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Unhappy Birthday
It was my birthday today. And as my dad sang me happy birthday from his bed in a nursing home, my mom was just glazed over. It didn't register at all. It was a profound moment for me. Only 2 years ago she had it in a loop in her mind to tell people that her kids were born on the same day. The people she told were family…
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Successful Strategy: Circumventing Buying Expensive Shampoo
My mom moved near me with a small very expensive bottle of shampoo that her old salon had been selling her. $60 for 8 ounces! And she kept demanding more once she moved here. I tried and tried to explain how it wasn't necessary to pay that much. I even researched shampoos that would give "similar" results at a reasonable…
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Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer Diagnosis
My dad who is an incredibly healthy 75 year old (exercises, good weight, good diet, social, optimist) was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer's Disease two months ago. Right now he is in the mild cognitive phase. Does anyone have someone in their life who has both? I'm trying to grasp any idea of the timeline…
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Daughter of a dementia parent
I am new to this group. I am the oldest sibling and I do most of the caring for my mother and I need some tools that I can use so I don’t lose my ever loving mind every time I’m over there
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Admitting to something you didnt do??
I know that part of being the caregiver for a person with Dementia is being accused of stealing when they misplace stuff, (like shampoo, coats, glasses) etc. When you find the item you are accused of stealing they say "oh no thats the new one I just bought" or they say "you just brought that back after stealing it". Or…
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Wondering if this happens to other parents.
I don't post very often but do a lot of reading of other post. My father was diagnosed 6 years ago with Dementia but was wondering about things I have observed over the last few weeks with my Dad. Over the last few weeks my mother and I, they both live with me as I help care give for them both, have noticed my Dad tends to…
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Dementia progressing...
My mom's dementia has been progressing so fast. She lives in a skilled nursing home, but no longer knows where she is. Although I am not her caregiver, I am her primary everything else. It is so hard to talk to her and hear her be so lost and confused. There's times where her voice sounds so familiar, like we can just have…
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Successful Strategy: Amazon "Teen" Account
I want to share an amazing, life-altering, successful strategy I've been implementing for 3 years with my mom (mild-mod ALZ). My mom has always been an Amazon-aholic. Before I moved her near me into AL, she would buy all this stuff and try to return them and getting confused and I had to straighten it all out. Now I am the…
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Parent making insulting remarks towards visitors and other residents
My parents is on a geripsych unit and I get so uncomfortable when she makes insulting remarks about other residents and visitors regarding their appearance or being crazy. She makes these remarks to me but says them so loud so they can hear. I'm scared when she says mean judgemental things about other residents and…
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A Full Moon Effect?
Friday and Saturday, my PWD was agitated, anxious, and a lot more verbally confrontational than usual. Today everything seemed OK again—or at least back to our current baseline. This behavior coincided with the full moon, and I am wondering whether you see such an effect in your LO. A quick search of the web turns up…
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MC and the ER
Here we go again. I visited mom this morning and was there when her palliative care nurse came to make a monthly assessment. The nurse noted that mom was pretty drowsy. This was early in the day, which is normally her most alert and interactive time of day. I told the nurse that I have noticed this extra sleepiness ever…
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Guilt and Obligation
Hello all, I may just be venting with this post but I know there are many here who will hopefully understand. My dad is 87, vascular dementia, living in AL for 2 months now. While it was hell first getting him to give up driving 6 months ago, then hiring a caregiver, then getting him to move, this was the best choice for…
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how to care for angry person
How do you care for parent who is angry at you. My mom constantly tells me and others I am stealing her stuff (shampoo, and other stupid stuff) She has gotten to a point where she is banning from her home, but I am the closest of family member and the most available to help my dad. She apparently rants all day to him. How…
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resources until "official" diagnosis of Dementia
What are some resources we can access until we get the official diagnosis. My mom seems to be progressing SUPER FAST, in the matter of months she seems to have moved from stage 1 to stage 5 or 6. We have the MRI and doc appt scheduled in a cpl weeks but she is becoming a threat to herself and others in the mean time.
