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Mom Won’t Stop Staring Out the Door
This is kind of a funny one, but I don’t know what to do about it. My mom has Alzheimer’s disease (moderate stage), and she loves looking outside through our windows and door. The problem is is that we have a shared driveway, so there’s usually people walking past our door. To be honest I personally would feel kinda…
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Please read my story and thank you
Hello. My father passed away in July 2023. Before my father passed, we had discussed that my mom would have to come live with me. She was not to live alone. Mom had mild dementia at the time.The night my father passed, Mom came with me and stayed with me for 2.5 years. During the first year, she was no longer able to cook…
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Worry about roommate
Mom is in a nursing home. She is probably stage 4 vascular dementia. Her memory isn’t too bad and she remembers family, but her logic and reasoning are not good and anosognosia is so bad. Her current roommate is very nice. She has health issues, but not dementia. They get along well and it has been good for mom. Her…
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Bringing Dad home?
In the mild-moderate-severe way of describing stages of Alzheimer's, my dad has one foot in "severe". He is in MC and the care there is pretty good. But he is so sad not to be with family. My mom is living with my husband and me. We tried to care for both of them, but my dad is very independent and would not let me or my…
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Mom Passed Away & Dad’s Struggling - Advice Needed Badly
Hello! I’m in bad need of some advice. My Mom passed away on January 4th and my Dad, who is in the middle stage of Alzheimer’s, is really struggling. They were married for 66 years and had been living in assisted living for the past couple of years. Neither of them could drive or leave the facility with our help. They were…
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Burn out
Hi, Lately, I feel so tired and burnt out physically, mentally, and emotionally. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers in August. He started his first treat with Leqembi on Tuesday. He was sicker than a dog. I am watching my mom struggle to take care of him. I feel like I don't know what to do. I give my mom good advice. I…
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Morphine
I got a call from my mom’s hospice nurse on Friday night that they wanted to start her on a very low dose of morphine. Apparently she had a bad week, and said she wasn’t feeling well/was in pain. She couldn’t say where, they thought maybe her hip, x rays showed nothing. Shes been eating less (we already knew that) and now…
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Every stage of this disease is heart breaking
My DH is not as far a long as some but it is so tough when you see each decline. He can still do most of his ADLs but showering needs some assistance. His memory has been better than declining executive function, mobility, hearing, vision, fine motor and comprehension. He has recently forgotten what we just talked about,…
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Follow up on “what you took from me”
I wrote a follow up of my own from @Bill_2001 . I often hesitate to post cause our relationship doesn’t carry the wonderful long love story that many of you do. But then I realized maybe my post will resonate with someone. Like @BPS penned “how long” I lost my first hubby to leukemia in 1999. I never wanted to move on but…
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How are you? I'm...here.
Sometime I'll have time To properly mourn When people stop asking What year you were born But my time is your time For however long You need me to turn on You favorite song I wake you up gently We'll do it together I write down the day And the time and the weather I carry your books While you search for your name On the…
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New Stubborn Behaviors
I mentioned in a previous post that my DH was recently in a Memory Care facility for 30 days of respite care while I recovered from a broken ankle. He’s been home for 3 weeks now. Since home, he’s experiencing some VERY stubborn and rude behaviors and refusing to cooperate with necessary care. I don’t know if it’s the…
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New to Memory Care
MY DH just moved into MC three days ago. He has now not eaten in 24 hours and is refusing his meds. He sometimes wanders around the unit but cannot find his room to return to. He asks those who come into his room to leave. The nurse tell me this is standard behavior for new residents and that there are others in the MC…
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Heavy heart
We switched neurologists in December. The last one told DH his symptoms and blood work, along with his CT scan and MRI, indicate normal aging. So no PET scan warranted, or further testing for that matter, just come back in 6 months. DH and I did not believe that assessment. At 68 years old, it is not normal to feel lost in…
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New Here
Hi, my mom has been having cognitive decline for a few years but hasn't been diagnosed. She turned 70 last year and Ive been trying to help but have little help or resources. She can still mostly take care of herself, has my father.. so power of attorney is not in the cards yet. My father has his own problems and won't be…
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As long as I live, you will be loved. In memory of my DH Lonny.
