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Help- day centers? tips and tricks?
Hi! I’m new here and my mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. This is all overwhelming for us and I need help. Does anyone know of adult day care centers or how I can find them? Does anyone have any advice on what financial help is available? Also, any tips on living with a parent with Alzheimer’s? She has paranoia…
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Sadness for my MIL
It’s been an emotionally tough day. Nothing out of the ordinary but it’s been close to two years MIL has lived with us. And I was particularly tired of not having any time alone; cooking, cleaning, entertaining and listening to her talk, talk, talk. But as I was sitting here mentally listing the 101 things I have to do…
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Slowly loosing my mother
It has been really hard to admit to myself that I am slowly loosing my mother gradually to this disease. I saw the signs in the beginning stages but didn't want to admit to myself that it was anything but as time has gone on it is becoming quite clear that I am slowly loosing her. Over the past two years I have had to take…
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More supervision
Well, the regression continues and now my mom needs more supervision. One more step toward memory care. I think the only thing holding the care team back is she is physically in much better shape than the other residence in memory care. JoyInAlzheimer's NeverFearTheDream
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Going Home
So, my LO must move from her current IL/AL apartment. It's really not a terrible thing. She never really fit in- she's a quirky individual who does a great deal of complaining, has dementia and elderly needs to support. This apartment was always too independent for her... but we ALL gave it a try. It was a beautiful…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/23/24
FRIENDS, just want you to know I read all your comments and appreciate them. The Holy Spirit is with you and me here and everywhere. Peace, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * CONFUSION Isaiah 5:20 New International Version "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness,…
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93 YO's dog died; keeps asking to get a new one
93 YO mom with "severe" SVD and suspected dementia had an elderly dog (with her 16 years) that passed at the vet's 9 days ago. Mom had her three kids with her and after talking with us and the vet, agreed it was time. We've always had dogs in our family so this was really hard. After leaving the vet, Mom said she'd never…
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advice please
It may be time for mom to be placed in a facility. There are 2 facilities we're considering. There are good points about both. How do we decide? Both are assisted living. One has locked memory care, the other is just general population. So when mom needs memory care in the one facility, she'd be in a locked unit. Does…
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Just stressing
My Mom was diagnosed in Aug 2023 with Alzheimer's. I am her primary caregiver; but I have other family that supports us. She is still living alone right now (close to me and close to my son). She gave up driving when she fell in Sept 2023 and tore her Rotar cuff completely. She needs to have her shoulder replaced but the…
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Early Stages: assessment, support, education
Hello, I am in the early stages of needing to get my LO a neurological assessment and get educated as their child on the best ways to support them moving forward. It's hard to know if they are in early stages or if aging and isolation and depression are the culprits. (want to acknowledge that i know they will exacerbate…
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assessment
Anyone know how an assessment is performed for assisted living? It's possible my LO won't qualify & will need memory care. Just don't know what to expect. Really hope we can try assisted living but not sure what is done to assess. Just really trying to prepare myself mentally. My LO is progressing fast & am hoping memory…
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I need help please
Hello I'm new here. This is my first post. I'm currently my Mom's caregiver. She was diagnosed approximately 2.5 years with mild Alzheimer's. She is now moderate to more severe stage. She progressed extremely quickly. She was living at her home alone 2 years ago and now she is bedridden. About 9 weeks she simply quit…
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Auditory hallucinations
My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s over 2 months ago , she is 74, I honestly think she had it for a couple of years now she used to see things she said when she was waking up now she hears people talking to her but she don’t see them, the neurologist said that’s a mental health issue, I told him my mother never had any…
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Delusions, hallucinations or dreams?
MIL has had some relatively minor episodes of hallucination type incidents. Some were auditory (Do you hear the vacuum cleaner?). Some were visual (There were butterflies all over the wall.) And some felt more like confusion. (Yelling “hello, hello” because she thought someone was knocking at the door). But last night was…
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Visiting Mom with dementia
Hi, I am new here. my mom was diagnosed with dementia over four years ago and has since had to transition into a memory care facility. I visit her multiple times a week and every time I visit when she sees me she starts crying. This is really hard on me. I tried to distract her. I tried to bring activities, but at this…
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Finding a caregiver
Hello, I am new to this discussion platform and I’m reaching out to see if anyone has any advice to my situation. I am a caregiver for my father who has had early onset for 8 years. He is reaching the point where he is unable to be by himself at all and has difficulty with some basic daily tasks. He was declined from home…
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Burdensome
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Agitation
Hello, I am caring for my 84 year old mom. She has Alzheimer’s. I live with her. I work outside the home three days a week and have caregivers come in so she has never alone. Lately her agitation has escalated even when I am home with her. She will sit down and get right back up, pace the floors, ask for help or just…
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CSF Biomarkers for Alzheimer's Disease Diagnosis
So apparently there is something called CSF biomarkers that can be tested to help diagnose Alzheimer’s. You get these through a lumbar puncture, which, as in my LO’s case, is also used for NPH. The neurologist questioned in my LO’s chart why they didn’t test for this. Does anyone know about this test?
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Hospice for my mother
I made the decision to call hospice, a nurse came out the next day (Thurs 3/14) and all the papers have been signed. The assigned nurse called last night and she will be here Monday (3/18). A wheelchair was delivered yesterday, just the transport style. This is not going over well, my mother is not accepting this in place…
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Should a parent know they've been diagnosed with Alzheimer's?
Hello, My 84 yr old mother was diagnosed with pre-dementia in August 2023 and I'm trying to navigate how to best help her. My greatest challenge is that my 3 sisters have taken advantage of my mother's condition and changed her PoA and trust. Additionally, they have kept me away from my mother and any of her medical…
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Visits and a delicate and beautiful lesson
So after a (fantastic) vacation I came back to kind of a mess. While I was gone my mom had Covid, which combined with my absence meant she struggled. I was still so glad I went because I came back refreshed. Our first few visits were rough. Not gonna lie, I dreaded it. Nothing others haven’t described: “I’m ready to go…
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Stage 8
MIL has gone hone. No more suffering thank God! Pretty sure I could add some more sub stages to stage 7. I pray your LO never has to go that far. Thank you all for your time and guidance. I'll be back.
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Norovirus outbreak at my mom's MC
My mother is 86 and lives in MC. I just got word that there is an outbreak there at her facility and that my mother is involved. I hope it passes soon but concerned how this could affect my elderly and frail mother.
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Family meeting
Hello, I’m caring for my mother who was just diagnosed with dementia due to Alzheimer’s. I have a big family and I’m considering having a family support meeting with my mom’s sisters and my siblings. I want her to feel supported and I also want support in getting her to stop driving. I don’t want her to feel bombarded or…
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Fear and Anxiety
Fear is real...Anxiety is what your mind imagines. With Alzheimer's the two combine and become one. Meet your loved one where they are; not where they were and not where you'd like them, because they aren't there.....they are where they are and they are scared NeverFearTheDream JoyInAlzheimer's
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Needing More Care...sliding down the slope
Joy's journey is taking a definite slide down the slope and she simply needs more help NeverFearTheDream.....
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Finding a Neuro psych for mom
I live in Staten Island, NY and it has been a struggle to find a Neuro psych out here. Mom is on a 12month wait list . Until then I watch her forget so much about her life, it's so heartbreaking.
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Feeling Attacked by Well-Meaning Friends
My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's almost a year ago now. She lived alone and was really not doing well and she lived 100+ miles away from me. I took some advice and found a really nice MC facility and (thank goodness) put a deposit down. I dreaded the thought of driving my Mom 100 miles to the MC I had reserved for…