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Mom won’t see a doctor but definitely has alcohol-related dementia.
Mom is 76 and has been exhibiting signs for about 20 years if I really look back at the first changes in her habits. She’s just moved into an Independent Living facility that also has AL and MC. She’s still drinking and getting really confused all the time. The other day she called me for help with the Roku. I asked her…
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Refusing to shower or change clothes?
My mother with dementia is in assisted living and since last weekend, she has refused to shower (the caregivers assist her) or change clothes. She hasn’t showered in a week and has been wearing and sleeping in the same clothes for 5 days. I’m mortified. They keep trying and I even tried to talk her into it on the phone…
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Dramatic rapid decline after illness
is it common for people with dementia to have a dramatic decline after an illness? My parent got a mild case of pneumonia (super bad for 1.5 days but recovered quickly) and is on antibiotics for this infection. She was already having an increase in symptoms prior to the illness which happened one week ago. But now her…
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Hallucinations
Hi everyone!! Hope you are all well, especially my fellow snowed-ins. My mama is most likely in stage 6 of her Alzheimer’s, and she just mentioned to me that she sees beetles in our window. I tried to have her point where she was seeing them and eventually realized that she was seeing them, but they are not there. I know…
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unsure of what and where to start for help with my dad
I'm caring for my father who has alz. I moved in about a year ago so he could stay home like my mom and dad had said they wanted to do . My mom passed 5 years ago. And my oldest sister passed away about 2 Yrs ago, so now I'm the one to care for my father with no help. But now he can't sleep and is getting mad because his…
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CA-Sacramento/Amador County Hospice
hi, Does anyone know of a Hospice company that will permit the person to stay on their medication for dementia? Thanks
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Caring for mom at home
I’ve been caring for my mom pretty much full time since 2020 but my Dad helped until he passed in early 2024. She already had mobility issues from a stroke and a fall, but since he died she’s gone downhill with her dementia. She’s maybe a mid-stage 5 but it’s hard to assess since I’ve been helping her do her ADLS for years…
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I need some positive vibes and a positive outlook. Help.
I had a hard visit to memory care and feel so sad for a lot of reasons. My parent is midstage, I'm power of attorney and live out of state and visit every couple of months. any way usually I try to keep myself emotionally detached from her symptoms and make it my goal to just give her a pleasant fun enjoyable visit and…
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My mother hides her purse nightly
My mother hides her purse and wallet nightly in her room at her assisted living facility. For now, she has a private room that locks and is very secure. She swears that people come in nightly and steal her purse however after a diligent search of her room, the purse is always located. We have tried to be consistent with…
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Donezepil and diarrhea
Hello, My mom has moderate vascular dementia and is on Donezepil 10 mg. While eating she gets diarrhea, I can’t hardly take her out. I always have a change of clothes for her in my car and the doctor ordered anti diarrhea meds. Any other tips? Or does anyone know of a med for vascular dementia that does not cause diarrhea?…
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onset of possible panic attacks and fear of falling
My mom is 87, diagnosed with Alzheimer's, with very little short-term memory and not much long-term memory. On friday, Jan 9, 2026, over a 3 hour time period, she had a dramatic change in her condition. She started slurring and having uncontrollable shaking of her body (arms, legs, hands) - almost like a seizure (although…
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Laundry addiction
Quite unique and bothersome issue here. Dad;s currently in AL and I'[m looking for an open and reputable vetran friendly MC. He has been in MC for 18 months. He is addicted to doing the residents' laundry. He's claiming that he has been given this job by management/front office. He has gotten so bad that his private aides…
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Dad newly diagnosed, lives alone 3 hours away & I don't know where to start
My 75yo father has been experiencing memory issues for years. We just received the alz diagnosis with a blood test confirmation. Living alone, no family other than me, driving, medications, food, safety, poa - all of it is a lot, but we are navigating. My biggest question and concern is where and how to navigate his…
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Help me please
Hello, I'm caring for my mother that moved in with me a week and a half before christmas. And my brother filed for guardianship over her, and unfortunally he got it. Well here is the problem he is supposed to be getting this so called guardianship account set up. And I'm living off of a very limited income. We are slowing…
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Asking for Help
My dad is scheduled in February to start Leqembi. I am having a hard time wanting to try this experimental treatment. I love my dad. I am worrying about the negative side effects. My dad is at stage 3-4 of Alzheimers. He is coherent. My mom agrees with my dad. I have already let go of my father. He isn't the father, I once…
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Dad newly diagnosed
Hi Everyone. This is my first post. My dad was newly diagnosed this past June with early onset Alzheimer’s. I feel like I am in a state of complete shock. I have gone into “panic mode” and I want to make sure I’m doing all of the right things. My dad is still very early on, but the not knowing of what’s next and when is…
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Need to move mom; don't know where to start...
