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Not eating , can the reason be because of knowing what lyes ahead ?
I 've read that with dementia that eating habits can change . Food tastes different , etc. etc . But my fear is that my DW is starving herself so not to put me or our family through the journey . Is there anyone else who has had this feeling or actually experienced this ?
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RAV phone
My husband can not work the simple Jitterbug phone any longer and I am thinking of getting him a RAV phone. They are $ but I need something for him in case of emergency. Does anyone have any experience with these - good or bad? Thank you
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Dirty habits
HI. My mom is a stage 6 dementia patient and we have a caregiver for her during day time while I am away for work. From evening 5 pm, I take care of her and I have set a daily pattern for her. 1. Take her down for a stroll in the society everyday. Make her sit with her old friends n I socialize with then, such that she…
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Does Memory Care actually help
I obviously have been obsessing about memory care for months. My husband is probably late stage 5, can't do any ADL's without help, very bad arthritis so walking is difficult. We go to twice weekly exercise classes and various musical events and will occasionally take a short walk in a nearby canyon. He will walk short…
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Help with deciding next step with mom
My mom has had ALZ since 2017 and is now in the later stages; not bed ridden yet but now a fall risk, unable to speak in full sentences and very agitated, and needs to move to skilled nursing. This will move her to Medicaid and I need a resource with knowledge of Pennsylvania and Maryland law because my sister and I can’t…
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The Mental Switch
Hey all, Many of you have talked about how at a certain point, you made a mental switch from loving spouse to loving caregiver…or something along those lines. I'm curious about how you've done that. My DW is getting more paranoid and complains about how "I'm not taking care of her needs", which means sitting next to her…
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Life Insurance
Just throwing this out there as food for thought….if any of you are caring for a loved one that is going through any issues related to AD and do not have individual life insurance, be sure YOU protect yourself and your loved ones for future health issues. Get an individual life policy that will potentially cover expenses,…
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Anyone with a parent living for their pet?
Hello to all…I have SO many different things to talk about, but one thing that has been weighing on me since we moved my mom into our home one year ago today is this…we think she is living for her pet. Like most people with pets, it's family. Of course! I have pets of my own and have almost my entire life and can't image…
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Paranoia
DH is 62 and still working. He is constantly telling me that nobody at work talks to him and that I am making life decisions without him. He also is saying our adult sons don’t talk to him and our grandson that lives with us is different. Our grandson has not changed his interactions with DH. Is this paranoia? Is this part…
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Alzheimer’s/Dementia or Just Narcissistic?
My covert narcissistic mom has had some off/on memory issues for the past couple years like where she puts things. My brother and I can’t tell whether it is normal aging or more than that. In the past two months, she has suddenly started making up stories about her youngest sister doing black magic, trying to break into…
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Mental Illness dementia or something else
Hi everyone, I am still coping with my moms memory issues and diagnosis. I am truly baffled: her issues are so obvious to me, my one other family member who knows her, and the people in her AL. But when I bring her to the doctor, desperate to get her some kind of care of evaluation for her memory issues, they either…
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Filing for Long Term Care Insurance too early?
Hi, I am posting for the first time regarding my 83 year old Grandma. She has had cognitive and memory issues for years, but in the past month she was properly diagnosed with dementia. I had previously lived with her 3 years ago after she was a scam victim, but after about a half of year, I moved back home. I am now…
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New diagnosis, new to group. Having a rough ugly cry day.
I have been very emotional, ugly crying today. Today is hard, others are not- those days I am "numb". I am 41, married for 19 years, I have 5 kids ages 8, 10, 17, 18, 20. I have tested positive for PSEN1 which is one of 3 variants known to cause young onset Alzheimer’s. I have had cognitive symptoms since August 2023. I…
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Artis Senior Living Boca Raton
Hi all - I am considering moving my mother to the memory care center at Artis Senior Living Boca Raton. We had a good visit there and spoke with family members of residents. Does anyone have first hand experience with this facility that could provide some thoughts?
