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When to enact POA?
Hi everyone, I am new here. Both of my parents have dementia diagnoses but it's my mother who my siblings and I have the most concerns about. In a nutshell- both parents are 86, living in the same home for 50+ years 2 miles away from me, in-home caregiver for 30 hrs a week, Dad has moderate physical care needs (uses a…
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"Going home"
Hi - I'm new. I'm caring for my mom long distance. We had her at home with in-home care, but she just doesn't understand that she has any problems at all and wasn't cooperating with the help and just couldn't be left alone safely. So we moved her against her will into assisted living. She is essentially on the…
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Trying to do the right thing.
My mom is in memory care about 1.5 hours from me. Unfortunately because I have young kids, and do not live close, my visits are not as frequent as they should be. Next weekend I planned to bring the family to visit but now I’m not sure. My sister lives close to mom and visits often. She let me know today that the last few…
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Could a moca test be wrong? Or I am in denial?
hi everyone I am new to the forum. This is my first post. I am a caregiver right now to my 86-year-old dad who has moderate dementia and I am struggling with processing and handling everything going on over the last few weeks. He was in the hospital then a rehab (foot infection) now back at home and the wheels have come…
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Looking for advice
Hi Everyone, this is my first post. My mother, age 75, has dementia. She and my dad live in their own home. My mom hasn't been feeling well for the last few weeks which led to a hospital trip this week for tests. All were negative except for a UTI which is her second one in the last few weeks. During this time I found out…
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Reappearance of distanced siblings
My Father was diagnosed with VD with onset AL 4 years ago. I took over as POA due to a broken unrepairable bridge between my Sister the former POA, and Dad. I've learned so much about their former relationship in the last 4 years and frankly, I wish I woud have found out sooner in order to rescue Dad. She kept him in the…
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Mom is losing weight
Hello, some people say when they stop eating that's when the end is near. I don't know,I believe it's up to God. My mom will be 89 this year God willing. The best part of visiting my mom today was that I saw her with my sister. And we really bonded today. It was very nice today. God bless.
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Dad with Early Dementia
My mum has alzheimers and late on now but with Dad im experiencing far more of the i dont live here or getting taxi home and not sleeping at all. He gets up in night with clothes on occasionally and i stop him going but now i am wondering if thats the right approach as there is no "other" place/home. Really exhausted with…
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Coconut oil?
Been doing some research on diet changes and the effects it has on Alzheimer’s. Has anyone ever heard about/or tried coconut oil to slow the Alzheimer’s process? I know omega 3s are important. Just trying to see if there is anything else I should be doing for my mom besides the standard drug treatment.
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New to caring for a parent with ALZ (and to this forum)
Hi all. I am new to this board/ website. I just found it today and figured I would dive in. I am not sure I know what I'm doing writing here other than sharing my story and letting it out in a safe place. It's ok if I don't get any responses, I just need to let it out. My dad turns 80 next month and has ALZ. He was…
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Navigating Alzheimer’s Risk While Caring for Both Kids & a Parent—How Are You Coping?
Hi everyone, I’m in my 40s, raising kids, and also caring for a parent with Alzheimer’s. My mom has APOE4 x2. Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what this means for my own future—both emotionally and proactively. I recently started looking into early detection tests, including: • APOE4 genetic testing • Blood biomarker…
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Planning first visit to memory care
I'm planning my first visit to see my parent in memory care. I'm out of state so it's a big endeavor. I'm traveling by myself without my family. Besides visiting with my mom, The purpose of the trip is to check out the memory care facility, meet the staff and then check out the surrounding area to plan excursions with a…
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Providing Support for my Family
Hi, I am looking for some advice. For some background, my mom (58) was recently diagnosed with EOA. She no longer works and is home during the day with my brother (28 with down syndrome). My dad lives with them, but works full time. I (25) live nearby with my fiancé and I also work full time. My mom is obviously going…
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Legal Repercussions
Hello, I am new to this site. My mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She was previously diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment. For 5 years I have been paying her bills for her because she asked for help and could no longer do it herself. She still has access to all of her funds and we have only had a couple…
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Visiting new Dr with Mom
we are going to our first Neurologist appointment with Mom and I wanted to get thoughts on how this could go. I feel like there is a lot we need to communicate to Dr so she has the full picture but I am sure Mom will not communicate. Do they typically meet with patient and then caretaker after as well? We have medical poa.…
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Frustrated That My Mom Won't Acknowledge Health Problems
I've been my mom's caregiver from 2013 (age 22) to now (age 34) . Right now, she has multiple health conditions colliding with each other: early dementia symptoms (currently trying to get a formal diagnosis), depression, dehydration, kidney problems. The depression isn't new to me or my siblings, but the other health…
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But what if it's something that could be treated?
