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Any experience with urge incontinence?
My DH with VD is still continent and can do his ADLs independently. His memory is pretty good, is aware of his surroundings, doesnt wander and is still ambulatory. We have a urinal in each vehicle to facilitate frequent urination and urge incontinence. He will use it, but sometimes struggles to get his jeans zipper down…
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Validating
I guess what I need is advice on how to deal with my mother's decline. Tonight she called me to tell me that she thinks someone drugged her because she slept past dinnertime (she lives in a memory care facility). I don't want to "humor" her by validating her fears because I don't think that's healthy. But, I don't know how…
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kikippa, a TV speaker for listening to gamma waves
I saw on TV a"kikippa", device that modulates gamma waves, through a box that resembles a sound bar, and was used for cognitive care for elderly in Japan. [1] Gamma wave modulation is said to help with some elderly cognitive therapy. [2]. It takes audio (like from a TV), and alters it to include the 40Hz sound that is…
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Gamma 40Hz light treatment
Has anyone tried this treatment? A friend of ours whose father is 92 and has dementia has seen a "dramatic" improvement in mood. So - we ordered a lamp for my father on Amazon (arrives tomorrow). I've read articles that state this 'light therapy' helps those with dementia (calms aggression, improves mood, etc). The reviews…
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Cataract surgery for someone between Stage 5 and Stage 6?
Hi all, My mom has advanced Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia. I guess it is between stage 5 and stage 6. She gets full time care in a skilled nursing home. She can´t do any daily tasks without assistance (though the nurse sets her up to wash her own face and brush her own teethI, can´t walk, needs a machine to take her to…
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My heart is broken
Here I am again unable to sleep because my mom has said I hate you, get out of here, you won’t give me my meds. I’ve devoted my life to her. Given up my own. It’s hard to wrap my head around this and I’m so burned out and depressed. I can’t find my footing or my hope. I really need someone to talk to who is going through…
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How to control non stop repetitive questions?
There is a non stop question about where to sleep by my mother who has Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer. She navigate all night without problem going in and out of her bedroom but during day, keep asking on and on, where to sleep. This can go hours and hours non stop. Any possible solution highly appreciated. Tried…
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Dirty Old Man Syndrome
My DH is stage 5 or 6 with Alzy's. He has been acting like a dirty old man. Talking about let's go have some fun (sex). We have been married 37 years and this behavior is out of norm. Very hard for me to say however, he grosses me out and has ED. My question is that has anyone else experienced this.
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Moving to Another Facility
I am in the process of moving my DH from a MC facility to a Care Home. I feel lucky to have found it because it has a much smaller caregiver to resident ratio and is actually in a residential house, so it is much smaller than the place he is in now. My DH is stage 6 ALZ and I believe he will benefit form the calmer…
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In his mind he’s home??
i visit hubby in MC every 2-3 days. As soon as he sees me he’s shocked and says why are you here. Don’t I live with you. Where am I. I redirect but through the visit he wants to know why he is there. He wants to come home. So sad. I spoke to nurse asking if I’m hurting him by visiting as often as I do. She told me it’s…
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progression of disease
my DH has been kind and fun and compliant although he needs 24-hour care.. but now he sits on the couch humming and staring for hours. i try to offer activities and he says no. the past two days at bedtime he has accused me of having an affair and says I need to leave the house. i just agree to leave and the next morning…
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Good news (I think)
My Dad was originally diagnosed with MCI Stage 3 and then the doctor upgraded him to Stage 4. He just had his MRI & blood work done. No proteins found in his blood and the MRI was not bad at all. He had Mild changes consistent with his age & Hypertension history. The doctor wants to give him another cognitive test to…
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Searching for a baby?
