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Is Rexulti an Option?
Hello Friends, I'm so sorry you have need to be here but I am so very grateful for your input. I recently posted concerns regarding my DH's combativeness and aggressiveness with showers and getting undressed for bed. It's become a significant issue and Rexulti has been recommended. Wondering whether you may have thoughts…
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Update on bringing DH home from Memory Care
It has now been 6 days since I brought my husband home from memory care, and he has regained quite a bit of the ground he lost during the 2 weeks there. He is more able to walk since he is walking in the house without a walker so strengthening his leg muscles (can't fix the really bad knees). His initial confusion about…
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Out of Control
My first husband died of Alzheimer's at age 57 in 2011. I remarried in 2015 and now my 2nd husband has been diagnosed via brain scan with early Alzheimer's. I want so much to be a supportive partner, but I feel so angry and out of control. He does what he wants regardless of my feelings. He orders the wrong things from…
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Advice on DH out in public
My DH is resisting sitting down when we go out to eat. He will just stand at the table without moving. After multiple efforts to ask him to sit he will finally cooperate. I would welcome any advice or perspective on how to help him.
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No long term insurance
I know this is not the forum for this but this group may have some good advice and resources to look at, that we may all benefit from Thank you
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Now the hospital has him in a cage?
Because he is so combative and aggressive they said they needed to put him in a Cage ( nylon netting). This was also done so he wouldn't fall. I think this is elder abuse but they said it was for his protection and the staff. Has anyone heard of this and isn't it elder abuse?
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Questions
I don't even know where to start. How this awful disease progresses? What to expect in each stage. Where to get information.My DH sometimes seems perfectly okay, an hour later he ask the same questions over and over. I am very patient, it is so hard to see him go through this, he was always kind, loving, helpful, now I see…
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Son in denial
My wife's son knows his mother has dementia. I tried to talk to him about what happens if I, the sole caregiver, cannot provide for her. He says not to worry, she'll go first. He doesn't understand that it is just me passing away that could cause her to need a new caregiver. I could become incapacitated and not be able to…
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Leaning how to adapt.
Hi, My wife has been diagnosed with dementia for over five years. I been taking care of her the whole time. Now things seem to get worse and I’m not sure when I should contact professional help. She was enrolled in the memory center for seven years. Just reaching out for the first time to learn what’s next for me to do.…
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Having difficulty in getting mom help
My mother is experiencing episodes of paranoia, loss of memory and irrational behavior and was taken to the hospital on numerous occasions. How do I get help with the process of being diagnosed with Dementia/Alzheimers if she refuses to see her primary care physician?
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Want to bring him home not nursing home
Husband probably need physical therapy to get his legs stronger after being hospitalized for falls and the rage of a dementia episode. and bed bound for a week so far. I am not sure of his cognition or aggression since he has been sedated to keep him calm and stay in bed for fear of falling. How can I request the hospital…
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New way of life
Hi I am new to the group and had many questions and the alz community has been most helpful. The person I'm caring for has always been a very quiet reserved man now all of a sudden he's become so talkative he mumbles and talks all day I'm just wondering if anybody else goes through this? Thank you all for being there and…
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Looking for input on situation with my mom
Hi! My mom is 77 and has mid-stage Alzheimer's. She and I have always been super close. I wanted to share a bit about my situation to get some opinions on it. I live about 3 hours away from her, but since I work remotely, I go live with her every few weeks, for about a week or so. She is currently living alone in her…
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Dad’s posture is declining rapidly
My 78 year-old dad with LBD has begun leaning significantly to the left and forward. In just two months, he has gone from being only slightly stooped to hunched at almost a 90 degree angle when standing. This causes him to look at the floor instead of forward so his caregivers are becoming reluctant to walk him (he can…
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MC in Minnesota
Does anyone have experience with any of the SuiteLiving facilities in the Twin Cities?
