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New diagnosis
Hello. I'm a 77 yo female newly diagnosed with very early Alzheimers. I told my doctor about a couple of experiences that I thought could be more than old age cognition and she offered me the p tau 217 blood test. The result was 0.28. She then ordered an MRI which was determined to be 'normal for age'. She started me on…
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Exhausted and angry--venting
Please forgive my ridiculously long post. It's a character flaw. Background: My mom (91) was fully independent til last October. In hindsight, there were signs that she was deteriorating--she was suddenly unable to navigate the remote control and the phone, for example, and I made quite a few drives to her house to assist…
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Grieving the living
My mom has Alzheimers. I moved in with her and my dad 2 years ago. At first my dad was taking the brunt of the abuse. She is so mean to him and occasionally hits him. Normally my mom is sweet, conservative, and very religious. Now she is mean, conniving and the complete opposite of who she was. We finally heard of medicine…
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Not liking me or DH much these days
It’s very apparent to me that everything and I mean everything my DH does or doesn’t do these days annoys the heck out of me! Trying to get him to shower or change his clothes or eat a decent meal (and not sweets) is always a battle. I take him out everyday and no matter what we do he complains about something. If I leave…
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Mom struggling to remember my late Dad :(
I was really taken aback today. My father passed away in December. My mom has been heavily grieving him ever since— I know she would look at his picture every day and have a good cry. We moved her from their home into AL near me this past week. Today I had lunch with her, and I was thinking "Wow, she seems really with it…
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Newly Diagnosed Physician
I am a 60 yo newly diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I am a retired Family Physician who noticed issues approximately 18 months ago and was diagnosed with MCI. I stopped practicing medicine and was given disability benefits. I am fortunate to have had that option but despite all my expertise the process of getting a definitive…
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New Normal or Just Tired?
My DW has been a bit more confused and more tired the last two days. Her gait has also changed to a more half step with some shuffling. She has been going to daycare three days a week and has stayed longer twice so far this week. We’re only up to her staying close to three hours but, yesterday she was tired when she came…
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Breaking Point
My Mom (78) was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s MCI about 2 years ago via Blood test, MMSE, MOCA. I don’t recall anything other than normal aging from the brain MRI at that time. She has not yet had a neuro psych evaluation. I was not terribly impressed with the neurologist that we saw. My Dad passed away in late February.…
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Sex
my elderly husband was recently diagnosed with dementia/Alzheimers. He has always looked at porn but lately he has started interacting. He asked one if they could meet up for sex. He sent a picture of his genitals to another. And he has said negative comments about me. We were having sex 2-3 times a week. We’re both 72. I…
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Memory care placement too early
I am checking my mother into a memory care unit tomorrow. My 87-year-old father cares for her today but she’s had so many delusions lately and fixations! She’s become aggressive with him as well. Cognitively it feels too early for her! I’m choosing a respite option so I can potentially move her out if I realize it is too…
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Resentment
I visit mom once a week and take her out to lunch most weeks if the weather is good. Yesterday before we left she told a friend she would not be down for lunch because her daughter was taking her out. The friend made a comment about how lucky she is that she gets to go out so much. Mom replied my son takes me out a lot…
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Crisis of Faith
My DH died on January 7, and I am finding it so hard to believe in "God's will" and all of the other platitudes I am hearing. It is almost impossible for me to attend church, because I am so angry at God. While I am sitting there, hearing all about the goodness and love, I just want to ask - why us? why him? Why didn't we…
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Thinking of moving my mom out of care facility
My mom, 87, is in the later stages of Alzheimer's. She was never formally diagnosed, but it has been at least a decade and probably closer to 15 years since she first started noticing she was having memory issues. Unfortunately her concerns were dismissed as just normal aging memory loss. She lived with my brother until…
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Hallucinations
My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimers last year. He is experiencing quite a few hallucinations nearly all day. Has anyone dealt with this much and if so what did you do? He is aware that what he is seeing is probably not there but is confused because he really sees it. Just wondering if there is any meds out there that…
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Way forward
Hello, I am here to join one of the worst clubs. I’ve been having a hard time lately, especially because my husband has started to accept—without much resistance—that he needs help. That’s not like him. I mentioned adult day care, and he said we should talk about it. He is legally blind and was diagnosed when he was around…
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New to taking care of DH
My DH has been diagnosed for about 1 year. I recently decided to retire to take care of him. It is a lot harder than I thought. I guess my work distracted me from what was really going on at home. He does have the anger and distrust with me. We are going to move closer to family and at first he said no but now agrees. He…
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How to find case/social worker to help
My parents have many health issues, including my father who has dementia. All of my siblings and I live hours away. We have set up in home care, but it was dependent on my mother being there to regulate/direct my father. We have each spent weeks living in our old bedrooms trying to make the in home care work without us. It…
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Vagus Nerve Stimulation Information and Trials
I would like to know who I can contact or where I can find a research trial for my wife using Vagus Nerve Stimulation therapy to treat her dementia condition. Any help would be appreciated. We live in the Cincinnati, Ohio Metro area. Thank you.
