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Very interesting book
I almost hesitate to put this out there but decided to do so as I see improvements in my DH since starting him on this program. “Alzheimer’s Disease What if there is a Cure?” by Mary T Newport, MD is a very interesting read. I started following her suggestions with coconut oil and MCT oil on November 11th and have…
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Just Sharing
I stumbled upon this poem because the slide image of a dragonfly caught my eye. My dear wife, now gone for four months dearly loved dragonflies. I found them pretty and interesting but never quite understood her fascination. When we were at our condo in Florida sitting on the balcony, dragonflies would show up in numbers,…
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Decline when placed in Memory Care
Regret regret!!! My LO was placed in a Memory Care facility just three weeks ago. They were living alone and after three weeks needs wheelchair, has fallen four times, wears diapers, can hardly feed self and mumbles. He walked with walker into the facility on the day he was admitted.... what happened! Is it the change that…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/19/25
TODAY’S INSPIRATION THE LORD IS WITH YOU AND ME Psalm 3:5 New Living Translation I lay down and slept, yet I woke up in safety, for the Lord was watching over me. me: Our lives might be a struggle, but you and I are never alone without help. In Psalm 3, David writes the Lord is our shield and our glory; He hears us and…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/20/25
SET APART FOR GOD Psalm 4:3 NLT You can be sure of this: The Lord set apart the godly for himself. The Lord will answer when I call to him. MEDITATION How wonderful it is to be included in the people God has chosen for Himself. How hopeful and joyful to know He will answer us when we call Him. His answers are always best…
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Facebook and DH _ no way to delete my post??
I had already posted about this in the past, but can't seem to see a way to delete a post? My DH is in stage 4 going into 5, a year after alz diagnosis. He's still able to care for his daily needs and does many routine chores on his own. He's been on Facebook since 2019 and enjoys reading posts and posting his own things.…
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Drumming in his sleep
My DH is at moderate stage 5 and sleeps well through the night. He went to sleep at 7:30 this evening. In his sleep, from about 11:15pm to 11:30pm, he started a very fast, vigorous rhythmical drumming with his finger tips on the wall behind his head, lasting from 3 to 25 seconds each and less than a minute apart. My quick…
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Security system
Hello I’m new to the community. My father was diagnosed 2 years ago with ALZ. This past he has had a rapid decline in cognition and I need to set up door alarms and locks. Does anyone have a recommendation? I am pretty tech inclined. Was looking at Simplisafe VS. creating a piecemeal system. Any suggestions welcomed!…
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Christmas tree
With all the issues there are to deal with, this seems so very trivial. But, maybe someone here has some wisdom for me. I used to LOVE putting up the Christmas tree. It was almost a "ceremony" for me, with holiday music playing and every single ornament being hung on the tree. Window swags, candles, a village of ceramic…
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Neuro Pyscological Testing
Well, mom's new pcp is on top of her game and I am so pleased. After mom failed her SLUMS test, the doctor finally was able to get my mom a neuro consult. She has an HMO, so annoying referrals are required.😢 Anyhow, referral obtained, appt made. Mom saw the neurologist today for them to review her MRI from July and consult…
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His Birthday is Today
My husband just passed on June 19, and today is his birthday. While there is never a good time to go, this is just too close for me. I am struggling in every way. How does one get through these important dates? I know the first year will be the worst, but this is beyond awful. People are calling & texting, and I'm hiding…
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Care conference
Mom moved to snf about 6 months ago. She is doing well for the most part. Her memory isn’t too bad, but she struggles with executive functioning, logic, and has bad anosognosia. She presents herself very well. I have a letter signed by two doctors stating she is not capable of making medical of financial decisions for…
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Companionship for the caregiver
I live in MA and for the last 3 plus years as my wife’s condition has continued to worsen the isolation has become overwhelming. I need social contact, adult conversation. I cannot be alone with this struggle and my hope is to connect with a woman who may be experiencing issues and to at some point meet for lunch, coffee…
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Hospice
It has happened. My DW has qualified for hospice. She lost 12 lbs in the last two months and can’t bathe herself anymore. That’s why she qualified, not because she is 6 months from dying or anything. Thought that might help some folks to know. Honestly though, I don’t see her making it to 2027. I am both a wreck and…
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From NYT: Study Linked Cheese to Lower Dementia Risk
If you like high fat cheese, you may have a lower risk of developing dementia, but may raise risks for cardiovascular disease. Shared article: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/12/17/well/eat/cheese-dementia-study.html?unlocked_article_code=1.-E8.81Oo.E1xhBSaBlICz&smid=url-share
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First time caller
My wife (60) has been struggling remembering things that happened yesterday or even an hour ago. I thought it was stress related because we had major events in our lives: retirement, moving across country, empty nest, new grandchildren. But that was just the start. We tried playing games like pickleball, cards, dice - most…
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Meeting with the Neurologist
New to this forum…We have met with the neurologist 4 times over the coarse of the past year. My DW does not understand why we are there, yet we sit and talk about her condition in front of her. It is very uncomfortable for me. When we leave she resents what has been said and voices her dissatisfaction with the doctor. Is…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/18/25
GOD IS OUR PEACE Isaiah 26:3 NIV You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. John 14:27 NIV JESUS'S WORDS Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. Pray + Trust the Lord = Peace
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What do you wish your LO could know about you, do for you, or say to you?
