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Incessant calling
Hello all, this is a minor issue in the grand scheme of things but the past 6 months have been hellish getting my dad first to stop driving and then moving him to assisted living (with a memory care option for the future.) He has only been there 2 weeks and seems to like it. It is a relief to have him safe- I worried…
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Transistioning to Memory Care/Assisted Living
Hello - my mom was diagnosed with vascular dementia/alzheimer's last spring - but she had been having memory issues for a couple years now. We finally got my dad on board with moving them into an assisted living center in December of last year - he was older and falling quite a bit himself and we felt he needed more care…
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Totally frustrated
I am at the point I hate to see the evening arrive. My DW every evening here lately it's like a switch has been flipped and I become her father and her husband has left. I tried playing the role as her father to assure her she is safe, but she gets very angry as to why her husband has left for the night and nothing I can…
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Mom with Parkinson’s dementia LTC guilt
Hello. This is my first time posting. My Mom is in LTC. She’s been there 6 months after a fall. She guilts me and wants me to let her go home. She cried today because she doesn’t think she belongs there. Her bf is wanting her to go back home too, though he complained when she lived in the home about how difficult it was.…
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New territory with vascular dementia
Hello! My mom just turned 96. As both my husband and I work full time (and all my siblings are out of the area), we helped mom sell her house two years ago to move to a brand new assisted living community in the same town, 8 minutes from our house. She had cognitive impairment, was forgetting her meds, not paying bills,…
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To those with LO in memory care
My wife has been in memory care for about 9 months. She had a stroke 10 months ago. Our marriage has not been close for a long time, but she doesn't remember what our problems were. I would like to know how others are dealing with their spouses being in memory care. I feel kind of trapped. I can never go back and don't…
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Clear cup vs opaque cup for drinking
It depends on the PWD but I read of two conflicting views online: PWD forgets there's something to drink in an opaque mug, so putting it into a clear cup makes PWD realize there's something to drink. Otherwise, PWD just forgets or just stares at it. Clear cups may "disappear" or is hard to see for PWD, as do clear contents…
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Fear and refusal of standing/transfers?
Prefacing with my mom seems to be in the later stages. She recently does not want to get up or stand up. In the morning, she will not want to sit up in bed. Once we get her in a sitting position, she is refusing to stand up. She would rather just sit there. When we get her up with a gait belt, she gets very angry and…
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Struggling to make this all work
My dad died in October and that seemed to just pressure cook the dementia into mom....She makes little to no sense when she talks, is aggressive towards my grandkids, tells me and everyone who will listen she hates my m-i-l, who also lives with us, but they chit chat all day, is snarky to my husband, refuses to pick up…
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Giving up outside appointments
How long has anyone been able to keep up routine dental care for your PWD? I have actually been taking my mom for cleanings every 3 months, on the advice of the dentist since she doesn't do a good job with brushing. Staff at her MC are supposed to assist her, but I think it happens in a hit or miss fashion depending on…
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Life Insurance
Unfortunately I had to cancel an expense policy when my husband lost his job. At that time I didn't know he would be diagnosed with ALZ. Now I'm having trouble just getting a basic policy for him. Can anyone offer some help? He's 65. Thanks, CM
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Trouble writing
Hi there...my husband has Alzheimer's at age 64. I can barely sign his name anymore and can write numbers. What do you all recommend I do? Do I need a power of attorney to complete this task for him now? I appreciate anyone with some knowledge on this subject. CM
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New challenge
My dad just recently started saying that there are men in his house. He tells us where they are standing, but doesn't say he knows who they are. So far they have been in the bathroom and living room. Has anyone else experienced this with their love one?
