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Major shift in sleep
Usually my Mom takes a long nap in the afternoon and falls asleep on the couch while we're watching tv by 7 or 8pm. The past week she's been napping morning and night, still waking for meals. She seems very confused with general conversation, inability to demonstrate any logic. She's been diagnosed with mixed vascular,…
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Hospice Assessment in MC?
What is involved in an assessment for hospice care? Is there any reason NOT to have an assessment for a person around late stage 6? Does Medicare pay for hospice entirely? Yesterday my father fainted in MC and was sent to the ER. I was called at work and went to the hospital within an hour. Fortunately the ER doctor was a…
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POLST Form - Physician Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment Form - overwhelming
My LO is very, very elderly. She was recently hospitalized and had surgery. We had to make a lot of decisions fast and under pressure in the ER. But luckily it all went as well as could be hoped. She is definitely more fragile than she was before the whole thing but she is doing well. Her physician's practice is all…
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Asking Permissions
My MIL is starting to ask me permission in her own home, can I have coffee? Can I close the curtains, can I do this etc? Is this a stage? Am I doing to much?
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Looking for Resources in Maryland
Hi there! I am seeking guidance to assit my MOL with my FOL's dementia diagnosis. He is going to adult day care three day per week, but still car tasks at home are getting overly challenging. Here are some of the main issues we are working with: -sundowning (lots of frustration throughout the day) -insomonia -inability to…
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Mother living with me has Dementia
Hello Everyone, I recently had my mom come live with me, her choice. She was living by herself up until last Oct. Fell Broke her hip, end up in rehab for 2 months for thearpy. When she was in there my brother sought out Gaurdianship over her. Needless to say when she found out she was mad. She wanted to go back home, but…
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Need help with confirming stages
Good Evening, I just went to my MIL's doctor who confirmed her for moderate onset Alzheimers with agitation. But when I questioned him about what stage shes at he just kind of shrugged his shoulders. How can I find out what stage she is in? Do we need to go to a neurologist to confirm this? This just started last month so…
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Rehab to Memory Care
Hello, my mom is 77 and has advanced dementia. She has been living in memory care since this past March. She had lived alone for 20 years but was getting progressively worse, then couldn't stand up, ended up in the hospital last Jan. Then rehab for 2 months where she got better physically. The Dr's there thought she needed…
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Worn out and stressed out
Hello all. I’m currently dealing with an 87 year old father with dementia. He has fallen at home about 15 times this year, and ended up breaking his hip in July. I moved him into assisted living as I didn’t feel he was safe to be alone at home. He was a smoker and the last time I was there I watched him not pay attention…
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I hate myself for getting rid of Dad's phone
I am devastated. I had to disconnect my dad's phone tonight. He just called 911 too many times. I hate this. I feel like I am cutting him off.
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Need Help w/ Cell Phone Options
My father has dementia and one area where my mom and I are struggling is with his using his cell phone. He likes to play solitaire on the phone but he doesn’t understand that the ads he receives aren’t real messages. He ends up filling out his information and is inundated with spam text messages and phone calls. I try to…
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Television that can be turned off automatically? (or remotely?)
Hey, my apologies if this has already been addressed or answered. My mom is in a MC unit & has the habit of watching TV all night long, then not sleeping at normal hours. I discussed this with the staff & I gave them permission to take the power cord from the TV around 11PM and return it the next morning to help Mom stay…
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Advice on Transition to MC
Hi. With reluctance and fear, we are going to move my Dad from independent living with my Mom into MC. I know this is a painful process for all families, My Mom and Dad have been together for 65+ years. My family is scared that my Dad will become very angry at us, especially my Mom (the dutiful wife). We don't know what…
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Caregiver - Therapy
I've been primary caregiver for my mom for nearly two years. She's still living at home but no longer driving. Moods are hard, depression is a thing. My SO and daughter help with check ins but it's still a lot. I've been considering looking into therapy for myself. Any suggestions? Tips? Things to consider when finding the…
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Caring for Parent
My mother has decline cognitively and it is dangerous for her to drive, but she has these outburst about driving and sometimes says she might as well die if she can't drive and be independent.
