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Mom and Dad with Alzheimer’s
About a year ago, my mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Last week, so was my dad. They live independently together about 15 minutes from me, my husband and our 15 year old son. We knew something was wrong long before Dad’s diagnosis…but by the time we got his cooperation and finally got him to a doctor as a new patient,…
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He keeps pushing me
I know I trigger his aggression, but when he pulls off his pants when we try to go out , I try to put them on, then he pushes me and I fall, more than one time
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Moved: Denial
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Hello out there
Well, it's Sunday morning and the DW of 40 years is sleeping so I have my hour or two before the fun begins - lol. Just found this site! My wife was diagnosed in 2019 and is fairly well along on her journey. Too much to go through here but in summary, our kids are scattered, we have some of her family here, in fact a…
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Help with going to the bathroom
I am new to this discussion board and I'm hoping to get some help and ideas. I am living with my 89 year mom who has moderate Alzheimer's/dementia. She is not very stable when she walks and uses a walker all the time. She has a bathroom in her room but I put in a commode a few feet from her bed for use during the night and…
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Memantine experiences
I'm a caregiver for my dad, who has been on Donepezil for a while now for his Alzheimer's. He is doing well for now, but it is only a matter of time before the doctor prescribes him Memantine, too, if I understood correctly. I've seen side effects, dizziness, headaches, confusion, etc. But I'm wondering, what are some…
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Tired of putting my life on hold
Why am I the only one making concessions, what about my life, my needs , I don't even like him, he takes up all I have within me and I am walking out the next time he raged at me Call me selfish? I have given him everything including myself. I deserve to live my life I promised for better or worse not abused
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Navigating Senior Care/Nursing home/Memory Care
Hey again! I am overwhelmed with all the the things involving how to pay for my moms care when she will need a nursing home or assisted living or memory care. I am trying to find all the differences and which one fits her needs. But not now. She is ok for now. I just know I need to make a plan before she needs it. We have…
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How Do I Stop Being Angry?
My Asian mom's dementia suddenly surfaced in early March during a traumatizing incident that resulted in me getting kicked out of the house in the middle of the night. Since then, my older sister (who is my mom's long-distance caregiver) has made plans to move me & my mom to VA to live with her in a new house that's…
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Brand new. Need help.
I can't get my DW to go to a doctor, much less to get a diagnosis. She refuses to talk about the possibility of her getting D. It runs in her family. She is very functional but showing personality and memory changes over the last several years. How do I trick her into going to a doctor then getting the doctor to perform…
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New to the Group
Where to begin……… I have so many questions/concerns. My aunt of 68 years young has been forgetting things on a regular basis for the last year. It has gotten progressively worse the last few months. She has owned her own business for the last 40 years and has been a independent single women her entire life, she doesn't…
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I am seriously flipped out
I made the cardinal sin and physically took off my husband's shirt because his stomach was hanging out. Now he is calling me a b____and I suppose I am Now I asked him if he still loved me. Of course not. sometimes I just say I love you to him just to hear it back I still don't know how to navigate this private hell
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Mom rapidly declining cognitively
All of this seems to have started in May when my Dad had a catastrophic brain bleed and now is in a group home/hospice. I am trying to manage my Mom's life from 2,000 miles away though I am making my third trip out there since May in 2 weeks. I have hired a caregiver ( we are on the third one) to help my Mom around the…
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So many questions...
