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After Years of Caregiving, Uncle w/Dementia Needs Remote Support - Affordable Tech/Dev Suggestions
I'm at a major crossroads and feeling a huge mix of relief, guilt, and stress. I'm hoping for some practical advice, especially from those who've managed long-distance care for someone with dementia. For the past few years, my life has been completely dedicated to caring for my uncle. He got divorced about 10 years ago and…
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Feeling lost, dad has passed and am struggling to handle his estate
My dad passed a week ago. My mom preceded him in death. I have a copy of their will and I was his activated POA. The attorney that created the will is no longer living. What do I do next? Do I need to hire an attorney to instruct us how to process the will, file his taxes, etc.? Is there a checklist of all the things I…
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How to deal with a mom that thinks you're stealing.
Hello, first time poster and just wanted to get some advice. My 87yr young mother is in early/mid stage dementia. Her short term memory is at maybe 30%. And unfortunately she's begun to confuse long term memories with recent ones. Example, she thinks my grandma who passed away 47 yrs ago just passed away a couple years ago…
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Lots of ‘Pams’
Looking for some feedback on lorazepam. Hospice is suggesting (for nighttime when it gets very difficult) getting off of temazepam, increasing serequol and start using lorazepam as needed. Anyone been through a similar path? She sleeps well on temazepam it’s just getting there that’s the challenge.
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Well Meaning Friends
My husband is losing memories. It’s funny, how we’ll be at a dinner party, or run into old friends at the supermarket, and he tells them he is getting forgetful. In most cases, they immediately respond with, “Me too!” and then go on to tell of forgetting where they put their glasses, failing to remember the name of a prior…
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Correlation- Active Dreams w Movement and Dementia?
Hi, Has anyone else seen info that if you have dreams where you're usually fighting something off and you move/thrash, especially kicking or running motion, that it's an almost slam-dunk predictor of degenerative brain diseases? I saw a couple studies that got quoted in many news items.
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Funny / not funny
Found dozens like this in mom’s text messages. She tried.
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Possible diagnosis
Waiting for the diagnosis to come in but considering what it’ll take to just admit it’s Alzheimer’s. The Amyloid score was 44.3 and he is clearly symptomatic. (Been about 2years) This waiting phase is hard - I want to start reaching out for help and notifying family. But the neurologist follow up isn’t for another month.
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What do you to talk about with your LOs?
My DH with Alz is in late stage 4, perhaps early stage 5. Most days he's still quite independent in caring for himself and doing household chores. The problem I'm having is that chatting with him has become such a mentally exhausting task. I find myself thinking "oh, I'll just tell him about this" and then I realize I…
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Long Winding, Descending Road
Hello: For 5 yrs. I am a primary caregiver living with 93 yr mother who has multiple health issues, vascular dementia (VaD) and on Hospice for several months. I believe the end of the road is near. I have been circling various stages of grief as I witness what she is living through (unable to walk, stand, loss of…
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Quick question
My DW is in late stage 5. The past month or so she has begun to shadow me wherever I go in the house. I tried daycare last couple of weeks which was a disaster. After about 2 hours there she began to cry uncontrollably saying that I left her there and wasn’t coming back. Today DW,s aunt came over to watch her while I got…
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Volunteer's?
hi, I'm new to the Vancouver area and I'm in need of volunteers and entertainers, and any ideas of who to reach out to?
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Palliative care
Hi all it’s been awhile since I had trouble with my password 🤦♀️ my daughter keeps wanting me to get my LO on Palliative Care. He is diagnosed Alzheimer’s stage 4-5. Our biggest problem now is getting him to eat. He just says I already ate or I’m not hungry. He talks to himself ALL day, I just don’t know if he would…
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seroquel
Hope everyone has survived the day. I'm searching for a solution to my newest dilemma and hoping you fine folks on here can shed some light. My DH is experiencing some hallucinations (people in the house, vehicle, etc), as well as ever increasing agitation, temper tantrums and fractured sleep. I've scheduled an appointment…
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Newly Diagnosed - Infusion Therapy?
