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Decline after caregiver?
Mom lives with us and has for about a year and a half, but we had a daily caregiver (8 hours a day) coming for a little over 2 months to help with Mom after she had fallen late July of this year. It was usually the same person M-F and then another person who came for the weekends. Both ladies were awesome, and of course…
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Medication administration
Hi ! my mother has been getting very confused with taking her medication despite me setting up the pill organizer each week . It is clear I need to get some help because I can’t get there each day and night. What are your experiences ? Is this something Medicare covers ? Are there agencies that will just come in for this ?…
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We can't persuade her to take a shower anymore.
Hello, My 85-year-old mother-in-law with Alzheimer's lives with me and my husband. He works full-time and I am at home due to disability. We used to be able to remind her to take a shower every few days and she would grumble a little and do it. Then she started resisting more strongly. We tried asking her if there was…
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Safety gate for stairs?
Morning all, I'm new here and caregiving for my mom who's in stage 5. Increasing wondering at night, mostly in the upstairs hallway but occasionally venturing downstairs. Any stair gate recommendations? Thanks!
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What to do, what to do…
My father in law suffers from dementia. He has lived by himself for the past two years and is capable of caring for his daily needs. Still fine with the few meds he takes. He has regular interactions with each of his kids as well as occasional visits from family friends. He sundowns pretty severely each evening. We…
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Solutions for Missing Laundry in MC?
Compared to many other challenges, this one is minor, but I am hoping someone has a workable solution. My father has been in MC for more than a year. I visit many times a week and would rather focus on being with him than on constantly surveilling for missing items. To date we have lost four sets of sheets, one unique…
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When or if or why to call ambulance if notable changes in bp and demeanor
hi all…my mom has late stage Alzheimer’s but lives at home with 24/7 care. My dad prob also has dementia but always thinks something is wrong. Yesterday she was much more dazed than usual and higher BP than usual. My dad wanted to call an ambulance. Mom just existing no expression of pain. I told him to let her be. I want…
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Need help with finding a new facility for my Dad in NY/NJ
My Dad has Alzheimer’s for the last 4 years and in the last year the disease has progressed with some combativeness, resistance to care and lack of inhibition. He has been discharged from two AL/MC facilities as I learned they are not equipped to deal with those symptoms of the disease. He has been hospitalized in…
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How get a reputable medical alert bracelet
Do you need to have patient permission to get one ? My mom won’t do this for herself. Dad too. Mom has moderate Alzheimer’s and still drives. When I Google there are way too many choices. Obviously mom isn’t going to ask docktor and her doctor probably doesn’t care to mention to her. That’s why she needs a new doctor too
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New here.Very stressed and heartbroken
My mom was diagnosed over 3yrs ago but is declining more each day. I went to see her and she took all the family pictures off the walls and moved all her clothes I had to put them back on walls and rehang the clothes. She didn't remember my brother's name and was saying my little sister almost got hit by a car, she often…
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New Here
Hello. I am new here. I am assisting my father with taking care of my mother who is 87 years old. She’s having a lot of insomnia lately and stays awake all day and night for two days. She’s been prescribed medication but that doesn’t seem to help. Any suggestions?
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Zoom Meetings
If any of you want to join our zoom meetings, let me know.
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Is there a zoom where folks are regularly meeting?