My mother has always been afraid of ALZ because as her own mother aged, as soon as she became moody and forgetful, her sisters insisted this was ALZ and sent her to live in a gross, smelly facility (my mother's words, but not untrue). Now as she is in her mid-80s, my mother is showing signs of memory loss and potentially…
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New To Forum. Mom has UTI that has progressed dementia symptoms
Hi all. I'm 34 & I've been my mom's primary caregiver since I was 22. For the past decade, she's had some memory problems (misplacing things, forgetting what day it is, forgetting how to navigate some driving routes, forgetting there's a boiling pan on the stove). Yet this was always managable with my help until recently.…
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The weight of the world on my shoulders
Hi - I'm new to this forum. Warning - this is going to be a lengthy post as I just need to let some of this out** Thank you for being kind. I finally sat down and joined because I am at a breaking point with being a caregiver to my mother, a mother of two teen girls, a wife and the primary (and only) income earner in my…
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Falling Apart Caring for my Mom
Hello. I am not doing well. My dad had Alzheimers in the last 7 years of his life, and I cared for him. I thought that was all over when he died in 2017. Then in 2020, it started all over again with my mom. It's been 5 years now, and I'm going absolutely bonkers. My life is falling apart caring for her. Almost everything…
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Never been so exhausted
I am new to this forum. My mom has alz and vascular. I have been taking care of her since she was diagnosed 4 years ago. My husband retired early so he could help me(last September) Over the past 1 1/2 years she has gotten progressively worse. I had no idea how much harder that it was going to be as time went on. I sleep…
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BIBLE VERSES TO INSPIRE CAREGIVERS 4/4/25
THANKFUL, INSPIRED & WILLING Ephesians 2:10 Good News Translation “For it is by God's grace that you have been saved through faith. It is not the result of your own efforts but God's gift, so that no one can boast about it. God has made us what we are, and in our union with Christ Jesus he has created us for a life of good…
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Getting better, wants to come home??!
We moved my mom (75) into memory care assisted living in September. At that time she was wandering often, trying to hurt herself, not sleeping, and needed to be watched 24/7 to stay safe. The first 3 months in MC she was confused and generally accepted where she was living. She was depressed and not eating so was started…
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Experience with Rallies or burst of energy prior to death
Hello! My mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's 15 years ago and to say the least its been a long road! She lost the ability to walk and eat on her own about 2 years ago and has been very steadily declining since then. Last week she got very bad and was bed ridden and unconscious for a full day with fluid in…
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Difficult sibling
I probably already have a post with this title. My brother visits mom once a week and is kind and caring towards her. But! He dumps all his personal problems on her ( she worries constantly). He believes she should be informed and consulted on almost everything. He is obsessed with her “rights” even at the cost of her…
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Mother Passed Away/Car Keys
My mother passed away 3-4-25. Father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s January 2023. He has been is early stage to date. Still takes care of himself, but can’t manage bills laundry or cook. I have 2 sisters. One lives right beside him & helps a lot, but works FT. One lives within 5 blocks, helps after work. I live 2 hrs away,…
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Grief and Guilt
My Dad was diagnosed with dementia in 2019. He moved into an ALF when it was no longer safe to drive. He was living there for 3 month then Covid hit, they were basically locked down and he was kept in his apt with no outside stimulation. That's when he began to really decline. At that time he was living an hour away and I…
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When do you know it's time for a facility?
Hello. My name is Maria and I'm new to this forum. My mother will be 83 in July and is still living independently in a 2 story townhome with laundry in the basement. She has a companion that comes from 11:30 - 4:30 on weekdays. My sister and I spend time with her every Wednesday evening and on weekends when we can. We are…
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Worried about Mom
My parents have different stages of dementia. My dad, 89, is well situated in a care home under hospice care. He is very easy to take care of since he is totally bed bound at stage 7. My Mom, 84, on the other hand, is going to be a challenge. She has realization that her memory is getting worse and she knows she has…
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Dad won't get out of bed
He has stage 6 Alzheimers, and I received a call that my dad will not get out of bed and refuses to eat anything. Here are a few bullet points describing our situation: He is in an excellent facility. He has 2-3 family visits a week from myself and my brother. Last week I visited him 4 days in a row, including taking him…