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Solutions for Missing Laundry in MC?
Compared to many other challenges, this one is minor, but I am hoping someone has a workable solution. My father has been in MC for more than a year. I visit many times a week and would rather focus on being with him than on constantly surveilling for missing items. To date we have lost four sets of sheets, one unique…
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The money is gone!
Mom has been in Al for a year and a half. When we moved her in they said they accepted Medicaid waiver. I was never told family would need to pay the remaining. Partly my fault, I should have asked better questions. The facility is not what I had hoped it would be and I’m not sure how much longer she could safely stay…
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NHTD waiver for my Mom living with me Stage 6 Alzheimer’s
hi everyone, I’m pretty new on this forum especially posting a discussion so I’m not really sure if I’m doing this correctly. I live in upstate New York and I am my mom’s soul care provider. I moved my mother into my home eight months ago and I’m still trying to tap into NHTD waiver services in our area. Is there anyone…
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Simple technology for ederly
I'm starting this discussion because I've finally found some peace as a caregiver. I am a caregiver for my dad, who has Alzheimer's. At one point, everything became too much for me. He started to be more needy, and his memory is getting worse. I have to leave the house to go to work, and he would call me for every single…
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Incontinence?
My mom has VD and ALZ. For a while, I would say she would go to the bathroom frequently, wear pads, and we kind of determined this was because she was afraid of having an accident and having trouble really determining a full bladder. And while she still holds her bladder, she seems unable to know if she needs to go #2, or…
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SLUMS got me in a slump
My DM who is my pwd was given the SLUMS test today. She has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment/early stage Dementia, in December 2024. After much pleading she got authorized for an MRI. In July, she was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia. She is not on any meds. She refused both, Aricept and Memantine. I've…
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Memory Care + Aide - Make it make sense
I'm trying so hard not to vent, not to be angry. But my mom's MC is asking me to pay for a person to be with her 12 hours a day because of the falling. We literally can't afford this full time, so I'll be doing it on weekends. I get that they can't be with her 1:1 all day, but it's just incredible. The cost seems…
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Anger Issues with mom and losing caregivers
My mom is 89 years old with moderate Alzheimer's and Binswanger disease. She lives with my step-dad (they have been married over 50 years) who also was just diagnosed. I live 250 miles away and have been staying with my parents first for one week out of every month and now two weeks out of every month for over two years…
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How to deal with a mom that thinks you're stealing.
Hello, first time poster and just wanted to get some advice. My 87yr young mother is in early/mid stage dementia. Her short term memory is at maybe 30%. And unfortunately she's begun to confuse long term memories with recent ones. Example, she thinks my grandma who passed away 47 yrs ago just passed away a couple years ago…
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Funny / not funny
Found dozens like this in mom’s text messages. She tried.
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Long Winding, Descending Road
Hello: For 5 yrs. I am a primary caregiver living with 93 yr mother who has multiple health issues, vascular dementia (VaD) and on Hospice for several months. I believe the end of the road is near. I have been circling various stages of grief as I witness what she is living through (unable to walk, stand, loss of…
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Newly Diagnosed - Infusion Therapy?
Hi all, I am new to this group and am excited to learn from everyone! My Mom is 85 and recently diagnosed with "early stage" alz. The Neurologist is wanting an updated MRI, but feels that she is a good candidate for infusion therapy. Has anyone has experience with this?? She does very well (still drives and volunteers at…
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Memory care guilt
My mom was driving and living alone 3 years ago and now can barely walk with a walker, has total incontinence, can't dress herself, and is furious I put her on memory care, where im sure frightens her because she sees her future there. I am overwhelmed with guilt over this decision. It was my decision alone because my…
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Becoming mean
My mom is 90, currently in independent living apartment. She picked the facility 10 years ago so she could access transitional help as she aged. I believe she is in the latter part of early stage dementia. The last year she bas become very argumentative with everyone … fired one cleaning service and “hates” the new one.…
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Hired companions to supplement MC.