Hi, Hoping for some guidance from those who have lived it. Need to move my mom out of her home (she refuses) due to decreasing cognitive abilities (dementia). She lives 8 hours away in the middle of nowhere, with no facilities to move into in her community (rural, northern MI). She has too much money to qualify for help,…
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Barely Surviving Everday…
Hi, I am new here. By a grace of God, I was given this website, believe it or not from a woman that was a customer service representative at the Treasury Department. My mom has Alzheimer’s, and I suspected it four years ago and sent the alarm to the family. Nobody believed me, and thought it was natural aging, and…
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Mother to Mother
Hi everyone, My name is Stacey. My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last year at 64 years old. We saw signs for a few years now looking back, but we always just chalked it up to anxiety symptoms. My mom is my best friend and I am having such a hard time with this diagnosis. Since last year, things have really progressed…
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I wrote this essay to help others after losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's.
After losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's, I wrote this essay to help people navigate through the devastating journey of having a loved one with Alzheimer's, because it is the family and those closest to the individual with the disease who bear the greatest burden. Most people find themselves thrust into…
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Her Sun Has Risen...
I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…
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How to tell a parent they are moving into a MC facility
I posted earlier about looking for a MC facility for my Dad. I forgot to ask, how do you tell them they are moving into a MC facility?
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/21/26
LIVE A LIFE FILLED WITH LOVE "Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God." Ephesians 5:1-2 NLT Join me. HOLY SPIRIT, please help me to want to…
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Forgetting a loved one has passed
What do you tell a person with dementia when they don’t remember their spouse has passed away? How do you deal with them feeling like the death just happened even though it has been years?
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I Feel Lost, Depressed and So Very Sad
Hello. I am new to ALZ Connect. I am looking to connect with others who have or are experiencing what I am going through as an adult child with a parent with ALZ and another parent who is losing it as the care giver. I am hoping to connect with others who feel similar to what I feel so maybe I won't feel so alone in this…
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Night at the ER
Well, I am eating my words from a recent post where I said I wanted to avoid ER visits for my mom at her stage. How do you avoid this when she trips and takes a header into the corner of a countertop? When the facility calls and says she's in the ambulance, just two hours after I had dinner with her? Here are the…
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Convincing person with dementia to go to parents' memorial
My parent with dementia had their parents both recently pass away in close proximity of each other. There will be a memorial service at an informal venue. My parent is local to the memorial celebration. My parent with dementia visited her parents regularly in the past year when she moved close to them to go to memory care.…
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Constantly saying Help Me please
I am a daughter with autism age 50 and live with my elderly father age 85. He keeps repeating the phrase Help ME please, very insistently, and then switches to Help me Jesus or praying the Hail Mary. He has a caregiver in the morning and my brother comes in the evening for a small amount of time. I’m left alone to hear him…
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4.5 years in caregiving
It’s been 4.5 years since my dad died and I became caregiver for my mom. At this point we’ve fallen into a rhythm (of sorts), she’s settled in MC, but it’s sad and hard and financially scary and I feel sorry for myself. Almost all of my free time on weekends goes to her. I feel guilty for even complaining. I dread seeing…
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Caring for my mom
Hi, I'm 58 yrs old and been caring for my mom and dad full time for the last 3 and a half yrs. Mom has alzheimers and dad had dementia. We lost him 2 and a half years ago. I seriously dont know how I've done it, not lost my mind that is, this is very hard, probably the hardest thing I've ever been through as I'm writing…