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How to Practice Positivity
I know it may be an odd title but I'm struggling with being positive, overcoming negative thoughts/false beliefs/unhappy feelings. In my situation having mom home is better than placing her permanently in a facility for multiple reasons. It's give and take with regards to 'honoring her wishes' so I do what I can with the…
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Progression of disease
My father is going to be 95 in a few months. Diagnosed in 2018. I think he is starting to go into the later stage, but I'm not sure. He doesn't always remember my name though he remembers who I am. He lives in his apartment with a full time aide. I live close by and speak to him numerous times a day and see him more and…
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I would give anything to have my mom comfort me for 2 minutes...
My mom is still in the early to mid stages of ALZ, and one of the most noticeable changes in her personality, is that she no longer shows concern for other people's feelings. That's why it's so hard to spend time with her since my dad passed away in May - because she only talks about her own grief. I listen to her and hug…
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How to deal with all the phone calls
I moved my dad into AL about 6 weeks ago. He's always been very stubborn and was convinced he was totally fine, so the move was really a struggle. We convinced him his house was being fumigated and he needed to stay somewhere else temporarily. The first ~3 weeks were fine, but now he's calling nearly every day asking me to…
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Next steps…need guidance
Hi there…. New to the forum. My 73 yo father came to live with my family last September. He was diagnosed with early onset dementia about 7 years ago. I am 48, my husband is 63, and we have a 20 yo special needs son that is living with us as well. He came to us in an emergency situation, as his roommate could no longer…
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Parent extremely angry
I had a talk with my dad about him possibly having warning signs of Alzheimer’s and dementia. He did not take it well and blew up at me. He said it was bs and that I was being stupid. About 6 or 7 months ago, he couldn’t figure out how to turn the tv off with the remote control. I had to tell him to hit the power button.…
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Omg. Help. I’ve lied to my dad about why he had to go to AL and that’s the 1 thing he remembers
After reading several discussions on this forum, I decided to tell my dad that he had to move in to AL because we were going on a trip. The facility asked me not to visit for 5 days so I thought I could come in 5 days and say I’m back and just continue visiting daily. However, tomorrow is the day I’m going to visit. The…
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Medication
My mom is 93 and has been diagnosed with dementia. I’m not sure which stage she’s in but she has a couple good days and the rest of the days she is agitated, confused, angry, doesn’t sleep all night just paces. She has been started on mirtazapine but has only been on it a little over a week. I don’t know where I can find…
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Transitional Trauma?
One of the things my mother's health care provider said was not to wait too long to decide on AL so that she would still be cognitively sound enough to transition smoothly. Unfortunately, I think Mom's condition was worse than I thought. The medical director who interviewed Mom didn't think she needed any extra level of…
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Dad thinks he has done something wrong because I’m moving him to assisted living
My dad has had ALZ/dementia for 3 years. He is in the late-mid stage. He also has aphasia which makes communication extremely difficult. Physically, he is still in good shape other than balance and ALZ shuffle. Up until 3 weeks ago he was living down the street in his house with his girlfriend who is mentally and…
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Cat/pet alternative for person with alz/dementia?
Hi everyone, I shared my mom’s disastrous trip to adopt the cat, insisting on going herself with me meeting her there. (They did not approve her as an adopter.) She still wants a cat. I know she would love a cat. I get why it’s a terrible idea. But I’m so sad that she can’t have something. I offered her to take my cat for…
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Mood change and agitation
Hi support group. anyone who experienced alz patients who literally flip with agitation and in a matter within minutes? I’m completely puzzled is this alz or mental illness or both? thank you all.
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Eating and bathroom issues in mc
My mom is in mc and has been for almost 4 months. She is still struggling to find her bathroom, which means she is using the bathroom in many other places. I’ve put motion sensors lights on the inside of the bathroom door (which stays open) and lights around the toilet. I need ideas. she also is slowing in her eating. She…
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Help finding a doctor for my mother
Hello. This is my first time on this forum. I am a daughter starting to support my mother who is showing signs of cognitive loss. I live out of state from her and need advice on how to find a good medical provider for her to see to get a diagnosis and start treatments.
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Conflicted In Feelings
I love my mom dearly. I find it an honor to take care of her as she moves into the mid-stages of Vascular Dementia. But lately, when her mood shifts, and she is very much out of character I find myself screaming inside "Who are you!" In those moments I try to shift the mood and put on light music - she was a classical…
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I know I Shouldn’t Feel Guilty
Mum is in late stage dementia a d I left her for 10 minutes in the kitchen yesterday and she fell. My brother and I pit her in bed and gave her half a Seroquil. About midnight she had to go to the bathroom and I had to hold her under her armpits to get to the bathroom. This morning it was worse so we called an ambulance…
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Feeling sad, mad, frustrated, and all that goes along with moving LO into an ALF.
