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Assessor tomorrow long term insurance
tomorrow Monday meeting with nurse from our long term insurance. Anyone have any experience with this? I have list of meds doctors his cognitive impairments his ADLs. If anyone has experienced this please share. Thx
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First visit memory care
our visit was terrible. Hubby has been in mc one week. He was crying he wants to go home. Can’t under why he can’t be home. I said all the right things but didn’t do any good. I told him I’d be back tomorrow. I’m hoping he will have forgotten I was there. They say this is normal. How long will it go on. Is he going to do…
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Teepa Snow video on challenging behaviors
When a PWD shows a challenging behavior, I often dismiss it as due to a broken brain, and I often just try to distract or ignore it. In other words, a broken brain means there may not be a good rhyme or reason to consider. So why bother? I learned that some detective work can help. I saw this Teepa Snow video on YouTube,…
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Home Care Agency Recommendations in San Antonio, TX
We are moving to San Antonio, TX 78218 and am asking for any personal recommendations for in-home care agencies in the area. If anyone has used a company in that area for their loved one, I would greatly appreciate hearing from you.
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She thinks she's "done something bad"
My mother has later stage Alzheimers dementia. She sometimes recognizes her children but doesn't know our names and requires assistance with all of her ADLs. We care for her in the home she has lived in for over 60 years. She has recently been perseverating on "I've done something bad" We can't find any pattern or…
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Please remind me I’m not a terrible adult daughter
The past two weeks, after some really bad situations at work, I made some big changes. I stopped visiting during the week I began a new (very low dose) antidepressant medication to get me through this and back on track so I don’t lose my job. The good news is the meds and no interruptions worked great - I am, basically,…
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Placement/Agitiation/Aggression
My father has MS dementia. He acted out against my mother a few weeks ago and he is currently under a doctor's care at a local hospital. The issue now is that no facility will take him if he is agitated/aggressive. He is under restraints at the hospital because he keeps attempting to take IVs/feeding lines out (he refuses…
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When I Become a Memory
My cousin wrote this in 2015. I just found it. When I become a memory… Think of me with a smile. Tears may fill your eyes, But only for a little while. Remember all the good things we did. Remember when I was at my best. Remember only the good times, And let go of all the rest. Remember when I was healthy And so full of…
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Is it getting worse?
How do I know if things are getting worse? My mom’s dementia seems to have gotten noticeably worse over the past few days. We’ve had street repair work going on nearby, with heavy machinery and loud noise, and I think it might have affected her. A few days ago, while the workers were out with their equipment, two of her…
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Exhausted and feeling Overwelmed
Just finished breakfast with my DW after a no sleep night filled with her nonstop talking , yelling at the imaginary people in our house, wandering, looking for "stolen" items and occasional outbursts of anger and aggression. My efforts to distract her constantly failed. She has calmed down now at approx 8 Am for our…
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Ordering Supplements
Hello, this is my first post here, though I have read through many discussions and found them insightful and therapeutic. My DH was diagnosed with AD last year, had been showing symptoms of dementia for several years, and had a previous diagnosis of MCI. For several years, he's been ordering various supplements that claim…
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Mom passed away 10/5/25 at 12:09 pm
She is in Heaven now. And a sleep not suffering anymore. Thank you God for mercy. Jesus preached the good news. He said if we believe in him we will be with him in heaven. And when Jesus returns he will raise the dead and death will be no more in a new Kingdom under him. My Mother was a minister with her Church and…
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How do you respond to family inquiries?
