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when to stop work
Hello family, My DH is not remembering who I am. Has our wedding picutures from one room to another. Im thinking this might be soon til , the is last time he remembers us. He sleeps alot and is awake til ??? During day I work 4 days 730-5. Should I quit working? I dont know
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How do I make this decision
My DH has had Alzheimer’s for about six years. He eats well, is somewhat responsive but does not engage in conversations, forgets to bathe and brush his teeth etc. He is not incontinent. We have hospice in once a week to help him shower, which he objects to, and a nurse to check vitals. He also has congestive heart…
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Maintaining my marriage
My MIL has not been diagnosed that we know of but she is extremely forgetful, paranoid, and just plain cruel. She swears the doctors have told her she does not have dementia but refuses to let any family or her husband go into the doctor's office with her so we seriously doubt that is true. My husband (her son) and I are…
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Considering Alzheimer's as a spiritual journey
Found this on Google, and thought it'd be a useful perspective: Alzheimer's is viewed as a potential spiritual journey for both the person with dementia and their caregiver, offering opportunities for growth, connection, and a deeper understanding of self and life's meaning, even amid loss and confusion. This perspective…
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Update
I want to give an update on what's been happening with DH. In my last two thread I shared that the facility said the state told them he had to move because of an incident where he wandered and got into bed with a female resident and touched her in an inappropriate place. The Division of Health and Senior Services (DHHS)…
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PBM laser light therapy for Alzheimer’s
Have any of your love ones had PBM laser therapy treatments? If so, has it helped for cognition? The research on this therapy for Alzheimer’s is promising for delaying the progression.
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Need advice
I am hoping someone out there has experienced a something similar and can provide some guidance. Background: My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s “with a vascular contributing factor” in 2023. I would say he is probably in the moderate stage now. To the average person, he seems normal. Short term memory is really bad;…
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Moving Mom
My sister and I are getting things ready in my mom's new room in Memory care. She will be moving in on the 2nd. Any advice from those that have already moved their parent? What things did you find helpful? What didn't go so great? Necessary items for the room? Any advice would be helpful!
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Organizing home care
Hi everybody! I have learned much from this forum (thanks!), but now I face a new problem and need your kind advice again. My DW (82) has late-stage dementia. So far, I have been able to take full care of her (besides a bit of respite care from an aide), but all my current arrangements depend on my wife's ability to walk…
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Ordering Supplements
Hello, this is my first post here, though I have read through many discussions and found them insightful and therapeutic. My DH was diagnosed with AD last year, had been showing symptoms of dementia for several years, and had a previous diagnosis of MCI. For several years, he's been ordering various supplements that claim…
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The Long Quiet
Dear Friends, I am quickly approaching ten years as a caregiver for my dear wife with late Stage 6 dementia. Alzheimer’s and dementia have long been known as The Long Goodbye because of the painfully long duration of the disease. No one knows how long their journey as a caregiver will go on, but I never imagined myself…
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How to answer questions about going home.
My lo is in assisted living for past 3 weeks, she constantly cries that she wants to go home. She has moderate dementia and is 95 years old
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How to Respond to Family/ Friends who mean well but their comments are a bit much at Times
A family friend says tell your mother Hello, even though she may not remember me. Or I heard she is really bad off.
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A little pick-me-up
Sometimes the smallest kindest can make you feel so blessed. An old friend from our ski club who found out my circumstances sent me a gift box with this beautiful mug. I loved the message on it and wanted to pass it on to all of you awesome caregivers. We didn’t choose this life but we’re making the best of it out of love…
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Should you tell mom that her brother has passed away?
New to the group here. Mom has late stage dementia, is 93 and her brother who lives in another state passed away. My dad who is 94 insists on telling her. I don’t think we should. I’ve gotten advice from medical professionals explaining the risks (and lean towards not telling her). I have to respect my dad‘s decision, but…
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My Heart Will Go On..
