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The Long Goodbye has come to an end
I have lost my wonderful, clever, beautiful wife, lover, and life partner. There was no Hallmark ending for us. Her active dying, as they call it, was the worst 3+ weeks of my life. Watching my DW die like this was excruciating. They of course assured me that it was peaceful for her, as they always tell LOs to try to make…
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How do you handle such deep sorrow?
My DH has EOA and has been also suffering from complications of Ulcerative Colitis. He’s in the hospital. He won’t eat that much because he’s incredibly picky and can’t reason to himself that his body needs food even if every meal or protein drink isn’t perfect. He can’t walk anymore. He won’t even try. And his cognition…
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A Spark Of Joy … follow up
I did it I now have my power boat licence. Thank you all so much for your support and wonderful words of encouragement. It felt so odd just for a short time thinking about me. I felt selfish, it felt wrong I had to keep pulling myself back to the job in hand (ha ha so important driving a boat literally around in circles on…
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Wondering what to do
We are about 8 years into this ALZ nightmare. Big changes are not starting. She has started sundowning which I try to mitigate with walks outside around 4 PM each day. This seems to help. She is refusing to shower and change clothes. She has worn the same clothes day and night for 2 weeks now. She complains about my…
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New to all of this and question about surgery
Hi, I am new to this. My 72 yo DH was diagnosed with mild Alzheimer’s, moderate vascular dementia and frontal lobe atrophy. It took 16 months to see a neurologist. In 2004, he had stage 4 lung cancer and 2005 they removed a brain tumor and he had whole brain radiation. He did fine until about 5 years ago and he began to…
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Is it necessary for Nurologist it ask same questions that upset patient everytime?
some of you know me as I always have lots of questions but for those of you who don’t know my situation it’s that my wife , I feel , is handling this nitemare much better then most that being said I know can change in a heartbeat . It’s 3 yrs and other then not driving or cooking anymore not doing too bad, her short memory…
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Need an updated DPOA easily and inexpensively
I’m new here and my DH is living at home with probably mid-stage Alzheimer’s. I need to update his DPOA and he will be able to understand and sign, but I need convenience and affordability. Suggestions on where others have made one easy, inexpensive trip to get this updated form in place. I have so many other questions and…
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What stage he’s at?
as far as I know hallucinations are not present, my husband will get the mail multiple times if I let him, the day we are in at present are validated. We’ve been to Labcorp, the Neurologist, and SimonMed numerous times and we were never told if this is Alzheimer’s or dementia. My husband was told he carries the Alzheimer’s…
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When a long-term friendship is impacted
I’m concerned that a dear friend of mine may be experiencing early cognitive decline. They are in their mid-60s and recently lost a spouse. For the past two years, I’ve attributed their behavioral changes—especially increased frustration and verbal outbursts—to grief and the challenge of navigating life alone. However,…
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Does insurance company need to know
Reviewing Renewal on house and auto insurance and just wondering if I have to inform the auto insurance that husband has dementia and is no longer driving? By law do I have to do this? We still have his car but he doesn’t drive . Tks for your input
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Medication for Anxiety
Our neurologist has prescribed Quetiapine for anxiety as a once per day med at bedtime. I crush and mix the pill into my DW evening food at she refuses to take a pill. Sometimes the 25MG dosage works well and we can get a good night's sleep. Our neurologist has now prescribed a 50MG dosage in an effort to improve the…
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statins, pros and cons?
