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Moving my mom - which is best
My mom was told she has Alzheimer’s about 2 weeks ago. I think it is early. We have noticed trouble with remembering she has told us something and I know it took her 2 hours to pay a bill not remembering whether she had told us something call the bank or call the credit card company. My friend, who is currently helping…
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No Appetite
My mom hasn’t been eating or drinking for a few weeks. We brought her to ER for IV fluids and the PT recommended a rehab facility to get her eating, drinking, and moving again. Great plan except that she has no appetite and everything tastes bad to her. Even foods she loves. She is excited to eat it and then stops after a…
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Bedridden mother w/dental issues
Hello. I care for my 89 year old mother who has severe Alzheimer's and has been bedridden since falling and breaking her hip in February of last year. She has visiting hospice nurses twice a week, and (by the grace of God) is doing well, overall for her circumstances. My Mom has a full upper partial, which had previously…
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How do I respond to my parent talking about me as if I were someone else?
As life would have it, my parent who I just moved over a thousand miles is now seemingly fuzzy about who I am (her only daughter). She 100% recognized me back in late January. When healthcare professionals ask, "who is that sitting next to you?" She will answer "my daughter" and say my name and act like it's a ridiculous…
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Mom at my wedding?
I would really like my mom to be at my wedding but thinking about the logistics is a lot. She lives in memory care 1 hour from the venue. I would help her with getting ready and getting here there but I’m worried about everything after when I won’t be as available for bathroom help, reorienting, keeping her from wandering…
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Grieving the living
My mom has Alzheimers. I moved in with her and my dad 2 years ago. At first my dad was taking the brunt of the abuse. She is so mean to him and occasionally hits him. Normally my mom is sweet, conservative, and very religious. Now she is mean, conniving and the complete opposite of who she was. We finally heard of medicine…
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Mom struggling to remember my late Dad :(
I was really taken aback today. My father passed away in December. My mom has been heavily grieving him ever since— I know she would look at his picture every day and have a good cry. We moved her from their home into AL near me this past week. Today I had lunch with her, and I was thinking "Wow, she seems really with it…
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Breaking Point
My Mom (78) was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s MCI about 2 years ago via Blood test, MMSE, MOCA. I don’t recall anything other than normal aging from the brain MRI at that time. She has not yet had a neuro psych evaluation. I was not terribly impressed with the neurologist that we saw. My Dad passed away in late February.…
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Memory care placement too early
I am checking my mother into a memory care unit tomorrow. My 87-year-old father cares for her today but she’s had so many delusions lately and fixations! She’s become aggressive with him as well. Cognitively it feels too early for her! I’m choosing a respite option so I can potentially move her out if I realize it is too…
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Resentment
I visit mom once a week and take her out to lunch most weeks if the weather is good. Yesterday before we left she told a friend she would not be down for lunch because her daughter was taking her out. The friend made a comment about how lucky she is that she gets to go out so much. Mom replied my son takes me out a lot…
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Thinking of moving my mom out of care facility
My mom, 87, is in the later stages of Alzheimer's. She was never formally diagnosed, but it has been at least a decade and probably closer to 15 years since she first started noticing she was having memory issues. Unfortunately her concerns were dismissed as just normal aging memory loss. She lived with my brother until…
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How to find case/social worker to help
My parents have many health issues, including my father who has dementia. All of my siblings and I live hours away. We have set up in home care, but it was dependent on my mother being there to regulate/direct my father. We have each spent weeks living in our old bedrooms trying to make the in home care work without us. It…
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Bad visits are just so disappointing
I would say about 1/3 of my visits to see my parent in the hospital are very poor though I shouldn't complain because she is never mad at me which is a blessing. It's just so disappointing to have a terrible visit because the drive is terrible, a geriatric psychiatric unit is just not an easy place to be even a well run…
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My mom has EOAD… need advice/support
Hi People, I have never had the courage to ask this question of the health professionals, I feel disloyal even asking it, and every time I have to verbalise my family’s situation, I burst into tears, but here goes. My mom was diagnosed almost 4 years ago at 46 years old during my freshman year of college, she still lives…
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How to handle hurtful lies
How do I handle my mother making up extremely hurtful lies about people? I can handle lies about minor things but she will say her car was "stolen from her" (my best friend's son bought it). She also told me that my cousin couldn't have children because she'd had an abortion in the past. When I ask how she knows this, she…
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Help needed - dealing with delusions
My Mom is 91 y/o, living alone, with dementia/Alz. She is convinced that her neighbor is getting into her condo and "ruining my Mom's Life!" Anything that is missing, marked or newly noticed by my Mom is her neighbor's doing. Over time, we have added 3 deadbolts on her front door and a motion camera in her foyer (which has…
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Dad newly diagnosed
hello everyone! My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last September 2025. He’s still very functional on his own, but I’m definitely noticing changes. One big question I have is is it common for people with Alzheimer’s to withdraw socially? My dad has never been one to be outgoing at family events but lately he leaves…
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In home care
I think the time has finally come for my mom to get in home care. She cant toilet anymore without someone wiping her. However, the thought of someone else cleaning my mom makes me cringe and I don't know how she will react. How did you get past this to hire someone ? Ugj this is so so depressing!!!!! Yesterday was her 79th…
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Anosognosia, suggestions?
