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US SSA does not recognize POA
This may be well known to most of you, but it was news to me only a few days ago. Social Security agents could not talk to me about my dad’s benefits, since SSA does not accept DPOA. I had to apply directly to the SSA to be a “representative payee.” It would have helped if I had known that term! The process was not that…
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personal hygiene
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Got the Job. Now What?
I was offered the job in Manhattan. Start date 10/20. 3 weeks from now. I should be celebrating, but it just complicates my situation. I have three options, none of which seem very good: 1. Take the job, and move both me and my mom up there, somehow, in 3 weeks. Find new apartments in NY, break leases, hire moving company,…
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A very resistant FIL - clearly dementia but refusing to sign a POA, see doctor, etc
Hey all, hope you’re keeping well. I made a post about being new to this situation recently and was super helpful and supportive. I was looking for some more advice if possible! We are in the UK if that helps. My bf is looking after his dad at the mo who clearly has dementia. He wanders and gets lost in his two bed flat,…
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Trying to help primary caregiver
Personal status: secondary caregiver; grandson (Edited for accuracy: Grandpa in hospital on ventilator and ng tube, Grandma watching over him; I visit sometimes) What's something primary caregivers wish a family member/other caregiver had done for you and/or the patient? I visit occasionally and sometimes bring stuff from…
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Early onset of my husband
I’m new to this group. My husband and I just moved abroad 2years ago when my husband retired. My husband struggled with depression after retiring, finding his purpose ect. Once he got settled in o started seeing some…missteps in his thinking. His dad is in his 80’s with Alzheimer’s. So I kind of thought this might happen.…
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How to Help My Sister Have Access to Spending Money
My sister is in mid-stage Alzheimer's and lives in an assisted living community. They take day trips to Krogers and other places and she enjoys buying things for herself. She used to be able to manage a debit card, but has lost it several times and can't remember her pin. She now believes we are withholding money from her.…
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Travel With Alzheimer’s
My wife has Alzheimer’s, and she really wants to move back to her hometown, which is 2500 miles from where we live now. We can either fly or drive (money is not a concern), but I can see potential problems for either. Driving will mean many hours in the car each day, and she doesn’t like that idea. Flying presents other…
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Oregon Caregiver Conference
This discussion was created to help Oregon and Southwest Washington caregivers stay connected.
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Correlation- Active Dreams w Movement and Dementia?
Hi, Has anyone else seen info that if you have dreams where you're usually fighting something off and you move/thrash, especially kicking or running motion, that it's an almost slam-dunk predictor of degenerative brain diseases? I saw a couple studies that got quoted in many news items.
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Volunteer's?
hi, I'm new to the Vancouver area and I'm in need of volunteers and entertainers, and any ideas of who to reach out to?
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Early in journey and feel it is progressing faster than expected
My wife has been diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer’s. She is on Leqembi infusions (7 complete), aricept but feel she is progressing. She is still working part time at Trader Joe’s and they are so accommodating…that is great for her to keep her going. She drives pretty much locally. Has anyone’s LO been on Leqembi…did it…
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Anyone Using Tack GPS device?
Hi, Just got a Tack for my dad, pretty good, but it kicks my husband off if I'm on and vice versa. I also only want to see where he is, not share my location but it keep wanting my location and drains my phone battery. Any ideas?
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Transitioning to senior living facility
Hello everyone - I am currently caregiving for my 87 year old mom since February of this year (I am her daughter and POA). We are going to move her to senior living in December and I need advice on making the transition happen. She thinks she can live on her own and doesn't think she needs to move. Does anyone have…
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In Senior Homes, A.I. Technology Is Sensing Falls Before They Happen
From the NYT: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/10/29/realestate/in-senior-homes-ai-technology-is-sensing-falls-before-they-happen.html?unlocked_article_code=1.yU8.Ql1h.G871_DJXIX_E&smid=url-share (free for 30 days)
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Caregivers Dealing With Menopause
Hello, Dad is in a care home, but I do all the $$, medical, have moved him 2x, sold his house, etc. I'm 54, menopause has drained so much of my energy and brain fog is real. Was on HRT which fixed these things, but had to go off bc of other side effects (inner ear problems- vertigo, dizzy, motion sick). The fatigue some…
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recommendations for elder law attorney in Minneapolis/St. Paul?