Hello. My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's on August 6. The Neurologist didn't mention a stage but our GP said it's moderate to severe. His has trouble speaking, he can't find words. His short term memory is severely impacted. Normally an optimist, he's become severely depressed. He's now on Namenda, Rexulti &…
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Mobile tracker/newly diagnosed
Hello. My dad was recently diagnosed with dementia. It breaks my heart to see the changes. I am so thankful to God that he is still here but it still hurts. He is the best dad in the world. I try not to think about what the future could hold, but its difficult. His doctor suggested we put a mobile tracker in his phone…
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Sleeping at night
My DW has recently begun sleeping for 10-12 hours at night. We usually go to bed around 10:00 - 10:30 pm. She fights getting in bed but once I get her in bed she immediately falls to sleep. She doesn’t wake up until anywhere around 10:30 to 11:30 am. She then lied in bed and gets angry with me if I encourage her to get up…
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Just a teeny vent to those who understand
I was sitting outside with my DH. It was 104 degrees during the day and still 94 degrees at night when we were outside. We were talking about how the crowd at the community music concert was really small this week. I said it was probably the weather because it was hot. He said no because the weather was mild. I just looked…
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I need to hear a "poor baby" from someone please
DH is end stage EOAD. He is in hospice so I have contacted his nurse to help with medication adjustments. He had not peed all day, I was texting his RN to ask about this when he went into his room and peed all over his bed. Because I have a plastic mattress protector on there was a puddle of pee. He then dragged his pillow…
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Mother won't stop walking
Hi, a week ago my mother began walking non stop. She sits or gets in bed and is up in a minute. One day she walked for 22 hours straight, no sleep. She is 101! I am exhausted. Has anyone experienced this and any ideas on what to do? p.s. the drs. prescribed Haldol, Lorazepam, Seroquel, Doxepin and nothing worked
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Reality
Just wanted to share my reality. My DH is a very physically fit 72 year old who was diagnosed with AD 3.5 years ago. One year ago today, August 23, 2024, he looked at me and said "who are you and where is my wife" Known as Capgras Syndrome, he knows most people, especially old friends, thinks I look like something like his…
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Sometimes you just have to laugh
So, I have a port wine birthmark on my face and I didn’t feel like putting on makeup to cover but I wanted to go get fresh beans and corn for dinner. DH says “I don’t know what you’re worried about, no one is going to pay attention to an old worn out lady like you” Then proceeded to say “you’re really acting crazy and not…
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Anger Issues
My sister was diagnosed with dementia in April of 2024. She has recently become very angry with her daughter and myself. It seems that whatever we do it is not right. She doesn’t give us a chance to explain when she misunderstands what the conversation is about. She continues to talk over you and says we don’t hear or…
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Frustrated
My mother is dealing with memory loss and refuses to see a doctor. We have tried to convince her that she needs to have a check up, she get physical with any of us it we try to put her in the car. How do you get someone evaluated if they refuse to go?
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Promising News for New Anti-Amyloid Antibody Treatment
Sharing because I wish this was around when my mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's... There's a new drug that seems like it has a good chance of becoming a game-changer for Alzheimer's, called Trontinemab. It was developed by Roche Alzforum.org posted an article today about this new antibody, the article summarizes the…
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Lost Keys
Where does everyone store their extra keys? I’m trying to figure out a place where my husband can’t access it. My husband lost a key to our back room. In looking for the lost key he went through the box where we keep our spare keys. He didn’t know what the keys were for, even though they were marked, so he threw most of…
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How to stop concerning behavior
How do you stop your LO from doing inappropriate things? Two examples… When we walk in the neighborhood, DH sometimes wants to walk up people’s driveways so he can look at the water behind their house. I can’t think of anything to stop him other than saying that’s private property, then he gets angry at me and cusses me…
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Decline in verbal ability?
My Dad is 89 and in stage 5/6 of mixed Alz/vascular dementia. He lives in a MC facility and has been on hospice for almost three months. He seems relatively stable except for mostly one thing: his verbal abilities are declining quite a bit. He has gone from mostly full sentences with some word finding difficulties where we…
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How much do they know
Hi I’m a regular contributor to the spouse caregiving group, but have a question that maybe some that has EOAD can answer for me. My DW was diagnosed at 53 with EOAD and is now 56 and solidly in stage 5 with signs of entering stage 6. She sits and cries a lot during the day saying that she doesn’t want to be this way and…
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Journal
I have never journal before. I thought I would start. I am thinking it will give me a way to get my thoughts out. Does anyone else do this?
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Alzheimer's & Alcoholism
My grandmother is a functioning alcoholic & just got diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She refused to have the all day testing done because she would rather sit at home and drink & she hasn't been deemed incompetent to make her own medical decisions so we can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do but they were able to…