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Picking at skin
please help! My husband was diagnosed with Lewy Body dementia. He picks at his arms, face, hands, ears and legs. Today he picked at his hands from morning to night. I can’t keep him preoccupied long enough to stop. I put bandages on him but he takes them off. I’m at a loss and he’s getting more and more open areas…
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Taking the car keys
Hi - I'm new and this is my first post here. My 86 yo dad has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and dementia and was told not to drive by his Neurologist at the time of diagnosis a couple of weeks ago. I took the key fobs but he found the backup manual keys. I am trying to avoid a confrontation when I take the remaining keys…
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Try to keep control in the very early stages
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Clogging Toilet
Good Morning! My father keeps clogging toilet - I believe he is flushing too much toilet paper down toilet. Any advice for this?
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Feeling stuck - Drugs, gambling, elder financial abuse, mental health??
Hi, this is my 1st post: My MIL was living w/her grandson, who stole $15K+ from her. Spent it on drugs & gambling. She was living on her own before he convinced her to move hundreds of miles from her home to live w/him & his husband for 3 yrs. The two had a domestic dispute this past Oct, the grandson got into a fight…
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Spinning headache
I meant she was diagnosed with Alzheimer this month
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Relocation
I am caring for my uncle, and we have reached a point where we feel like his living alone is not in his best interest. I have secured new housing arrangements, but we're struggling with how to break the news that we will be moving him from his home of 60 plus years. He sits alone with no interaction with anyone and little…
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Ombudsmen, Residents, and Retaliation in Assisted Living Facilities
Michael Ellenbogen sent me this detailed report on problems in assisted living facilities. The second link is to an article on the report. https://www.mcknightsseniorliving.com/news/ombudsmen-can-be-partners-in-ensuring-resident-dignity-safety-expert-says/
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Please get rid of all the spam messages on this site
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Info on types of accounts, roles to have help managing finances
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Virtual talk on -Secrets to Brain Vitality-
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Eating and eating and eating
I know this topic can’t only be something that I’m dealing with. Some background here my fiancé and myself moved in with his grandfather a year ago whose health had deteriorated tremendously in the previous year. I thought we would be temporary until he got back on track. Well I decided to remove my blinders about 2 months…
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Not understanding
I do not understand what to think. Last summer DW had hallucinations, didn’t know me or our house, had sundowners real bad. She did know her kids and grand children We started her on mementine and donepezal along with quietinine. Now she is back to normal with some changes to her personality and lost many memories from the…
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Moving parents from home to IL/AL
Both parents have ALZ diagnosis and currently live independently with support from a 2x/week care giver and daily support from sibling living nearby. Their needs are increasing and we want to move them to an IL w/cont home health aide support. The place has AL (currently no openings) but no MC. The mom is very resistant to…
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Dementia or UTi
Hi I live with my mom and have an aide that helps me out so I can go to work. For a while now my mom would talk to any of her friends or family. The only problem was she was repeating the same conversations or stories. We just dealt with it! It is what it is! Until recently now she sees my dead father, she becomes easily…
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Can anyone recommend a simple Digital Picture Frame without WiFi?
Hi All, My mother who has stage 4 Alzheimer's which is progressing quickly loves to reminisce over pictures. We thought having a digital picture frame full of pictures in her room would be very welcome by her. It would have to be incredibly simple. Turn it on and turn it off; even an auto off function would be welcome. No…
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hijacked by spam
It is really so sad when someone wants to hijack a forum where we are actually helping each other. For what? attention? scamming? both… I try to flag most of them when I see them, but it is really just disheartening. For anyone who is not familiar with it, please do not click on links or make phone calls to anything that…
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Orange County Memory Care
Is anyone currently paying for memory care in Orange County, CA? We are not at the stage where it’s needed yet, but I would like some idea of actual cost. I do t tend to believe the accuracy those sites that give averages for different areas. Most websites don’t post cost. They want information from you first. Atria in…
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Best clothing labels
When looking for clothing labels, I find a bazillion sources. Any suggestions for a reliable quality source?
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lying
Hello, I am torn about constantly lying to my mom, she has dementia, is hard of hearing and has severe vision issues, We recently moved her into an assisted living facility after my dad passed away. She is constantly calling us in tears because she wants to move out and find her "own little place" where she can cook her…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/8/25
THE LORD IS MY SHEPHERD Psalm 23 Amplified Bible A Psalm of David. 23 The Lord is my Shepherd [to feed, to guide and to shield me], I shall not want. 2 He lets me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still and quiet waters. 3 He refreshes and restores my soul (life); He leads me in the paths of righteousness…
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How to deal with Family Members in denial?
My 92 yro Mom moved in with us 6 mos ago after a fall where she broke her femur and could no longer live alone. She was diagnosed with VD 9 years ago. She has mobility issues, bowel and bladder incontinence and requires much assistance with ADLs. My issue has been with my husband of 3 years. He feels that he needs to…
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Mom recently entered MC and not sure if I should visit
My dad recently made the difficult decision to place my mom in MC. We dropped her off just over a week ago and she is having a very hard time adjusting. She goes between being angry at my dad and desperate for him to bring her back home. I was cleared, so to speak, to visit 4 days in since she was not asking for me and…
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Foreign Language
Every day when I pick up my beautiful 73 yr old DW from the Activity Center she is very happy & excited to see me . Unfortunately, the minute she gets into the car she starts blabbing & speaking this “ foreign “ language” non stop …… Yes ! Another condition I was afraid off …. Receptive Aphasia. All I can do “go with flow…
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Doctored: Fraud, Arrogance, and Tragedy in the Quest to Cure Alzheimer's
Been hearing a lot about this book recently through podcasts and interviews with the author. Very important to know about this misconduct in the Alzheimer's research field. It's so discouraging to know this is happening. Doctored: Fraud, Arrogance, and Tragedy in the Quest to Cure Alzheimer's…
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Pros and cons of a safety gate
I've read other posts on safety gates, such as the ones used to prevent falling down stairs. Do you have experience in using a gate to prevent entry of a PWD to a kitchen? I suspect it will cause intense anger, but let me hope I can control that. I've tried to use distractions to prevent PWD from entering the kitchen and…
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Living situation options
Mom has been recently diagnosed and extremely suspicious of Dad. So much so, that she does not want to live with him. She has wandered twice, but I've been quick enough to corral her which was tough even though I work from home (if it keeps happening, I'm sure my job wouldn't appreciate it). The second time was especially…
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Phone concerns
Hello. I'm new on here and newer to this in general. My great aunt is in AL and was diagnosed with dementia back in November when she was declared incapacity by 2 doctors. She doesn't want to accept this. She is constantly using her phone to make calls to the library to get phone numbers. To call her insurance company and…
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How can I stop seeing a particular discussion?
I love this site and the community brought together by this horrible, isolating disease. Sometimes a discussion goes to a place i don't want to see and I would like to stop following that single conversation. Is there any way to block just one conversation? Thanks jehjeh
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/2/25
LOVE John 3:16 NIV For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 14:16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever— James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who…