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Needing direction
Hello, My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers with possible vascular dementia as well. We can't get into a neurologist until July. Is that typical? Are there things a neurologist can do that a GP can't or won't? Thanks for any insight.
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Will I ever be happy again?
I am feeling so hopeless. Ever since my dad died in December I’ve been so worried about my mother who lives alone 2.5 hours away from me, I can barely function. We now have her set to move into AL near me in 2 weeks, and my anxiety is worse than ever; partially because I’m worried about what to do when she begs to go home,…
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Reassure me that I am doing the right thing
My dad passed away in December and my mom has been living alone ever since, 2.5 hours away from closest family (me). She has what my brother and I believe to be stage 4 dementia based on the DBAT assessment. Last month her PCP only diagnosed her with "memory loss," she scored a 24/30 on the MMSE, but he did take away her…
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Dealing with anger
This is my first time here. I've spent a lot of time reading some of the questions and answers but haven't found my specific concern. My father is 90 and has some dementia symptoms (we don't have a diagnosis yet). He and my mom live in their home. My mom does most of the work in the home including cooking, with some…
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The "Trial Period" approach
I posted yesterday about how we are putting my mom into an AL community in a couple weeks. She agreed to go there, thank god, mostly after we followed the facility's recommendation of telling her it's a 30-day trial period. This seems to be a common approach. However, I feel like this is going to backfire on us.…
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Having a hard time about my dads diagnosis.
Preface: (DAD WAS VERY RECENTLY DIAGNOSED & PUT IN A HOME ABRUPTLY SO IM STILL IN SHOCK) Hey! My name is Blair and I’m 28, I have 4 beautiful boys, ages 1,3,5&7. My dad can’t remember their names or how many I have. I’m having a hard time. He was just out into a home in September. He hates it but it’s for his safety. We…
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Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer Diagnosis
My dad who is an incredibly healthy 75 year old (exercises, good weight, good diet, social, optimist) was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer's Disease two months ago. Right now he is in the mild cognitive phase. Does anyone have someone in their life who has both? I'm trying to grasp any idea of the timeline…
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Holiday decorations
I see a lot of families decorating their loved ones door or room with holiday decorations. Do people with mild to moderate dementia generally appreciate this similar to how basically any child is going to enjoy decorations for any occasions. Or are decorations appreciated or not appreciated more on an individual basis?
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Placed mom in AL home last week
This will probably be a long drawn out vent. Back in December 2024 my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia. My sisters and I tried to do everything we could for that following year to keep her in her house my mother has begged me and my husband for the last 15 years or more to never never never take…
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Send me good luck!
I'm transferring my parents to another memory care across the country this so I can monitor her care closer. I'm nervous about all the logistics and praying the airport isn't a disaster zone. And of course we have the actual drop off which I'm praying is ok. And then there is the weight of being solely responsible for a…
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I Feel I’m loosing my mind…
My aunt has dementia I care for her she has no kids. My mother just got diagnosed on top f this last week ( she’s in denial) I’m the only daughter I care for her as well . My husband is terminal ( multiple myeloma and chronic lymphocytic leukemia) I need advice , tips… ideas I’m in a whirlwind I can’t loose control I’ve…
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Hospitalization
My mom (87YO) in MC tried to escape yesterday. She was severely agitated and combative with the staff (pushing the doctor and squaring up against nurses and people trying to help her). My sister and I were called to see if we could come by to try to de-escalate the situation. Long story short…we couldn't (In fact I think…
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Taking away beloved pets
My mom, with mid-stage alz, is currently in an Assisted Living Facility. We placed her there because she is extremely attached to her 2 dogs, and pets aren't allowed in memory care. We were trying to ease the transition so we chose AL. We have been here a week and it is painfully obvious she won't be able to function in…
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Financial Ruin
My mom has Alzheimer's and is in memory care, and we are running out of money. At the same time, my dad is quickly declining with dementia. They do not qualify for Medicaid. What does a person do when they can't afford care and nothing is available?