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Camera advice
Hi I am caring for my aunt who has Alzheimer's and vascular dementia. I have one family member who is trying to go against everything that we are trying to do for my aunt. I had place cameras in her apt ( common areas only) as well as sensors on her doors to obviously keep her safe. WELL her brother told her about the…
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41 years today
My DW. I’ve never met any of you guys personally. But I feel a friendship with all of you deeper than most people I know. This site has been a lifesaver.
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Do I Have to Accept His Version of Reality?
My DH was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. His mother passed away 30 years ago after a long difficult battle with dementia, and he is depressed about his diagnosis given his previous involvement in his mother's care. He was managing pretty well with the original 2024 diagnosis of mild cognitive impairment, but this…
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Bad visits are just so disappointing
I would say about 1/3 of my visits to see my parent in the hospital are very poor though I shouldn't complain because she is never mad at me which is a blessing. It's just so disappointing to have a terrible visit because the drive is terrible, a geriatric psychiatric unit is just not an easy place to be even a well run…
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I need to vent about my grandmother and an endless cycle.....
I'm 39 and currently my 85 year old grandmother has dementia. I've been living with her for a number of years and 2 years ago she was officially diagnosed with dementia. For the past 4 months, she has been packing multiple bags daily to "go home" when she's already at the home she's lived in for the past 25 years. From…
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Durable POA
My mom and stepdad have a document titled durable power of attorney. However, in the document itself, it says that one of them have to die for the other to have the power. Both parents have dementia. Does the fact that it’s a durable pile attorney give the secondary power of attorney’s access
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My mom has EOAD… need advice/support
Hi People, I have never had the courage to ask this question of the health professionals, I feel disloyal even asking it, and every time I have to verbalise my family’s situation, I burst into tears, but here goes. My mom was diagnosed almost 4 years ago at 46 years old during my freshman year of college, she still lives…
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Regarding donepezil and memantine
DW was prescribed donepezil and memanine upon her diagnosis several years back. My understanding is that this is a pretty common drug regiment for those diagnosed with ALZ. DW is in stage 6 and it is quite the effort to get her to take her pills each day. My question for those whose PWD used either or both of these drugs.…
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Cross country move advice
We are moving to NC to be closer to family. DH has a cognitive disorder, likely VD from 3 previous strokes. His memory is surprisingly good but executive function skills are compromised by vascular disease. I've decided to move us from CA to NC, a very daunting task given 40 yrs of accumulated possessions. I've been going…
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Early Onset Alzheimer's at 49
Hello, I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's in October at the age of 49. I've had the the test and it does show I have one variance of the APOE/4 gene and the only kind of Alzheimer's we have my family is on my mom's side and they were diagnosed in their middle to late '70s. This is just been a shock I knew…
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After 10 long years mom has died, now what?
It was 10 years ago that I realized my mother's forgetfulness was more than just normal aging. The reality hit me like a ton of bricks, and nobody else in the immediate family wanted to face it or do any future planning. I had a general dread of what the future could hold but maintained hope that we could still find a way…
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Patient care
Hey guys im new here but j have been working with dementia patients for almost while now. However last year i took a full time caregiving shift and would like to know if anyone else has or is experiencing this. So its two caregivers, when the morning caregiver leaves and i come in my patient starts asking for sweets and…