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Constant talking
I feel very blessed with my situation. DH is probably in late Stage 5 moving quickly to 6. He’s very kind, gentle, soft spoken and always has been. Unfortunately, he’s lost the ability to carry on a full conversation but our days are good and I think he’s happy and content. However, our dear friend has quite the opposite…
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From eating nothing to eating everything in site
DH has VD AND ALZ. He is on hospice now and diffintly has had some changes in the last couple of weeks. Needs more help dressing,inco.more bowl and bladder. But the biggest thing is he went from not eating anything to eating everything inside. As long as it's soft. Going through sweets like crazy. Has anyone else had this…
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Does anyone have someone their caring for have any interest in what they have
just curious if anyone taking care of loved ones if they ever ask about this illness and what it’s all about and out come
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A delusion is about to be smacked by reality. What do I do?
My mother is in an assisted living and has moderate dementia. About once every month or two, she'll have a new delusion. They are quite persistent. The same story will come up for more than a week, sometimes the story will slowly shift over time. They often feature themes of rejection and loss. She recently has been…
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Support Groups for DH
Hello Again - I have found so much support for me, as a spouse of a DH, but not so much for my husband, or for the both of us to attend. He is still at a stage where he might benefit from others' perspectives. Mostly, I'm looking for outside validation for things like driving… Warmly, —CydS
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From Lost Keys to Checkbooks
Dad with VD for the last 3 years and MC bound with just waiting for the waiting list to be opened up. But, I digress. We've moved from the keys and have figured out why the lanyard went missing. He didn't want to wear the alert button that was attached to the lanyard. Since, he has a habit of "losing" them, I made 4 copies…
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Bathing
Our family member living with Dementia refuses to shower or bathe and this has been an on going struggle thw past 16 months. However, if and when she is going to see her siblings in their 80s too or needs to go out of the house, she will shower. The problem is mom refuses to leave the house unless its to see her sisters or…
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To medicate or not to medicate
I'm researching how often a newly diagnosed person chooses to use the medication protocol for Alzheimers. I understand the side effects of brain bleeds is as high as 1 out of four patients. Trying to help my loved one decide on way forward. Appreciate your comments/experience!
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Finding help at home.
I’m living with my 87 year old mom with AD. She’s still bathing and taking care of her personal needs. My husband is a chef and cooks all her meals for her. She is not able to do any cooking other than reheating her meals in the microwave. I have taken over all her finances and took the car from her. I can see she’s…
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Zucchini
My father-in-law forgot what zucchini is called. I am noticing it happening more often, and it's random. Is this common?
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Repetitive behavior
My DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 6 years ago. He constantly rubs his eyes and now he has big knots on his tear ducts. We’ve been to an ophthalmologist and was told there is nothing physically wrong. Whenever my DH doesn’t have anything to distract him, or when I’m not holding his hands he rubs. I’m afraid that he’s…
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I am new here…struggling with DH
hello everyone I am new here. My DH is in the early stages and has been for the past few years. He is starting to change just remembering things like putting water in the coffee pot and forgetting those things to now having cognition issues of not understanding what is being said. I was so very upset a few days ago. My DH…
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Pointers
So I just figured out how to easily change and reposition a 160 lb man who is completely unable to support himself. If you raise the foot of the hospital bed as high as it will go you can easily pull him back to the top of the bed and also lift his bottom more easily to change him. 😀
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Exhausted
Hello, New to this group. My husband of 29 years has dementia. Not sure what stage but after seeing symptoms for at least three years I made him get tested. He is in complete denial. Blames me and accuses me of poisoning the minds of family and friends and doctors against him. Although they all see the issue as well. He…
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Recent Diagnosis
I am 64 years old and was recently diagnosed with Early onset Alzeimers. I've got some memory issues and some cognitive deficits. I am still trying to wrap my head around this. I thought this was probably just aging and this diagnosis hit me like a ton of bricks. I'd love to talk to some of you about this.
