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Whom do I believe? My Mom or the caretaker?
Hi Everyone! I'm new to this community. This is my first post. My Dad passed away last fall and I had to take over as my Mom's caretaker. She has dementia and I am her POA and only living relative who is able and willing to take care of her. I have been very overwhelmed taking care of my Mom since my Dad died, especially…
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delusional mother being abusive towards me
I am so worn down by my mother's constant accusations, and although I know its a disease it still hurts so much! She doesnt have anyone else, so I am her main source of care- I get her groceries, do her hair and nails, take care of her finances, manage her meds, take her to all her appointments, and moved her…
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Walking with walker
Looking for someone to help my mom walk with a walker. She is at woodlake nursing home and they confine her to a wheelchair. We live 1 hour away. I want to keep her strength up.
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What to tell
So, mom is pleasantly demented, and in a terrific ALF. That said besides her memory issues she is pretty healthy thank god. 84yr old. Her sister is not well and declining and I cannot imagine it will be long she is 90 very sick in hospital. Should my aunt pass, Should I tell mom? She of course remembers her and asks about…
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Needing to move mother to memory care
92 yo mother has been in assisted living for 18 months. Over the last year she has had more episodes of confusion and disordered sleep. She often refuses to dress for bed and will wander the hallway at night - we have an upcoming care meeting and I expect that they will say she needs to move to the memory care unit. We…
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Medicaid
I have a phone meeting with elder law next Tuesday. I'm going to try get my parents on Medicaid but am concerned if there is enough money in the government/state to continue funding and if there will be future cutoffs. I will let the lawyer know about my concerns.
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Thoughts
Is it common for late stage Alzheimer’s patients to just suddenly lose the ability to walk? Like one day pacing the house on her own and then the next day the legs just giving out. Hospice doctor says it is just progression, I don’t know if it’s progression or an infection or am I just in denial?
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X2 now
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s the Monday after Thanksgiving in 2022. Luckily, it has been progressing very slowly. He lives with my mother and is watched by her full time. On Monday, my mom was also diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. It completely threw me for a loop and I am completely devastated. I’m their only son (I…
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Confusing Wishes
Hello, new here. I've been reading comments on this forum for awhile which have been VERY helpful, and I finally decided it's time to get on here and start asking advice/thoughts and maybe share my experiences on others' posts if I can be helpful as well. My mom is almost 84, moved in with us from her hometown of over 40…
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Self-care (for the caregivers)
I'm helping to care for a parent (ALZ) with my sister. Mom even lives in a retirement community (still independent living) so day to day I do have my own life. It is still so hard. I went to visit for lunch today and now feel exhausted and can't refocus on work. I can't even imagine how much more difficult if I had her in…
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Overwhelmed
My mom 65 is currently in the process of getting diagnosed with dementia. Her current symptoms or confusion she doesn't know who we are ( siblings or cousin) she is also paranoid and always thinks people are in the house she believes that my dad is stealing money and is cheating on her, however in the same breath doesn't…
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Do signs work?
My MIL is in a MC facility. She constantly asks to go home, says her purse and keys have been stolen, and doesn’t know what to do about her car. She’ll even call to say she was in a car accident. Would putting signs up around her room help? Was thinking about making signs that say “You are home”, “you live here”, “you…
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Brands new. 1st Post! :)
Hi. So... I've suspected my mom's been dealing with far more than grief from her husband (almost 30 years) passing away for awhile now. There's SO MUCH... Well... the "doctor" she sees is AWFUL. Not just as a doctor but as a human being in general! He is FULLY AWARE that my mother is dealing with more than schizophrenia or…
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Mom is at peace now
My mom has ended her journey with dementia. She became ill last week at her memory care facility and ended up in the hospital for 5 days. They did as much as they could without going to extreme measures. Probably more than she would have wanted. They made her comfortable and she passed quickly and peacefully. I didn't post…
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Feel Lost, Need Advice with Mom's Dementia/Alzheimers, Living and Depression
Mom was diagnosed 3 years ago with dementia. We believe she is about 5 - 6 years into it though. She also has severe depression, diagnosed 30 years ago. She is in an AL, but absolutely hates the place. This is her 4th home in 3 years, and the smallest so far (IL, AL, MC, AL). She is again in a severe depression, they seem…
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Defeated
My LO is borderline late moderate early late stage. A scan for a separate ailment shows what is most likely cancer. As upset as I've been part of me doesn't know why as the Alzheimer's is terminal in a sense. I'm alone and am crushed.
