facilities in the Cabarrus county area. Thanks
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Need to get grab bars and hand rails installed
DH's mobility is declining. He uses his walker when we leave the house but doesn't use it at home. We have a step from our house going into the garage and also one going out the front door. A handrail and a grab bar would help him navigate these steps. I know they have to be anchored into studs. I'm thinking of calling a…
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Word of caution. Seeming to be normal is not being normal.
I got an abrupt wake up yesterday. We had a minor problem with filing our income taxes and I asked my DH with AL, Stage 3, where did he put the copies of the papers we sent to our accountant. When I finally found them, some were missing. He has seemed so normal (other than word and memory loss) for a number of months that…
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We are all walking somebody home
My niece arranged for the Threshold Choir to come sing for my DH yesterday. It was a beautiful experience. Four people came and arranged themselves in a fashion so my DH was the audience. They sang four or five songs and left quietly. The last song was, We Are All Walking Somebody Home. That hit me like a ton of bricks and…
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Devices or To ablet Apps with Pictures
Hi Folks, My 70 yr old DW cannot put names to items she wants or things she wants to do? Can anyone recommend a book, device or application for a tablet or cell phone that she can point to? Bill
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Medication Inquiry
MY DW neurologist prescribed Memantine medication to slow dementia progression. I am asking our community what side effects they have experienced and have there been positive results of using this medication?
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What to say
first, thx to all for your help and experience. My spouse is totally isolating, won’t go out and wants no visitors. I think I need to get out more, volunteering, church, etc. but what do I tell to so many people who want to see her, go to dinner, come over to watch TV? “She’s not feeling well” or “doesn’t want to leave the…
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Going to sleep at night
DH with AL, Stage 3 or so, has trouble falling asleep at night. He does not take naps. Our Primary doc prescribed Rexulti, but that is going to run us nearly $200/month. Is it worth it and is there an alternative sleep aid that is okay for AL?
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New to all of this and question about surgery
Hi, I am new to this. My 72 yo DH was diagnosed with mild Alzheimer’s, moderate vascular dementia and frontal lobe atrophy. It took 16 months to see a neurologist. In 2004, he had stage 4 lung cancer and 2005 they removed a brain tumor and he had whole brain radiation. He did fine until about 5 years ago and he began to…
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Need Advice How To Overcome Emotions Putting Your Spouse In MC Home
Unfortunately, time has come for me to make a decision on putting my lovely wife of 55 years into MC. I just don’t know how I am going to handle this. Just the thought of it makes me cry especially when I put her to bed or when I am alone. Just feel so guilty. I can’t imagine being alone at home without her…. breaks my…
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MC to Nursing Home
my DH has been in MC for 5 months. He has declined substantially. He now can’t name objects, unsteady in feet, sometimes incontinent/BM so in depends, can’t understand to put medication in mouth, resistant to bathing/shaving/depends change. He wonders in and out of residents rooms as he can’t find his. I was just told he…
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Guilt
DH has been having episodes of aggression. Not really physical more like everything just aggravates him or makes him mad. We went to see his Nero yesterday and I was telling her about it. She increased his seraquel to 50 mg 2x a day. I don't know if I want to do this. Im afraid it's for me because I'm tired of walking on…
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FYI
For those of you who have adult children who are struggling with their parents dementia. Great place also if you are a husband or partner to your LO who has EOAD.