I’m new here. I started writing a long backstory and decided to cut it down to the immediate situation. Mom has been in MC for about a year after being diagnosed with dementia. She went from living independently and walking regularly to MC in a matter of weeks. She has been unhappy depressed and angry about her situation.…
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Progressing too fast
It’s been awhile since I posted. My mom, 73, has been in MC for over a year. This past month she went from being okay to almost completely mute. No UTI. Her suite mate was her security/friend. But she started having bad mood swings and taking it out on my mom. My mom has since become withdrawn and just this past…
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Her Sun Has Risen...
I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…
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Just got the scan results - now what?
Hi — we just received the results of the PET‑CT amyloid, and they are not good. My mom is 76 and has some memory issues, but nothing severe. To be honest, we saw the neurologist mainly to check whether she had any problems; I had no idea she might really have Alzheimer’s disease. Now she has to take a psychoneurological…
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New here.
Hello! I’m new here, but unfortunately not new to dementia. My mom was diagnosed about 3 years ago, and this past March we decided that things were getting to the point we were unable to handle her care. We found a great MC facility. And she is doing the best she can. The hardest thing I’m having to deal with is my dad. My…
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Antipsychotic drugs affecting Alzheimer patient my mom
my mom is in stage 4 1/2 of the seven stages of Alzheimer’s. She was normal forgetful didn’t really have major sundowning, but we’ll just hang ou, eight fine and sometimes and sometimes slept a lot. Her blood pressure went low. We sent her to the hospital. They sent her to rehab for three weeks, but went home eventually my…
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Home care aggression
Hi! I’m looking for some advice - mom my was “approved” for 24/7 at home care but we’ve been struggling with her being aggressive to outside caregivers. She’s so sweet - until she’s not- which seems to take about a week then she wants them “out of her house”. She’s on all the typical Alzheimer’s medications & mood behavior…
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Roadtrip from hell - vent
We went out of state for an event. Going wasn't too bad. My pwd only complained about the length of time the trip was taking. When plans were made, knowledge that it was going to be a 10-12 hour journey, was well known. Our return home became "Hell On the Highway, Homeward Bound." For no less than FIVE HOURS, she insisted…
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Mom from IL to AL to MC in one month
I’m so thankful to have found this forum. Our family has been going through a rough patch with Mom and I find myself coming here often looking for comfort so thank you all. Back story (warning…it’s long) : My mom (87YO) has suffered from mental illness her whole life. She has been hospitalized at least 5 times in her adult…
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Continual Grief: I Miss My Mom
I visited my mom again today at her skilled nursing facility. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in 2018 (she had probably been experiencing it since the early 2010s, in reality), and I made the gut-wrenching decision to place her into an SNF in 2021. She's currently experiencing late-stage Alzheimer's. She has…
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New here...finally reaching for help!
Hi! I am new here, I was finally getting so lost and frustrated, that I needed to reach out for help. I am a caregiver to my mom (74) with Alzheimer's. I am still trying to figure out which stage she is in. After reading through the many discussions I feel like she is probably moderately severe (5). She lives with me, but…
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Mom has become aggressive and mean
My mom fell and broke her hip a little over 4 weeks ago. She had early dementia with confusion for the past couple of years, but since the surgery/anesthesia her dementia has dramatically changed. She will become highly agitated and say incredibly mean and hateful things which is not my mom at all. She has been in the…
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Memory care question
Has anyone ever had your MC facility ask you to spend the night with your LO? Mom fell. She went to hospital and is ok but sore. They gave her some meds but MC wants someone with her in case she tries to get up overnight. Something doesn’t seem right
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Falling
In the last six days my dad has fallen 4 times and landed in the ER 4 times. it is always when he is getting out of bed in the morning. He is in AL and he has a UTI at the moment. The facility keeps telling me they have him but they clearly don’t. I believe his weakness is temporary and caused by UTI but we cannot be in…
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Suicidal
Has anyone had there parent with dementia have them become suicidal after they went into nursing home? My mom is apparently talking about suicide but I don't think she would do it. I think she is just miserable being in a nursing home with progressive dementia.
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…