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Dementia certified caregivers
Would becoming a certified dementia caregiver help me remotely manage my DO's care? I'm looking for more specific info on how to communicate with her and her anticipated caregivers. I'd appreciate the groups input on whether a certified caregiver seems to be more knowledgeable than non-certified caregivers. Thanks for…
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Is There Anything Else I Can Be Setting Up?
Hi everyone! I hope you and all of our loved ones are doing well. I (27 F) am one of three care givers for my mama (62 F). I have just recently felt as if I have a handle on her Alzheimer's, but am wondering if I'm missing anything that I can set up for her/us to support us some more as she continues to progress. So far I…
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New Parents
My husband & I just "baby-proofed" our new house in anticipation of my 84 year old mom moving in. She has spiraled quickly over the past few months. She moved in today! The days leading up to today's move has been maddening. She did everything contrary to instructions given. Her meds are either not being taken, or worse,…
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Advice for MC Front Desk Receptionist?
A less critical question than usual, but I am interested in your views: This week I will have a meeting at my dad’s MC, and I will be asked a routine question about my experience as a frequent family visitor. The facility has two receptionists. One is marvelous: kind, compassionate, genuine. The other, newer person is…
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Working with the 90-second rule
I realize it depends on the stage, but has anyone worked with the 90-second rule and made it work effectively? "Give patient’s at least 90 seconds to process what you are asking and allow them to react" I feel that if the caregiver is waiting for 90-seconds (or whatever is appropriate), the PWD may forget what was asked by…
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Thoughts on Travel
My husband is 56 and has Dementia, Dercum's Disease, and a TBI from his military service. He is well into stage 4. He easily loses focus, gets confused, loops with questions, loses items, forgets to take meds or where he is going, and we are having the discussion about driving because he has gotten lost 3 times in trying…
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Finding My Way
Hello! I recently moved my 79 y/o brother in with me from a different state after the death of his wife last November. He is wheelchair bound with multiple sclerosis and has just been diagnosed with mid stage Alzheimer's. He's had a difficult time adjusting to the new changes and has no desire to meet people in this area.…
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Recalled Medication: Duloxetine (Generic Cymbalta from Towa Pharmaceuticals)
I'm posting this because a few folks here have mentioned using it. Antidepressant recalled due to presence of potentially cancer-causing impurity - ABC News
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My dad diagnosed with slight dementia
Hi everyone, happy there's a group for people like myself. First off my dad was rushed to the ER 2 years ago for DKS ( diabetic ketoacidosis) 1 week later after being discharged got a stroke and about 2 months later got prostate cancer. We then did a test that his neurologist sent him to complete about 1 year ago and they…
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Hallucinations
I am the 24/7 caregiver for my wife who suffers from mid to early late term dementia. She has had various hallucinations, usually after wakening in the AM, but recently has had one that repeats itself, and she bring it up all day long. She repeated insists that "a man" comes to her bedroom and disrupts her things by either…
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Long term care
I am new to the forum. I woke up a week or so ago and was just researching things on ALZ, and came across various discussions. My husband is from a large family (20 siblings and 7 children), and dementia runs in his family. I had some idea what was ahead when he began to have cognitive issues, but I was optimistic that we…
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Haven't we all?
Aa my husband transitioned to stage 7, I decided to visit this discussion, as I expect to lose him soon. Then I realized, I lost him years ago. My helpful, funny, kind husband disappeared years ago. Loving someone with dementia means losing them, slowly.
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Brain autopsy
Is anyone planning on getting a brain autopsy on their LO once they enter stage 8? If so, how did you go about making the arrangements? I think I would like to know what dementia(s) my DH had for the sake of his children and grandchildren.
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Dads MRI is Wednesday
I want to tank everyone who was so kind to answer my desperate plea for help. I received soooooo much advice & guidance & I count myself so blessed to have found a direction to follow. Someone recommended to me to get the book “The CareGivers Script.” (20.00 on Amazon). IT IS PHENOMENAL . It is a literal prescription for a…
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How should I handle this?
Would like your thoughts. Mom lives alone, with some assistance, and has decided that I am trying to steal her money, dog, house, independence, etc…boy she has gotten herself worked up. Everyone she talks to hears about the atrocities I have committed, plus some. When I try to talk to her she is curt and snide. She seems…
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Do an Angioplasty with S4?
