-
How to move from assisted living to memory care
My mom has been living in AL almost 2 years after difficult move out to California from Michigan. She did well the first year, but then AL decided to renovate and the disruption triggered fear. She’s 77 years old and was diagnosed with likely dementia, has aphasia and recently has been having auditory hallucinations. She’s…
-
My Mom
My Mom is 65 and showing all the signs of dementia. Her biggest one is she thinks her loving husband of 35 years is cheating on her. She’s making his life miserable. She’s always accusing him and being nasty. She refuses to even talk about the fact that she might have something wrong with her and won’t go to the doctors.…
-
Diagnosis for dementia?
My mother was recently discharged from the hospital after having an episode of some sort and falling. She stayed in the hospital for 2 weeks and she was experiencing dementia symptoms pretty bad. Her memory has been fading gradually over the past 6 years or so. The doctors were worried about it and tried to get an MRI but…
-
Comparing Clinical Care in Boston
Hello, I'm from the Boston area and new to the discussion. I am wondering if anyone has gotten recent care for a loved one at either Boston Center for Memory (BCM) or Mass General Hospital's Memory Disorders Division? My 82-year old mother has mild ALZ but will probably NOT choose to pursue anti-amyloid treatments…
-
Caregiver-only groups in DFW?
Anyone in North Texas know about groups for caregivers?
-
Cardio surgery and Quality of life
For context, my dad had two valve replacements many years ago that seem to have been a factor in his dementia. The valve in his first surgery was crushed by scar tissue so his case was written in medical journal and the cardiology department at Vanderbilt (which is local to us) is really invested in his care. About a month…
-
Mom recently diagnosed, Dad in hospice, preparing for dad's passing
Hello, I just joined this forum, and am looking for suggestions. My elderly parents (93 and 91) are having difficulties. I am their primary caregiver. Dad will pass soon (home hospice), my folks are living in Senior Independent Living apartment together. We have not communicated the DEMENTIA diagnosis to my mother yet, and…
-
Introducing myself
Hello, I'm a caregiver for my mother. She has been slightly cognitively impaired for a few years but recently had seizures and it has progressed her cognitive impairment. She has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment. Unfortunately, she is easily agitated and confrontational. It is very hard dealing with her…
-
Falling Apart Caring for my Mom
Hello. I am not doing well. My dad had Alzheimers in the last 7 years of his life, and I cared for him. I thought that was all over when he died in 2017. Then in 2020, it started all over again with my mom. It's been 5 years now, and I'm going absolutely bonkers. My life is falling apart caring for her. Almost everything…
-
Repeating instructions and forgetting appointments
Hello, new to the forum, excited to get started. My mom not diagnosed with alz yet, but lots of symptoms. Constant repeating instructions, daily occurrence. Confused and forgets doctor appointments. Not sure how much more I can help, daily I remind and go over instructions,
-
Memory loss and difficulty speaking
This is my mother's MRI report. Could this be the cause of memory loss and difficulty speaking?Multiplanar multisequence MRI of the brain with I/V contrast was performed. 06-Nov-2024 07:45 Extra axial spaces: A well-defined avidly enhancing extra axial mass showing isointense signals to gray matter on T1/T2 measuring 3.5 x…
-
Our parents both have dementia & anxiety
Dad is 85 and has Alzheimer’s and dementia. Mom is 80 and has dementia and aphasia. They are living in their apartment with aides providing care 11am-8pm 7 days a week. Their conditions are advancing and soon we will have to rethink their care. Dad is getting agitated and verbally abusive to mom, which of course gets her…
-
Unbiased input needed - dementia parent with a questionable boyfriend
Mom was diagnosed a little over a year and a half ago with dementia and stage 4 kidney disease. There's a boyfriend in the picture who does not live with her - she's still living alone. There's strong feelings that he's not sticking around for the right reasons. Today, he inquired again about being reimbursed for doing…
-
need help
my mom has dementia since 2016 for the past 2 months she has been declining fast. Now she can't stay still and walks out of the house. WHat medications is everyone using to keep her calm.
-
Increasing comfort meds for mom, caring for her in my home
Hello to the rest of the incredible caregivers here - My mom is 73 with dementia (possibly Fahr’s Disease), and moved in with my husband and I in October after a series of facility failures. We began hospice in late January after home health could no longer help and I ran into safety issues trying to shower her due to her…
-
Preventing her from driving is worth it, right??