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Recs and encourgament
My mom is newly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at 62. The wait to see a neurologist is 7 months so we are reliant on her PCP. My father is sadly in denial or just needs more time to accept the situation. There are three adult children, two of which live in town. Sadly it feels like symptom wise, she has stepped off a cliff and…
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On the verge of a nervous breakdown
Hi everyone I am new here and not sure what to say or even where to start I just feel like I am losing my sanity. I do not know if I am the only person this type of situation has ever happened to or if I really am going crazy. It is a complex story; 7 years ago, I moved in with my mom who had had a stroke and was in the…
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Sudden Changes and transitions
My daddy has had dementia for awhile. He was walking and following directions while he was with my mother in assisted living. They actually were quite active. Unfortunately, they were not in a facility that provided good care. I received a call informed me that my dad's legs were swollen. I checked them and took him to the…
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Mom is 89=Alzheimer, Dad is 95=Pancreatic Cancer
Hello everyone~I just signed up with ALZConnected bc I am in need of experience, advise, support with my elderly "independent" parents whom I love so much! Here I go: My mother is 89 years old. May 2025 she was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes which has been challenging due to memory declining over the past several years.…
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Need to whine about moms house
Mom is a hoarder and her house is full. The house is an hour’s drive away. I have averaged one full 8 hour day a week there for the last three years. I replaced the carpet and sealed and painted the walls in the living room that had cat spray, I dug a path to the water heater and had that replaced and I got all the food…
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Vascular Dementia and hyperactivity at night
My mom has been very active at night, talking to herself, calling me, can’t settle down etc. anxious any suggestions? she is on 100 mg of Trazadone, rispiridal, buspar, visteral and nothing is helping her to sleep! She was also recently diagnosed with stage 4 kidney failure from an arthritis medication side effect. i feel…
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Feeling helpless
My Mom has entered the later stages of early onset, 68 years old. Since the time change for daylight savings things have gotten worse quickly. Recently, she has had the police called on her for wondering the neighborhood and trying to enter strangers cars. This has all culminated in a fall and a broken foot landing her in…
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Parent with middle stage vascular dementia hiding things and paranoid
Hello My parent 87 y.o lives in an ALF. She hides and loses items in her room and believes people are stealing, stuff like her underwear and PJs. should I take some of her clothes out of the closet so she can find stuff easier? Also she starts calling me at 1 am even while taking trazadone 100 mg. Sometimes she is…
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Plan B
I thought I had more time. I prayed I had more time.😢 I have advocated for mom to get a name for what caused her dementia. Her neurologist believes hers is multi-focal, meaning hers have many causes, vascular being one. The PA asked mom last month if she wanted to be tested specifically for Alzheimers. To which she said,…
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Alzeimers and blindness
Hi. I am new to this community. My mom has the disease but to complicated it she has about10% vision and is obsessed with going to the bathroom. She is also very restless and doesn't sleep some nights. This makes caregiving difficult because she wants to use the bathroom every 5 minutes even though nothing happens at…
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Care from out of state
Hello. I am in Atlanta and my parents are in Cincinnati. My mother has Alzheimer's and my father is her primary caregiver. I am feeling more and more that my dad needs more help than he is asking for and maybe even a respite care partner to come to the house for my mom so he can have a break. My godmother currently comes…
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Vascular dementia medication
Hi, Please share any medication that you have found that helps with vascular dementia. My mom is on Donezapil but she is have negative side effects. Thanks so much!
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memory care visits are very difficult
My 89-year-old mom was moved to memory care about 3 weeks ago after a stay in a geriatric-psych ward for medical stabilization. We cared for her for the last 5 years with more round-the-clock care over the last year due to behaviors that made her unsafe. She was very unhappy with her situation then, didn’t really enjoy…
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CA-Sacramento/Amador County Hospice
hi, Does anyone know of a Hospice company that will permit the person to stay on their medication for dementia? Thanks
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Need tips to help mom taking medicine
Hello, my mom, who has alzheimer needs to take medicine daily. She is good with most medicine except the calcium supplements. She couldn't swallow it. I crushed the pill and mixed with food. She spilled it out, thinking they are rocks. I don't want she to feel someone put rocks in her meal since she has been lately…
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Recommendations on companion services
My mom has PCA, a form of Alzheimer's. She is only 59 but we have already seen a severe cognitive decline and she is unable to live on her own. She is in assisted living right now. They do offer activities throughout the day, but usually the ones in the afternoon are either too difficult for my mom to participate in or she…