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Getting support from family members
My DH is at the beginning to mid part of his diagnosis. Does anyone have any advice on getting children involved in caretaking and better understanding the disease? I am a stepmother to my DH’s kids and they have not been very engaged. Any suggestions would be helpful.
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Got the Job. Now What?
I was offered the job in Manhattan. Start date 10/20. 3 weeks from now. I should be celebrating, but it just complicates my situation. I have three options, none of which seem very good: 1. Take the job, and move both me and my mom up there, somehow, in 3 weeks. Find new apartments in NY, break leases, hire moving company,…
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What did the techs just do here?
@ALZConnected Moderator I couldn’t get to posts for a few minutes. Now that I can member’s profile are randomly showing up next to their screen name on their comments including mine. So I have edited my profile to say ‘removed’. Which didn’t help because my profile info showed up on this comment
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Urge to pee but no pee
Been dealing with toileting issues at night the last couple months with the last few weeks increasing in frequency but this is a new one. MIL has been up and down multiple times during the night feeling like she has to pee but is not able to pee. She had two urine tests last week. First was inconclusive. Second was done…
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Rushing into caregiver arrangements
Although being with my DH with Alz 24/7 is driving me crazy, the nuances and limitations of working with a caregiver have begun to reveal themselves. I finally reached out to some people on Care.com and found myself rushing into an arrangement set to begin in a week with the first caregiver I met. The arrangement is based…
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What made you decide to place your LO in a SNF?
Hi, We don’t have money for MC or help at home. In fact, I stopped working early, depleted my savings and retirement, and my oldest son has been living with us and paying the bills for two years. Those might be enough reasons to place my partner in SNF—so I can work and my son can move on with his life. What brought me to…
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Which ID cards need to be with PWD
Which ID cards (like medical insurance card, state issued ID) ought to be in the PWD's residence for easy access? Likewise to be with person when going outside. Today, prior to a medical appointment, they were all gone, along with wallet. I asked, and PWD denied owning a wallet, cash or any ID. Fortunately, the medical…
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Cannabis and Senior Living Facilities
Hi, I care for my 77 year old mom that has Alzheimers. She is in the early stages and still lives alone at home with help from me for errands, bill paying, groceries etc. It is progressing and we have started looking at senior living with all stages of care as she would like to start out independent with help from me at…
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From the NYT: How Older People Are Reaping Brain Benefits From New Tech
A gifted link to the article— https://www.nytimes.com/2025/08/09/health/technology-cognition-older-people.html?unlocked_article_code=1.nk8.Wxst.AdgH546VpONN&smid=url-share
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US SSA does not recognize POA
This may be well known to most of you, but it was news to me only a few days ago. Social Security agents could not talk to me about my dad’s benefits, since SSA does not accept DPOA. I had to apply directly to the SSA to be a “representative payee.” It would have helped if I had known that term! The process was not that…
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In case of an emergency to caregivers
what can I get in case something should happen to me , caregiver, when with my wife alone and she needs to get in touch with 911? It needs to be the simplest thing to use , remembering to dial or 911 is not an option. Any thoughts as every second of delay could be life threatening
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Adjustable bed suggestions (attached control)
Hi, I'm trying to find an adjustable bed for my mom, who lives with Alzheimer's. They all seem to have remote controls, and she really needs something that has only a few buttons and is hardwired (attached) to the bed. Otherwise, the remote will quickly go missing. Has anyone found a bed that's working well for them?
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Cymbalta
my wife was always on 30mg a day Nurologist up to 60mg twice a day for depression, anyone have good results
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GUIDE Program - Experiences?
