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Therapist or counsellor
Hi there, my wife’s mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. She is understandably finding it emotionally tough. Could anyone recommend a therapist who specialises in this (for my wife)? Many thanks in advance
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help for a friend
I care three times a week for elderly woman who is mother to close friend. although early stages we shop shop shop i pick her up and drive her wherever she wants to go. we eat then shop she is allowed $60 a day and inevitably goes over forcing me to dig in my pockets which i do willing she is kind then mean and discusses…
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How often do you visit?
I made the mistake of visiting my mom (every other day) the first time she was placed in a nursing home. It just kept her from acclimating and each time I visited her she thought I was taking her home. It was doing her more harm than good. So, this time around (I took her out of the nursing home but had to put her back in…
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On the Upside
I just wanted to share a few positive wins in this land of the seemingly ever-down life. We are now 7 weeks post-MC move-in. Last weekend, in honor of Mother's Day, the care facility hosted a breakfast with mimosas and small fresh flowers for each Mom. It was a treat to share that with my DH since life with FTD is…
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Mom isn't talking to me
Hi, I'm new to this. Mom was diagnosed earlier this year with stage 3 Alzheimer's. I was caregiving for her. I had to stop because it was affecting my mental health. Mom is mad and hasn't talked to me for several months. I use to talk to her every morning. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you deal with this? Did…
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Introduction and Question
Hello! Grateful for this group. Here I go. Introduction, Question, and probably too much background for one post. My father passed away in December 2024 while my mom was in ICU. Since her discharge, I've transitioned her to Assisted Living in the town where I grew up/they continued to reside—location per her wishes. ( I've…
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Book that Gets It
Like we have time to reas? If you do, however, this novel by a writer whose husband died of Lewy Body Disease is good fictional treatment t of the rabbit hole we caregivers fall into. https://www.forewordreviews.com/reviews/counting-backwards/
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Downsizing from Assisted Living to Memory Care
My FIL is currently in a one-bedroom apartment in assisted living. Unfortunately, his dementia has progressed to the point where it is time for him to transition to memory care in the same facility. (In addition to general decline, he has become combative and aggressive.) His memory care room will be much smaller than his…
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I moved DW to memory care (part 2)
So, that's the background. All of our family and friends were supportive of placing DW in MC, even urging me to do so, reminding me that I had to take care of myself. The conundrum for me was, how was I going to get her in the door? How was I going to get her things to the MC facility? One suggestion was to say her doctor…
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Started with hospice care .
Lots of help and support . Also I kept a home care person who is working out well . Hoping to be able to have some time to be myself this week . We had a nice mother's day with the grandkids visiting . Of course it was hard for them but important they got to see their grandmother now and not later as this progresses. My…
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New to caregiving and I have no idea what I'm doing
Hello… My amazing aunt was diagnosed with Alzheimers/Dementia about 18 months ago. I'm not entirely sure how long she was really struggling before I stepped in, but I fear it was several years due to the things I have been discovering in her files as well as learning about the disease. Hindsight is 20/20 and what I thought…
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To moms...
To those who are moms - have a beautiful mother's day. To those who are taking care of moms - may it be a peaceful day.
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Boyfriend with early stage
Does anyone have a boyfriend with dementia, repeating questions and forgets conversations? I could use some support if anyone out there can relate. He is very easygoing and loving, but wonder what this will do to our relationship in the future.
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Hope and hospice
My husband started on hospice a month ago. I find it has heightened my hope that the end will be here soon. Sadly, a side effect is I am getting exhausted from the waiting. I visit every day and don't feel like I can really separate sufficiently to do something like take a weekend away. I don't feel my presence is that…
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Decompressing after a tough visit
I guess all we can do is take a deep breath and exhale, right? I visited my mom yesterday. She is in Memory Care. I put my game face on. I went through the locked doors she now lives behind. I walk through the community to my mom's apartment, and as I do I smile and wave at other residents I have come to know and say their…
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New, Scared and Confused...