I lost my husband and soulmate to Alzheimer’s one year ago today. It’s been a rough day. I miss him so much it hurts. I'm thankful for the beautiful memories we made. Love you LonHo! 🙏💜 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3QAqZQYLIQ Every night in my dreams I see you, I feel you That is how I know you go on Far across the…
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vitamin B12 abnormally High
Hello I recently had a diagnosis changed from early onset dementia to Mild cognitive Impairment after psychological testing. a few weeks ago I had a lumbar puncture test done and some blood work. In my cerebral spinal fluid I had abnormally very high vitamin b12 and abnormally high Red Blood cells in my CSF as well. my…
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New to community with Alzheimers
Hi my name is Katie. I am 67 years old, from MS and diagnosed in 2018. I am moderate stage. Looking for support, coping skills and living with anxiety.
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Dementia study done by the UK
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-15084673/sleep-brain-ageing-dementia-insomnia-brain-ageing.html Interesting.
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End stage
My father insists on taking care of my mom till the very end. He is struggling medically as well and they need lots of support. They are currently in assisted-living however I’m wondering at one point do I insist on memory care?
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Gentleness and Continuation
I guess after reading about so many other situations I have it very easy. My DH is not aggressive, he’s very sweet and kind the sort of person that everyone loves. He gave up driving relatively easily and is quite good as a passenger, he accommodates most of my wishes if I manipulate the circumstances to suit. We go to the…
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Wedding Ring
My DH lost his wedding a while back but keeps thinking he just lost it. He just told me he lost his wedding ring and said “ I know I had it yesterday” but he didn’t. I’m concerned now cause of the distress this is causing him. I’m acting nonchalant but he’s clearly worried. Should I go buy a new one and pretend I found it?…
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worried about my own memory
My husband was diagnosed with early stage Alzheimers and lately I am wondering if I have alzheimers. I do not know if it is from the stress. He is very negative and constantly talking about what is wrong with him. I try to be patient but it is sometimes difficult with his pessimistic attitude. I am not sure if anyone else…
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Bathing why it’s a struggle
I’m new to all this and the group. Yesterday was a bad day for me I have never reached out before but mum for the first time ever got so angry and nasty to me it was a shock never has she done this before in my whole life and I’m 52. All because I’m trying to get her to bathe. I hope and pray she doesn’t start to associate…
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"Exhaustion" by Michael J Whelan
I follow Michael on X (Twitter). His is a stage 4 cancer survivor & his wife Rebecca has Parkinson's & now Parkinson's Dementia. He has such a way with words. He expresses what many of us feel. He posted this today: "A Letter to Exhaustion.by Michael Whelan Chapter 21. An except from my memoir. Dear Exhaustion, You didn’t…
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Elizabeth Dole Foundation assistance for caregivers of veterans
if you are the caregiver of a veteran, contact the Elizabeth Dole Foundation for assistance. Veterans do not have to have a disability rating to qualify for assistance. Go on their website and fill out the intake form. I posted further information on the caregiver information page with their phone number and assistance…
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Kisunla
Good morning to all. I hope you’re finding peace somewhere along this journey that we’re all on together. I don’t post very often, but a friend sent me an article about a new monthly infusion called Kisunla. I’m wondering if anybody out there is aware of this or has had any experience with it. This is advertised as yet…
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I don’t think I can do this
My mother and stepfather had both been in decline for several years and I have tried multiple types of interventions and been spending about half of my time with them at their house 2 ½ hrs from me for about a year. Two months ago my stepfather became ill and he died a week ago yesterday. I had been at their house pretty…
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The move from Al to a SNF
We moved mom yesterday. We told her about a week before the move (my brother insisted). When we got there she had packed up everything in the room. My brother insisted we bring whatever she wants, that there is room for. When I asked mom what boxes go she points to a pile. I bring them to my car and they have sewing…
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It Is Over
Three weeks ago my dear wife of 57+ years ended her battle with this cruel and heartless disease, Alzheimer/Dementia. She declined very fast over the few weeks prior. I promised her at the start that I would do my best to never put her somewhere for her care but, rather, have her at home forever. While it does nothing to…