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Psychiatric hospitalization
so long story short I'm with my parent at a room in the er in the behavioral area. They are going to admit her. I'm wondering when is the best time for me to leave. I was waiting on the decision of the hospital on what they were going to decide to do with her and speak with the county crisis worker. I did this and now…
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Mom Might Get Evicted from Memory Care
This may sound harsh, but it's our reality right now. We moved our 84-y.o. mother with dementia into a lovely memory care facility last week. The dementia symptoms advanced quickly - she was driving and socializing mid-February, and a month later she's getting lost in her own neighborhood, forgetting where she is, and…
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Conservatorship Exhaustion
On top of elder abuse/theft/etc. Issues involving my dad ex and friends I gotta handle... Medical & Social Security are highly incompetent... Facility issues...New medical problems, and my dad wants to go back to court to start all this all over again 🤦🏾♀️ Im exhausted!
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My mom is gone, grieving and pissed off (just a vent I guess)
10 years of dementia and the last three were exceedingly difficult and I feel I've been through a meat grinder (I am a different person now). I was the only person in the family (her only daughter) to step up and try to help navigate all of her care needs, as well as the legal and financial situation of my parents (both in…
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I needed an outlet to rant sorry I rambled
I am 25 and I quit my job about a year ago to help my parents take care of my grandmother with Alzheimer's. She lives with my parents but I do not live with them. I take care of my grandmother during the day and anytime my parents need help on the weekends, which isn't too much. Lately she's become very combative and…
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Using updatable photo frames to communicate schedules/information
This is a helpful tip (I hope), and also a question if others can recommend frame brands. My mother has grown increasingly confused about organizing her day. She is solidly in Stage 4, so I think this post is most applicable around that phase. We have found it very helpful to give her a photo frame on her dining table.…
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Compound caregiving
Hello fellow caregivers. I'm curious if anyone else is on a similar journey to my own. Both my mother and husband were initially diagnosed with MCI two weeks apart, four years ago. At the time she was 78 and he was 63. I placed her in AL two years ago because there was no way I could care for two at home by myself. Now…
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Firsts
Six months into my grief for the loss of my dear wife and rolling into the new year the changes seem forever and overwhelming. As soon as you think you have completed all the distasteful changes required, another pops up. In trying to encourage friends and family, who are not impacted as directly by a loss, to build…
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Suggestions on how to deal with medication refusal
My DH has recently started having some significant behaviors. His delusions have increased constantly saying I have a problem and need to go to the doctor. Blocks me from going upstairs etc. Nothing physical. He starting taking 25 mg of serequel in the afternoon. I called the dr. to request an increase so I have started…
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DH in denial
My DH was officially diagnosed with MCI and is not accepting it. He says he flunked the test because he wasn’t feeling well. He will not agree to any further testing and, when I try to have a conversation about it, he just dodges and deflects. I finally told our 3 adult children and a few friends but swearing them to…
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Fears in Stage 8
I'm dealing with something i haven't seen addressed here and just wonder if anyone else has experienced the kind of fears I'm feeling? I have irrational fears for my health, for my safety and for my financial stability. I'm imagining the worst when I feel a new pain or lump… I triple check to be sure appliances are turned…
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Need emotional support
Hi everyone, I'm caring for my aunt who raised me when I was a child. She has early-stage Alzheimer’s and is currently living alone. Her son has been out of contact with the family for about 10 years, and we haven’t been able to find him. She misses him deeply and talks about him every day. My aunt has memory loss. Because…
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Dementia is more than memory loss…
Dementia is not just memory loss. It’s cognitive decline. It affects the brain, and the brain controls everything. Movement. Sensation. Perception. Judgment. Sure, memory is part of that, but it’s not the whole picture. People can have dementia without obvious memory problems, and we are very bad at recognizing that.…
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Sabotaging everything - Caring for my Great Grandma after losing her daughter, my Grandmother
Hello there. I'm posting because I don't know what else to do, I guess I'm looking for guidance, someone to let me know that I'm not going crazy. My Great Grandma is 101 years old, lives alone in her house she's lived in her entire life. We've tried to get her into assisted living but she refuses and her doctor says at…
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Leqembi infusion/ personality Change
My dad had to stop the Leqembi infusions because of brain swelling and bleeding about a month ago. I have noticed his personality changed towards me negatively and not at my mom. His next doctor's appointment is in June. I will contact his doctors then. Is this a normal occurrence from leqembi or this the progression of…
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Wandering Prevention Feedback?
