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Will CPAP Really Help?
Hello friends, Dad is 79yo, had a CPAP maybe 20 years ago. Neuro thinks new CPAP is going to be a game changer/golden ticket bc of his brain scan and assessments. His sleep study showed low/moderate apnea. He's in a care home, not MC, so staff will check on him but they don't do intensive ADL's- I'd have to get home care…
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Mom has AD and husband abandoned her.
I am writing this because I don’t know where else to turn and I’m hoping somebody out there has gone through something similar. My mother and stepfather have been married for 21 years and I’ve had a pretty happy marriage. My stepfather came down with Parkinson’s a few years ago and is in the later stages now and in an AL…
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early onset dementia and memory care
My wife is 69 years old and has early onset (56 years old) vascular dementia. I placed her in memory care early last month. Her biggest complaint is that all the residents are older and more impaired than she is. Most of the other residents are late 70s and early 80s. Some are in the very late stages but many are not. My…
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The Weight of Waiting
There’s a lot of weight on my shoulders. My DH is stage 6 of Alzheimers and I find myself weighed down, emotionally stuck in the waiting room of his life, our life, my life. Time is timeless. Its a surreal world of melting clocks and drooping watches and living in a dream-like nightmare that did come true. The…
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Useful tips and products
Hello, I remember seeing a heading like this in our last format, and it was very helpful. People just kept adding helpful hints and they were all under this one topic. I listed a few: 1) Shampoo Caps: These are a blessing for me, as my DH hates to have his hair washed. Thsy are efficient, neat, and they do thoroughly clean…
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Support group
I came looking for help, understanding, support. Husband newly diagnosed. Without offense, I must say it’s scarier being here than being lost and alone in my real life. No. I didn’t come here for the fantasy of “it will be ok” but it’s all so hopeless. I see major failings in my husband every week. Something new every day…
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Mixed dementia
My dad has mixed dementia vascular and alzimers hes 95 I have carers coming in once a week to help me as I can’t deal with it alone sometimes I cry about it
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Other Caregivers Dealing With Menopause?
Hello, Dad is in a care home, but I do all the $$, medical, have moved him 2x, sold his house, etc. I'm 54, menopause has drained so much of my energy and brain fog is real. Was on HRT which fixed these things, but had to go off bc of other side effects (inner ear problems- vertigo, dizzy, motion sick). The fatigue some…
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Newly Diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment
Hi everyone..I am 58 year old School Counselor newly diagnosed with MCI, based on Montreal Assesment. I have a variety of risk factors--family hx on paternal side (Grandmother, Uncle, Father) plus I have Type II Diabetes, Sleep Apnia, Peripheral arterial disease, etc. I am scheduled for a workup--blood test, MRI, and…
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Results from Aircept
Have any of your parents been on Aircrpt? Did it help? Hurt? Side Effects?
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Help! Overwhelmed and Dad won't address things
My mom (79) has dementia. I don't think she'll ever have any diagnosis. She won't even take her temperature. My dad (78) still has POA but won't do what's necessary for taking care of himself let alone her (i.e. meds, driving, home safety, home help, future planning, etc.) He/they don't know what state to live in when they…
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So Frustrated with Dr
DH with VD from several strokes has had interrupted sleep for 7+ yrs. Dr has him on trazadone 150 and now he is only up 5x night instead of 15-20. He now has nightmare episodes at night. We had a video appt with Dr today to discuss changing or adjusting meds to help us BOTH sleep, my idea.. I emailed Dr a heads up with the…
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What to do when vascular dementia causes your husband of communication
We are at the stage of his dementia where we cannot carry on a conversation. I cannot understand what he is trying to say. He has many health issues and I am afraid I won’t be able to know what is wrong. This is my first post. I don’t know what to do. Thanks
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New here, young adult child looking for connection and support
Hi, I’m 33 years old and my 74 year old mom was recently diagnosed, although we’ve seen it for the last couple years. I live in California and she lives in Ohio with my dad. I also have an older sister that lives a few hours away from my parents. Mom and I have been really close and talk on the phone every day on my drive…
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Caregiver for dad
My Dad is 75 & has dementia. It’s so bad that he wasn’t paying his mortgage for over 7 months. My husband and family had to move in to help save the house. I work full time but took some time off to help get my dad situated. We’ve been living with him for a month now and I’m mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted…
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Alzheimer's quick progression after an illness?
