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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/15/25
BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS! Joshua 1:9 New International Version 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9Amplified Bible, Classic Edition 9 Have not I commanded you? Be strong, vigorous, and very…
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Slow fade
Just venting some sadness to those who understand...no dramatic changes with my mom (today), but the slow fade continues. I sat with her at dinner in MC today. Had to put the spoon in her hand to get her to eat a few bites of soup. She's handling finger foods best now. Had a small sandwich but didn't pick it all up, just…
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Travelers to Unimaginable Lands
Sending best wishes to everyone. It’s two years since I joined this forum and since I’ve given up paid work entirely to care for my DH with Alz. Thinking back and looking at photos, it’s at least 5 years since he’s been certifiably loopy. It took me almost all this time to really get a handle on things & I know things will…
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Feeling stuck - Drugs, gambling, elder financial abuse, mental health??
Hi, this is my 1st post: My MIL was living w/her grandson, who stole $15K+ from her. Spent it on drugs & gambling. She was living on her own before he convinced her to move hundreds of miles from her home to live w/him & his husband for 3 yrs. The two had a domestic dispute this past Oct, the grandson got into a fight…
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DH's friend is stirring up trouble...
This person thinks I'm imprisoning my DH by keeping him in memory care instead of moving him to AL or independent living or back home. He doesn't agree with my care plan for my DH. I responded by saying "he's my husband, not yours!" whether you agree with me or not. He says he's done some research and can challenge my…
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Losing glasses in nursing facility
Thanking you all for your suggestions. I feel it is going to be a neverending battle. I thought of getting a strap to hold them on but don't know if that is a good idea. Compared to what everyone else is going through, this is nothing.
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Incontinence
My mom currently lives in an assisted living community with my dad and struggles with incontinence. She is asked on a regular basis if she has to use the bathroom, always saying no, then will have an accident 5 minutes later. I truly believe she doesn't know she has to go, but I don't know how help her and my dad. We got a…
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Leqembi/Kisunla
My dad was recently diagnosed by his neurologist with Alzheimer's. He is 63 and is still considered to be in the "normal" to mild cognitive function. His neurologist said he is a great candidate for Leqembi or Kisunla. We are having a hard time choosing between the two. Does anyone have any experience with either? Our…
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POA granted
My mom has finally agreed for me to act as POA, not "springing" like it was originally. I now am legally responsible for her and hope I can do a good job. I will ask for guidance if necessary.
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Losing glasses in nursing facility
My DH has been in a nursing facility for 3 weeks and he has broken and lost a pair of glasses. Unfortunately I didn't put his name on the second pair, so don't think there is a chance they will return. Any ideas besides putting his name on them. It is going to be an expensive if he keeps losing them.
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Why caregivers go nuts
While waiting for his doctor’s appointment DH took a pamphlet off a table and read it intensely for 10 minutes. He then handed it to me to see if I would like to read it. I glanced at it and said it was interesting. It was written completely in Spanish. We don’t know Spanish. Hmmmm Last week DH lost his house keys. We…
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Spinning headache
mom diagnosed with Al this month. She constantly having spinning headaches, she’s feels her head is heavy, wearing a heavy helmet pressure against her head. Any suggestions? Thank you in advance
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My DH is getting increasingly aggressive and hard to handle
My DH is very restless and agitated, and always wants something to do. The problem is, when I can't go out with him - ex. at 6:00 a.m. today he wanted to go for a bike ride - then he gets loud and aggressive and says he will go anyway. Today he started for the door and said he was going. He gets lost in our apartment…
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What To Do About Mother's Changing Wishes...
Yesterday my mother (who has Alzheimer's) said she wanted to have her burial services changed from where she grew up in Hawaii, to where we live in Los Angeles. Am I correct in honoring her wishes and having it in Los Angeles?
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Clogging Toilet
Good Morning! I'm new here - My LO keeps clogging toilet with TP. Any advice?
