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My mom is free now!
She was in hospice at her MC because of a fall that resulted in a neck fracture and brain bleed. She was in a lot of pain even with morphine and lorazapam every three hours. She wasn't eating any more except for a few sips of Insure and the CokaCola I brought for her everday. She started actively dying about a day before…
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Hospice question
Hello! Two years ago, my dad was functioning quite well. Today, I talked to hospice because he is no longer doing well. Hospice was the doctor’s suggestion. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about a year and a half ago and moved to assisted living with my mother a few months later. I liked my talk this morning with the…
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concerned
My dad is in a MC. He is probably stage 6 but I don't know for sure. When the aide took him to his room to clean him and change him(he is totally incontinent) he tried to choke her. He has not shown any violence before. She said she was squatted down at the time so I wonder if he thought she was some sort of animal. He…
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Happy Mother's Day
Today I went to go see my Mother in her nursing home. Yes she is bedridden, in her 7th year of Alzheimer's. She doesn't know who I am or what's going on but I got to pray with her, held her hand, hugged her and kissed her several times. God Bless and Happy Mother's Day to everyone who has a mamma. ✌️
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Decisions have to be made…
I finally got the official paperwork with the diagnosis with my father’s dementia being official. He has signed Medical POA, and Durable POA. He probably won’t remember any of it, despite it being notarized and all. Adult Protection Services along with the doctor says he is fully capable of making his own decisions. He…
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Lamotrigine
My mom was put on lamotrigine for her anger. Does anyone have any experience with it? It is not something I have seen discussed here before.
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increased weakness
88 year old mom, at home with me, stage 6… She is at the point where I'll need a transport chair soon. Struggling to stand and walk. Rallies a bit for PT, but presents weaker for me when no one is here. PT is going to come a couple times a week and wants her to do exercises again. My question is this…when does PT become…
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Obsessed with driving and threatens self harm
Could use advice how to maneuver through telling the dementia person they can’t drive after Dr has already told them they couldn’t, license has been suspended months ago.. should we live in his world and play along with him buying a car or should we continue telling him he doesn’t have a license and can’t drive? When you…
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How to truly block spam phone calls
My father has dementia and is eager to talk to every telemarketer. This has the phone ringing dozens of times a day, with him wasting lots of time talking to people selling services he doesn't need. Worse, the caller is sometimes a scammer, and Dad is gullible enough that he's given away his credit card and other sensitive…
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The "shake", part 2
For those who were entertained by my "moment of humor" post on April 9, here is the sequel. I visited mom today and handed her another Glucerna shake, strawberry this time. She sipped away on it till it was about 3/4 gone. Then she turned the bottle so that the label faced me. She pointed at the word "Shake", smiled slyly,…
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Fiblets or Truth Telling & Distraction Techniques?
Hi, I was a frequent reader of these discussions a few years ago but found a smaller group that felt a little closer. They have ended the Kinto app/group and so I return here. When I first started reading, I heard a lot about “fiblets” or the little lies that people tell to their person to avoid confrontation or agitation.…
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ALSP support group
My mom was DX with ALSP it’s a rare/genetic for of Alzheimer.. I was wondering if there was any type of support groups even virtual support groups that anybody has or has gone through that could help me. I love to join a support group, but I don’t know where to start, Can guide me?
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The move to AL
We moved mom from my brothers house to AL Sunday. He let her do all the packing, which wasn’t much. Using the suggested packing list from the facility (very basic, toilet paper, hand soap..) he had mom pick out everything she thought she would need at the store. Based on that you can probably imagine how it went. I got to…
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Anxiety Medications for Alzheimer's Patient
My wife (76) is at an advanced stage of Alzheimer's. She suffers from extreme anxiety and yet no medication seems to help. So, my question is: Is there a stage in the progression of Alzheimer's at which no anxiety medication is effective?
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Mom's Alzheimers and wanting to go home
My mom is 77 and was diagnosed almost 3 years ago with Alzheimers. She has been steadily declining the past three years. She was born in Romania; and has been in the country for 50+ years. She keeps saying she wants to go home; I tell her she is home and she says this is not her home. I tell her we cannot travel because…
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Articept
My mother just started to take it. What should I expect to see with these med?