Hi all, I am new to this group and am excited to learn from everyone! My Mom is 85 and recently diagnosed with "early stage" alz. The Neurologist is wanting an updated MRI, but feels that she is a good candidate for infusion therapy. Has anyone has experience with this?? She does very well (still drives and volunteers at…
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Early in journey and feel it is progressing faster than expected
My wife has been diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer’s. She is on Leqembi infusions (7 complete), aricept but feel she is progressing. She is still working part time at Trader Joe’s and they are so accommodating…that is great for her to keep her going. She drives pretty much locally. Has anyone’s LO been on Leqembi…did it…
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I Want To Live With Someone Else
My spouse with nearly complete aphasia has managed to pull out that full sentence for a couple of weeks now. She is soooooo sick of me being her caregiver. I now represent the person controlling her life and keeping her from driving to go see friends, etc. Which I am, though I'm providing her a safe, loving and comfortable…
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Do I let go or keep going?
My SO who is 46yo EOA is on hospice but thus far it has been more of palliative care. This last week has taken a HUGE turn. The week prior he was up and walking around during the day and would be resting/sleeping when I got home after work from about 5pm till bedtime (8pm/9pm). This last Thursday he lost balance and fell…
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Memory care guilt
My mom was driving and living alone 3 years ago and now can barely walk with a walker, has total incontinence, can't dress herself, and is furious I put her on memory care, where im sure frightens her because she sees her future there. I am overwhelmed with guilt over this decision. It was my decision alone because my…
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Becoming mean
My mom is 90, currently in independent living apartment. She picked the facility 10 years ago so she could access transitional help as she aged. I believe she is in the latter part of early stage dementia. The last year she bas become very argumentative with everyone … fired one cleaning service and “hates” the new one.…
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Hospice and new strategies
Good morning. Some off you know me. Briefly DW diagnosed in 2019. Clearly in later stages. I tend not to use the stage number because it gets confusing but she's clearly in stage 6 area. Non verbal except jabbers all the time in a sort of distressed manner. I think it would be classified as global aphasia. Not totally…
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ARIA - Do most medical professionals / EMTs know what this is???
I will soo start Leqembi and want to get a medical Id bracelet. I was thinking of putting "at risk for ARIA" but am not sure this is a well known term? Any insight?
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Anyone Using Tack GPS device?
Hi, Just got a Tack for my dad, pretty good, but it kicks my husband off if I'm on and vice versa. I also only want to see where he is, not share my location but it keep wanting my location and drains my phone battery. Any ideas?
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Hired companions to supplement MC.
I’m new here. I started writing a long backstory and decided to cut it down to the immediate situation. Mom has been in MC for about a year after being diagnosed with dementia. She went from living independently and walking regularly to MC in a matter of weeks. She has been unhappy depressed and angry about her situation.…
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How to handle transition to memory care
My sister has been living in an assisted living residence for about 3 years, but her cognitive abilities are quickly slipping into a need for more care. She's falling, wandering into other apartments, needing more assistance with hygiene, even having very strong delusions. She's openly expressed a fearful dread of being…
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Progressing too fast
It’s been awhile since I posted. My mom, 73, has been in MC for over a year. This past month she went from being okay to almost completely mute. No UTI. Her suite mate was her security/friend. But she started having bad mood swings and taking it out on my mom. My mom has since become withdrawn and just this past…
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Her Sun Has Risen...
I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…
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Husband has dementia plus OCD
I hardly know where to start! My husband has a physical disability and has had symptoms of OCD (never officially diagnosed) for many years. The first signs of dementia started about ten years ago. I don't think it is Alzheimer's but three different providers have called it dementia (frontal-temporal or even Lewy body are…
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Loved one is too restless, won't sleep or rest
Hello, my wife will only sleep a few hours a night, and when she's awake she cannot sit still or lie down to rest for more than a few minutes. Then she wants to walk around the house, again and again and again. She needs assistance walking, so this need for constant attention puts a strain on myself and even our 24/7…
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Tired and Sad
I thought I was handling things quite well. But short of sleep for the last couple of nights then this morning started at 5.30 with DH saying come on get up, I mumble back, 6 o’clock is get up time and then we’ll have a cup of tea. DH was agitated thinking we had a doctors appointment and we had to get ready. It’s Saturday…