Good day, I am the caregiver for someone with Alzheimer's. My LO's care provider has enrolled her in the Medicare GUIDE program, which is supposed to provide intensive case management to individuals with dementia who reside at home. Does anyone have experience with this program? Can you share what the program has done for…
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Mental illness and memory care
Hi all! I'm facing a decision about increasing my mother's level of care, and I'm getting very different messages from professionals. I'd appreciate any advice or input you have about what questions to ask or factors to consider. My mother has longstanding mental illness with various diagnoses that features an explosive…
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NYS CONSUMER DIRECTED PERSONAL ASSISTANCE PROGRAM (CDPAP)
Anyone live in New York and get the CONSUMER DIRECTED PERSONAL ASSISTANCE PROGRAM (CDPAP)? I am thinking of moving back to NYC with my PWD because I suspect rates and services through Medicaid there might be greater than what we hav ein rural Mass. Please share what you know. Thanks. PS we have a place to live so no…
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New to this. DH with MCI due to AD
Hello. I'm so glad I found this support. My DH, 66 yo, was diagnosed with MCI due to AD in July 2025. I noticed ST memory loss for about 5 months prior, had his PCP do a MOCA where he scored 24/30 which led to Neurologist, PET (significant beta-amyloid plaque), pTau .33. He failed Aricept due to GI issues; is now on…
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Support Groups for DH
Hello Again - I have found so much support for me, as a spouse of a DH, but not so much for my husband, or for the both of us to attend. He is still at a stage where he might benefit from others' perspectives. Mostly, I'm looking for outside validation for things like driving… Warmly, —CydS
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Newly diagnosed? Free Zoom workshop tonight 9-23-25 for newly diagnosed.
https://www.facebook.com/share/r/17L5XA7FCc/?mibextid=wwXIfr saw this on Facebook. Newly diagnosed? Don’t know how to prepare for the future? FREE Zoom workshop tonight, Tuesday Sept 23, 2005. Link tells what time.
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Baby Monitor, LifeAlert type necklace, or other option best for Mom with Alzheimer’s?
Short version of our situation: my sister, brother and I are caregivers for my Mom. She’s 7 years in now (4 years since official diagnosis). We live split across a duplex, and there’s usually at least one of us on call. We had been able to leave her by herself for a couple hours if necessary, but that may be changing. I…
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MCI-- treatment with Lecanemab or Donanemab
This is my first post. I am a caregiver for my DW who was recently diagnosed with MCI with an APOE 3/4. We will be having an important discussion soon with a neurologist who is going to present us with the two possible treatment options of either Lecanamab or Donanemab; but we are quite fearful of the possible negative…
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We need a Plan B
I lost a favorite neighbor this week. She was caring for a husband with Parkinson's but was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer three months ago. He is now in a nursing home with hospice, and her funeral was yesterday. We may intend to care for our LOs to the end, but God may have other plans. It is important to have a plan…
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Taking advantage of not remembering
I think others have mentioned this but I take advantage of PWD's inability to remember in order to avoid problems. For example, PWD tries to peel label off of a bottle (salad dressing, or whatever), but fails since it's difficult and can make a mess or spill things in the process by forgetting to cap the bottle. Rather…
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Home health care
I'm 70 and in reasonably good health, some issues that are well managed. DW is 67, about 3 years or so in. I would say moderate stages. A fair amount of urinary incontinence, needs assistance with bathing and dressing. We have an adult daughter who's doing all she can to help us. I cook breakfast every day, and either our…
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New to all of this as a caregiver
My brother Jim(not his real name) was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. They said he's at the beginning of it's advanced stage. Our other brother, Max, has been living with him and taking care of him, but he's sick too and his illness will be fatal within the year. I'm stepping up to help Jim after Max passes, likely…
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PBM Redlight VieLight Therapy
Has anyone explored or even tried therapy with photo bio modulation also referred to as red-light therapy? There is a device that has some clinical trials (very small population). It is called Vielight and has a very extensive website with reports on testing of the device. I have been trying to evaluate if it is worth a…
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Help for Caregivers of Veterans-Elizabeth Dole Foundation
The Elizabeth Dole Foundation offers assistance for caregivers of veterans who were wounded or have an illness such as dementia. The veteran does not need to have a disability rating. They offer financial assistance, mental wellness, financial wellness course, webinars, and assistance navigating the VA system with aid and…
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Organizing home care
Hi everybody! I have learned much from this forum (thanks!), but now I face a new problem and need your kind advice again. My DW (82) has late-stage dementia. So far, I have been able to take full care of her (besides a bit of respite care from an aide), but all my current arrangements depend on my wife's ability to walk…
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Stopped Memantine
Hey everyone! So I just wanted to share a bit of my journey with my Mom with Dementia. We were giving her Memantine and the whole time she was on it she was having vivid dreams that woke her up and made her really upset in the mornings. We consulted our doctor and we stopped taking it. There have been fewer wake ups and no…
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beginning this journey with my mother. feeling alone
Hi, I feel really alone. I am new to all of this. This is the first time I have gotten into this website. Will have my first support group meeting next week. My mother lives far from me and I believe she has some sort of dementia, but early stage. My mother's short-term memory is not good. She has forgotten how to use the…