Hello everyone, I'm a Industrial Design student currently trying to design a product that could help prevent dangerous wandering in people living with dementia. My grandmother has dementia, and right after moving houses she had a few bad wandering incidents at night that could have ended badly if she hadn't been found by…
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Where do I go from here?
Hello. I am new to this forum. My mom has dementia. It started when she was 54 years old. She is now turning 62 in August. We are at the point where she has been hysterically crying for the past 9 days straight. She started Rexulti in December of 2025. We were thinking that maybe that could be part of it. She is now losing…
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Reflection on Progression
I haven’t been here in awhile. Mom is in MC. She’s 73. I have a 5 year old. Husband is away for work. Old pic popped on my phone of my daughter and mom just a year ago. She was in MC then (been there almost 2 years now). I just can’t believe how fast this all went down. In the picture she is smiling with my daughter. Now,…
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New Member with questions
Hello, My DH was diagnosed with mixed dementia and in moderate phase (start of stage 5 in the 7 phase model). I knew he had it and had to push his PCP to test him. 2 yrs later and they tell me something I already know. So frustrating. His neurologist prescribed donepezil, but he doesn't want to take it and the research…
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Does the diagnosis matter?
my mom was diagnosed with FT dementia 7 years ago. At that time, she was still living in IL with my dad. since then, her condition has progressed to the point where we decided to move her to MC. One of my to-do items along with the move was to get her an appointment to be seen by a neurologist again and reevaluate. But at…
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Buspirone - anyone?
Briefly my DW is in stage 7, under hospice, on several meds including serequol, depakote, lexapro, and Valium as needed. Also temazepam for sleep. Total aphasia. Days are usually 80% walking, bumping, mumbling (all the time) and 20% laying down or sitting. The issue is she’s usually walking with eyes almost closed. Can’t…
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Supplies for incontinence
As my DH is approaching the last stage of Alzheimer’s I am struggling to find diapers that actually work without leaking. I have found good pads for underneath but have to wash them almost every morning as they are wet. It seems to leak out the top and I have found that all brands sit low on his waist. Has anyone had good…
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Palliative Care
The geriatrician my DH sees has ordered palliative care and we've seen first a registered nurse and then a nurse practitioner. I wondered if anyone has experience with pallilative care and if it's helped. What are the benefits of palliative care. I was told they would be able to transition him to hospice if/when the time…
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Anniversary
Yesterday was our 47th anniversary. So I got a nice card for my wife who has FTD and put a loving note in it. I had a dentist appointment at 2:00 to finish two crowns so I spent quite a while there. She never got up until I woke her up at 5:00 for dinner. I gave her the card and she had no comment. At dinner she announced…
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Feeling Anxious
Not sure what stage of Dementia my mom is in but she needs care 24/7 but she still can eat without choking, She watches TV , smiles and still laughs, eats snacks sometimes will feed herself but I’m having a hard time just thinking she might pass sooner or later
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Day 1 at AL
We moved Mom in to AL today. It went a little better than I expected. She loves her room. But she is very angry that they took away her medication and have to administer it to her. She doesn’t understand why. She is also annoyed that people keep stopping by to take her vitals etc. She says “I didn’t think I was coming to a…
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Offering you some supplies
I have a few supplies that I no longer need and I’d like to offer them to this group. It’s not much, but this forum was so valuable to me I would like to offer these items here first. If you want any or all of these send me a private message with your address. First come, first served (I’ll pay shipping for US): 2 bottles…
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Tomorrow’s the big day; wish us luck!
We are moving my mom into an AL near me tomorrow. (If you have not seen my previous posts, ever since my dad died in December she has been living alone 2.5 hours away.) She has been cooperative and somewhat willing to do this, which even one month ago I would never have dreamed possible. But still makes lots of comments…
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ER visit
Mom has yet to agree to see a neurologist to get a confirmed dimentia diagnosis. Her primary doctor has written a letter that she has cognitive decline and unable to make medical decisions. We are hoping now the POA and healthcare authorization we have will help us since the Dr wrote the letter. This week mom is having…