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Hypersexuality
My husband talks about sex constantly, uses language he never used before, and is grabby like a teenager ( he's 72). I am not dealing well with this, I see him differently now that I am his caretaker and he is incontinent and hates to shower. I usually change the subject but it's making him upset.
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How do you respond to family inquiries?
My DW is was diagnosed with EO several years back. She is 60yo and deep into stage 5. She has a very supportive and loving family (parent and siblings) that are several states away. They are good people and I am fortunate to have such pleasant in laws. They reach out to us periodically to ask "how are things going?" In the…
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Easy website for answering questions about my father's condition
My father has had Alzheimer's Disease for the past 7+ years and has progressed into a later stage. I've had lots of questions along the way and I'm finding it really frustrating to search and visit lots of websites for simple answers. Just discovered pfizer has a new website that answers questions. I put in some questions…
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Getting desperate
Hi all. I care for my partner who has dementia and has only just recently been diagnosed even though it has been obvious for two years. He has no idea of the day/date/year nor even the season. He goes to daycare three days a week, thank God, but it's costing us a fortune. My main problem is he's so nasty now, and a…
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outings
Is it helpful or harmful to take the person for a ride or to a relatives home for a few hours when the person with dementia wants to "get out of here". Will returning to the facility be even more upsetting?
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DH has the flu
My husband is stage 6. Started coughing, fever- I took him to the urgent care today, yes he has the flu. It seems his dementia has gotten so much worse when he started showing flu symptoms. I’ve heard that can happen. He has had 2 bowel accidents today, very unstable on his feet, talking to himself. The dr said the…
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Need good doctor for mom
We went to neurologist today have meds we are starting for mom with alzheimer. The neuroligist is a busy guy so can't be her regular doc. I would like suggestions of a good primary doc for mom who can oversee her health meds or work with elderly. Any names of good docs out there in twin cities or surrounding area.
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Whom do I believe? My Mom or the caretaker?
Hi Everyone! I'm new to this community. This is my first post. My Dad passed away last fall and I had to take over as my Mom's caretaker. She has dementia and I am her POA and only living relative who is able and willing to take care of her. I have been very overwhelmed taking care of my Mom since my Dad died, especially…
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Thank Your Past Self
Please take a moment and think about something you did in the past, that makes your present situation better. When I started caring for my parents, as I began each visit, I made a new note on my phone. It was always titled Thank You! Each time I benefited from one of my past actions, I put a hash tag on my note. For…
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Retaliation after ADA Accommodation Request
Does anyone have any experience with retaliation after an ADA Accommodation is requested/approved that you would be willing to share/discuss?
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delusional mother being abusive towards me
I am so worn down by my mother's constant accusations, and although I know its a disease it still hurts so much! She doesnt have anyone else, so I am her main source of care- I get her groceries, do her hair and nails, take care of her finances, manage her meds, take her to all her appointments, and moved her…
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New territory and things are changing
Facing facts here. Thought I was dealing with things the best I could as they continue to evolve. DH fell about a month ago when he got up at night to pee. Luckily he wasn't injured too much, just a cut on his hand that bled a lot. A few days ago he stubbed his right little toe, again when he got up in the night. He said…
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Toured a few memory care facilities
My DH is in moderate stage and I plan to take care of him as long as possible, but been told to have a Plan B. I never realize the memory facilities are so competitive with each other. And, they are a little pushy at when to admit him. They told me they would not be able take him if I wait too long. My DH is doing good and…
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Walking with walker
Looking for someone to help my mom walk with a walker. She is at woodlake nursing home and they confine her to a wheelchair. We live 1 hour away. I want to keep her strength up.
