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Ethics of car buying
We put my parents in memory care months ago. Dad has a relatively new used car, while my car is getting old. I want to buy his car, in fact family and neighbors have told me I should. I am Dad's POA, so bill of sale will be between me as POA and me as me. Check will go from my account to parents' account which I use to pay…
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literally impossible mom
Hello. This is my first time here so please let me know if I'm the right group. I'm looking for advise and or to hear from other people regarding my impossible mom. I don't want to type out the whole story unless I'm in the right group. Is this where I would tell my story and see who has input, similar problems ?
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What do you need to provide for a live-in caretaker?
I am considering hiring a live-in caretaker for my father. I am having trouble finding much information about what sort of living environment you need to provide for the caretaker. Any guidance would be appreciated. To provide some context, my father's house is not in good repair. I would not want to live there but my…
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Getting support for my dad who is my mom's full-time caregiver
Hello, first post here, hoping to get some different perspectives. My mom was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer's nearly 8 years ago (I think) right around 60 years old, though she likely could have been diagnosed earlier, she had been showing symptoms for a few years at that point. My dad has always promised her he…
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Suggestions for remaining patient with a parent?
Hello, I'm new here so here's a little introduction before my question: my 87-year-old mother has dementia after several years of living with MCI. My sister lives close by and handles my parents' finances and a lot of other tasks that are too much for them. I live on the opposite coast and do what I can from here, and I…
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Help! In need of a break
Hi, I am a new caregiver. About 2 months in, my husband and I took over care of his mother from another state, living with us now in our home. She was so much worse than we were led to believe. She needs to be watched 24/7 and we are well aware that it will only get worse from here. We are looking for some kind of…
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Mom Making Up Stories
HELP! My mom has dementia. I don't know what type, because her primary doctor has been treating her for "memory" issues for several years. She began with taking donepezil and now memantine has been added. She is also on an anti-depressant and mood stabilizer. She knows all her family, so that hasn't been an issue. However,…
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New Alzheimers Diagnosis for 85 YO Dad
Looking for behaviors or actions that are "normal" ALZ behaviors and others to bring to attention to his Primary Care Doctor
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Anyone with a parent living for their pet?
Hello to all…I have SO many different things to talk about, but one thing that has been weighing on me since we moved my mom into our home one year ago today is this…we think she is living for her pet. Like most people with pets, it's family. Of course! I have pets of my own and have almost my entire life and can't image…
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Artis Senior Living Boca Raton
Hi all - I am considering moving my mother to the memory care center at Artis Senior Living Boca Raton. We had a good visit there and spoke with family members of residents. Does anyone have first hand experience with this facility that could provide some thoughts?
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Suggestions
Hi, I am a new to this group and need any advice or direction as to how to better assist my 86 year old mother that was diagnosed with dementia back in 2023. She had a stroke that affected her short term memory, she couldn't tell you what happened last year of anything at the moment but constantly talks about things that…
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My mother doesn't remember my brother died; suggestions for path ahead?
Hi all, I am a new member here. My mom, who is 95 and lives with my family, has significant cognitive decline and has trouble making new memories. Several weeks ago, my brother died of cancer after having been ill since last summer. Mom knew he'd had cancer and she visited him a number of times in his last days. She also…
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Just a Little Advice Needed
My mama is 75 and her PCP has officially diagnosed her with dementia-close family members knew this for a while now but she is really hard-headed and she has to make the decision as to the doctors she wants to see. We are waiting on them to make her an appointment with a neurologist. I feel like smudge. I am calling to…
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Book for Caregivers of Neglectful/Abusive Parents
Happy Holiday season to everyone celebrating everything. My therapist recommended this book and I found it super useful: Doing the Right Thing: Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents, Even If They Didn't Take Care of You:
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Maintaining independence during early stages
Hi, my mom (58 years old) was recently diagnosed with mild dementia. My siblings and I are trying to navigate this new reality and find a balance between keeping her safe and allowing her some independence. She’s on medical leave from her job because her performance had been declining. This means she’s home 24/7. Seeing…
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New to group
My mom is 80 years old and is in her second year of diagnosis. She is the church organist at our church but needs my brother or I to prompt her when to play. She can no longer do they planning or get up in time to make it to church so the church says she has to retire which I understand. However, some days she remembers…
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This journey
It’s been 3.5 years since my dad passed and I became my mom’s caretaker and her dementia took a fast slide. She moved out of state to be close to me 2 years ago. Many of you have been right there with me on this journey. Staging: she was probably stage 3-4 before dad passed, 5 when she moved here. Now she’s in stage 6 in a…
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New here Caregiver for my Mom
Hello all! I have really been struggling and looking for support and I am very happy to have found this community! My Mom is 77 diagnosed in December 2024. She lives with me and my husband in an in-law that we put on for her. I have so many questions but the biggest issue right now is she has been online shopping,…
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Dealing with Burnout
Hi, all. Haven't been here in a while. I'm dealing with severe burnout. The last few years were incredibly stressful, having my mom live with me as her dementia progressed. I placed her in an MCF last fall, which turned out to be a nightmare, and now she's in a lovely ACH where she's cared for very lovingly and with…
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New to this group .
