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Prime example of clueless family
This was in the newsfeed I have: Prime example of clueless siblings! makes ya mad!
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Home
A fitting description of what LOs seeking "home" must feel… “Someday, I would like to go home. The exact location of this place, I don't know, but someday I would like to go. There would be a pleasing feeling of familiarity and a sense of welcome in everything I saw. People would greet me warmly. They would remind me of…
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Improving emergency care for people with dementia
Michael Ellenbogen has been working on this important project for some time. He is one of the co-authors in the linked article. https://outlook.live.com/mail/0/inbox/id/AQMkADAwATE0YTEwLTZkZWMtZWY4Ni0wMAItMDAKAEYAAAMe8X2mg8UKQKMXq%2BSo2HGuBwC6%2FjKngSETRo24yIoaaSzbAAACAQw
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VA - Veteran benefits
Just wanted to give an update on possible Veterans Benefits. Service connected disability: File for it if the Veteran meets the qualifications. There is a list of diseases that are presumptive for Agent Orange. Parkinson's is on the list and I believe Alzheimer's & Dementia should be. I would file for Social Security…
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projecting future costs and availability of funds
Today I learned that your investment person, or financial advisor, or ??? can put your information into a spreadsheet that projects how long someone's funds will last if they enter memory care at a given date. Intuitively I knew this could be done but it had never been suggested to me in a "you ought to do this now" sort…
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Not Sure if it’s the End
Hi all. Been caring for my aunt for almost 2 years. She’s almost in her mid-nineties and came to live with hubby and me close to 2 years ago. It’s been a rough ride, as I’m sure it has for many, here. My Aunt is almost fully incontinent now, and has frequent delusions. I have a little bit of a medical background, but…
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Visit from family
Today, my daughter, SIL and grandson are coming to visit. DH is totally confused and agitated, thinking that his sister is coming to visit instead and seems to be under stress because of the visit. Relations with this daughter are a bit strained - she lives out of state and rarely visits, so today is a big deal, although…
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Hallucinations
I’m new here. My spouse has been diagnosed with mild to moderate dementia. He is fairly independent; needs some supervision. Started Zyprexa and Aricept. Problem is with hallucinations. I really don’t know what to do or how to support. I’m talking to his doctor about this; but want to reach you for suggestions.
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Coping with disease progression
My mom is in a good MC receiving high quality care. Before that she was also in a good AL/MC, albeit one not equipped to deal with more advanced dementia. Now, I find myself watching my mom progress and filled with sadness. She is comfortable, clean (a miracle, given that she has a lot of incontinence issues), and still…
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Building diet resources after my father's early-onset diagnosis - seeking your experiences
Hello everyone, My father was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer's earlier this year, and through our journey, we've found it challenging to find good dietary resources and support. I'm working on building an online resource to help others facing similar challenges. Before building it, I'd really value hearing about your…
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A very little holiday
Maybe I have done something stupid but after hearing ‘friends’ talking about their cruising on boats and various holidays I decided that for our birthdays which fall on the 8th and 9th and the reason why 55 years ago we went out together, that we should have a little holiday, thinking that may be this will be the last. So…
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Mom prefers to lay in bed all day.
My mother has moderate stage Alzheimer's and Vascular dementia. I have been caring with her since March. Before she came to live with us, she tended to spend a lot of time in her bedroom. Now that she is living here, she prefers to spend all of her time lying in bed and just says this is what I like to do and this is where…
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Has anyone had a PWD who experiences seeing shapes, etc. that appear transparent and "see through"?
Hi, My Mom is 102 and, while having extremely short term memory, has never until now described or shown evidence of other dementia-related symptoms. The past few days, however, she's convinced that she's not at her house and needs someone to pick her up and take her back home (she's been in AL for the past 9 years), etc.…
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I cry every day. I don't know if I can go on like this. Too tired to seek help.
