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Mom going to lunch
Mom is in a nursing home. Her former roommate called the facility and would like to take her out to lunch. The facility told her I need to approve this and they called me and gave me the woman’s phone number (they can’t legally give out mine). I haven’t called her yet. I met her, but have only talked with her briefly while…
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Our House is a Mess
I saw this morning a post from someone regarding how their house is now messy due to spouse having dementia. I completely understand. My DH not only has VD, but is also a bilateral above the knee amputee. So that is a totally different issue. He has a motorized wheelchair and he has struggled with maneuvering it.…
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Need Advice About My Sister, Please!
After many years of caregiving for my very ill and late husband and my dear aunt with ALZ in a facility, at age 74 I remarried a wonderful man two years ago. We are very happy together and had an ideal life. Until I had to take in my 72-year-old sister with dementia. We had to move her from an RV in Alabama where she was…
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Scary and depressing delusions - how to respond?
My mother is in stage 4 of dementia. She's been anxious for over a year. Since she hates meds, I haven't felt it's severe enough to push for anxiety medication. I've been increasingly aware she is having delusions that cause more anxiety. I know the general advice is to accept their reality and not argue with how they are…
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Struggle with clothing
Are any of you dealing with the struggles of clothing with your LO? When my mom moved to AL near me 3 years ago, she got rid of most of what was in her closet. Not sure why, maybe fit? She constantly tells me she needs to go shopping to buy clothes and she is correct, so my daughters and I have taken her several times. She…
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Leqembi
My DH has had 2 infusions. He is due this week for his first follow-up MRI. With both infusions he had a mild headache following the treatment. The side effects include headache, but Aria also includes headache along with other symptoms. Should I be worried, he may have ARIA or is a headache not that unusual.
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Looking for advice -caregiver for father with Alzheimer's
Hi all! I've been struggling lately with taking care of my father who has stage 5 Alzheimer's and vascular dementia. I've been his primary caregiver for the past 3 years. It's taking a toll on me that he is not remembering me recently. We were very close prior to the Alzheimer's diagnosis. Looking for advice on how to…
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DH asking “What’s wrong with me?”
DH is under hospice care, is bed bound, and I have been told he likely won’t last the summer. He asks me, “ what’s wrong with me.?… when can we leave?…why are we here?”…. I have not said “ You are dying”. I have mentioned Alzheimer’s is a difficult disease, that it is affecting how you feel…but he doesn’t remember or know…
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A new book for caregivers early into the journey
i have just read a book on kindle which is written by a caregiver concerning her journey with her DH. Very informative and a bit of lighthearted humor at times. I enjoyed reading it and find it will be especially helpful to a new caregiver. Wish I was able to read it a few years ago. its called “Coping when your loved one…
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Iv infusions
does anyone have any iv infusion experiences?
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Everything
So this is just a vent but probably one many can relate to. It’s not enough that you have to watch your LO whither away piece by piece and be hyper vigilant 24hrs a day with care and feeding but in my case I also get to watch the house we spent 36 years making into a beautiful home become a wreck. I’ve had to move a lot of…
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Joe is gone
Good morning. I joined this discussion board over five years ago. Y'all have been with me as I learned the importance of seeing a lawyer, as I hoped to keep Joe home, as I placed him in memory care, as I negotiated the girlfriend in MC, and throughout the journey. I appreciate the people here—those who were here when I…
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Mom is Scared dad is going to hurt her
currently mom and dad still live together. Mom has not been officially diagnosed but we are sure she has dentists or Alzheimer’s. Neurologist appt is this week. Mom is so paranoid and untrusting of dad. Through out the day she will get scared he is going to hurt her or push her down . We try to tell her he isn’t and that…
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Good points about guilt and relief in caregiving.