Hi I am new to this group . I am really haven a hard time dealing with my dad have dementia and stage 5 kidney failure . He has been in hospice for almost 2 months now. I am feeling extremely guilty for placing him into a nursing facility . I truly tried to take care of him but it took a mental & physical toll on me . All…
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Dad with necrosis
My dad, 89, VD, has started getting necrosis in his feet. How serious is that? He is bed bound and his feet are wrapped up with foam to prevent them from rubbing against each other. Is this terminal? What should I expect? Anybody here have any experience with this?
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My Mom Keeps Misplacing Things & Thinking My Late Dad Is Still Alive
My mom has a UTI (urinary tract infection) that is causing dementia symptoms. For the past month and a half, she's been misplacing things and then blaming it on my late Dad and insisting he is alive and messing with her. He's been dead for more than a decade, but she never came to terms with it. She was taking meds for the…
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Personal Care Tips
Hi all - my mother is in the later stages of dementia and has all but stopped her personal hygiene. I obviously try to get her into the shower. She resists say she has already showered earlier, or that she will shower later that evening, or a lot of other excuses. When in the shower, I am not sure she is doing a very good…
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Covid vaccines/boosters
Has anyone had parents that took the Covid 19 vaccines that contained mRNA be diagnosed with Alzheimers or Dementia? Both my parents did and we have no previous history of Alzheimers on either sides of the family.
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How to talk to Parent about moving to Independent Living when they don't want to leave their home
Any advice on how to talk to parent with mild dementia who does not want to move out of their house into a care facility? For reference, my mom got diagnosed last Fall and is now having issues with remembering to take her medicine and eat, also can't keep track of days and is forgetting how to use her oven. My sister and I…
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Bible Verse for Caregivers 4/13/2025
DEAR CAREGIVER, DON’T WORRY Matthew 6:34 New Living Translation * JESUS’ WORDS “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” JESUS IS OUR LORD AND SAVOR. When He says, “Don’t worry,” He knows whatever trouble, whatever danger, He can take care of us and those…
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Behavior changes
looking for tips on how to redirect aggressive behavior, agitation and combativeness in my mother with moderate/severe Alzheimer’s. This behavior tends to flare in late afternoon/early evening.
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A Reluctant Caregiver for Both My Parents for Nine Years
Hello friends here, Yes, I had help when I took care of both my elderly invalid parents, but it still was difficult. For those of you who don't know me, my mother progressed into severe dementia and could no longer do anything for herself. My stepdad, George, was legally blind, and eventually progressed into heart failure…
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Hallucinations and Delusional Thoughts
Our father has been suffering from hallucinations and delusional thoughts for several years. Now, it has reached its peak, with him talking to someone he claims is "Alice." He has been having full conversations with her, waking up with remarks like, "Wow! That's weird," "Hello?!?, who's there?," and "Wow, wow, wow." He…
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My Mom has Dementia and now hates my Father
Hello! I'm new here. My Mom has dementia and directs all her anger at my father. He is a wonderful, patient man that takes care of her everyday (we are currently trying to get her into assisted living). She calls me everyday bashing him about how he takes all her clothes, pushes her around and throws out all her important…