My mom moved into AL yesterday and is slowly realizing that most people around her have some kind of ailment. She is so annoyed by all the attention from the nursing staff and is saying things like “They’re acting like I am here for a medical reason” and “What have you got me into?” I know you can’t rationalize with…
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Psychiatric hospitalization
so long story short I'm with my parent at a room in the er in the behavioral area. They are going to admit her. I'm wondering when is the best time for me to leave. I was waiting on the decision of the hospital on what they were going to decide to do with her and speak with the county crisis worker. I did this and now…
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Mom Might Get Evicted from Memory Care
This may sound harsh, but it's our reality right now. We moved our 84-y.o. mother with dementia into a lovely memory care facility last week. The dementia symptoms advanced quickly - she was driving and socializing mid-February, and a month later she's getting lost in her own neighborhood, forgetting where she is, and…
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Conservatorship Exhaustion
On top of elder abuse/theft/etc. Issues involving my dad ex and friends I gotta handle... Medical & Social Security are highly incompetent... Facility issues...New medical problems, and my dad wants to go back to court to start all this all over again 🤦🏾♀️ Im exhausted!
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My mom is gone, grieving and pissed off (just a vent I guess)
10 years of dementia and the last three were exceedingly difficult and I feel I've been through a meat grinder (I am a different person now). I was the only person in the family (her only daughter) to step up and try to help navigate all of her care needs, as well as the legal and financial situation of my parents (both in…
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Need emotional support
Hi everyone, I'm caring for my aunt who raised me when I was a child. She has early-stage Alzheimer’s and is currently living alone. Her son has been out of contact with the family for about 10 years, and we haven’t been able to find him. She misses him deeply and talks about him every day. My aunt has memory loss. Because…
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Sabotaging everything - Caring for my Great Grandma after losing her daughter, my Grandmother
Hello there. I'm posting because I don't know what else to do, I guess I'm looking for guidance, someone to let me know that I'm not going crazy. My Great Grandma is 101 years old, lives alone in her house she's lived in her entire life. We've tried to get her into assisted living but she refuses and her doctor says at…
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Where do I go from here?
Hello. I am new to this forum. My mom has dementia. It started when she was 54 years old. She is now turning 62 in August. We are at the point where she has been hysterically crying for the past 9 days straight. She started Rexulti in December of 2025. We were thinking that maybe that could be part of it. She is now losing…
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Reflection on Progression
I haven’t been here in awhile. Mom is in MC. She’s 73. I have a 5 year old. Husband is away for work. Old pic popped on my phone of my daughter and mom just a year ago. She was in MC then (been there almost 2 years now). I just can’t believe how fast this all went down. In the picture she is smiling with my daughter. Now,…
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Does the diagnosis matter?
my mom was diagnosed with FT dementia 7 years ago. At that time, she was still living in IL with my dad. since then, her condition has progressed to the point where we decided to move her to MC. One of my to-do items along with the move was to get her an appointment to be seen by a neurologist again and reevaluate. But at…
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Feeling Anxious
Not sure what stage of Dementia my mom is in but she needs care 24/7 but she still can eat without choking, She watches TV , smiles and still laughs, eats snacks sometimes will feed herself but I’m having a hard time just thinking she might pass sooner or later
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Day 1 at AL
We moved Mom in to AL today. It went a little better than I expected. She loves her room. But she is very angry that they took away her medication and have to administer it to her. She doesn’t understand why. She is also annoyed that people keep stopping by to take her vitals etc. She says “I didn’t think I was coming to a…