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Dad won’t stop correcting my mother
Hi I am new to the group. My mom is in early stages. My dad is has not accepted the dementia and still thinks he can “fix” it. He constantly corrects her when she says something that isnt right. How can I get across to him that it isnt good for her?
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This confuses me
Hello everyone, Has anyone else experienced this with their LO. Today my father with moderate to severe dementia wakes up and calls his sister and has a conversation like normal almost without dementia. He was able to give details of things he’s done and elaborate on certain things. This confuses me because I don’t…
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Stuck between a rock and a hard place
I have recently come into caring for my estranged veteran father, 74, who I rescued from homelessness has undiagnosed dementia. He can't remember things he said 5 minutes ago but remembers things from long ago. His ex partner left him broke. He refuses to see a doctor so I am not able to find proper resources for him. I do…
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Questioning what I’m doing
Hello all, I’m exhausted. I feel guilty because I feel like at this time I don’t have it as bad as some of the posts I’ve read about things the LO is doing. My father has been here 5 months now and it’s the same thing everyone day. Thankfully he is still toileting and showering on his own. But has no interest to do things.…
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How to support my stepdad as primary caregiver
Hello. I am new to this platform. My mom is in Stage 6 of Alzheimer's. My stepdad is her primary caregiver. I can see that he is in over his head and is stressing out. But he is shutting out ideas for support, saying that he can't handle any more information. He is trying to do everything himself, and I can see the…
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Untold truth
How do you deal with a parent who has dementia and who unloads and dumps all of their genuine thoughts, concerns, feelings, and everything else on only you but when asked by doctor's and other family members they either intentionally lie and omits information telling others they're fine and didn't experience those things,…
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Just a rambling vent...
Mom started a fire in a microwave this morning. That was after Dad missed her walking out the door last night and she showed up in the garage where my husband and I were talking….scared the crap out of me as she can barely walk! Back to this a.m., I thought I smelled something funny this morning when she came out of their…
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New to the group
Hi there my name is Nicole I am new to this group. I have been living/taking care of my 71 year old father for four years now. I am in the process of trying to sell his home to afford a memory care. I need to get my life back I have kids i still work 36 hours a week. This has been incredibly challenging. I do it all in my…
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We need some suggestions to prevent boredom
Hello, I am new to the group. My mom came to live with my husband and I about three months ago. She has never really had any hobbies, so she currently has nothing to help her pass the time. When she gets bored, she gets nervous and starts pacing. We have tried word find puzzels, puzzels, coloring etc but nothing really…
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I need advice or someone to talk to. How did/do you manage what helps?
Earlier this year my father who is a 64 year old veteran was diagnosed with early onset dementia. It’s been very difficult for me. I feel so alone and kinda almost ready to give up but I know I can’t do that. We have been in the hospital for over a month. waiting for a memory care unit at the va to let us know when he can…
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reframe my thinking?
Hello community, I think I need a reframe for my thinking. Taking some time away from visiting my dad due to his anxiety and agitation. He has been in MC here closer to me for about a month. I've stayed away for a week and half previously and am currently in the midst of another week away. I keep thinking that he is…
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Art back and Depression in Loved one
So my Father had a fall, a slightl slump to the floor really. They sent him to the Emergancy room at the hospital, He checked out fine. He had been in his memory care facility for 1 month, so they want to get him checked out. He is in a very dark depression. Some of this preceded my Mother’s death in September, but the…
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Mom's Name on Deed, Remove or Not?
Hi there...my mother is in Stage 5 of Dementia and lives with me. Both of our names are on the Deed to the house...can anyone lend advice if I should take her name off the Deed? Somewhere down the line I have been told that if she does need to go into a nursing home, they could take the house.
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Loss of social media = loss of community
Hi, I'm wondering if anyone else is experiencing this: In the years before my dad was diagnosed and began showing symptoms of Alzheimers, he became a social media power user. He's an artist, and he began posting to Flickr and instagram, establishing strong bonds and connections with artists all over the world. His decline…
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What does Ptau 712 mean for Lecanemab?