I think it's hard for others to appreciate the guilt that accompanies caring for someone with dementia. I liked this brief video https://youtube.com/shorts/NXeU5SFW5lM?si=gQ-WLKsFEfOWWf6o
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Long Distance Dilema
I posted the following earlier in the week in a different discussion; the person who replied suggested this would be a more appropriate discussion topic as he/she was the only reply to the original post. I hope someone maybe has suggestions or has had a similar experience and let me know how they navigated the challenge. A…
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Needing to vent - progression - sorry in advance for the length
Hi everyone, After a 2 1/2week trip to Japan with my stage 5 (I think) DH we're trying to get back into a routine. I've been reading other posts here since my return, but after finding that I've been sort of ignoring my old routine of documenting his behaviors and progression I felt coming here and venting might help reset…
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Rinse and Repeat
Every so often depression rears its ugly head, throwing me off course. While helping my husband out of bed today he tells me he’s tired of sleeping under an X-ray, it hurts his legs. I calmly tell him I will make sure it doesn’t happen again. He feels better, I feel sad. He won’t remember the conversation. Live in the…
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New diagnosis/living with angry spouse
I am new here. Wife recently diagnosed with early dementia. How does a person cope with someone’s anger without throwing up your hands and running for the hills?
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Mother's Day
Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers dealing with this horrible disease and all the caregivers who are mothers as well.. God bless
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Wants me near always
My husband only wants me with him to care for him - no relatives or caregivers. He wants me around all the time and if I leave the house, he forgets where I am and thinks I am dead, even with reminders from the relative or caregiver with him. He worries the whole time I am gone. I am his everything, which is a lot to…
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What I did today...another form of venting
Here is what I did today at the multi-thousand dollar MC where my DH lives: Woke him from a nap at 11:15 AM Brushed his hair Cleaned his smudged glasses Shaved him Took a short walk with him Requested the aide change his soiled briefs (yes, I checked them first) Walked to lunch (he didn't eat the overcooked broccoli -I…
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Use of "Buy Nothing" Facebook groups
Regarding my mom's constant requests (and demands) for things, I have found my local community Buy Nothing group has been great! Mom mom has set up a miniature "office" in her bedroom in her AL apartment. She had a large home office throughout her life and she always had it stocked (over stocked) with office stuff. So she…
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Recent Diagnosis
I am really glad a community like this exists. I recently moved back to live with my family since my mom's dementia diagnosis earlier this year. I was working and living a few states away and am a few years out of college. It has been a lot of big changes for my family recently and I am never sure I am making the right…
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Medicare question
We currently have a medicare advantage plan in CA, Kaiser Sr Advantage. We are moving to NC and need to select a different plan because Kaiser is not avail there. We like medicare advantage plans because they cover parts A, B and C but I have been following with interest the thread about tge GUIDE program through Medicare.…
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Have I missed something???
Had a Neurologist app't with my DW and all went well until he ask how her social life is going. My DW said "good' I talk with my family and neighbors often. He then said it would be even better if she would visit other social groups outside of that. I really didn't know what to make of that being my DW's conversations are…
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Angels Of Mercy...
As a recent spouse of my DW diagnosed with Alzheimer's I struggle with depression, sadness and loneliness. Once joining this site and reading posts I see that I need to shed the "woe is me" thoughts. So very many folks have situations far worse than she and I at the moment. I sincerely applaud all of you for what you are…
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Showtiming Is Fascinating
My husband (56 with EOA) recently had a 4-week hospital stay due to Ulcerative Colitis, which led to blood clots and malnutrition. He is currently at home. He can barely walk. He eats maybe 500 calories a day. He argues with me about taking his medications every single morning. He did the same thing in the hospital and had…
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Where Are They Now?
Do you feel that your loved one is still present for you in some way? Are you surprised at times by a sound, a smell, a touch that feels as if from your loved one? Can you feel them near you somewhere in some way? Do you talk to them (I do) and feel you get some form of a response? Do you find being at their grave peaceful…
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Young diagnosis of early onset ALZwgat to do first?
I’m a new member. My husband (48) was diagnosed Ed last week with Early AZ via blood test and pet scan. What do I do now?? I’m lost. Sad. Angry and need a path.
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CG for Spouse with ADHD & early stage AD
I am SO losing it. I have been at the end of my rope for years living with a spouse with uncompensated ADHD. His early AD complicated by ADHD is driving me over the edge. I was able to have him seen for neuro-cognitive rehab, but that was futile because he refuses to acknowledge he has a problem either with ADHD or AD. I…