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Finding my place
Hello, new here. As an adult child my mom is newly diagnosed with ALZ. They mentioned moderate stage at this point. She is now on meds for her mood swings and aggression. Yet she is still having bad days. I also should mention she is married to my stepdad of 30+ yrs. He refuses to see the bigger picture of all the above.…
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Inheritance/finances
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dont know where to start
Hello, I am currently taking care of my 89 year old father. He moved into my in-law unit in my backyard about 10 years ago. He lost all his savings, property and retirement in some bad business decisions. About a year and a half ago he started having short term memory problems. Asking me the same thing over and over again.…
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Mom was newly diagnosed
my mom was newly diagnosed , and she has lost the ability to keep track of the day , dates , appointment times. She will ask multiple times daily what time an appointment is , or what is the day /date even though it’s a week away , and even wake early in the morning & start to get ready saying I’m picking her up to go. She…
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Taking control of medication management - early stage
Long story - mostly venting but all suggestions welcome. Mom 85 has unspecified dementia; cognitive tests indicate Alz but amyloid PET scan was negative so could be vascular or other type. Mom has taken the negative PET result to mean Alz was "misdiagnosed" and therefore she is "well". Short term memory is in obvious…
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Seroquel for non violent delusions
My parent is having non violent delusions for the past 6 weeks. She lives in memory care and is mid stage. Her mood overall is good and these delusions do not cause significant agitation but they can be upsetting to her in a normal way. Ie if she thinks someone passed away she will be sad they have passed. Examples of…
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Benfotiamine
Hello. My 86 yr old Mother has Dementia. Has anyone here had any luck with the OTC supplement, Benfotiamine (Vitamin B1)?
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Memory care guilt
My mom was driving and living alone 3 years ago and now can barely walk with a walker, has total incontinence, can't dress herself, and is furious I put her on memory care, where im sure frightens her because she sees her future there. I am overwhelmed with guilt over this decision. It was my decision alone because my…
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Feeling a bit sad - one more step in the progression
Let me start by saying, I know how lucky we are. I am, really am, counting my blessings. But my LO is quite elderly and their condition is declining. They have been on hospice since the summer. The hospice has been great. But this week both the social worker and the RN independently asked if we would consider a hospital…
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Christmas Decorations
Mom is in a nursing home. There is not much room. I brought a few decorations (a couple of Christmas wall hangings she made) and a three foot Santa to set in the hall by her door. She has always wanted Christmas decorations taken down as soon as Christmas is over, because she gets depressed after Christmas. After…
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We can't persuade her to take a shower anymore.
Hello, My 85-year-old mother-in-law with Alzheimer's lives with me and my husband. He works full-time and I am at home due to disability. We used to be able to remind her to take a shower every few days and she would grumble a little and do it. Then she started resisting more strongly. We tried asking her if there was…
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Support for our family/ Alzheimer my mom
Hello, this is so heart breaking. My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 5 years ago. She is 70. This terrible disease has her 6/7 stage. We have decided to be her caregivers. My 2nd dad and mom bought a huge home with my husband and 2 kids. We came together to take care of her. Sadly it is in the aggression stage.…
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Mom diagnosed with eo which caused drivers license recall
Hello, I am new to this forum and very much respect all the insight and answers that I have read on the various discussion boards. My mom was recently diagnosed with eo. It was becoming apparent to me with her repeating her questions numerous times, not remembering where items were and minor memory events. She is still…
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Dad calling police in nursing home
Putting my dad in a nursing and getting multiple calls a day was bad enough. Now my dad is calling the police every day from the nursing home. I don't know what to do and I am getting very stressed about it.
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Mom refusing to go to Dr appointments
New here. Mom has ALZ/Dementia and COPD. She is dependent on oxygen concentrator. For years now, Mom has been canceling dr's appointments on the day. Dad, who was her primary caregiver, died in May '25 and my brother and I are trying to care for her in her home. She recently fell and had a gash on her scalp, leading to…