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Memory Care update
After a bunch of problems at my mom’s MC (staff turnover, two ER trips in 3 months, her constant complaints about the place), I looked at two other places. One owned by the same company, overlapping staff, bigger, more beautiful, and a friend’s moms had moved there, but not as good of a location. I met with current MC…
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Sundowning and agitation
Can anyone help me with suggestions to help this. My husband hasn't slept through the night in 9ver 3 yrs. He is up/down, up/down all might ling. He goes in the bathroom at least 15x a night. He's now on Flowmaster which helps during the day but he claims he doesn't actually pee every tome he goes to the bathroom. It's…
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Flew home and found mom in self neglect
I am the youngest of 7, and my mother’s only girl. I’m the favorite and so I have the best relationship with her. My mom is 74, and I noticed something was wrong last year when she was showing some short term memory loss, not answering her phone, and making excuses to not fly to Colorado to visit her kids. Saying she was…
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I'm new here..
Hello everyone! I'm new to this website. I've been feeling very alone with my mothers diagnosis. We never really been to close even though I wanted to be. She also has bipolar. It's just been hard and it's difficult to fine people who understand. I feel very alone in this.
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I need help
Hi I’m really having trouble coping with my mother.She’s been forgetting a lot lately and repeating herself. I try to remind her of something’s she can’t remember but she gets upset at me. I talk to my children about it and she gets angry because she doesn’t want everyone to no her business. I tell her that those are my…
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Mom with Vascular Dementia
My late 70s mom has been diagnosed with VD. She is also a diabetic. Her short term memory is terrible, sitting and does not talk, sleeps a lot, personality change, cries, depressed, pain (real or real to her), unstable when gets up and falls often. Does VD progress like ALZ until total loss of memory? I find it strange…
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Moving home
So, I’m moving back home to help out. I’m an only child and my dad is having trouble taking care of my mom on his own. She fell at the beginning of this year and broke her foot and her shoulder. I ended up taking FMLA to help through her healing. I’m hoping that moving home will help me feel less exhausted. I went back to…
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Just need to vent
After more than six months two doctor recommendations and a letter of incompetence I have finally convinced my brother it time to move mom to AL. She lives with him and is home alone while he is at work. I have the DPOA but it’s hard to do things without my brother on board when he lives with her. My SIL was the DPOA for…
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Getting The POA Enacted
Hi, I just wanted to know if anyone has had the POA enacted and what that process looks like if you're already the POA. My grandmother is getting worse, but she might not want to go to a care facility at the end of this year. I let her doctor know I'm the POA and I'd like to get it enacted in case we have to put her in a…
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Suggestions are appreciated
My Dad has Alzheimer’s and my mom has just been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer.she has been feeling ok until last week and is in hospital now. My Dad always wants to be with my Mom(agreat love story), but he is quite advanced. I have brought him to see her the past two days but yesterday was such a bad day for him,and I’m…
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Transitions into Memory Care..
Transitions are hard. Change is hard. Especially when there are enough thoughtful moments interwoven in the confusion….
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I’m 19 and don’t know what to do
My dad is 68 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about a month ago. this was not a surprise, I started encouraging my mom to talk to him over a year ago but it still feels real all of a sudden. I see him a couple times a week and each time he’s losing more of himself and I just don’t know what to do to support him and my…
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New drained and confused.
My mom is 84 and moderate stage.i am an only child and she move into our home nearly a year ago. I have severe anxiety over her diagnosis. Some days you can't even see symptoms and other days whew! Obvious noticeable. So some days I think diagnosis is wrong and other days I know. It's a heck of a Rollercoaster. It's so…
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Time for outside help but what kind?
My mom has dementia & is 95. She was diagnosed 3 years ago & moved in with me & my sister. I am not new to caregiving, my husband was chronically ill for 10 years & the last 2 in a hospital bed in our living room. We have always thought ourselves blessed that we both are able to work from home & care for her. My sister…