My DW is was diagnosed with EO several years back. She is 60yo and deep into stage 5. She has a very supportive and loving family (parent and siblings) that are several states away. They are good people and I am fortunate to have such pleasant in laws. They reach out to us periodically to ask "how are things going?" In the…
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seeking doctor recommendation
hello all, my parent is finally willing to see a doctor re: alzheimer's/dementia. We have no diagnosis, but ALZ runs in the family and they have been experiencing moderate symptoms for a few years now. i am looking for a doctor, preferably in Monmouth County, NJ who is compassionate and patient- they will need patience to…
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Saw 4 hawks today…
I’m driving to attend a reunion with Marines my husband served with in Vietnam. 3 wives who have lost their husbands since I last attended with my husband 6 years ago will be there. My husband and I traveled in an RV and always counted hawks. He believed in Native American philosophy and hawks are good luck. On my trip…
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Experiences with refrigerator locks
I've seen posts in this forum about refrigerator locks, such as the ones sold at Amazon that adheres to the door and main case, and has a cable connecting to the two parts with a lock. What experiences have people had with them? I suspect that it will trigger anger, and pulling on the door until the glued pads fall off. I…
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Memory & Moving
My DH doesn’t remember anything that has happened in the last 20 years. We are going to need to be moving soon. One minute he seems more normal. After 30 minutes, he has already forgotten us talking about moving. Everything and I mean everything is falling on my shoulders. This move is going to be incredibly difficult. DH…
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Knee Replacement Day 6 - Questions
My DH is on Day 6 of recovery. He is in pain and I am worn out. After surgery in the hospital he started having bladder urgency to the point we couldn’t get the urinal in time. This has continued at home. We were up 7 times last night. He has been wearing pads, but overflows pad and links on underwear. It is time to get…
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Mom (92) mod/sev dementia … suggestions PLEASE
hello … mom (92) has lived with us for 10years but there’s been a gradual decline up until maybe the last year or so … it has gotten worse. i work out of the home so i am pretty much available to her for whatever she needs & at this point i am providing (or assisting/reminding) everything. my husband /my self … our 3boys…
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Durable Power of Attorney and More
This may be one of the most important topics on this forum, so I will keep it brief. Disclaimer: This is not legal advice; please seek counsel from a certified elder law attorney. There is a big difference between Power of Attorney (POA) and Durable Power of Attorney (DPOA). The documents you want are certainly the Durable…
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I'm new here
Hi, i'm a caregiver for my husband that was DX with early onset Alzheimers in 2022 at age 52. I work full time from home thankfully and am excited to have support from others that know what i'm going thru.
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Double Trouble - New to the group
I moved back to NE from Florida almost 3 years ago. I knew before I moved to Florida that my mom’s memory was getting increasingly worse. Once I moved back, I realized just how bad it had become in that short amount of time. We were able to get her to a neuropsychologist and have her tested. She has Alzheimer’s.…
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struggling
Hi dear community, I know you all will get it. I'm having one of those days. I feel like I can't be all of the places that I need to be. My nerves feel fried. Just wanted to say that if this is also you, my hand is in yours. 💜 And you are not alone. A friend shared this (see pic) about emotional burnout and I felt it in my…
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My 55 yr old DH was recently diagnosed
Hello, I am loving these forums from just a little bit that I have seen so far. My DH had the PET scan in August and it confirmed signs of early on-set Alzheimer's. I noticed about 3 years ago that his personality started to change a little but the since 2024 his decline has been rather rapid (hindsight). I have looked up…
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False Memories advice
Really struggling with a difficult situation around a false memory. My wife is convinced that our brother-in-law told us to get the heck out of there yard. There was a small dispute between her and her sister on a Friday but was mostly smoothed over by the time we left. We were back there both Saturday and Sunday and…
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Hospice
So I think it's time. Basically, if she's awake, she's agitated. Lot of other things like weight loss, incontinence, inability to feed herself, continual constipation and urine retention. I've been chtgpt'ing this for days now. I just feel so unsure as to whether she is in pain or suffering as much on the inside as she…
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Focus on the Now, the Positive, the Moments
My name is Vickie B. I turn 50 in 4 days, and I've been living with younger onset Alzheimer’s since 2021. Have I cried? Yep- a few short times. BUT I have made it my mission to not stay/live in my sadness. I choose daily to see and find beauty and joy around me. And if I have a bad day, I give myself some grace. Honestly,…
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Combative and Unreachable
I'm reaching out to the most knowledgeable group of individuals who never wanted to be here, hoping someone may have some insight and guidance as I have reached my wall. My DH, love of my life, married 56 years, has been in memory care since last July - he has mixed Dementia - alzheimers and vascular. Diagnosed 15 yrs ago…
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New to the discussion and terrified
My DH was diagnosed in March 2024 with mild cognitive impairment. We looked at the diagnosis with horror and a gift that we could try and slow the progression. Two weeks ago he had a sudden incident of bizarre walking and falling. He said he felt like he had no control of his movements. We saw our family doctor had an MRI…