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Starting with hospice
at the primary care doctor he suggested it might time to involve palliative care and/or hospice. DH is still ambulatory but needs 100% help and care. Doctor said he would qualify because of weight loss and skin breakdown ( he has pressure sores on his rear). I’m wondering how early others have involved, and what your…
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Overwhelmed at times
I am caring for my wife of 46 years. Her moderate Alzheimer's is progressing every month. Her 2 medications may be working, bit I can't really tell. My emotional and physical albitites are taxed at times. I can continue this hectic pace but feel the need to reach out for help. Any suggestions? My cousin did offer respite…
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Dealing with DH depression.
My DH seems to do well until about 3 p.m. or so when he gets very depressed and confused. Sometimes he gets restless but it is the depression that worries me the most. I can't get him to do any of the things that he used to enjoy doing.
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Feeds cat 4-8 times a day
My mother has one cat. Sometimes she thinks there are more that pop by. But when prompted, she catches herself and realizes there is only one cat. Regardless of the number of cats that she perceives, she overfeed them. She sets out 4-8 bowls filled with wet food per day. This creates a bad situation as most of it rots, or…
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He Cried
My DH took me by surprise today. He cried one time in our marriage and thst was just for a second. He came in the bathroom and just burst into tears….. over the school shooting today in MN. Lips quivering and sobs. Never saw anything like this from him. Just shocked me. Another part of this dreaded disease, I guess.
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New here
Hi all, I'm new here. I'm my husbands part time care giver. He is moving in to what I think is late stage alzheimers. I have a caregiver here with him while I'm at work. He has trouble speaking, finishing a thought, dressing himself, he can eat alone, but can't make his own food. He can't be left alone anymore. His…
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Life after diagnosis
I’d be interested to hear how you’re dealing with life after dx- like your personality has changed. I feel super sensitive and just different.
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Treating NPH
Has anyone on this forum actually know, personally, if any one had a lumbar puncture to help diagnose NPH, and if so did it relieve some symptoms, such as cognitive and walking? And how did the person feel after the lumbar puncture? I've been reading that is a relatively rare condition
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Hair cut and shave while in hospital
If my spouse is in a facility or hospital how can he get a haircut or shave or nails cut if he cannot go out or it is not safe to take him, or should I just risk it and take him to get this done Also he needs a shower He can bathe himself but has trouble with turning it on and off (I have to do this for him and then the…
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New Here & Just Trying To Keep Up
I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and alone, and I’m so thankful to have found this group. I’m 29 and live in Georgia. My mom is 65, lives alone in Florida, and was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My parents are divorced, and my sister isn’t able to help due to her own challenges. My mom’s brother offered support…
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Dealing with incontinence & assisted living
My mom has had incontinence for awhile now and wearing depends. I got a call from her assisted living saying her incontinence has gotten worse. She doesn't even realize she is wet. My mom is still mobile and active. In reading up on it, looks like this is pretty common. Does anyone have any tips on how they dealt with it?…
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Ugly Stepchildren Dilemma
I know some of you have written regarding problems with stepchildren, and I am hoping for some advice. My DH is in memory care in early Stage 6, and neither of his children think he should be. His son is the worst and blames all of his dad's problems on improper medication. His daughter realizes that dad is ill, but thinks…
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Testing for type of Alzheimmer's
My wife's primary care doctor asked if I wanted my wife to be tested to see what kind of Alzheimer's/Dementia she has. I decided not to have her tested because of the stress she would endure taking the test. The way I see it, and I told the doctor this, is that doesn't really matter 1hat kind it is. There's no cure so what…
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What tests did they use to diagnose your loved on with Alzheimer's Disease?
My mother is currently in the processed of being diagnosed. The doctor is doing a few blood tests to rule out reversable causes for the cognitive difficulties but otherwise says no tests are needed besides a brief cognitive measure (MOCA) to diagnose Alzheimer's. What was your experience like? Did they do more testing or…
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Affording full-time care in California
My mother has lost a lot of functionality since receiving her Lewy Body Dementia diagnosis a year ago. She now needs some help with toileting, dressing, and has shown a reluctance to eat regularly. We are concerned that she may need full-time care and that my father can't support her anymore, but the costs of care are…