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How to deal with dangerous “lies”
Hi all, new here and first post. My husband is the primary caregiver for his elderly mom. Her dementia is progressing and as such, so is her misperception and “lying”. We attempt to redirect her when she claims her jewelry and money is missing or has been stolen. However, recently she told another family member that my…
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Looking for someone to help me launch Support Grouo.
I am the Pastor/Chaplain for Holbrook Acworth. I am looking for someone to help me facilitate a monthly support group at our location.
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Depends
How do you get them to wear deoends? My BF 45yo EOAsoils himself everyday. He has peed on my side of the bed several times and today on his side of the bed. I. Am. Over. It. He is convinced it's not him and yells at me that it's not. I tell him I'm not even home and that I'm potty trained. The caregiver wants him to wear…
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when should caretaker prepare for incontinence in bed?
Hoping for some advice from the more experienced here... I've been reading posts about pads and adult diapers and getting up with a demented spouses at night, and while we're not really there yet (no accidents, he gets up by himself at night), I expect we will get to that point at some point in the future. I would like to…
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Staying up ALL NIGHT?
My Mom was diagnosed about 6 months ago. We have struggled to find the right medicine combo for her—initially trying to treat her with just Zoloft and Gabapentin, but after so many days of truly despondent mornings, we decided to Zyprexa. At her initial dose, she had a very quick improvement in mood (though an increase in…
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My wife is becoming a chipmunk.
Something new going on. Now my DW, more than once, will "eat" something but, leave the food in her mouth without swallowing. For hours. I try to get her to open her mouth, but she refuses. EVENTUALLY she will open her mouth and I can see all the masticated food inside her lips and all around her teeth. With much cajoling I…
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This disease makes EVERYTHING harder
I sit here on New Years Eve hearing fireworks in the neighborhood with DH asking me every minute or so what those noises are, and checking around outside multiple times. I feel bad that it’s making him nervous and angry and I’m selfishly wishing that people would just celebrate quietly. It adds one more thing to the list…
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Hypnagogic hallucinations
My wife told me she's been having trouble when trying to fall asleep because she's seeing things like vivid scenes of people and something like static on an old TV. We did a Google search and it sounds like hypnagogic hallucinations. We haven't been able to find any connection with MCI or dementia. But this is something…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/1/25
When Enthusiasm Is Gone Isaiah 40:30-31New International Version 30 "Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." me: When my enthusiasm…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/1/25
When Enthusiasm Is Gone Isaiah 40:30-31New International Version30 "Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." me: When my enthusiasm…
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Anyone have any luck with washable adult diapers?
Hello, Few hours till 2025 here in the east coast, but Alzheimer's doesn't care. It goes on. We're spending a fortune on adult diapers as my LO pees constantly throughout the day given the special nutrition therapy she's on. It keeps her hydrated and well-nourished, and calm, but… it makes her pee constantly. Changing 5 or…
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Hello all, new to this
Hi everyone. My DH was diagnosed with VD within last few months. Short term memory impacted and difficulty with organization. Has gotten "off track" when walking the dogs but recognizes that and can make his way back. Consistency in his routine really helps. Overall he's pleasant. Just wanted to say hello. I've found…
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A funny story
This forum is wonderful for those of us who struggle with caring for our LO. But I find that there are no funny stories here. We often focus on the hardships, but today, I want to share a story that I consider funny. Last year, my DW was able to do her own Christmas shopping. She bought me a sweater online and when it…
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Some people just don't get it
Most friends and family members have some idea of how to relate to my DH who has dementia. But there are a few who don't understand they can't have the same kind of conversation they used to have with him. They keep correcting him when he mixes up details, or says something totally nonsensical. Even had a visiting nurse…
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I Can Buy Myself Flowers
What a rough Christmas for me emotionally. DW not sure where she is a lot of the time, hard 5 hour drive getting her to her family on what may be the last Christmas I make that drive with her, and she got everyone a present but me. I took her shopping and realized later the gift I thought was for me…wasn’t. I have been…
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Rapid Progressive Dementia/Covid19 Related
MY DW passed on 12/06. After a relatively short, but intensely difficult journey. We did not have a confirmed diagnosis, as the tests were all negative and normal for her age. Her health eas rest of a healthy 45 year old, had not had any hospitalizations, rarely sick with a cold. Sometimes allergies. P. She wa sky…
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No Support From My Kids
As expected, this was the worst Christmas ever. My DW goes to the Alzheimer’s Activity Centre 7 hrs a day 5 days a week , however , they are now closed for the Christmas Holidays… reopening on the 2nd Jan 2025 as such It has been very tough for me. Keeping her occupied is brutal . Watching TV for hours is all she does and…
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What planning?