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What to tell
So, mom is pleasantly demented, and in a terrific ALF. That said besides her memory issues she is pretty healthy thank god. 84yr old. Her sister is not well and declining and I cannot imagine it will be long she is 90 very sick in hospital. Should my aunt pass, Should I tell mom? She of course remembers her and asks about…
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Needing to move mother to memory care
92 yo mother has been in assisted living for 18 months. Over the last year she has had more episodes of confusion and disordered sleep. She often refuses to dress for bed and will wander the hallway at night - we have an upcoming care meeting and I expect that they will say she needs to move to the memory care unit. We…
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New research angle- Sugar
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Advice for Going Back to Work
I took FMLA for a year to assist with the new diagnosis of Alzheimers for my mom. It was intermittent FMLA so while I still worked, I was able to take off for appointments, my own mental health, and days that seemed like my mom just needed someone to be with her. I was averaging about 20 hours a week rather than my full 40…
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Medicaid
I have a phone meeting with elder law next Tuesday. I'm going to try get my parents on Medicaid but am concerned if there is enough money in the government/state to continue funding and if there will be future cutoffs. I will let the lawyer know about my concerns.
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New to this group
Hello, I'm new to this group and Just looking for support I guess. My husband has been recently diagnosed with what the doctors are calling "Alzheimer's-Like" dementia. He's due to have NeuroPsych testing in late May. So maybe we'll have more answers after that about his condition. He's been having memory difficulties for…
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Wandering outside
My partner has been wandering every day now. The police were called six times in a month. She hallucinates and has delusions that there are other people inside the house besides us that want to harm her, or that her "children" are being held captive. She becomes angry and goes out the door, sometimes without her phone,…
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Cereal ..... Again
HWD is reaching the stage where he will wander off during a meal, and he is starting to lose weight. So foods that hold up (no cereal for him) to long meals and high calorie snacks are prominent in our house. But for me, by the time I have him in bed (if I can keep him up until 6:30 that's a win) I'm too tired to make a…
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Did I Over React?
Hello All - I haven't posted here for several months but wanted to check in as I got such great advice last time. My DH had a massive shift in personality last year that lasted for about 10 months. He became angry, with explosive outbursts and was emotionally unstable. I became very concerned that it was some form of…
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Driving
How do I begin the conversation with my DH who is beginning to show signs of driving incompetence. He rooms over to the lane beside him and straddles the lane lines, he hits the brakes abruptly when he gets in a close situation or even when pulling out of our driveway and sends me forward without my seatbelt on yet even…
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In need of guidance
My DH has a caregiver come twice a week to take some of the pressure off of me. The agency which we get them from had a 5 star rating and I always only read the bad ratings…which they didnt have. The problem is the agency doesnt let us know when the caregiver calls out for whatever reason or if they are sending anyone…
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From Spouse to Nurse
I've seen many here who are further down the road than me and my DW, who mention how moving mentally from spouse to nurse or captain helped the caregiver find a different set of patience and ability to manage. I feel like I could use that more in my approach, but how in the world did that finally click with you all? Early…
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They really have no idea!!
My DW has had EOAD for a little over two years now. I am finally realizing that my family and friends have no idea what we are going through. I welcomed their wanting to help with suggestions or articles they found to help us. As my DW’s symptoms have advanced, everyone has given their opinion on placing my DW in MC. I…
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Medical Marijuana: Anyone w/ experience?
I've been on the regular caregiver's board, but likely should have been here. I'm a 69-year-old man.. My Mom was 91. I was her primary caregiver for two years. She passed two days ago. My heart literally hurts. It's the dull hurt one has during extreme sadness, located just a little left of the center of the chest. She was…
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Financial questions related to care
Hello. I'm sure this comes across as ignorant. I'm not, and probably just looking for affirmation of my expectations, but if anyone has any feedback - without judgement please - I would appreciate it. DH has been diagnosed at age 62. I work very part time. Young teens. House is not paid for and definitely don't have even…
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Thoughts
Is it common for late stage Alzheimer’s patients to just suddenly lose the ability to walk? Like one day pacing the house on her own and then the next day the legs just giving out. Hospice doctor says it is just progression, I don’t know if it’s progression or an infection or am I just in denial?