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88yo mother
88yo mother in memory care after a broken hip. 88yo dad living home alone visits every dad about 7-8 hours. Mom with her dementia blames him for her circumstances and he gets angry and frustrated, blows up and storms out of the facility despite the fact we tell him constantly she cant help what she saying and talking to…
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Struggle with my identity 🥴
I received a call from my dad gf he was transitioning a year ago, I tell her to call ambulance, something felt off. Dad is hospitalized, no longer walked, multiple infections, and weird things begin happening with his girlfriend. She blocked me, she told hospital they were married, she would talk to him like a brainwashing…
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Living as dependent
My mother and I live together as her early onset Alzheimers gets worse. I am still considered her dependent, and as an added bonus have severe disabilities as well. She will not let me talk about finances with her. I dont know how to approach this the right way, because I have nowhere else to live if she went to memory…
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I need to go to MY house
My mom is in the middle stage. She is constantly wanting a ride home when she is already home. What are some ideas that to make her realize that she is at her own house. She is getting increasingly agitated when we try and explain that she is home.
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My father
This might seem different, but my living situation has been that I live in a large mostly one floor house with my parents. My mom had retired at 69.5 (now 72) to take care of my dad and his Early Onset (diagnosed at 67, now almost 77). My mom recently just helped make sure my grandmother was taken care of too in her last…
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Asking "I want to go home"
Hello, I recently started to care for my mother-in-law she is recovering from a stroke and has mid stage dementia. We relocated her from another state as she can no longer live alone. She asks about going home every hour it seems like. I try to change the topic and divert the conversation and it works for a couple minutes.…
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Taking car from dad
We have been trying to take the keys from my dad, not happening. He lost his keys, but remembered that my mom had a set so he took hers. He carries them with him even at home and will not let us have them back. When we tried to hide them he became furious and very agitated, the anger in his eyes is real and he looks like…
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Sleep too much?
My mother’s sleep patterns have changed over the month. She previously would sleep 9-10 and nap once during the day. Now, she goes to bed as early as 5pm and sleeps until 11am AND naps from about 1-4pm. It can change day by day, but she is just constantly sleeping. She’ll eat breakfast but that’s the only meal. No…
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Feeling too responsible for my 101-year old dad with dementia
Hi! I am new here and this is my first post. My 101.5 year old father lives in his own home and has 4-5 different caregivers who provide 24-hour care. I would say he has moderately high dementia in that he is sometimes very confused, sleeps a lot, can't remember what day it is, etc. He walks with a walker, can converse…
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How to move forward?
Hi there. My mom was formally diagnosed 2 years ago, though we as a family have noticed she has been progressing more quickly than before for the past few months. Unfortunately, her dad, who also has Alzheimer's and lives in a memory home, needed to be set up with hospice care last week. This has caused an even further…
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How do we get any sleep?
Mom has not yet been diagnosed with dementia but has an appt to see a vascular neurologist in May. She has small vessel disease in her brain and infarcts have been seen in frontal and corona radiata areas. Nights are horrible at our house. She isn't able to sleep and wants me to stay awake to make sure she is safe even if…
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When is it time to stop Rivastigamine?
Friends, Dad is stage FAST 6/d, or prox. Had a big memory decline in the last month. Can't do any part of showering unassisted, can't remember where his room is in small care home. Tam Cummings (?) said something to the effect that the acetylcholine meds have benefit but also just make the worse stages longer. My words,…
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When to know
I currently live with my mom and she was diagnosed with vascular dementia and Alzheimers six months ago or so. She is definitely starting to change but its hard for me to tell because I am around her all the time. She still drives, etc., and I am not sure when I will know i should take her keys away, etc.
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Help with phone
My 83 year old dad is in the mid to late stages of dementia. Most days he has difficulty operating his iPhone. Are there any phones for seniors/dementia patients that would be easier for him to navigate?