I used to love the start of a new year and being able to plan events. After my mother receiving her diagnosis this past fall, it kind of feels like 2020 again when we never knew how long we would all be stuck. She’s doing well right now and I probably wouldn’t hesitate to leave her alone for a week, but I have no idea what…
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Refuses help
My mother-in-law has Alzheimers and still lives alone but in a senior apt community. She refuses to let us take over and help her with finances although we do have power of attorney for medical and our son was given and accepted the financial power of attorney. In the past when we've mentioned she needs the help, she has…
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Dealing with early stages of this awful disease
Hi I am new here and appreciate this type of forum as we are all having to adapt to this disease. Before we moved out of state we found out that our MIL had a brain tumor. We never had a conversation with her doctor but we could tell there were signs of slight memory loss. My husband made the move out of state before the…
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Is this a stupid question?
But if some one has short term memory loss and is age 85 does that mean AD or just old age? This year, DH short term memory loss has got worse, seemingly quite quickly. I'm very depressed by this as I feel I'm losing him mentally. Is this the start of AD?
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How do I get a diagnosis for a spouse?
I am new to this site. I have noticed behaviors for about a year in my husband. Many of the issues you mention on this site are the behaviors I observed. I have a friend whose husband had Alzheimer’s and she has been so helpful. My husband will never admit he has symptoms. How do I get a diagnosis? He does allow me to go…
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Bittersweet Birthday
It's my birthday today. I've had a good day: my husband made me breakfast and coffee to take to work and had a present for me when I got home; I heard from my mom, my 3 siblings, and had lots of FB messages and texts. My husband and I had a lovely outing yesterday in the big city near us. It's also the first in my life…
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Should I tell my mom her brother passed away?
My mom has been in memory care for 2 years now. She talks very little and only a few words with no context. Her brother who did go visit her regularly passed away suddenly a couple days ago. Should I tell her or take her to the services. I really have no idea what she comprehends. She seems to know what's going on at times…
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Did the Antidepressant make my DH worse? Need some advice please.
My DH was diagnosed 4 years ago. Back then he was able to drive, run his computer, use his smart phone and manage the TV selector. Fast forward to now, he is incapable of doing any of the above, thinks there are people sitting in our house. Last Sunday I came home the front door was wide open and I spotted him walking up…
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Walking on eggshells
Dh has young onset and I feel like I'm losing my mind. Feels like I'm constantly walking on eggshells so that I don't say or do the wrong thing. And like I'm constantly running interference between him and two oldest kids. He has very little patience with them and says that they're constantly giving him attitude or talking…
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Not taking it well...
Hi, I am totally new to this...writing and my husband behavior. I also have a hard time with sharing about our life but my daughter told me...mom find some group for your self I can't help you. My husband developed sings of dementia last year in february which we didn't noticed right away. It has been getting slowly…
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Update on Decision & Question: Decline, delusions & agitation-next steps?
Mom (87yo) is declining rapidly in past 4 months and we (step-dad and I, sis occasionally) are seeing increase in her delusion that he has a GF, she comes in in middle of night and takes things, brings things, breaks things-mostly kitchen items or things in closets she doesn’t recognize-hairdryer, coats, utensils, serving…
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Nursing home time for Mom after hip surgery, doc says it is time, 2 Siblings not on board.
Mom just broke her hip and had surgery last Friday. Will need to go to nursing home for recovery. Then, doc says it is time for nursing home permanently. For the last 5 years she has had a caregiver in her home 24/7. Mom has mobility problems even before the fall and she has been in a wheelchair most of the time. She has…
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Hours of PCA care
I remember my grandmother had 24 hour aides from Medicaid or Medicare in her last years of dementia (1989-1993). I was not too aware of what was happening at the time but I recall certain facts. My aunt lived with her and was her FT carer…did not have a job..and GM still got round the clock aides. I am in the same boat as…