Hello Friends, My DW had a diagnostic heart calcium test showing “medium” elevated numbers, so we visited the cardiologist. She has no common heart problem symptoms and her echocardiogram was normal, but her following stress test revealed “some” reduced O2 absorption at the top and bottom of the heart. The cardiologist…
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Alzheimers and Christian Science
My "mother in law" (boyfriend's mother) was recently diagnosed with Alzheimers. We've had suspicions for a while. As we are starting to navigate more caregiving with her around this, we consistently run into tension around her faith, Christian Science. She basically believes it's mind over matter, she will be healed thru…
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Just Put Mom in Memory Care Against Her Will
Hi, my brothers and I have medical and financial POA for my mother. She fell over a year ago and broke many bones and almost died. She's been in 24/7 skilled nursing for a year, and we just moved her to a lovely Assisted Living Memory Care facility on Tuesday. She is so angry at us kids and calls us names and ungrateful…
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Memory care questions
I’m in the process of finalizing my plan B for my DW with EOAD. I’ve got a couple of questions for those that have placed their LO into MC or SNF. How long did you stay away at the initial placement and once your LO was settled in how often did you visit and for how long each time. A question for those of you that placed…
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Scammers
Hello, anyone had issues with their DH being vulnerable to scammers? I have had to change the cell number, delete What’s App and FB messenger. In addition, limited the debit card to certain amount of ATM transactions and point of sales. I have also taken away credit cards. It’s been a terrible weekend getting scammed for…
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It's never too early to prepare for Stage 8
Prepare now for Stage 8 My wife is currently in Stage 7 and is still physically healthy. However, I know that it can change at any time. Some time ago I started planning for what needs to be done before and after she dies. She has a paid funeral plan in place; the funeral home will take care of all the details. All I will…
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Bittersweet Day
Today is our 59th wedding anniversary. When I visit him in MC today, I will take him a cupcake and tell him what day it is. He will look surprised for just a second and then it will pass. He won't/ can't remember anything these days much less our anniversary. But he will enjoy the cupcake and I remember what day it is.…
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When You Moved Your LO to MC…
I am trying to gather information for the future on how hard the process might be once you make the decision your LO needs MC. You hear nightmare stories of people desperately looking for MC and unable to find it or settling for sub-standard care. My goal is to avoid that happening. 1) Were you on a waiting list for MC for…
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Social distancing for caregivers
Just wondering if other caregivers feel like they have lost all social connection with the outside world. My DH has isolated us with his bizarre behavior and obsessions. There are too many weird behaviors to name when we go out in public. I have actually started avoiding outings due to embarrassment. He has no social…
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I have EO alzheimer's
It took forever to accept this diagnosis. My family has always held me to very high standards. Along with the diagnosis they all stopped contacting me. I have begged anyone even my husband to come talk to my doctor during my appointments. They all tell me this is my problem. My doctor thinks I need to find alternative…
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unexpected feeling of jealousy
My wife is in memory care for over 2 years and is stage 7. A month or so ago a new resident moved into her MC, she was in much better physical health then my wife and a little better cognitively. About a week or a little more ago that resident had a sudden and unexpected turn for the worse and died a few days later. I was…
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Alzheimer’s with infidelity delusions
My DH has ongoing infidelity delusions. There are so many stories he comes up with of me being unfaithful I feel they are graphic and they are intensifying. Stories are of me being unfaithful with coworkers, contractors, neighbors, and even participating in a group. He claims I have been unfaithful our entire marriage…
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Her Sun Has Risen...
I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…
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New here and probably should have been here a while ago.
Mom started forgetting things and developing coping mechanisms 3 to 4 years ago. My sister, who is a doctor, and I tried to get her to go have a cognitive test and she refused. She still refuses. She has progressed from confabulating to perseverating and seems sometimes very agitated. I think she "gets up" for her annual…
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Advice on Home Care, plus the Dreaded Question...
I’m new here and so grateful I found this site filled with amazing stories, compassion, helpful information, love and support. It’s a wonderful community navigating a difficult journey… I too, am on the journey. My DW is likely stage 4 and becoming less verbal, more withdrawn, and lost interest in cooking. She needs…