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What’s your opinion of Aricept?
My mom was given Aricept by her PCP when she was first diagnosed but was taken off it due to side effects. I know she had blood in her stool but I don’t know what else. The PCP told me that she could have tried again but confessed that at the time she just wasn’t taking it that seriously. We no longer see her. Fast forward…
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My Mom has Dementia and now hates my Father
Hello! I'm new here. My Mom has dementia and directs all her anger at my father. He is a wonderful, patient man that takes care of her everyday (we are currently trying to get her into assisted living). She calls me everyday bashing him about how he takes all her clothes, pushes her around and throws out all her important…
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Sleep walking or hallucinations
My father (74) was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s this year. We started him on 2 medications which actually made him more confused and have since taken him off. I’m devastated because he is declining and fast and I can’t understand if this is normal. My main question is he has been sleep talking a lot and will wake up and…
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Recently Admitted Father to MC, and wondering if it gets easier
Hi, I'm pretty new to the discussions here. Last week, my father was taken by ambulance to the hospital due to a heart issue he had at a McDonalds at 6AM. When he was admitted to the hospital, it was obvious to the staff that he should no longer be living alone. I believed he could go on living by himself, thinking that…
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Parent getting meaner, no joy left
I am new to this forum and new to learning about Alzheimer's. My dad has had a steady memory decline but it finally was diagnosed as Alzheimer's. Recently I've noticed things have gotten way worse. Nearly every time we visit, the tension builds and he has an angry outburst directed at my boyfriend. This time he took a…
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Moving Mom to a Facility
Hello. It has come time to move mom into MC. She has visited quite a few times and enjoys it when we're there. She comments on how lovely and clean it is. As soon as we get in the car to leave I ask "How about living there mom?" Her response is "Live where?" So, my question is…do I tell her at all that we are moving her or…
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Transistioning to Memory Care/Assisted Living
Hello - my mom was diagnosed with vascular dementia/alzheimer's last spring - but she had been having memory issues for a couple years now. We finally got my dad on board with moving them into an assisted living center in December of last year - he was older and falling quite a bit himself and we felt he needed more care…
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agression, no diagnosis
im struggling with parents verbally arguing and blaming one another of having dementia/alzhiemers w/o diagnossis,.. i have worked as a caregiver/carepartner for 13yrs, in a facility. I am struggling and dont know how to go about getting a diagnosis, because i see both of there judgement and reasoning completely gone, but…
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Mom doesn't comprehend her disease
My poor Step Father reached a point, with his own health issues, that he could no longer safely care for my Mom. They live in a beautiful home, my Mom used to be able to stitch, sew, crochet, play the piano and was a wonderful cook. She was diagnosed a little less than a year ago with Alzheimers and the last 6 months has…
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Help! A man wants to date my mom
My mom lives in an independent living facility (for now). She is borderline between early and moderate Alzheimers. I spend weekends helping her. It appears there’s a man at the facility who is interested in dating her. He came up to her with me there and put her hand on her shoulder and definitely was interested. My mom…
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Mother insists she can be alone
I searched for posts on this topic and I am sure there are some but I didn’t come across them. As I look back I think my mom has been showing signs of dementia for years. It wasn’t until Nov 2024 though until my dad and I really realize there was a problem - when she got lost in her own neighborhood. She doesn’t remember…
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Help
My father and mother have recently moved in with me because my dad was recently diagnosed with stage IV bladder cancer. We are helping care for him and take him to all of his medical appointments and treatments. My mom has Alzheimer's and he was her sole caregiver. Since moving in she has packed her things daily and wants…
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parent telling me mean things about sibling
Hi all, first time poster, I've had this come up recently and wondered if I'm the only one. My sibling and I each equally care for our parent, several times, my parent with dementia will say to me they prefer me to my sibling, this really breaks my heart because my sibling does so much for my parent and always, our whole…
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Thickening Liquids
Hello All - Just got a call from Hospice that they are now adding a thickener to my Dad's liquids. From what I understand a thicker liquid is easier to swallow. I guess they add some type of powder to his drinks. Anyone have a loved one on this? TBH I've never heard of this, but I'm sure its just another sign of…
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Private Pay One on One in addition at Memory Care Facility
Hello, My 86 year old mom had a stroke and massive heart attack almost 7 years ago. She survived, but now has vascular dementia and Alzheimer's (Alzheimer's started prior to stroke). She was at a memory care facility that was horrible. We moved her to this new place in February and love it. The staff is very caring and…