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Can anyone recommend a GPS device in the form of a bracelet or necklace so I can track my mother mov
Looking for a device that my mother can where so I can track her whereabouts? She doesn't always take her phone with her when she goes out. So I thought if she could have a device on that she doesn't remove so I can track here on my phone. She doesn't wander at the moment but I rather be prepared in case she does
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Meds for people with dementia
What medication has proven useful for people with dementia? My parent is at a geriatric psychiatric hospital unit due to agitation and very frequently auditory snd visual hallucinations that were escalating. It turns out the escalation of her symptoms was due to an increased dose of setraline, 100 mg. The drs took her off…
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Vascular Dementia and hyperactivity at night
My mom has been very active at night, talking to herself, calling me, can’t settle down etc. anxious any suggestions? she is on 100 mg of Trazadone, rispiridal, buspar, visteral and nothing is helping her to sleep! She was also recently diagnosed with stage 4 kidney failure from an arthritis medication side effect. i feel…
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Dad with Dementia.
This is my first time posting here. I care for both of my parents. My dad has been living with dementia for nearly four years now. Over the past week, his aggression and anger have increased significantly. Usually, when he becomes upset and fixates on something, I’m able to redirect or calm him down. But this week, nothing…
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Alternatives to MC for later stage Alzheimer’s
We recently checked my mother into an MC and are very happy with the activities. But I still wish she were home with us. She still knows all of us. She just gets very confused at times and we took the step because she was having terrible delusions. They seem to have subsided, likely due to all they added activity in her…
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How to inform your parent of major home maintenance plans
Does anyone have advice on how to inform a parent about major necessary home repairs? My siblings and I live out-of-state from my mom. While she still lives independently, she has trouble with executive function, particularly finding and hiring people to do home maintenance. Her roof is old and is in a state of total…
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Father in hospital, begging me to set him free
This is my first post here. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease 3 years ago, and I have been his caregiver ever since. I am his sole caregiver, and we have no family nearby. He had declined to the point recently where I began arranging a room in a nearby memory care facility for him. The weekend before his…
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Entering the fun new phase of paranoia
My mom has been in AL for just over 2 weeks. She finally had her doctor's appointment there with the doctor on staff to establish her as a new patient. It was a very painless exam, he just wanted to go over her medications and he could not have been nicer — she complained about how one of her pills is not delivered to her…
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Need resources & ideas
Hi, My dad was diagnosed with Dementia in October of 2025 but it has progressed rapidly and he is living in an unsafe situation at home. He falls frequently at night, has hallucinations and can be very agitated and aggressive. My mom is is caretaker and is with him 24/7. I’m extremely worried about her health and well…
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Guilt and Obligation
Not sure why this posted twice but I can't delete so please reply to the other post.
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Parent in MC Talking about Dying
My dad, now 92, has been in MC for almost two years and is in stages 5-6. He is a generally optimistic person. In the past two weeks he has begun telling me, matter of factly, that he will be dying soon. I have tried different responses, depending on the situation, such as: (1) “Since you are human, you will die someday,…
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Things have calmed down
So I made a few posts here earlier this month about my mom and how my parents were struggling. I think we've gotten past the crisis point that occurred - my dad has said he's doing a lot better at keeping things calm at home with my mom. I do think at least some of the worst of what was going on was due to my dad's hip…
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Mom doesnt listen
My mom is early onset Alzheimers and is experiencing some cognitive decline but not to the extent that I can contact the agency on aging for a caregiver. She can still bathe herself, etc. However, she does not listen to or obey what I tell her no matter what the reasoning. Right now, I am the only one available to take…
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Mother lives across country and has early stage dementia
Mother lives across the country and insists she is taking her medications regularly, but her BP says something different. She tells her doctor that she is taking her meds and feels that the doctor is calling her a liar. I know she is not taking them regularly, and she meets the criteria of loss of memory for the early…
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How fast does Zoloft work?
My mom is 83yo, in mild to moderate Alzheimers. I don't know which stage exactly, just that she has plaque on several parts of her brain. The neurologist says her stage is dependent on her behavior and abilities. She's been taking donepezil for about 2 months now. Took 6 weeks to get her to 10mg. She has been getting…