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Getting to the doctor
My wife has dementia. I took her to a neurologist and we both had brain MRI's. He scheduled both of us for a computer test and my wife refused to take it. I did. My tests were basically to try to get her there. She refuses to go to the neurologist and has not been diagnosed but it is obvious she is getting worse. Any…
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Another Let Down
Just venting my frustration. We found a Dementia Support Coffee Group, held once a month at Brothers Leagues Club, held in one of their small meeting rooms, it has an attached kitchen and is on the ground floor surrounded by gardens and trees. Lovely. So each month we would go, meet up with people and their carers. Then we…
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Spinning headache
I meant she was diagnosed with Alzheimer this month
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Excessive Sleeping and Managing Hydration & Nutrition
My wife is progressively sleeping longer and longer. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2020, but was afflicted before then. In January 2024 she was sleeping about 12 hours per night. In September we began logging her daily activities in a Day Planner and that has been very useful to allow our care team to communicate…
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Doesn’t want to go anywhere
My DW doesn’t want to visit family or friends both locally and long distance anymore. I’m thinking it because maybe she doesn’t remember them. Half the time she asks me what my name is. Should I just not worry and take her anyway. I’ve read that changes aren’t good. Maybe I should just accept that our days staying home are…
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This Cruel, Cruel disease
Today I took my husband to Respite Care for 2 days. Just a few months ago I would have never thought I would do that but things have changed so much. My DH is not a husband anymore and I am truly just his caregiver. I needed the break. Never would I have thought it would come to this as he was the man I loved more than I…
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Losing/hiding things
Mom (87) was recently diagnosed and declining rapidly. I’ve been staying with her and dad for extended periods of time to help while she adjusts to new meds. She doesn’t recognize items around the house-cooking utensils, her own clothes, linens, food in the cabinets/refrigerator and I have many times “claimed” them as mine…
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Good hospital bed mattress for mom - foam versus innerspring?
Hello, The hospital bed mattress that my mom had for years needs to be replaced. I had made a hole in it to help with pee and it turned out to be a bad do-it-yourself-hack and the inner coils rusted when moisture got in where I cut the bed. Lesson learned, never puncture a hospital bed. I'm now debating whether to get…
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From NYT: She's Trying to Stay Ahead of Alzheimer's...
Trigger Warning: This article discusses the euthanasia in the context of dementia and capacity to make that decision. https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/16/health/assisted-death-alzheimers-netherlands.html?unlocked_article_code=1.xU4.tbXQ.v-oE6OJf1pgh&smid=url-share
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underwear question
I bought the first box of male guards for leaks and dribbles for DH. I am wondering (haven't opened the box yet), are these basically the same thing as pad for ladies but made in masculine color? Maybe I'll use up the old ones I have first, any reason why not? I had to buy a box of 52, so maybe I could take the m back?
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Easy website for answers questions about my father's condition
My father has had Alzheimer's Disease for the past 7+ years and has progressed into a later stage. I've had lots of questions along the way and I'm finding it really frustrating to search and visit lots of websites for simple answers. Just discovered pfizer has a new website that answers questions. I put in some questions…
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Dermotologist: When to Stop
My DW had a small spot removed a couple of years ago. A tiny melanoma we caught early. Her father had a bunch of these taken off over the years and it got harder to manage as he went downhill with his dementia. He'd pick at the scabs and they would take forever to heal. Her other sister also has considerable melanoma…
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Relocation
I am caring for my uncle, and we have reached a point where we feel like his living alone is not in his best interest. I have secured new housing arrangements, but we're struggling with how to break the news that we will be moving him from his home of 60 plus years. He sits alone with no interaction with anyone and little…
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traveling with spouse with dementia- beginning stages
Husband has posterior cortical atrophy so forgets things easily, has no peripheral vision. But we love to travel. Considering the Caribbean to escape MN winter. We love to walk together. Plan to stay in one place from approx march 3-10. any ideas? thanks. Lois