Hi there. I am new here - I am have intermittently active on the Mayo Clinic online platform for online support. I have been part-time caregiving for my mom the last few years now. In the last two years - the caregiving has pretty much become full-time. I am temporarily living back home with my parents to help my dad with…
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caregiver for my dad who is 89 and has dementia
My dad had been living with a lady friend for 2 years then she felt she couldn't take care of him anymore which i understand. He lives with me now but goes to visit her everyday. My question is how do i deal with the fact that when its time for him to come home she isn't very helpful . I have to be the bad person all the…
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overwhelmed and need guidance
Hello I am a caregiver to my father. He has been diagnosed with severe alzheimer. He is 73 and he is slipping away and being lost to this disease. Each day is a blessing but so hard to see him decline. I am holding off as long as I am able to care for him at home. I need some advice on what activities or what other…
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New Caregiver Advice Needed
Hello - I'm new to this caregiving role and am navigating these responsibilities on top of raising 2 young kids, looking for a new job, and all the other things. Where are the best places to start in seeking help and locating resources? My mother currently has a pseudodementia diagnosis and I'm wondering if anyone else has…
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concerned
My dad is in a MC. He is probably stage 6 but I don't know for sure. When the aide took him to his room to clean him and change him(he is totally incontinent) he tried to choke her. He has not shown any violence before. She said she was squatted down at the time so I wonder if he thought she was some sort of animal. He…
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Finding his way around the kitchen
My parents live together in an independent living apartment that is part of a community that has multiple levels of care. My brother lives near by and helps them with urgent issues. I live about 2.5 hrs away. My father has been recently diagnosed with ALZ and is becoming stressed because he's having trouble finding things…
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Want to do the best for my Mom
Hello all This is my first post but I have been reading the discussions (parent caregiving) and see what a great community this is. Background- my 96 yr old mother was diagnosed with mixed dementia (vascular /alz) Oct 2023. I’m also wondering if she has LATE dementia due to the age at diagnosis. She was hospitalized Nov…
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Should I move my mom?
Hello, My mom is in a memory unit of an assisted living facility. She is nearly 98 years old, wheelchair bound, and can still have basic conversations. The details are below but to make a long story short, they sent my mom to the ER without an aid and without informing me. The details: The other morning I got a call from…
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'Word Salad'
Good evening, Returned from a week-long visit to my hometown. Went with my Mom to see my Dad (PWD) in the memory care unit 3 times while I was there. I was very happy to see he is doing better after having spent time in the hospital for medication management. He had been sleep deprived, depressed, anxious, agitated; then…
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I want to offer help to my partner but I don't know what to do.
Hello, my partner's uncle has started to show the signs of early stage Alzheimer's and while I have had family members experience this in the past never someone as close as they are with their uncle. He lives in a different city and while they are trying to spend as much time there as they can I want to help however I can…
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Mom in Indep. Living but not sure that's the right place...
WOW so much going on I'll try to keep this concise. First of all, I'm grateful to have a community like this and I'm really hoping I can get some ideas. My mom (82) was diagnosed with minor neuro decline two years ago and her annual followups went minor to medium to major this summer. It's now "suspected Alzheimer disease"…
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How to deal with a mom that thinks you're stealing.
Hello, first time poster and just wanted to get some advice. My 87yr young mother is in early/mid stage dementia. Her short term memory is at maybe 30%. And unfortunately she's begun to confuse long term memories with recent ones. Example, she thinks my grandma who passed away 47 yrs ago just passed away a couple years ago…
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Questions about a new medication
My mom in in the moderate stage with Alzheimer’s. For several years she has been prescribed/taking Donepezil and at this weeks visite to her memory care specialist she was taken off the donepezil and prescribed Rivastigmine. Has anyone had any experience with this drug?
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How to Get a Diasgnois
Hello, I'm new here. Currently, I'm caring for my Dad (71) and he lives with me. Over the course of 2025 he has fallen several times as a result of heart pausing, heavy drinking, and most recently what we think are seizures. He has broken his back, his arm (requiring surgery and when they put in the pace-maker as well),…
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Safety concerns
I have been caring for my Mom who was last assessed at moderate stage Alzheimer’s. I moved in with her about two months ago due to the frequency of late night calls and confusion I was seeing. Last night a friend of mine raised his voice at my 19 year old son for something unrelated to my Mom. She began to spiral into…
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Hello- I am happy to have found this forum and I am in desperate need of advice
For over 2 years now I have been on what seems like a wild goose chase looking for proper professional guidance for my mother's increasing concerning behavior. She is 78 years old and I have been living in the house with her and dad for several years due to her having a previous illness that had her in the ICU and…
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New to the group!
Hello everyone! My name is Nicole and my Dad has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and Dementia. He has been in a cognitive decline for a couple of years but just went to the neurologist last week to confirm his diagnosis. I feel like since then it’s made me sad . I’m trying to do what I can to help . He lives at…
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Mom is still Transitioning
This means dieing and it's been two days and she hasn't passed away yet. What should I be doing, while waiting. I am sick, tired, exhausted, and emotionally drained. But can't sleep. I was thinking about calling my family but they are feeling the same. I went to church and prayed. I have my cross next to me just waiting…