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How to take away responsibilities
My DH is going into his 2nd year after diagnosis. I started noticing things about 3 years prior to diagnosis. I'd say he's into stage 4 perhaps . He's still quite able to handle his personal care. It's tech th a t he struggles with. Just scrolling thru social media and such is not much of an issue, but if it's something…
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I need a hug please
So today is our Wedding Anniversary and he wants a divorce again. I didn’t say anything cause he’s been tormenting me since I woke up. It hurts cause I asked him if he’d like to go away for one night and he said no. Then unbeknownst to me he asked his friend to come in without my knowledge. So now the two of them are going…
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My Truth, Is it Yours Too?
I do not know the author but I wish I could credit them.
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Newly diagnosed? Free Zoom workshop tonight 9-23-25 for newly diagnosed.
free Zoom workshop tonight. 7:30 PM EST. How to prepare for the future. I saw this on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/share/r/17L5XA7FCc/?mibextid=wwXIfr
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Newly diagnosed? Free Zoom workshop tonight 9-23-25 for newly diagnosed.
https://www.facebook.com/share/r/17L5XA7FCc/?mibextid=wwXIfr saw this on Facebook. Newly diagnosed? Don’t know how to prepare for the future? FREE Zoom workshop tonight, Tuesday Sept 23, 2005. Link tells what time.
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At home caregiver help
Hello All! I am looking into hiring a helper for the weekdays for my Mom. I feel like she needs more attention than we can give her. What kind of questions should I ask a potential helper? I am meeting with a facility that hires out helpers this Saturday. I have vetted the company itself as much as I can online. I am…
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Fidget and Anxiety Reducing Toys
My sweet DH is a firm stage six with all the symptoms that go with AZ progression. A friend suggested buying some “toys” designed to help people with AZ reduce anxiety. Has anyone used these to calm thei LO? I saw some sites, but would like feedback from those who have used these, with the DL.
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Family support when overwhelmed
As nearly every caretakers knows it is easy to become overwhelmed. At my advanced aged, I had gotten to the point of considering both of us going into Assisted Living. Our 5 kids had already been discussing "what if Mom dies, what will we do with Dad?" as well as "What about Mom, she seems overwhelmed." Last night the 3…
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Medication administration
Hi ! my mother has been getting very confused with taking her medication despite me setting up the pill organizer each week . It is clear I need to get some help because I can’t get there each day and night. What are your experiences ? Is this something Medicare covers ? Are there agencies that will just come in for this ?…
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Alzheimer's and Finances
My 84-YO dad has Alzheimer's and is living independently still. He lives close to me, so I see him every day. As most of our loved ones, my dad does not recognize he has a memory problem. I am his POA, Guardian, etc., but he honestly doesn't remember us putting all that in place years ago. How did everyone take over the…
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The Right Answer
My Mom is in early stages of Dementia, lives along and is very stubborn. My sister and I are her care givers. We have seen her decline while making bad decisions. Our current situation is that she would like to go visit her friends in another state for a few weeks. She has visited early this past summer and things went…
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Depression and Alzheimer’s
The last few months my mother has been really battling depression. She was on a mood stabilizer for awhile, but she wanted to stop that because it was causing her to feel tired all day long. Recently her neurologist prescribed an antidepressant called Auvelity. I’m hesitant to give it to her because of all the potential…
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Zoom Group Meeting?
Is there any way we could all get together and chat on zoom maybe once a week, or every two weeks? I feel so absolutely alone, and I'm sure many of you do too. It would be nice to make friends with others who are struggling with the same collection of difficulties. I have a zoom link that we could all use. Anyone…
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So Tired This Morning
Good gosh almighty how can we all do this. I am so tired today thank goodness I understand it comes and goes but today I’m tired and very short of patience even our little dog knows to leave me alone but now i’m sad about that. It was finally bed at 10pm, then DH wandering with every light on at 2am, slumber for me for an…
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Loved one is pretending
Hello! Just frustrated today. I have caught my Mother-in-law pretending to shower a couple of times now! She turns on the water so I hear it running; she comes out with her "dirty" towels and throws them in the laundry, but when I check the towels are not or barely wet. Maybe she is doing a sponge bath but I doubt it. How…
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Long distance care
My dad is in the advanced stages of dementia. My parents live in Germany, while I’m in Texas with my own family and young kids. My sister lives close to my parents and helps as much as she can, and my brother is a few hours away. But my mom is the primary caregiver—she’s with my dad 24/7, with only a few hours of outside…
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Long Winding, Descending Road
Hello: For 5 yrs. I am a primary caregiver living with 93 yr mother who has multiple health issues, vascular dementia (VaD) and on Hospice for several months. I believe the end of the road is near. I have been circling various stages of grief as I witness what she is living through (unable to walk, stand, loss of…
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Too old for this/too young for this
Newly diagnosed spouse of 40 years. He’s in denial, I’m in panic mode and end times mode. And it’s only just started. Twist? He doesn’t want any treatment. Anyone have any experience with no treatment? Or know how it may go?
