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Managing Exit-Seeking and Aggression Issues in Memory Care Facility?
Hello. My mom (83) has dementia. We moved her into a memory care facility last year. Aside from her memory issues, she is very independent (no need for assistance with basic stuff like showering, walking, eating, etc). However, she has strong exit-seeking behaviors, in that she is very upset being locked in the MC ward and…
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Some good advice (cross posted)
This is my caregiver education for the month of November as an adult foster care provider for my loved one. I thought it was good advice that we can all use.Communication and Interpersonal SkillsThe caregiver/member relationship can often be tenuous and difficult. Home care is a stressful setting that typically involves…
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Some good advice
This is my caregiver education for the month of November as an adult foster care provider for my loved one. I thought it was good advice that we can all use.Communication and Interpersonal SkillsThe caregiver/member relationship can often be tenuous and difficult. Home care is a stressful setting that typically involves…
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Anger When Family Tries To Help
Hi everyone! I wanted to reach out and see if anyone else has had experience with this and what you did to mediate it. So I am a caregiver (F25) to my mama with Alzheimer's (F60), and she is on her first big trip since her diagnosis. Her sister took her out of state to visit other family members and my mom is having a…
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Just got pet results
I’m freaking out because it appears to me that it’s saying I have ad. Now to wait for my appointment to go over my bloodwork and pet results in two weeks. Unfortunately my family has a strong history of early onset dementia, but still, 42 is the youngest in my family if it’s true. I’m hoping doing some research will help…
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Keeping a list , documenting the journey
I posted something like this a few years ago—- it will help you to start keeping a list of things your LO does that shows they aren't able to function like before. Littler stuff like putting the milk away in cabinet next to cereal box. Kinda makes sense , but…. Big stuff like saying they haven't eaten - while the third…
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Any luck with caregivers?
My DH is in early stage 6. I’ve tried 4 caregivers. Every time he starts off positive with their visits and by the 4th or 5th time he’s agitated that they are there. Follows me everywhere to get away from them. Granted not one of them has done what I expected to bond with him. They start off very conversational etc and…
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Anyone ever move a loved one on Medicaid to another State?
My sister’s nursing home has asked us to move her. They are citing that she is “exit seeking” and that she is difficult to deal with - saying that she needs to be in a memory care wings. They do not offer the service. I suspect that is not the true reason - yes, she is difficult, and she is an exit seeker (5-6 times a day…
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Medicare and Leqembi
Hi! Anyone out there on Leqembi and have Medicare? My wife is on Leqembi and just turned 65 and signed up for original Part A and B Medicare. We’re wondering how much Medicare pays for Leqembi? And how much is left over for the patient to pay? The first few infusions were given when she was still on my BCBS insurance. So…
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Language issues
My spouse has had problems with language for several months. I mention it when people ask about him, but I struggle to explain it. So, yesterday, I started a list. He was staring out the kitchen window (at the sunset). When I asked, "What's up?" he said, " I'm looking at the thing that's going to go away soon." What do…
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I have a question about Parkinson's Disease
I have a friend who has Parkinson's Disease. Her voice is very soft and I have to ask her to repeat two or three times before I can understand what she is saying. She wears hearing aids and probably doesn't hear her own voice well. I would like to suggest that she receive speech therapy to improve her voice and speech. Can…
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Looking for Live-In Care Resources
Hello. I am new to this group. I didn't know this even existed until just today, and I'm so thankful to have found this page. My mom was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment back in 2016. Slowly she has been progressing, and things have taken a turn pretty quickly this past month. I am navigating live-in care vs full…
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Aphasia?
I am curious to know if anyone is experiencing what I am with my DH. Clearly he has Alzheimer’s, all the symptoms, probably stage 6. Occasional incontinence, even bowel, no memory, small shuffling steps, layers clothes, doesn’t want to shower, agitation, shadows me, beginning to struggle with using utensils at dinner, all…
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Forgot to title my post!
Sorry everyone, that last post- I forgot to title! Should have been titled Aphasia.
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Visiting a stage 7 patient
DW has not had the slightest cognitive reaction for 3-4 years. She can still swallow but reacts to nothing else. She has excellent care. So why do I visit? It is no practical use to her and emotionally very trying for me. But I do.