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father
My father has a detailed advance directive for his health. It states if he has less than 6 months to live all interventions should stop. He is on hospice now and whether he will live 6 months, no one knows. Will he live a year? I don't think so. Question: He is on insulin for type 2. I'm struggling to have them stop this…
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Caregiving from afar
Hi there, I am new to this group and new to the dementia journey with my mom. My father passed away right before Christmas, and now she is alone in their home. I live 2.5 hours away, and my only other sibling is 5 hours away from her. Mom has been showing signs of dementia for about 2 years, but has really declined over…
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Suggestions needed
My husband and I moved in with my mother in law (83) about a year ago to help her. She lives in a large home with an inground pool and the maintenance was becoming difficult for her to handle. We also noticed that she did not remember questions she had already asked us, or if she put food in the oven and would forget about…
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Mom moved in
Hi , this is my first time on this site. My mom moved in with us in November because she stopped taking care of herself . I am wondering if anyone knows of a reputable service to use for someone to come into the house 2 days a week or so to help her so that my family and I can still maintain our own life .
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How do I apply for FMLA in NY?
I’m working full time and a full time caregiver to my Mom who has the beginnings of dementia with full on sundowners. I’m an only child but I do have a family friend who comes to be with her for 3 hours during the day. Some days/nights are though and it’s taking a tool on me. Mentally, physically and emotionally, I feel…
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I feel guilty/bad daughter
My mom is 90 with symptoms just beginning (she being in denial). I try verrry hard to remember it is the illness but have difficulty sometimes. How has anybody else dealt with feelings of guilt and/or being a bad child. I want the rest of her years to be peaceful, but she is like a child and makes it difficult to reason…
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New… Dealing with Mom’s Hallucinations
My mom is in her 60s and her pcp says she is having brain slips and in stages of dementia. I am trying to get her seen by a neurologist and someone recently recommended a geriatric psychiatrist as an alternative for an assessment. It has been 3 months since the diagnosis and she was given an antidepressant. She is now…
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My story, please read
hello. My father passed away in July 2023. We discussed before my father passed that my mom would have to come live with me. She was not to live alone. Mom had mild dementia at the time. The night my father passed. Mom came with me and stayed with me for 2.5 years. My first year with was cook or do the things she used to…
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Caring for my mom/ posterior cortical atrophy
Hello,new here and was just wondering if anyone has or have a lo with posterior cortical atrophy??
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MOM IS WAKING FAMILY MEMBERS TO FIND CAT THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT … HELP !!
My mom lives in the same house as me and my family and has for the last 10 years. We have a family cat that over these years has decided, especially in the last six months to a year only have … meaning she is completely fixated and obsessed with all things cat related. All day she asks where the cat is if he’s not with…
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Help With Checking for Dementia
Needing help with the beginning process of figuring out how to check for dementia. My mil just had a CT scan and is going to have an apt to check the results tomorrow. She has a lot of signs already, but more recently it's been forgetfulness more so plus incontinence (she doesn't try to go to the toilet anymore) and won't…
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Rehab to Memory Care
Hello, my mom is 77 and has advanced dementia. She has been living in memory care since this past March. She had lived alone for 20 years but was getting progressively worse, then couldn't stand up, ended up in the hospital last Jan. Then rehab for 2 months where she got better physically. The Dr's there thought she needed…
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My mother
My mom has dementia and extreme aphasia (trouble with speaking/words). I have a tough time dealing with active grief around certain things like forgetting it’s my birthday and other life events. Wha suggestions do you have?
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New To The Group
Hello All - I am taking care of my 80 year old mother who was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year. She has lived with my wife and I since 2024. She has had noticeable behaviors since 2022 when our dad passed away. Mom has progressed to the point where it is not safe to leave her home alone for extended periods…
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How to assume the "parent role" with your parent
Both my parent with dementia and I are having a hard time with me assuming a more caretaker role. My parent is on the younger side for midstage dementia—early 70s and was an independent successful woman who lived states away from family for the past two decades. She rarely asked anyone for anything and also didn't get very…
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Sending someone in memory care to inpatient behavioral health
So my parent increasingly has been having delusions and consequently was aggressively exit seeking this morning. The memory care is on the ground floor and the hallway doors to the outside actually do open if one presses on them for 30 seconds. She refused to come back inside. As I understand it she went outside to both…