I'm obviously a newbie to this site, as well as the amazing and mysterious world of Alzheimer’s. I began seeing a neurologist last summer because of an inability to think as clearly as I once did. Memory didn't seem like much of a problem since as far as I can remember, I always had a bad memory. Other issues that I…
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Is there any other way to relieve agitation besides medication?
My dear grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year, and just in the previous few months, she has gotten worse. She has been yelling, berating, and crying lately, more like a manic patient. Sometimes she yells at my grandpa, mom, and aunts over a small thing. We are all heartbroken. And she refuses to take her…
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Dementia discussion
Hi All, I am new to this site and wondered if my experience resembles anyone else's. So far, I have had the following tests, which all came out ok. CT Angiogram, EEG Brainwave, Echo Cardiogram, PET Scan, Ankle Brachial, and Heart Monitor. The initial discussion with the doctor is Dementia. Also, what are the common…
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Genetic Testing
Is an order for genetic testing routine for those diagnosed with AZ?
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What were your first symptoms?
I am curious what the early symptoms those here experienced? Long-term or short-term memory loss? decrease in ability to focus? Any other mental symptoms? Any physical symptoms? Were the symptoms constant? or episodic/occasional? I have had episodes of extreme foggy-brainess over the past 5 years along with a loss of…
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Revealing diagnosis
How and when does one begin the process of revealing the diagnosis?
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Recent Alz dx -not coping well
Hello, Last year both of my parents passed from Alzheimer's. One month after my father's passing I was dx with Alz. My neuro believes I've had it for aprox 2 yrs. Brain shrinkage of both sides of my brain and amaloyd plaques in the frontal areas. All confirmed with MRI and PET scan. Issues are not too troubling nor are…
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Confabulation, anxiety, depression
Moving on into the reality of DH's ALZ. For upwards of a month DH has seemed to be normal and, admittedly, I allowed myself to become somewhat lulled (is that a word?)into my own denial. What I failed to see was that his constant itch was most likely anxiety, that his calling hid brother more often was his attempt to a…
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A Most Sincere Thank You
I don’t think I ever got so many Happy Birthday wishes before in my life, so thank you so very much. I ended up going to a MLB game since I love baseball. It was 74 degrees, sunny and I got to share it with 28000 other people. It went extra innings. We lost but it was a glorious day, until found out DS left my DH alone…
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Seroquel - Anything I Should Know?
Finally was able to get my husband to a doctor for a complete physical. Turns out he's as physically heathly as he can be for a 78 year old. To help with anxiety and sleep issues, Dr has prescribed Seroquel - 12.5mg / per day to start. I can go up if needed. What has everyone's experience been? Good? Bad? Anything I should…
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Rehab versus hospice
My 91 year old Mom is somewhere between late stage 5 and early stage 6. She was fairly stable for the past year, but I (and her caregivers in memory care) saw a precipitous decline over the past couple of months. She has completely lost her appetite and is eating very little. Even her former favorite sweets have no appeal.…
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Sorry, Another Stupid Question
I’m sorry for being so needy today….My birthday is tomorrow and I was wondering if I could spend it alone without any adverse reactions for him. After the 911 incident I just wanted to be alone, but not if he’s affected adversely. His wayward son said he would come over. Thanks
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new member
I am new here. My DH was diagnosed with dementia 3 yrs ago How do you know what stage of the disease he is currently in?
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Help
I am 55 years old this year my fiancé is 56. He had a very rough life. His family tried killing him a lot when he was a child so he has a lot of anger built up so he became a very bad drug addict and an alcoholic very bad, his clean of drugs For nine years now and clean of alcohol for two years very proud of him in all…
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Caregiver using public bathroom, husband wanders off
My mom is the caregiver and she takes my dad, who has middle stage alzheimer's, to walmart. He follows her around the aisles. If my mom has to go to the bathroom, she doesn't know what to do with him. She has told him to stay with the cart, but she never knows if he'll still be there when she comes out of the bathroom.…