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No treatment options (thanks, insurance & MediCAL /s)
So for months (since February 3, 2026) DW (61) has been without treatment due to losing our COBRA. It took Medi-cal five months to get us to UCLA's Rubin (Rudin?) Center for Alz & another month to get an appt with the Doc in the end of December. Now that she is going to receive SSDI in September, we're dropped from…
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Anger Management
How do you deal with the anger? Before my first sip of coffee my DH has fixated on the same subject. My head is pounding and I'm exhausted and right now I'm just angry. Hours and hours of the same questions. Accusing me of things I didn't do. Reminding myself how much I love him and this will pass but some days are so very…
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Huge change in < 24 hours
my dad went from being lucid one day to lost and noticeably worse the next and he’s not improving. 😭😭😭😭😭I live with him. Today I thought he’d had an accident (not happened before). He was so mad at me. He’s crying and holding his head in his hands because he’s so confused. I’m breaking down being able to handle this. I’m…
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Just want to write it down...
Everyone say's I'm "lucky". My DH doesn't wander or have delusions. He doesn't yell at me or is aggressive in any way. I cannot feel grateful. I feel frustrated and worried all the time. I can't make him drink water. I can't make him do anything that I think is good for him. People give me suggestions…oh give him Jello. Do…
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cbd gummies for caregiver
My HWD is extremely difficult and I am with him 24/7 as a sole caregiver. My PCP (his also) is very concerned about my being depressed and has suggested cbd gummies. I don't take any prescription meds and don't want to start on zoloft, etc, but am considering the gummies on a need be basis…not daily. I was wondering if any…
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First appt with geriatric provider
We had our FIL's first appointment with the VA geriatric provider today, his MoCa score was an 8, it was a 13 last year. So he is right about where I thought he was on the DBAT and FAST. We have seen some changes this last month after a skin cancer DX, 3 teeth extracted with a partial put in, issues with new hearing aids,…
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To sell or not to sell…
We moved my mom out of her house and into AL near me back in April. She was not emotionally ready to let the house go, so we have not tried to sell it yet. She occasionally talks about moving back there someday, but of course that is never going to happen. However, I think it makes it easier to accept her current…
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Pop
Good Morning All. Newbie here. My mother passed in 2021, moved Pop out to a Tiny home in our backyard. Summer 2025 began showing symptoms of Alzheimer's, December 2025 things began to progress quickly. June 2026 finally diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease. I am his daughter, recently he began having unwholesome and…
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How can I help more at my DH Memory Care
I moved my DH to MC one year ago when I had a cancer relapse and I could no longer take care of him at home. Up until about 4 months ago, I could change him and get him ready for bed. Sadly, he has suddenly declined and struggles with walking and standing. And while I am still receiving cancer treatment, I shouldn't be…
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Need advice about counseling
My DH is in Stage 5 and I am so exhausted all the time from the constant repeating things to him, supervising everything, being in charge of keeping the household running,etc. Everything that most people on this site write about. I have been going to a therapist and also have gone to some group meetings sponsored by the…
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Medication question
My DH is currently in Stage 5 moving into stage 6 I believe. Lately his anxiety seems to have increased dramatically. He is currently on 100 mg of Zoloft and 25 mg of Serequel twice daily. He has a neurology appointment coming up. I was going to ask for an increase in his Zoloft due to his increase in anxiety. Shadowing…
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Share, if You Will - Advocacy in Memory Care
I heard, “You won’t have to micromanage the team like you did in the hospital “, “you can just be the daughter now”, “let the team take care of your parent”…and I did - for a few days. Granted, no hospital trips, having HOSPICE on deck, 24/7 nurse in MC + 3 days per week HOSPICE nurse + baths…all good and more that I may…
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I'm new!
I'm new to this. I have noticed decline in my memory for probably a year or so but all of a sudden it seems to be amplified…my short-term memory is awful. My mother's side of the family is riddled with dementia…don't know why I thought it wouldn't happen to me but it has and I am struggling. Had a MRI and that showed…
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Seroquel 25 mg
My DH started having started having delusions, some hallucations with hearing noises. He thinks men are hitting on me…family members, repairmen. Wants to go grocery store with me so men won't hit on me. Follows me around constantly. I am wondering if things will go down hill from here. The doctor precribed Seroquel 25 mg.…
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Caregiver Burn Out
My father (he will be 86 on August 22nd) lives with me since my mom passed November 2024. He was diagnosed in 2018. In 2019, the began spending summers with me and wintering in Florida. It got to much for my mom not having help in winters, so in 2021 they began wintering in Texas near my sister. That didn't even last two…