My DH is probably Stage 6. He gets agitated, angry, cursing at least a few times a day. Otherwise, he lies there watching TV. He wants to get out and then he doesn't. I'm taking care of him on my own. No kids or friends available nearby. I tried bringing in help but DH is very resistant and throws them out of the house. I…
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Just need to talk to my friends (200)
Well, we made it to 200. Took a while. Still chilly here. Had to find some fleece to wear. Time to change out summer gowns and dresses for fleece and flannel. I don't change clothes in closet, just things in the chests. HB, hope your mother is doing much better. Mint, how is your mother? Haven't seen you mention it lately.…
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Man on the Inside
This post kind of off topic. We watched a 8 episode series on Netflix last night and today with Ted Danson called “Man on the Inside” which we enjoyed. It was about a retired professor who lost his wife to Alzheimer’s and when looking for a part time job to take his mind off his loneliness, ends up taking a job with an…
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Alone and missing friends. What to do?
My DH is Stage 6 and is very agitated and even aggressive to anyone new coming into the house. DH's friends have passed or no longer able to understand how to deal with him. I barely do myself. He's at home with me as sole caregiver and it is draining me. Heartbreaking is when the day passes and he realizes no one else is…
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wants to be massaged for hours
Anyone else experienced this? My DH wants me to massage his backs, hips, chest for hours on end. Sometimes it's the only thing that will calm him except listening to music. Is the any alternatives? Is it a phase?
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Burnout
Today I want to rant, I’m tired and exhausted, I really thought I had a handle on all this, I love communicating and writing on this site, it balances me and helps me to understand that I am not alone but today I feel so despondent for the last few days all I want to do is cry. I don’t want this any more 7 years is enough…
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What to do? DH paranoid/ fearful away from home but need to visit my dying father
My DH is Stage 6 and has been extremely agitated, anxious and verbally aggressive. He is stabilizing on Seroquel but still doesn't tolerate strangers or new places. I just found out that my father is in the hospital 5 hours north. He is only expected to live a few days. I have no aides or family able to care for him, the…
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Caring for an abusive parent
I am my mom's only child, adopted. Although she has several stepchildren. My mom has had many loving friends and family in her life willing to provide support, but as she aged, her abuse spread from the inner family to external family, friends, and neighbors. She is narcissistic, gaslighting, oppositionally defiant, among…
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my wife can't stop crying all day
My wife just cries all day long, the reasons change and I don't believe they are the reason. If it's stopped it will start back up when she is asked to do something. Any caregiver with this experience I'd be grateful to hear from
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How much information to share with DH?
My DH has been showing signs of cognitive decline for a while. We are beginning this journey to get a diagnosis, which (as you all are well aware) will include a lot of testing and doctor appointments. My husband has excellent coping skills, so it took a long time to convince his primary care doctor that there was an…
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Attorneys for Legal Guardianship/Custodianship - Normal Costs, Best Way to Locate?
My LO is in their 80s and has been diagnosed with moderate to severe Alzheimer's disease. I need to pursue emergency legal guardianship and custodianship for several reasons - mainly, because they have been hospitalized for over six weeks and we have mounting issues that I need to address. Our state (Massachusetts)…
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Suggestions for Activities?
My DH was diagnosed about 3 months ago with EOAD, at age 57. His biggest symptom is aphasia/difficulty communicating, as well as loss of executive functioning. He does not have significant memory loss. He has no problem doing ADL, and can still go on walks solo, etc. Our issue is that the aphasia and loss of executive…
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Turned down for Medicaid
With the help of an Elderlaw Attorney, I filed for Medicaid for my DH on August 19th here in Missouri. It had taken me several months to gather all the necessary information and was such a relief to finally have it filed. Since then, I have been paying the MC the amount the attorney said I would owe each month. Then a…
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While I wait
I’m working on trading in my anger at all those people who made this journey harder. I don’t want to hang on to the bitterness.
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Food ideas
My SO 46yo with EOA was a good eater. To the point that after eating a big meal and hour later he would be snacking on something. He was also a BIG Mt. Dew drinker. In the last month or so he hasn't drank any soda and has lost a bit of weight. However he also doesn't eat much like he used to. I know that his appetite will…
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Adult Children
We have 2 beautiful adult children 43 and 40. My DH has VD combined with very bad APHASIA. Our daughter lives near us so she is very familiar with the mental and physical decline but our son lives 1500kl away and is so involved with his work and family, our 2 young grandchildren. He doesn't have a lot of spare time for…
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Not diagnosed
My DH has not been diagnosed but is showing many symptoms. He is in denial and blames all his problems on me. It’s been a struggle the past year. I feel like a parent instead of a wife. His mouth can get pretty bad. It’s getting hard and frustrating.