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How do I go about transferring my parent to another memory care
I'm wondering how to approach the subject of transferring my parent to a different memory care in a different state with her current memory care. I'm happy with the current memory care but I would like my parent to be local to me as I am her power of attorney and there is no longer the same compelling reasons for her to be…
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Newbie
My wife has not been professionally diagnosed with dementia of any kind, however, myself and family has seen her serious short term memory loss, paranoia, out bursts of anger, dreams becoming reality and judgement issues, like refusing to take her depression and blood pressure meds. We have tried talking to her about…
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Sleep Disturbances After I Visit
Hello everyone - I'm new here…as many of you, I am dealing with countless challenges…one of them is that I feel like my Mother gets more anxious after I visit her. The days I dont visit, she sleeps relatively well. But the days when I visit she wakes up several times a night and calls me asking where I am…and tells me how…
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Jury Duty in Iowa
Hi all and thanks in advance for any help you may be able to provide. I am new to this forum but not new to caregiving. I have been caring for my Father who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer for the last 5 years. He was diagnosed 8 years ago and is reaching the late stage in the diseases progression. I live in Iowa and…
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New here
My husband hasn't been diagnosed with dementia yet but he has many of the symptoms he went from just minor memory issues to Second stage dementia in 4 months we still haven't seen a neurologist it wil…Started byTraceeIvyMost recent byharshedbuzzCaring For a Spouse or Partner3 new807:12 am3
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New here
My husband hasn't been diagnosed with dementia yet but he has many of the symptoms he went from just minor memory issues to Second stage dementia in 4 months we still haven't seen a neurologist it wil…Started byTraceeIvyMost recent byharshedbuzzCaring For a Spouse or Partner3 new807:12 am3
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$100 Million dollar increase for Alzheimer's & Dementia research
GREAT NEWS!! WASHINGTON, D.C., Feb. 3, 2026 — The Alzheimer’s Impact Movement (AIM) and the Alzheimer’s Association welcomed final congressional approval and the president’s signature on the fiscal year (FY) 2026 spending package that secures a $100 million increase for Alzheimer’s and dementia research at the National…
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Mother with late stage alzheimers and hostile stepdad caregiver
My stepdad is caring for my mother in another state. Though he is wonderful to her, he has been hostile to everyone around her, resulting in isolating my mother. He is not an active listener, super hard of hearing, and bipolar. Therefore I have not been able to get any specific details of her progression. I have read…
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He did it again
I had to go to my safe bedroom and lock the door cause DH was mad I wouldn’t t drive him to Ohio today. He was so verbally abusive I cried hysterically. He called 911 and told them I was acting crazy😳 The paramedics wanted to transfer him to the hospital cause it’s been 3 times plus my burn incident. The policeman said…
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Stage 7 +++?
My DW, after years of going through the stages has entered the last weeks. Has been in home hospice care for 2 months. There was a fall about 10 days ago. Has been bed ridden since then. Just water and orange juice. Very few words and atrophy of the limbs. Just another new grieving phase. Thank goodness for daily nurse…
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WHERE DID MICHAEL GO? Caring for a spouse....
I follow Michael Whelan on X. His wife has Parkinson's Dementia. He posted this today. He has written many books & is currently writing one about his beloved wife Rebecca and their journey. He is also talking to people who may do a documentary. This is what it feels like for some who care for their spouse with dementia.…
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Alcohol Related Dementia Wernicke–Korsakoff syndrome thread
I wanted to start a separate thread of support and venting for caregivers/family members of people with alcohol related dementias and/or who have been diagnosed with Wernicke–Korsakoff syndrome (or not diagnosed but you suspect this is their illness). This is such a complicated issue because, in addition to the dementia…
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The next stage
my DW rather suddenly has started dissociating and sundowning. She drinks a lot and isn’t open to stopping. This doesn’t help. I’m not sure how to handle it.
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Newbie
Hello there. I’ve been lurking in the background for weeks now and finally got the nerve to post. My DW was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in late 2023. We knew something wasn’t right and got confirmation in late November of 23. I’m not really sure what to write. I guess I just want to be able to hear about other people’s…
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Good research article
https://brainresilience.stanford.edu/news/aging-brains-pile-damaged-proteins Since REM sleep helps clean the brain seems like the old adage 'get a good night's sleep' is important for more than looking "youthful". Top article is latest report - below is article on sleep.…