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My down/ regroup time was when I was making dinner. Ahh! Time for me time to do me! But the past few months DH has been coming into the kitchen every 10 minutes with various excuses but I know looking for his dinner! . At first I asked him to wash the pots I used to prepare dinner - got just a rinse , put to the side and…

New here - Mom has been in MC for a year (this week actually), she still asks when she is going home and her anger and agitation has increased. We did not take her out of the facility for several months following her admission but have done so more recently (breakfast, shops, etc.) but the last two visits she seems to be…

Just curious if anyone has had testing due to the diagnosis of a parent. If so, what kind of testing? Has anyone taken any legal steps should you face the same diagnosis? What would you do differently? I am adamant that I do not want to be cared for by family in the event that I develop Alz. (My Mom, her Mom and my mom’s…

We have made the decision to move my mom to memory care. We can't decide how to tell her. The facility says to just tell her the day she is going. Her cognition is still ok and she'll see this as us "tricking" her. We are considering having a discussion with her about this but we k ow she'll be resistant.....any advice?

I’m scared. Every time I think about it. My mom had dementia and later it turned into Alzheimer’s. Her last 3 years of life was the worse way of living. She cried. Her tears ran down her face but we never heard what was in her mind, even though we all knew she was going through torture. I hate myself for always having…

My husband is in late stage dementia and the regressive changes are happening quickly. Sundowning at around 5 pm is a familiar pattern, and we have come up with some steps that reduce the effects. A new problem — In the morning, we're seeing something like sundowning. He might withdraw, he might get angry, it's a new thing…

I’m a month into my broken ankle and foot and I am so tired. I am still not supposed to weight bear on the cast and since it’s my right foot I can’t drive. Let me just say I am trying every day to be thankful my DH is still able to walk and is NOT incontinent. But still….He does not understand half (or more) of what I say…

About three weeks ago, we moved my mom from Assisted Living to memory care because she was going outside on her own and we were afraid she would wander off. She absolutely hates it memory care and always tells us she wants to go home, which I hear should be expected. To my when he got to her room there was a lady in there…

My DH is in the middle of stage 5. He can care for himself physically but has no executive function or short term memory. He has a friend who will take him to play TopGolf. They are scheduled to go tomorrow but tonight my DH got so confused and upset because he couldn’t understand the plans that he gave up and went to bed…

My DH is in stage 3-4 and seems to not even realize thatI do everything around the house, including the usual cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, managing finances, investments, bill paying, car maintenance, etc. He is not at the stage of needing help with bathing, dressing but he needs help with his medication schedule…

I am new to this site. My significant other (SO), is battling Alzheimer's. I just need to know what I am able to do to make both our lives easier. I feel like I have already lost a lot of the man I married. He has good days and bad days. But, it has taken a toll on us. I am having to do the things he use to do along with…

My 81 yo mom lives in memory care two blocks from me. I go over every day and bring the necessary amount of overnight and daytime diapers for a 24 hour period because otherwise some staff will take her supplies and use them for other residents. I have gone through long stretches where I was cleaning, changing and putting…

I have personally never seen the benefit of knowing "what stage". Why? because every one of our loved ones is going down a road with a pretty clear ending. While loved one is going to go through predictable changes the changes can not really be grouped. They overlap. Additionally not everyone has what is earmarked for a…

Hi all. Taking care of my mom that has Alzheimer's. Working with the neurologist and PCP to get her on a medication that will help with her anxiety and hallucinating. So far one helps her take a 5 minute nap and sleep better at night. My mom is hallucinating all day. she may briefly speak to someone and make sense when out…

Hi, all I found the video below just yesterday; and in my case it was quite timely. The video is a little over 10 minutes, but I think it is worthwhile for those of you who feel like you’ve lost who you used to be through all this physical, emotional and mental stress of caregiving. And if you feel like sharing with others…

Greetings all. In September 2023, I moved both my parents into my home. My dear mom has Alzheimer's. My dear dad has mild cognitive impairment. They are 85 and 87 respectively. For more background, see the discussion at https://alzconnected.org/discussion/64542/moving-my-folks-into-my-house#latest btw - I copied and pasted…

So, my husband and i moved in with my mom after my stepdad died. He left her with nothing and we didnt want her to be alone. About a,month after we moved in, mom had a stroke, only to find out that this was a second one she had,which came as a stock to my sister and i vecause she bever told us about the first one. So since…

Just a vent… I made the tragic error today of forgetting that my mom is not really the same person anymore, the mom I used to be able to have meaningful talks and heart-to-hearts with. … We were having such a nice visit today. I took her my old baby book and we had such a fun time reading it together. Things took a turn…

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Hello dear community, I am having one of those days when I question my decisions and see faults and what's lacking. I know that's silly because over these 2+ years I've done several things that needed doing to keep dad safe. Ugh. The reality, though, is that even when I remind myself of the positives I still feel critical.…

Hello all. I am new here and feel like I’ve found myself on a very fast track in this journey. Starting around 2023, my DH’s doctors began mentioning dementia, but we never got a firm diagnosis or clear treatment plan. They just kept re-doing the SLUMS test, and while we knew something was wrong, things still felt somewhat…

Hi, new to this community and have many questions, but the one that's top of mind today is that my DH, who was diagnosed with VD but also elevated levels of Alzheimer's last summer, seems to be slipping away faster all the time. He's now very weak and wants to sleep almost all the time. We've been letting him eat breakfast…

Hello All, It's me again, with the ongoing car dilemma. We sold my husband's car in late May. He had not driven it in over a year. Now that it is gone, he is insistent that he needs a new car. He talks about it every day, to anyone who will listen. Every time we drive somewhere, he is pointing out how everyone has a new…

Good Morning, My DH was diagnosed with EOA 8 months ago. He is 54 I am 58. He was working as a lineman until 2024, he was working 70+ hrs a week, I am an ER nurse I work 24 hours nights. I have assumed the role of everything, which is ok but frustrating at times! Esp when he asks what can I do? in the beginning i would…

My mom (early-mid ALZ) lives in AL (without support, but has restrictions, not allowed to leave building w/out family) had tried to sign up to go into San Francisco in the AL van to see the Monet & Venice exhibit, but the AL appropriately didn't let her go, telling her it was booked. The residents are not chaperoned, just…

My DW with MCI frequently tells me she wants to go home. However we have been in our home for 40 years. I don't know how to deflect her from that thought.

My husband was diagnosed with dementia yesterday and I’m not sure how to feel about this. I am 43 and he is 65

Timely info and very good presentation from a Scientist/Caregiver- Neal K. Shah, Research Triangle Park https://youtu.be/a8rPct94I-k?si=tFs6gF24oj_B1KeV

The Peter Attia Drive podcast episode #399 with Gayatri Devi, MD - the evolution of Alzheimers disease and treatment. She shares some hopeful information about the future of treatment.

My DH was recently diagnosed with mild ALZ. We have a family reunion coming up and I feel like we should let his two siblings know. Is that something he should be a part of or should I be telling them without his knowing? So much of this journey makes me feel like I’m having to do or say things behind his back because he…