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Tips for getting LO to listen to my advice
My DH with EO is starting to do things that are potentially destructive. Beginning a couple months ago, my LO began getting concerned with the car oil level and has been checking and adding oil. Yesterday, my LO added oil to the car. And the car leaked a lot of oil and smelled like something was burning. My LO got it…
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If and how to tell others about the dementia
Need some advice about telling others about my DH's dementia. We play pickleball and while he can play pretty well, he forgets (and will never remember) some of the basic rules. The other players at the facility are just acquaintances or sometimes strangers if we have not played with them before. With pickleball you're…
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Alzheimer/Dementia and the Emergency Room
This was posted in the support after loss forum but was suggested to also be posted here> I just wanted to offer up a watchout regarding taking a loved one with AD to the emergency room. I have now experienced this personally and heard similar reports from others. The medical community does wonderful things to treat health…
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Friend wants to learn about ALZ
We have a friend who we haven’t seen in years who reconnected with us a few months back. He is flying up for 4 days to help with DH (in early stage 5) during our move to a new house. I am so grateful by his generosity. He stated that he knows very little about ALZ and wants to read up about it. What websites, etc, would…
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Frustrated and conflicted
My husband is 77, had several strokes, VD and other serious health issues and does not acknowledge he has serious problems, including dementia. He does not want to go to any more drs appts but his sleep has been seriously disrupted for over 6 yrs. He's on trazadone 150 mg which has decreased up/downs to about 5-7 x per…
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Goodbye
My cancer has progressed to stage 4. I have stopped treatment. As this forum told me, I can’t care for my DW with the side effects of chemo. I’ve entered hospice. After an aborted attempt to move into an assisted living facility locally, I found an opening in memory care facility near where her daughter lives. I told my DW…
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Fundraiser Flyer Agitates Husband
Hello AlzConnected Community, I am new to the discussion group. My 74 year old husband went from Mild Cognitive Impairment to Alzheimers diagnosis in the Spring of 2025. I look forward to learning from others in the same situation. This morning my husband opened a fundraising letter from Alzheimer's Disease Research. It…
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83 year old man found dead in walk in freezer.
This is heartbreaking!! I wondered whether to share this but decided that another discussion about AL vs MC is helpful to those making the decision. “A Tampa Bay area family is demanding answers after an 83-year-old man was found dead in an assisted living facility.William Eugene Ray's family said he was found in a walk-in…
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The never ending search
I know many of you have also gone through The Search for an item your spouse has misplaced. Has anyone figured out a way to control or prevent this? My DH has Alz disease & for many years, even before the diagnosis, he would pick up or put away items then not remember where he put them. Now his memory is so poor he can’t…
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Now in stage 8
My DH passed away at age 65 last Saturday, Sept. 27th. I was glad we all got to say our goodbyes before he passed. I now understand stage 8. My days feel like a roller coaster of emotions, but the nights are the hardest. We have been married almost 38 years.
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The Quiet Voice of Caregiving by Michael Whelan
I follow him on X. His wife has Parkinson’s Dementia. He writes so beautifully. TO ALL CAREGIVERS The Quiet Violence of Caregiving. by Michael Whelan There is a peculiar kind of heartbreak in being the one who stays. No one prepares you for how illness can rearrange the person you love. Parkinson’s is not just tremors and…
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Mood swings and anger issues
I placed my wife in memory care for Alzheimer’s two years ago and she is now bedridden. She has always been a very loving person, treating a stranger like a longtime friend or family member. Several months ago she started having mood swings and anger issues. Lately, she has been very happy when I first get there; smiling…
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Never ending search Thank You
I feel surrounded by caregivers that really care about others! Thank you, all of you, that took the time to share your great ideas & your stories, so similar to mine. I will put these into place & rearrange to have some safe storage places! Best wishes to all❤️
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Maybe I’m overreacting?