Hello. My mother was diagnosed earlier this year with MCI and we just got to a neurologist last week. Her Ptau 712 came out at 1.7. I am having a hard time understanding this except that it is an "abnormal" score — but from what I can tell online it seems quite high. Can anyone offer any perspective here? Do people stop…
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Moving Dad to a New Facility
I have never posted here, but just need to get this out. I have done 99.9% of the caregiving for my dad who is now mid to late stage. He is in Assisted Living, but the facility he is in provides very little assistance. I think they may be understaffed but it's just not working out. This past weekend, I spent 5 hours with…
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support for having a parent with dementia
hello! i’m not sure if this is the right place for this, but i’m just looking for support and guidance in my current situation. i’m 20 years old, and my mom received a dementia diagnosis a few years ago, during my high school years, after persistent memory issues. as anticipated, years after this diagnosis, her mental…
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New here need help took moms car away
hi I am new to this and our family is new to the whole Alzheimer’s. Dementia. I would say my mom is a stage five . We disabled the battery on the car November 1st and told her it needed to be fixed and every day she asked me about the car. So now I had it towed so that it can get fixed (fib) and even out of sight she still…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/8/24
GOD TEACHES AND LEADS YOU AND ME Isaiah 48:17 New Living Translation “This is what the Lord says— your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: “I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is good for you and leads you along the paths you should follow.” I am always asking the Lord for His guidance. I suspect you do too. He…
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New to this and seeking guidance
I’m new to this whole world and the challenges it presents! Mom is showing many signs of Dementia/Alz and in the process of additional health tests. No official diagnosis, no cognitive testing. Limited healthcare in the area and PCP is generalist. We are trying to get her to Geriatric Dr in a few months tho haven’t brought…
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A toaster oven in AL
Mom asked her doctor that comes to see her at AL if she could have a toaster oven. The doctor talked with AL they decided it was fine and told her she could have one. I as DPOA was never included in the conversation. I am so mad. I know she can’t actually have a toaster oven unless I buy one for her or bring her to the…
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Need guidance Mom with Alzheimers
Hi, hoping someone can give me some guidance. My mom that is 77 was diagnosed after the blood test, MRI and spinal test that she has Alzheimer’s. Her neurologist told us she is in the early stages of the disease so she can get Leqembi injections every two weeks. She is supposed to get her 12th injection tomorrow and almost…
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Sudden changes
My mother's birthday was early November, and that's the last time she seemed almost like herself. She soon became verbally aggressive and anxious. After a false negative test result, she was finally diagnosed with a UTI. It was treated. Since then she's changed. She's not keeping up her appearance now. She looks…
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My mother is dying and taking me with her!
Hello All, I’m new here, please bear with me as I figure things out. My mother who will be 85 yrs old on 12/16 is in the late stages of Alzheimer’s Disease. Mom had 3 kids, 2 boys and me the only girl. The guys have since departed this life leaving me as the sole caregiver for our mother who was once a strong, independent…
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Looking for next step in care
hi. 2 weeks ago we had to admit my dad to a hospital (he showed aggressive behavior towards my mom and recommended by the dr). A few days later he had a uti but a few days after showed aggressive behavior towards staff and they had to call security. They started him on meds there but now looking to move him to a nursing…
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The angry phone calls but good news
Well despite the angry phone calls I get from Dad each night, 9 pm sharp, the staff assures me he is going to activities, and classes, is social and friendly. Those phone calls are so hard. Anyone else have a coping strategy for the anger? I moved him from his home he misses his garage, lawn mower etc.
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Behavioral issues
Hi, I am new here and really need some advise. I am taking care of my 83 year old father with middle stage Alzheimer's. I actually live with him. He obsesses over everything, anxious, won't leave my side (hates being alone), paces, etc. He also thinks most of the time that I am his dead wife instead of his daughter. He is…
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Elder Lawyer/Planning
Hello all I'm sure this has been discussed at some point, so I apologize if this is repetitive. Having the input of this community would be greatly helpful. My father is in the ES Dementia. My mother is completely overwhelmed and (as an only child) I'm doing my best to navigate this for her and take as much as I can off…
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My parent with dementia's Exboyfriend
My parent with dementia was living out of state and in a relationship with a man who as it turned out hid or did not reveal her dementia symptoms to family supposedly out of reapect for her privacy. I knew for the past two years that she had dementia due to observing her symptoms but she was not receptive to my concerns. I…
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New to the Group Dreading the Holidays
The holidays are hitting hard this year. In the last couple of weeks my mom has gotten noticeably more anxious which coincides with her not recognizing members of our immediate family. Thanksgiving was very difficult this year. She’s still physically doing pretty well it just breaks my heart to see her so upset and the…