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New Caregiver Advice Needed
Hello - I'm new to this caregiving role and am navigating these responsibilities on top of raising 2 young kids, looking for a new job, and all the other things. Where are the best places to start in seeking help and locating resources? My mother currently has a pseudodementia diagnosis and I'm wondering if anyone else has…
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Morally Conflicted about Nursing Home
My 75-year-old grandmother was diagnosed a year ago with moderate dementia, which has now later turned into an Alzheimer's diagnosis. She is starting to slowly have "out-of-mind" episodes, confusing a very close family member with their parent (her son), etc. while these are infrequent as of now, they are suddenly onset…
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Caring For Parent
Both my Maternal Great Grandmother and Grandmother had Alzheimer's. And now, I am seeing more obvious changes in my own Mother who is now in her 70s. I live out of state. I am in CT and my Mother is in FL. The most challenging part is dealing with my Father, her spouse, who is in denial. He has been trying to shield my…
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Sudden issue with weakness & walking
I am caring for my mom who has memory loss due to dementia/alzheimers. Her memory loss became noticeable about 7-8 years ago. In the past several weeks she has suddenly become very weak when walking. She used to walk a lap or two at the track every other day and now struggles to walk a short distance around the house. I'm…
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Support Groups with Respite Care North Idaho/Eastern Washington
Does anyone in the North Idaho/ Eastern Washington know any dementia support groups that offer respite during the meetings? I know the Alzheimer’s support groups don’t offer this. But is there any other groups around my area that do?
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SOS/Aggression
I’m sending up the white flag and in need of some direction please My father currently had MS dementia. He’s been exceedingly agitated and angry lately and lately and he acted out against my mother tonight and I’m panicked I don’t know what our next steps are ; I obviously do not want this to occur again - nursing home or…
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Permanent catheter with dementia
I’m a caregiver for my mother. She has early onset dementia that she’s had for about 10 years. She does fairly but has a lot of other health issues. One of those being she has issues with her bladder. Her urologist is wanting to put in a catheter that would stay in all the time. I’ve never had any experience with a…
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Stages of Alzheimer's
My mother is 82 years old and was officially diagnosed in December of 2023. My sister and I had noticed cognitive impairment for at least 4 years before we managed to get her tested, due to her being in denial. As she progressed, we were "Google Doctor's" trying to get all the information we could. Her neurologist has said…
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Cataract surgery
Mom is probably to the end of stage 4. She was diagnosed with vascular dementia 2 years ago. I was told average life expectancy is 5 years. I know that’s just a rough number. She has diabetes with edema in her legs. I don’t think she could follow a storyline to read a book. She is able to choose her meals off the menu at…
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My MIL is getting worse
My MIL has dementia and is now starting to forget to eat, and isn't really taking care of herself. My SIL lives with them, but it's more like lives "off" them and she is NO help! I've noticed my MIL losing weight and not looking as put together as normal. When do I know when the time has come to get her more care. She…
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Moving mom from AL to MC
this day is going to be so hard. We need to move mom up to MC. She has been wandering and walked out of the building. It is now a safety issue and we need to do this but it is breaking my heart. I don’t know how to navigate it all and how often I should visit after. I currently go twice a week and sibling goes twice a…
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How to help with dementia and sundowners
I am new to all this. I worked in a dementia care unit as a companion but it is nothing compared to feeling so helpless when it comes to my grandma. My dad wants to put her in a home and I gave her my word I would not let that happen. It breaks my heart seeing her decline and not know who I am. I had never even heard of…
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New to Group
Good morning community, I just connected to this support group. My 86 yo dad is struggling more each day with memory loss. He has always had some sort of learning disability and suffers from profound hearing loss. The increasing level of dementia is complicating daily interactions. I have a sister who lives 5 minutes from…
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How do I tell my mom we are where we are because of her illness?
First, my mom refuses to come to terms with the fact that she is mentally declining and that we need to address the fact that she is not just forgetful, but that she has severe memory loss, had a small stroke, and is starting to experience delusions. Of course, she denies and becomes enraged when these things are brought…
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My Mom Finally Got An Official Diagnosis
So after almost three months, my mom has officially been diagnoised with major cognitive disorder, aka dementia by a geriactic care provider. According to her, silent strokes from a while back (which affected her brain) and my mom's unresolved grief with my Dad were major contributing factors. It has been recommended that…