My LO has been experiencing a Colitis flare-up and is really having a hard time. He was seen by a doctor, and we have a follow-up appointment scheduled. But it seems like his Alzheimer's has progressed a lot within just a week. I did see a video that mentions that people may "take a step" down after experiencing an…
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Angry right now
Anyone out there ever get frustrated to the point of even being angry at the total LACK of answers available for this disease? My mom is in (I think) Stage 4 Alzheimers. But then it could be Stage 5. I can’t get a good answer from a doctor. There are no good answers. No good answers on how long I can expect each stage to…
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Husband
Hi all, My husband has Lewy bodies and was saying last night he’s dying, he said it again in the early hours of this morning, can anyone give advice please.
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risperidone
My HWD is currently taking Donepezil and Sertraline. He has been so agitated and verbally abusive lately that his PCP has written a prescription for risperidone 5 mg. The listed side effects are pretty scary, but maybe at this low dosage they are not a big risk. I was wondering if anyone has experience with it that they…
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Decline after caregiver?
Mom lives with us and has for about a year and a half, but we had a daily caregiver (8 hours a day) coming for a little over 2 months to help with Mom after she had fallen late July of this year. It was usually the same person M-F and then another person who came for the weekends. Both ladies were awesome, and of course…
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Medication administration
Hi ! my mother has been getting very confused with taking her medication despite me setting up the pill organizer each week . It is clear I need to get some help because I can’t get there each day and night. What are your experiences ? Is this something Medicare covers ? Are there agencies that will just come in for this ?…
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Feeling extremely overwhelmed
I am a 55-year-old female caring for my 80-year-old mother. There are so many things to discuss, so I will try to start small. I live an hour and a half away from her, so expense-wise, and my own extreme anxiety and depression, it is hard to be there all the time. I call her daily to check in, but that conversation always…
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Safety gate for stairs?
Morning all, I'm new here and caregiving for my mom who's in stage 5. Increasing wondering at night, mostly in the upstairs hallway but occasionally venturing downstairs. Any stair gate recommendations? Thanks!
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Wow, I underestimated the loneliness
My husband went to memory care this week. It's going fine. He's settling in fairly well. I feel like a jerk for even saying this. I'm lost and lonely. I've never lived alone before (family, college, roommates, then my husband). I'm trying to keep busy. Dishes are done. Laundry is caught up (for the first time in 2 years).…
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A different stage
Hello my friends, all day I have beencalled a bitch, move out, pay bills with my small paycheck and my DH needs his SSI $1000 income. I am feeling like scared,, he will lash out. Also I cant be around him
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First Post
This is my first post, although I have been reading conversations on this forum for months. You are all so knowledgeable and compassionate and I have gained more knowledge here than with all the doctors or well meaning friends and family combined. Here's our story: I've known my DH for 30 years. We have been incredible…
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Unhappy Anniversary
Today is our 13th wedding anniversary. Last year DW jumped out of bed and gave me a big kiss and wished me a happy anniversary. This morning I told her happy anniversary and she had no reaction just continued to talk about something that made no sense. I guess this year is the beginning of unhappy anniversaries for me.…
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structure and expense of long term care and hospice
This is a CNBC video I found interesting. How senior care became a $600 billion business | Watch
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What to do, what to do…
My father in law suffers from dementia. He has lived by himself for the past two years and is capable of caring for his daily needs. Still fine with the few meds he takes. He has regular interactions with each of his kids as well as occasional visits from family friends. He sundowns pretty severely each evening. We…
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Being accused of any and everything
I am caring for my grandmother. I was wondering if anyone has any tips for a specific and main hardship I'm having. She accuses me of being "the biggest liar she has ever met" about everything. She will ask me a seemingly easy question for example, she will be holding a peice of mail and ask me where it came from. So I…