I am a retired teacher. When I was teaching, one of my favorite books was I Wish My Teacher Knew, by Kyle Schwartz. I believe the book helped me to be a better teacher. Now, I am a caregiver for my husband (DH) who has dementia. To be a better caregiver, I want to know… What do you wish your spouse, loved one (LO), or…
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Caregiver
My DH, has Alzheimer’s and I am the caregiver. My fear is that I won’t know when the best time will come for an outside care giver to come in and assist or even when it might be better if he were in a facility with more care than can do. My desire is to have him at home as long as possible. He’s 81 and I’m only 70. I’m…
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Communication
First post, so forgive me for any missteps. My DW (61) was diagnosed with Alzheimers earlier this year, but symptoms have been present for about 3 years. Our major issue seems to be communication......it always seems to be confrontational. She feels I do not have any patience (somewhat true) and I feel she constantly…
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Driving with MCI diagnosis
I am 77 years old and recently diagnosed with MCI. I have few symptoms. My husband went to a support group recently and was told I should not be driving. Because any symptoms I do have are not really difficult from those typical of “old age.” I hate giving up driving. Any thoughts?
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Memory Care Facility
There are so many MC facilities in So Cal that I just don't know what to do. Are any of you able to recommend a MC (or several MCs) to me in SoCal. Happy holidays, Russ
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It’s finally real
I’ve known my mom has dementia for at least a few years but we finally got the official Alzheimer’s diagnosis a couple months ago. I moved her into an assisted living community a little over a year ago because it wasn’t safe at home but we were dancing around the dementia issue and focusing on getting her heathy otherwise.…
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Im 40 and he was 46.
My loved one of 6 years, 3 months, 26 days passed on November 29th. Today was my first day back to work. I was supposed to go in yesterday but anxiety struck me. I work in a pharmacy located in a doctor office. I only broke once today. However now I can't stop crying. I miss my Luis so much. I feel like i have been in…
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Dementia Paranoia Psychosis
My dad is in the hospital for a real physical ailment. But he is getting extremely angry and combative with staff. He is convinced they are all out to harm him. I don't know what I can do because I can't help him when he is delusional. I feel hopeless and out of control of the situation. He literally is refusing medication…
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It's a sad day
It's a sad day. I was in the backyard when I heard Donna bawling. I came in to see her yelling, jumping up and down and hitting the wall with her fist. When she saw me she charged at me saying I'm going to bash your face in (she stopped short) saying that if she had a gun she'd kill me. She's been on Quetiapine 25mg for…
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Medical Marijuana
I am the sole caregiver for my wife. Entering stage 7. RSO, gummies, or even flower. Will be helpful for anxiety of the patient and stress for the caregiver. I my case, the use of medical marijuana has added a dimension; a depth within myself and a enhanced relationship and empathy with my wife. Don't know how my wife or I…
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Using AI
I was curious as to how many of you may be using an AI platform like ChtGPT to converse about your LO. I have found this to be a very useful tool for several aspects: understanding observations, understanding the medications more in depth, confirming I'm doing the right things, confirming I'm not the only one that loses my…
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Hospice while in MC
Before I ask the people here at MC, can anyone comment on the benefits of having hospice while your LO is in MC? I’m not sure yet if he’ll qualify but wondering if it’s worth trying. He’s in late Stage 6. I don’t know how it works between hospice and the current staff nurses and caregivers. Just looking for some comments…