I tried to search for an old conversation on this, but didn't find one; feel free to redirect me if this has been discussed before. A few years ago, the provider in Geriatrics put my partner on a statin because her cholesterol was something like 240. The next time she saw her primary, they took her off the statin. I was…
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Altzheimer
My DW(85) has recently been diagnosed with this terrible disease…she is still able to function fairly well. My daily routine is looking for articles she has misplaced but the most frustrating thing to deal with is the delusions. It is very difficult for me to respond to things like "when are the other people coming for…
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Lorazepam and hallucinations
My wife has a prescription for Lorazepam as needed for anxiety. She has taken it a few times and it has helped but today she was upset so the MC gave her the Lorazepam and she Had hallucinations and delusions most of the day. She was talking to people that were not there. She was happy, so that is good. She has had some…
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FREE access to e-books/audiobooks about dementia (including "The 36-Hour Day")
I have been using OverDrive for years. OverDrive allows library card holders to borrow digital content (e-books, audiobooks, magazines) for free. I read or listen to them via the Libby app. (Libby is a free mobile app developed by OverDrive.) Today, I learned that anyone can sign up for the Dementia Australia library and…
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Yes, I'm still around
Most of you will not recognize my name because my wife passed 3 1/2 years ago, and I rarely get on here much anymore. I hope everyone could make the most of the situation for Christmas. There may be a ray of "hope for this dreaded disease. It's not here yet, but the news is encouraging.…
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DW's wallet and losing her purse
Two times now my DW has misplaced her purse. After the first time I placed an Apple fob in her purse to locate it. She has credit cards, a debit card, her driver's license (but she doesn't drive anymore), her Medicare cards, and a checkbook. She is used to carrying her purse with her everywhere. Has anyone had any…
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communication
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I need advice please
My DH (64) is mid stage 5 dementia. We live about 20 miles out of town in the country. I still work full time in town Monday thru Friday. He no longer drives and is at home alone while I work. I have installed cameras so I can check on him visually throughout the day. In the last few months his short term memory has become…
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Morose Valentine
sad today because my DW of course doesn’t know it’s Valentine’s Day and also because it’s dawning on me I can no longer do many of the things I used to enjoy. Feeling a little imprisoned in my own home. Just needed to vent and say these things. I didn’t want to vent to family and friends and bring them down today.
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A new kind of charity?
Wouldn’t it be nice if there were a charitable organization that helped caregivers who may be financially unable to afford part time help. I mean there’s meals on wheels types of things out there I suppose. But it seems that dementia is reaching epidemic proportions these days. There’s a lot of different charities out…
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Heroes Behind The Curtain
I posted this a while back in the section for those of us who have lost a loved one. I remain active here and there. As I read so many posts here, especially from those new into this world Dementia has thrust upon you, I thought I would share it here. No one wants this role and only those who have to take on the role of…
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Sad progression
Life is rough but I'm getting by. I'm lucky to have my daughter at home to help. From where my DW was 6 months ago to now is striking. I have to help her get her clothes lined up to wear. I need to remind her to shower. I am administering her medications. Today while I was out only 30 minutes at Home Depot my daughter…
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New to this Group
I am caring for my DH who has had cognitive decline over the past 4 yrs. As I write this, I can't believe it's been that long. I am trying to abide by the rules, however find myself breaking the rules, especially when I am in the middle of something, (like doing taxes today). He has alcohol dependance with a dementia /…
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The caregiving doesn't end with placement in MC.
My DH has been in MC for about 1 1/2 weeks at one of the only standalone mc facilities in my city, which happens to be near my home. I keep reading that caregiving doesn't end with placement and that is so true. When I go to visit him, with a day or so off between visits, he is inevitably lying on the bed (he doesn't…
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Would my LO be better off in Assisted Living/Memory Care?
I am curious in getting the thoughts of from other caregivers on the above question. My spouse is currently classified and moderate/borderline severe dementia. She is still able to perform most of the ADLs. While I can currently care for her at home I am wondering if she would be better served with the higher level of…
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A Spark of Joy and Repeat TV Shows
i just want to share my spark of joy. From necessity good things can happen. I was feeling so very flat and sad a bit indulgent and I was also feeling defeated and tired. We are involved with Sailability an all inclusive sailing group. When the opportunity came up to get my power boat licence, enabling me to legally drive…
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Something Good Happened.
I’ve known my husband has Alzheimer’s for quite a few years, but recently was told he has mixed dementia Alzheimer’s/vascular. Even though he hasn’t smoked in years, the damage was done. He has phone contact with 3 siblings. One brother lives an hour away with his wife. We have not seen them in 12 years and her name was…