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Advice on auditory hallucinations?
I've been searching and reading the forums for a while, looking for my situation but I've not quite found it. I'm a caregiver for my aunt. She's diagnosed with Dementia, but doing quite well, able to clothe herself, eat, walk around, etc. The biggest problem is hearing voices, as she has been for a year. For the most part…
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Suggestions on "sedatives" please
My HWA at stage 6 needs a sedative to help with increasing agitation and sleeplessness. He tried seroquel and trazadone but he reacted very poorly to both. They made his wakefulness and confusion worse and caused a couple of falls due to increased "wobblyness". Basically, they reacted just the opposite and made his…
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Scared
My mom was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last year. I noticed her memory was slipping a lot before the diagnosis but my mom kept blaming it on old age, at the time she was around 66-67yrs old. She’s now 69 and she refuses to accept her diagnosis even though she been rapidly losing her memory and has been…
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Incontinence Underwear….Depends v/s Always
Not knowing of any other brand I got my LW to use Depends at the onset which was 7 months ago. I recently found out about Always. My question is which one is better or are they basically the same.
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Decline stopped. Is this the new normal?
What a roller coaster it's been! Earlier this month, I asked for advice on my mom who entered hospice and was declining daily. No longer able to swallow and was sleeping more often. I thought it was close her final weeks. This past week she doesn't seem to be declining any longer. She is eating again (although not alot)…
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What to do?
Last few days DH has taken $600 out of his bank account, answered a phone call at 8:15 am from some scam place asking for his Medicare # because they will pay for a back and knee brace. Thank goodness I intervened as he was looking for his Medicare card! He woke up and called the house phone at 5 am! Not sure what to do .…
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How often does this happen.???
my wife apologized for getting upset with me!!!
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Bedrail advice
My Dad keep saying his neck hurts because he falls out of bed at his facility. He has had a neck cramp since my mom died two months ago, so we really are not sure if he fell out of bed. He is in his own bed, which is a sleep number mattress on a sleep number box spring, on a typical bed frame. So any device can go under…
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long distance - Mom refuses to be evaluated & Dad isn't taking action
My parents live in a different city, and we are deeply concerned about my mom’s health. She is 78 and has been showing signs of memory loss for the last couple of years, which are progressively worsening. She refuses to acknowledge the issue, won’t allow herself to be formally diagnosed, and has made my dad promise not to…
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Missing at @M1
I know people come and go and life changes, but I can’t help missing @M1s comments. I’ve been a member for years. I mostly read and learned, rarely commenting until more recently. I looked forward to the almost daily responses to members postings. Funny how that happens. You form an attachment of sorts on this forum to…
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What is wrong with me? Or is there?
Mom is most likely a few days or a couple weeks away from death. Yet I just feel numb…. Or I just don’t feel at all? Yes, she’s 86, with pulmonary fibrosis, on oxygen for 7 months now. And having had dementia for several years, and looking back, cognitive issues for a couple years before that We lost our son in April of…
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Dementia or Depression
One of the things I have noticed with my aging mother is that she has symptoms that are similar to depression. We got her on an antidepressant and some of the depression symptoms have gone away thankfully. My question is how do you tell the difference if something is dementia related or an acutal mental illness. Its a…
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Mum accusing me of stealing
My mum is accusing me of stealing various things which is obviously very upsetting. She doesn't want me to go to her house any more, is nasty to me when I speak to her and convinced I'm a theft, which is hard because I go to visit, take her and my dad out and now can't support my dad .Any suggestions ? X
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How to handle awareness of diagnosis in parent
Hi, very new here and have lots of questions! I have recently taken on caregiving my MIL who was diagnosed with FTD about 4/5 years ago. My question is related to something that came up today. She was definitely involved and part of appointments regarding her diagnosis in the beginning, multiple medications tried to help…
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Advice on changing living arrangements
Hi, I’m new to this forum and have recently taken on a role as caregiver for my MIL who was diagnosed with FTD about 4 years ago. My husband and I have temporarily moved into her home while we prepare our own home with some improvements with the goal of moving her in with us upon completion. Up to this point she had been…