Oh man. We had several good weeks with my mom but for the past two weeks or so, she's been very upset! She (at one point) knew that she could not drive. And we have let her know that she failed the cognitive test which means she'll never legally drive again. But she is ADAMANT that she wants her keys to her car. And that…
-
Defusing unkind behavior
My mom has Alzheimer’s my father is her caregiver. They live in DE, I am in NJ. For several months she’s been annoyed at my husband and i think it’s because she misses me. He is always kind to her and even physically helps her in person. Whatever the reason, she’s just not kind when I mention him. I try not to react to…
-
Medicaid planning
Is it still recommended that one should seek out Medicaid planning with elder law? Is funding for Medicaid in jeopardy? Is it risky to plan for Medicaid now?
-
Where do we start?
We just received news today that my father who is 74 officially has Alzheimer’s (diagnosed through a blood test) we have been told that he had vascular dementia for a few years now, but mom and I are not completely surprised with this news, seeing as we have noticed the huge change and decline. Where do we even begin? He…
-
Bed bound & aggressive -looking for advice
I'm new here and looking for advice. A little background -I help care for my 84 year old father. He has late stage Alzheimer's, bed bound and completely dependent for care. Communication is difficult as his eyesight and hearing are poor and his ability to speak coherently is mostly gone. We are having a terrible time with…
-
Repetition
Hello All, I am a 68yr old women caring for my 94 yr old mom diagnosed with middle stage dementia . My dad was a saint caring for her for at least 5 years until he passed 3 years ago. We are a family of six and are all present to help care for mom we are very fortunate in that way. She lives at home but is never alone we…
-
Showering
My mom has Alzheimer’s and is not wanting to eat very much and does not want to shower or clean herself anymore. She gets very angry when we even mention getting in the shower. I posted here before and have tried everything I can , no luck. IT has been almost 4 weeks since her last shower. I put a chair in the shower and…
-
Overwhelmed was a while ago…
I’m new here. Thank you for being here! My sister and I take care of my mom at home. Who can tell what stage? She was diagnosed about 4 years ago. Dementia, Hydrocephalus, diabetic. My mom is not mobile, she cannot feed herself, she has someone with her 24/7. It’s the hardest thing ever but I don’t want to be anywhere…
-
Mom needs help
My Dad, with VD, has been in AL under hospice for 4.5 months already. My mom has AD and has admitted that she has difficulty paying bills and gets frustrated when she doesn't understand things. As POA, I can take over the finances and any legal matters. I thought Mom was still competent handling finances but now she wants…
-
Bizarre medical episode
I wanted to post what happened to see if anyone else has a LO with AD who experienced this odd condition. My mother has AD. She lives in MC. The staff discovered Mom sitting and murmuring gibberish Monday after breakfast. Her BP and oxygen levels were both extremely low. They called the paramedics and Mom started…
-
I feel as if I’m suffocating…
This is my first time writing on any discussion boards. When my dad was first diagnosed with a brain tumour leaving (FTD) in 2018 it left just short term memory loss. Since in he was 59 and still active and working at the time. The main focus was doing all the mri making sure the tumour didn’t come back . We didn’t really…
-
Easy to use TV for alzheimer's patients?
My mom struggles with using the TV remote to watch TV. We currently use basic cable but she cannot remember which buttons navigate what. I've talked with the provider and we have the simplest package they provide. I can do a streaming service for her it it contains several channels she like to watch and is very easy to…
-
Shoulder replacement or not?
Hi guys, my first post. My MIL (82, Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, Cancer survivor) needs a shoulder replacement surgery due to arthritis caused by a rotator cuff tear. The surgeon said to get any invasive procedures done before two weeks before the date, so I took her to the dentist to have her teeth cleaned. It was a…
-
Always feeling guilty and I feel guilty about that too!
This disease is so terrible and leaves you feeling guilty no matter your best efforts. Mom is in AL and my brother and I each visit a few times a week. It breaks my heart that she is always in tears and saying “i just want you to stop moving me”. We never argue but try to say we are working on it or simply I am sorry. I am…
-
feeling sadness and panic and heartbreak seeing my mom like this
She was failing at home, seeing things, getting a bit dangerous, not able to care for herself etc so we were lucky to get her in a home. She has not liked it, tried to escape, fought a little bit to get out, but then got weaker so not as mobile. She has been going downhill so fast. She is weak and crying and moaning. They…