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Say something/Don't say something?
Background: I went through dementia with my husband so I'm aware of the brain changes that happen. I notice when something is suddenly "off". I have lived with my mom since my husband passed 3 years ago. She loves Christmas so we have done big time decorating for the grandkids. A year and a half ago we did a HUGE project.…
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My parents are stubborn
Hi! This is my first post here. My dad has ALZ. I'm not sure what stage because his neurologist hasn't told us. He's progressing. My mom, my dad's caretaker is really struggling with accepting dad's behavior changes. My dad did a lot, all the driving, yard work, filled the car with gas etc. She's not a confident driver so…
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Just sharing a positive/happy moment
We live in a very rural area, not close to any family, most friends have moved away or passed on. Our awesome next door neighbor just called to see if my husband would like to go watch him at his ju-jitsu class then stop for lunch after. This same neighbor took a day off work a couple of months ago to drive me to a doctor…
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Baby Monitor, LifeAlert type necklace, or other option best for Mom with Alzheimer’s?
Short version of our situation: my sister, brother and I are caregivers for my Mom. She’s 7 years in now (4 years since official diagnosis). We live split across a duplex, and there’s usually at least one of us on call. We had been able to leave her by herself for a couple hours if necessary, but that may be changing. I…
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Questions about memory care
My husband has been in a secure memory care unit for 3 weeks. It's noisy and the shared areas are crowded. About a third of the residents are non-verbal. There are 18 patients with a nurse and two CNA's. After lunch, everyone is told to go to the TV room where they seem to stay until dinner, unless they decide to take a…
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Gulp. So new I hope I’m reading incorrectly
New diagnosis. Hubby. I’m reading posts saying seven years, nine years. Still dealing with new memory failings? Issues. I did just order that book someone suggested. I just don’t think I can handle all this. Is this with treatment that slows progression or without? Go ahead. I’m obviously very naive and have no clue right?…
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The Clock Stopped
In the middle of a concentrated time of reviewing important documents (…and needing a break) I was interrupted with DW coming into the room upset because the clock "stopped again!" and her TV shows were all mixed up "I give up!" she said. I managed to not react and instead said kindly "Can you show me so that I can fix…
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Her Signs In Stage 8
Over the course of the weeks leading up to my dear wife's passing. strange things kept occurring, signs if you believe, that she was providing. There were so many "coincidences" that we began to believe that was something more at play. I am uneasy even writing that here or saying it publicly. But, they continue. Images in…
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Teaching Myself To Breath
As my wonderful DH’s VD and Aphasia progress I am trying to teach my self to sit still and just breath, gently and slowly in and out. This is a challenge and so hard as I have always been movement plus. I am also trying to use all the support that I have access to because as we all know the cavalry won’t come unless you…
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MCI-- treatment with Lecanemab or Donanemab
This is my first post. I am a caregiver for my DW who was recently diagnosed with MCI with an APOE 3/4. We will be having an important discussion soon with a neurologist who is going to present us with the two possible treatment options of either Lecanamab or Donanemab; but we are quite fearful of the possible negative…
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Patience...
…I'm out of it. I’ve heard it said that resilience is a virtue, and in my current position, I really need it to be. For the past three years, my husband has had an official diagnosis of Alzheimer’s, but looking back, I realize the signs were there for years before. I had no idea what I was getting into. Now that we're…
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65 days in memory care
I haven't posted in a while, but I thought I would tell the story of my DH's adjustment to MC and ask you all a question. He had a very rough time for the first three weeks, then slowly began to adjust and to take part in activities which has progressed to him being fairly happy by six weeks or so. One of the reasons he's…