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Now I have time to be sad
I hope this is not inappropriate. My very, very elderly LO is safe now and in a steady decline. The analogy I use is that mentally and physically it is like a train slowly pulling away. But I tell myself that she is well looked after and treated with respect and affection at her MC. She still seems to know me and is not…
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Delusions of Persecution -- What to do?
Brand new here, so I apologize if this has been covered before elsewhere, but I'm at my wit's end. My mother has been living in the early stages of Alzheimer's for a few years now (forgetting things, no short term memory, having more and more trouble completing thoughts). Just recently my Dad had a (minor) stroke and was…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/15/25
BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS! Joshua 1:9 New International Version 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9Amplified Bible, Classic Edition 9 Have not I commanded you? Be strong, vigorous, and very…
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Slow fade
Just venting some sadness to those who understand...no dramatic changes with my mom (today), but the slow fade continues. I sat with her at dinner in MC today. Had to put the spoon in her hand to get her to eat a few bites of soup. She's handling finger foods best now. Had a small sandwich but didn't pick it all up, just…
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Incontinence
My mom currently lives in an assisted living community with my dad and struggles with incontinence. She is asked on a regular basis if she has to use the bathroom, always saying no, then will have an accident 5 minutes later. I truly believe she doesn't know she has to go, but I don't know how help her and my dad. We got a…
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Leqembi/Kisunla
My dad was recently diagnosed by his neurologist with Alzheimer's. He is 63 and is still considered to be in the "normal" to mild cognitive function. His neurologist said he is a great candidate for Leqembi or Kisunla. We are having a hard time choosing between the two. Does anyone have any experience with either? Our…
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POA granted
My mom has finally agreed for me to act as POA, not "springing" like it was originally. I now am legally responsible for her and hope I can do a good job. I will ask for guidance if necessary.
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Spinning headache
mom diagnosed with Al this month. She constantly having spinning headaches, she’s feels her head is heavy, wearing a heavy helmet pressure against her head. Any suggestions? Thank you in advance
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What To Do About Mother's Changing Wishes...
Yesterday my mother (who has Alzheimer's) said she wanted to have her burial services changed from where she grew up in Hawaii, to where we live in Los Angeles. Am I correct in honoring her wishes and having it in Los Angeles?
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Clogging Toilet
Good Morning! I'm new here - My LO keeps clogging toilet with TP. Any advice?
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Losing/hiding things
Mom (87) was recently diagnosed and declining rapidly. I’ve been staying with her and dad for extended periods of time to help while she adjusts to new meds. She doesn’t recognize items around the house-cooking utensils, her own clothes, linens, food in the cabinets/refrigerator and I have many times “claimed” them as mine…
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Good hospital bed mattress for mom - foam versus innerspring?
Hello, The hospital bed mattress that my mom had for years needs to be replaced. I had made a hole in it to help with pee and it turned out to be a bad do-it-yourself-hack and the inner coils rusted when moisture got in where I cut the bed. Lesson learned, never puncture a hospital bed. I'm now debating whether to get…
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Easy website for answers questions about my father's condition
My father has had Alzheimer's Disease for the past 7+ years and has progressed into a later stage. I've had lots of questions along the way and I'm finding it really frustrating to search and visit lots of websites for simple answers. Just discovered pfizer has a new website that answers questions. I put in some questions…
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Worried about return to workplace
I don't know if I'm the only one here who is a Fed. But now with the return to the workplace my sister and I are scrambling trying to figure out the best way someone can be with mom during the day that is affordable. Everything is so stressful with the info coming from above changing daily - sometimes hourly. I don't know…