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Just dropping by.
I've been around for several years, first as a caregiver for my mother, under a different name. About halfway through my caregiving journey with Mom, which lasted about a decade, I began noticing several red flags with my husband. Now others in our family are seeing those alarms, and we're also dealing with my…
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Suggestions
Hi, I am a new to this group and need any advice or direction as to how to better assist my 86 year old mother that was diagnosed with dementia back in 2023. She had a stroke that affected her short term memory, she couldn't tell you what happened last year of anything at the moment but constantly talks about things that…
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My favorite picture
Today we spent Easter together, just the two of us and looking at pictures. Pamella saw a picture of me and said that it was her favorite. She asked me if I had a favorite. I found one and said that was my favorite. It really made me think about what was really my favorite picture. After thinking about it and the favorite…
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APHASIA
I need some help. My DH has aphasia and his speech is getting so bad I can hardly understand him, he chats away especially at night and i have little or no idea what he is saying. Communicating with anybody else is so very difficult, most people haven’t got the time or patience to stop and try to understand him. It’s…
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My mother doesn't remember my brother died; suggestions for path ahead?
Hi all, I am a new member here. My mom, who is 95 and lives with my family, has significant cognitive decline and has trouble making new memories. Several weeks ago, my brother died of cancer after having been ill since last summer. Mom knew he'd had cancer and she visited him a number of times in his last days. She also…
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Emergency Petition for Treatment
I want to thank all the people in my life who calls and checks on me and my LO as we go through this dementia journey. It’s been a tough 3 months since his broken neck, rehab, home therapy, and then now in a geriatric psych stay. Applying for an emergency petition for treatment through the courts was the hardest decision I…
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robotic pets - again
There are older threads that discuss the positive effects of giving a LOWD a robotic pet, such as a Joy For All puppy. I'm curious to know how long that batteries last.
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Happy Easter Everyone
I hope that all who celebrate had a beautiful day.
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Just a Little Advice Needed
My mama is 75 and her PCP has officially diagnosed her with dementia-close family members knew this for a while now but she is really hard-headed and she has to make the decision as to the doctors she wants to see. We are waiting on them to make her an appointment with a neurologist. I feel like smudge. I am calling to…
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Book for Caregivers of Neglectful/Abusive Parents
Happy Holiday season to everyone celebrating everything. My therapist recommended this book and I found it super useful: Doing the Right Thing: Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents, Even If They Didn't Take Care of You:
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Been a long 6 years
My BH, age 65 now, is very close to the end of his journey. If someone has a “to do” list I would love feedback.
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Dementia
My Dad was diagnosed with Dementia. He's a widower of 4 years, living alone and not wanting to be in Memory Care. His Home town Dr. and Home health care givers have deemed him to not be able to care for himself and I have had to put him in a home for his own well being. It has been difficult on all of us. He'd like to be…
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Do I know the answer?
Today my DH said he had a dream last night about Montreal. He said “ don’t you remember when we were there” … it was him and his ex wife. Does it mean he’s mixing us up now?
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Hyperfocus on a Topic
My DW gets hyper focused on topics particularly when events, trips are forthcoming. She asks many times over a day/days regarding the calendar, who is coming, whats next etc. Writing it down, reviewing a calendar, white board or sticky notes isn't working as she knows to ask but can't retain the answer causing anxiety. Any…
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"Incident" in MC, what to do?
I was told there was an incident involving my mother in memory care. Nobody at her facility contacted me about it. I heard it from one of her friends who called me to inquire about it, and she said she was told from my sister who has POA. I called the Director of Nursing. In her words she said "Yes, there was an incident…
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Startle response
My wife is in early to mid stage 7. When I arrived to see her she was sleeping but awoke shortly. After a short moment, her whole body jumped like she was startled. This happened about eight times within a couple of minutes. Does anyone know if this means anything?