Hi. I am new to this forum. I have been on the Dementia / ALZ journey with my Mom since 2019. She was still living at home on her own until this June. Up until then I had taken over managing all of her finances, going to her house every week to buy groceries, setup her pills for the week (and check to make sure she has…
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Newly diagnosed/driving us nuts !
My mother in law has been with us for a year now. She has always had a bizarre personality and often attention seeking behaviors. She isn’t very honest either and wants to go every time someone goes out the door to do something. She just got a diagnosis of early onset ATZ She can’t take her meds on her own even if they are…
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Suggestion For Obtaining More Responses To Your Posts/Issues
This is a new Forum category, "Caring For A Parent." Unfortunately, there is not very much attendance on this Forum, so responses/input from others has been rather sparse. As Members, we are permitted to Post on any of the Forums and all of the Forums. The Caregivers Forum and Spousal/Partner Forums are the best attended…
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POA? Quit Deed? Meeting Monday
Hi! My mom has been diagnosed with ALZ and Parkinsons. She also recently had a fall and requires more help. She said she's trying to stay in her home maybe a few more months. Until the fall, she did not want to sign a POA. Now she is saying she wants to sign one with my brother and I both equal on it. We have a meeting…
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Dad on hospice - on decline - use of Ativan for restlessness - your experience with hospice?
Hello all, Dad with dementia and on hospice is showing recent decline. On oxygen for 1st time (2 liters). I reported to Hospice nurse that he keeps bobbing his head up and down and pulls at clothes. She suggested a dose (.5 mg) of Ativan and observe if it helps. He takes water and some spoonfuls of yogurt but other than…
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Bowel Incontinence Cleaning
Hello, I have a routine with my LO involving changing her disposable underwear, and there often is a bowel issue that needs my cleaning attention. Barely able to communicate and largely bedridden (she is elderly), I may not be able to prompt her to go to the bathroom on a schedule (but I will try btw). We have no extra…
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Questions for newly diagnosed mom
Hi everyone - my mom was diagnosed last week and the doctor said she is in the early stages. One of the recommendations that the doctor had was to set up some help for her at home - her executive functioning is still intact but her short term memory is so poor that it's hard to trust her with basic things. She doesn't need…
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Frustrated spouse
My mother had recently moved in with my husband and I, after being told that she can no longer live alone. My husband has been very supportive and for the most part, we've been a great team. But whenever she tries to help out around the house, and does something "incorrectly", he get frustrated and tells her to stop. I'm…
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She's Still Got It!
Mom is 85 and has ALZ related dementia. She has been in MC for 2 years now. She has neuropathy and diabetes and her feet are darkening and swelling. She won't let the CNA's walk her around to help her circulation, but insists she walks all the time. My brother visits once a week and walks with her; I live out of state, but…
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Where to start
Hello, I am new here and have no idea where to start with getting help for my mom. We are at the stage where we believe she needs to be checked on a few times a week and I live 2 hours away. How do I begin to find out what services might be available to support us? Her doctors, insurance, etc.? Thanks, Joy
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Travel - Long drive for short visit
My mother has moderate Alzheimer's and is 81 years old. She has incontinence issues and shuffles when she walks (is in PT for this now) but otherwise is in pretty good health. My father passed away 1 year and 1 month ago, which was hard on my mother at the time of his passing but only becomes an issue for her when she is…
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Zoloft for mom
My mother still is not adjusting well to MC. They called me and wanted me to have her doctor prescribe Zoloft. I took her to her PCP and they did prescribe Zoloft. I haven't delivered it to the med tech at the MC yet. What experience has anyone had with Zoloft?
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How to handle confusions
I'm new to this site. I could really use some advice. My father has dementia and living in nursing home. He is convinced that he was/is in WWII. He never served in the military. He keeps asking when his uniforms are going to come showing his new rank. I don't know what to say to him. I keep telling him they are out of his…
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how to proceed with parent's care, disagreements within the family
Hello all, I'm new here and am in need of advice/support from others who understand what it’s like to care for a parent. My mother (60y/o) has been dealing with memory loss since 2019, she was diagnosed with mild cognitive decline at the time and has advanced significantly since. We are working with doctors to get an…