I've looked at the links that could help me locate an elder law attorney, but I'm curious if anyone has worked with, and can recommend, an elder law attorney in the Minneapolis/St. Paul area? I always like getting referrals from real people who have "been there and done that". 😉 Thanks in advance for any ideas!
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Adult day care
My father needs a break from continuous full time care giving of my mother. Any suggestions on where to find adult day care for at least one day a week. I believe she is late mid stage.
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Caring for my grandma
My grandma was recently diagnosed with dementia and has move in with us a couple days ago. It's me, my brother and mom who all live here and we each help out when or where we need to. For the last 2-3 years, I've helped to care for my mom sometimes since she has serious health issues of her own. She has also been taking…
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Prayers appreciated
Hi my name is Charity and for the last 4 years I have been the live in sole cargiver for my daughter in laws aunt and was for her uncle before he passed. I have worked in Healthcare for 28 years and memory care and dementia have been the majority part of my career. I never thought of how hard it would be to become the live…
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Not Political... but for Texas voters on the forums
On the Texas ballot this November is Texas Proposition 14 which establishes the Dementia Prevention and Research Institute of Texas using $3 billion from general funds. The amendment would task the institute with researching causes, means of prevention, and treatments for dementia and dementia related diseases such as…
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shingles vaccine
A study, in Wales, found that the zoster vaccine reduced the probability of a new dementia diagnosis by approximately one-fifth over a seven-year follow-up period. https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-025-08800-x The Zoster vaccine in the United States is no longer available, and has been replaced by the two dose…
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Falsely accused of elder abuse
My husband and I help care for his mom who lives in an assisted living facility and has dementia that seems to be progressing more rapidly. Over the past five years since we have been helping her, she has been sharing some increasingly bizarre stories about members of her community. In the past couple of years, I have been…
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Waiting for the trainwreck: What do you do when your LO refuses to trust family or doctors
Hi! I was on the boards here 7+ years ago for my dad, and now I'm back for my cousin. My younger cousin, 56, probably has early onset Alzheimer's and it's being exacerbated by self-medicating. She had an MRI in January and a PET scan in April that showed elevated amyloid in three of four lobes and borderline in the fourth.…
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Teepa Snow video on challenging behaviors
When a PWD shows a challenging behavior, I often dismiss it as due to a broken brain, and I often just try to distract or ignore it. In other words, a broken brain means there may not be a good rhyme or reason to consider. So why bother? I learned that some detective work can help. I saw this Teepa Snow video on YouTube,…
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Home Care Agency Recommendations in San Antonio, TX
We are moving to San Antonio, TX 78218 and am asking for any personal recommendations for in-home care agencies in the area. If anyone has used a company in that area for their loved one, I would greatly appreciate hearing from you.
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She thinks she's "done something bad"
My mother has later stage Alzheimers dementia. She sometimes recognizes her children but doesn't know our names and requires assistance with all of her ADLs. We care for her in the home she has lived in for over 60 years. She has recently been perseverating on "I've done something bad" We can't find any pattern or…
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Experiences with refrigerator locks
I've seen posts in this forum about refrigerator locks, such as the ones sold at Amazon that adheres to the door and main case, and has a cable connecting to the two parts with a lock. What experiences have people had with them? I suspect that it will trigger anger, and pulling on the door until the glued pads fall off. I…
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Memory & Moving
My DH doesn’t remember anything that has happened in the last 20 years. We are going to need to be moving soon. One minute he seems more normal. After 30 minutes, he has already forgotten us talking about moving. Everything and I mean everything is falling on my shoulders. This move is going to be incredibly difficult. DH…
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Mom (92) mod/sev dementia … suggestions PLEASE
hello … mom (92) has lived with us for 10years but there’s been a gradual decline up until maybe the last year or so … it has gotten worse. i work out of the home so i am pretty much available to her for whatever she needs & at this point i am providing (or assisting/reminding) everything. my husband /my self … our 3boys…