My husband is my concern. I’ve tried to talk to him about my concerns. Memory, irrational behavior, inappropriate decisions, he will not discuss or answer questions. His mom past of ALZ in 2022. He refused to help in any way with her care. His sister and I were there. HOw can I get him to see a doctor. I bring it up he…
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destructive treatment from my wife's daughter
My wife is afflicted with ALZ. she still loves me but we have had difficulties over the last month or so. We always had arguments over our 46 year marriage. So she asked for help from her daughters and they have offered it. Fine. Now she is 400 miles away. But now the oldest one has taken another step. She has blocked all…
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LEGEMBI
https://breakthroughsforphysicians.nm.org/neurosciences-clinical-article-leqembi.html#:~:text=is%20doing%20something.%E2%80%9D-,Dr.,headache%2C%20confusion%20and%20visual%20disturbance.
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At last a diagnosis!
I have been watching my DH decline for the past six years. At first I thought it was just his age, he is now 84, but soon realized it was more than that. So I started researching and became certain that he had dementia. The frustrating thing was the doctors kept saying he was fine. They would ask him to remember three…
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Assisted living
took hubby to tour assisted living facility. Of course he asks am I trying to get rid of him. He has neurologist appointment next week so hoping the doctor can encourage this. Does anyone have any suggestions how I can get him to agree to this. I’m trying to avoid just leaving him there. Thx!
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First Post
This is my first post, although I have been reading conversations on this forum for months. You are all so knowledgeable and compassionate and I have gained more knowledge here than with all the doctors or well meaning friends and family combined. Here's our story: I've known my DH for 30 years. We have been incredible…
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help!! constipation
DW has been battling constipation for sometime now. We've (me and hospice) been though the gauntlet of meds. Frist we've done the old faithful prunes and prune juice. Now we're at the point of meds and stool softeners from senna-s, to polyeth glyc powder and the list goes on. Over a period of 3days I finally will resort to…
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Evening g depression
My DH gets depressed in the evenings. We visited with friends today and went for a nice walk and stopped and chatted with a couple of people we know. Now he is saying there is nothing for him here at home anymore. He was talking about leaving and going someplace else to live. I am at a loss as to what to say to him. This…
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early onset dementia and memory care
My wife is 69 years old and has early onset (56 years old) vascular dementia. I placed her in memory care early last month. Her biggest complaint is that all the residents are older and more impaired than she is. Most of the other residents are late 70s and early 80s. Some are in the very late stages but many are not. My…
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help! getting out of bed and falling
My husband gets out of bed constantly at night and sometimes has a fall, recently was hospitilized but nothing broken. Have him back home and manageable during the day. But would like anyone who has or had the same problem and a good recommendation for which bed alarm or mat works the best. Many of them online, would…
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Eye exam
It's time for our yearly eye exam. I'm not sure if the eye doctor will be able to do the exam on DH because he sits, stands and walks hunched over. Honestly he looks like a turtle, the way he hangs his head down. I don't know if he'll be able to put his chin in the machine and look straight ahead, let alone read the eye…
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Trying to self stage DH
I have gotten some wonderful words of encouragement and great information on staging from you and I so appreciate it!!! I still have a question though. I read the stages and see some things in one category but only a couple in a later category. What could that mean? My Mr. Math has gone to someone who is struggling with…
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Guacamole...
My husband was diagnosed with Alz. a year ago, though I had been taking notes on things I had been noticing for at least 3 years prior to that. He's still quite capable of caring for himself and still does small projects around the house. Most people only seem to notice that he can't think of certain words now and then.…
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Memory Test struggles
My wife was diagnosed with early onset about 6 months ago, although I had been noticing problems and changes several months before that. She is currently receiving monthly Kisunla treatments - she's had three so far. At her last treatment she was given a "memory test" - she was asked several basic questions (what State do…
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Feeling So Lost
Hello everyone, I’m thrilled to have found this site. I have been feeling so lost, confused, sad, and hopeless. my husband of 54 years was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s over year ago. He is progressing rapidly and as I continue to just try with all my strength to make it through another day, I’m thankful to have found this…
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Delirium vs night terrors, what's the difference?
My DH has VD and has interrupted sleep for over 7 yrs. I don't notice any afternoon or early evening agitation. He falls asleep within 5 min of hitting the pillow and is asleep for 60-90 min and then the up/down repeatedly going to the bathroom begins. 150 mg trazadone has helped decrease the uo/down frequency from 20+ to…
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Report to DMV
have any of you resorted to reporting your loved one to the DMV due to their diagnosis? How did that go? Was it really anonymous?