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Research focusing on gut health shows promise
Source: https://news.stanford.edu/stories/2026/03/gut-brain-cognitive-decline-research-aging TLDR: "New research shows that restoring gut-brain communication can reverse memory problems in aging mice, pointing to new treatments for cognitive decline." "These changes are registered by immune cells in the gastrointestinal…
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Dentist
Hi My husband has Alzheimers and I'm looking for a dentist that is patient and kind when handling someone with Alzheimers. I live in the Lincoln RI area. Any referrals would be much appreciated. Darlene
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Having a hard time choosing between home care and memory care
A month ago my DH with mixed dementia ended up in the hospital. Nothing serious. From the hospital he went to a transitional care program where they adjust his medication because of his aggressive behavior and high anxiety. He has been there for a month and is much calmer and a lot less aggressive. He is also almost 100…
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How to stop concerning behavior
How do you stop your LO from doing inappropriate things? Two examples… When we walk in the neighborhood, DH sometimes wants to walk up people’s driveways so he can look at the water behind their house. I can’t think of anything to stop him other than saying that’s private property, then he gets angry at me and cusses me…
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DW that has a dog...
My DW and I have a dog. She is obsessed over him. I had to remove all of the food from our refrigerator and panty because she kept feeding him, excessively. Luckily, I have a refrigerator downstairs that is out of sight. My DW is obsessed with ensuring that our dog has enough water and food and goes outside. This obsessive…
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In person weekly meeting
I am 75 and was diagnosed with Alzhiemer's in August 2025. I am currently taking Kisunla infusions. I'm in the early stage. My wife and I are interested in starting a weekly in person meeting for sharing and mutual support. We live in Houston, near downtown. Please respond if you are in Houston and interested in an in…
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Support Groups for Younger Onset
Hello. I just joined this forum and am looking for a younger onset support group for my DH, who was diagnosed with vascular demetia at 62 and will be 65 this year. He currently belongs to a support group that meets twice a month, once on zoom and once in-person. All the other participants in the group are at least 10+…
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She’s begging me to move in
My mom received the letter from the doctor telling her not to drive anymore. At least I am no longer the bad guy. But obviously she is devastated. And I think finally seeing that she can’t live alone 2.5 hours away from me anymore. We have a spot in AL near me reserved for her. But now she is BEGGING me to move in with me…
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Happy I can still find things that make me laugh
My husband lost his phone this morning and wanted help finding it. I was in a different room so I told him I’d call it so he could follow the sound. After calling several times with no answer I went looking for him. He was in his bathroom on his hands and knees looking behind the toilet. When I called again I could tell he…
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Good day has me questioning my sanity
I’m at my mom’s and she has been so normal and seemingly fine all day, I’m starting to question my sanity. She cleaned her house before I came, she cleaned out all the expired food from her fridge, she did all the laundry…. Hard to believe this is the same woman who one week ago forgot how her son was related to her……
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Sibling Disagreement on Care
My 85-year-old mother was diagnosed with dementia 7 years ago. My older father insisted on caring for her and hiding how bad things were from my sister and me. We started 4 years ago to try to get him to consider in-home care or assisted living. He finally agreed and they moved into a lovely community in October. However,…
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Alz w/brain bleed complication.
I have been diagnosed with Alz with the complication of excessive existing iron deposits. My neurologist is reluctant to prescribe either of the two infusions due to the risk of hemorrhaging. I have two questions/requests. Is there anyone out there that has this complication and has been prescribed a medication other than…
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Desperately seeking housing
For those that read my first post, you know what I've gone through, and now I'm trying to locate housing for myself after spending seven years caring for my mother with alzheimer's. I'm trying to find a room for rent or a kitchenette in the Bryan/College Station, Texas area. If you can help, please reach out to me. Thank…
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New here, young adult child looking for connection and support
Hi, I’m 33 years old and my 74 year old mom was recently diagnosed, although we’ve seen it for the last couple years. I live in California and she lives in Ohio with my dad. I also have an older sister that lives a few hours away from my parents. Mom and I have been really close and talk on the phone every day on my drive…
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Imaginary People in Our House
My DW sees imaginary people in our house at all hours. Right now at 10 AM she is talking to them and telling them to get out. She asks me ifi they are my friends and why I let them in. I am at odds at how to deal with this every day and night occurrence. I welcome any input you may have to help me deal with this. how have…
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The time has come-transitioning mom from AL to MC
I'm at a loss with my emotions and smarts. My mom's AL nurse called today to let me know that they ran a few tests and screenings, and my mom scored low across the board. The staff has been monitoring her and is seeing a noticeable decline with her memory, increased confusion, and also depression (mostly loneliness and…