My mom has started exhibiting a new symptom: she is unsure where a baby is and is desperate to find it. She even wanders outside to look in our tool shed! She cannot be consoled or redirected. My dad and I do what we can to intervene but we end up just going along with it until her delusion subsides. My question to this…
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Another night on the couch
My DW in the evening is wanting to go home so I drive her in a loop of 3 miles back home. Then she needs to go to bed by herself. Says she can’t have men in the house. Of course I encourage her that I’m here to keep her safe and watch over the place which is fine sometimes. There is a LOT of discussion, usually taking an…
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Resources
If you are not familiar with Neal K. Shah and the web site careyaya.org, you might want to check him and the site out. I have found many very good tips and explanations which are helpful. Neal K Shah is on Facebook and posts regularly. You can find his many YouTube videos at: https://www.youtube.com/%40nealkshah His…
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New to Discussion Group
I am new to this discussion board; I really need to vent just a little. I have worked with many PWD in long term facilities but having a BIL staying with us at home is so much different. He was in a nursing home in Georgia, and his sister was the one who placed him and was responsible for him at that time. She passed and…
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How to tell DH that I’m getting help
Greetings everyone. Sorry for the long post. My DH is in mid stage Alzheimer’s. We’ve been doing ok so far. I haven’t brought in any help, but I know I have to now. He doesn’t need assistance dressing, bathing or bathroom. He has a lot of trouble speaking, using the correct words for his thoughts and can’t complete a…
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House Arrest
It's been a long time since I've posted or visited. It's four years since since I quit working full time. Husband is progressing. He is still continent and feeds himself but can't do much else expect walk within the house and up the driveway; anything else exhausts him. He is very happy. He is driving everyone crazy with…
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When to reconsider Memory Care?
I've written a few times before about my mother's difficulty adjusting to the memory care facility and a worry we placed her into one too early. In the past the recommendation was to wait longer for her to adjust. We're at the ten week point and I'm still struggling. On the positive side: my father was her primary…
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Alzheimer's Quirk?
The person whom I assist who has Alzheimer's has a quirk that I am wondering whether is Alzheimer's-related. I go for walks with them, and when they spot something on the ground, they pick it up and take it home. Some things they have spotted are a hair tie, a nickel, a small velcro strap, etc. Recently, they spotted a…
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Frequent short naps
Lately, my wife (who is in midstage Alzheimer’s disease) has been taking frequent short naps all through the day. She’ll go to bed and snooze for 10 - 30 minutes, then get up and play solitaire on her iPad for a while, then go back to bed, and repeat all day. Sometimes she comes downstairs after a cat-nap and immediately…
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New here...
Hello, My mom has moderate Alzheimers though we've seen noticeable decline every few months. She is very suspicious of everyone. If she can't find something she's convinced someone has stolen it. She's unfit to drive per her neurologist though she thinks she's fine. She has no concept of what day it is and we've realized…
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How to answer, "I need to go home."
My DW almost every day says, "I need to go home." I tell her you are home and that everything is fine and you are safe. She replies with, "No, I need to go home." I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this and has any suggestions. Thank you.
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UPDATE - July 14th - Cancer update and thoughts & prayers appreciated...
Update - surgery July 8th went well. I'm home recuperating. I live with my daughter & son-in-law. Thank God for family. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. I really appreciate them. Love & hugs to all. Just wanted to check in. I haven't been online as much lately. I finished my radiation for Angiosarcoma recurrence…
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Spouse w moderate alz and vd money management
hello. This is my first post. I have been caring for my husband for a few years. His brain woke up after many episodes of jeopardy lol he has had adjustments of meds and his brain received more blood flow. This is great. He can joke and discuss things. He started reading again and connecting online. Here is my problem. He…
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New /but on the recieveing
I knew it was out there 30yrs of giving care recognizing and being supportive now it's my turn. Not very good at receiving help how strange and forthcoming is that? Ok enough of me here's the low down ,married I take it seriously well it started with the drinking and than the falling down than drinking let up to just 2- 3…
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More changes
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What can I expect for my Mom
Hello All, My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a few years back and has been getting worse. She was just diagnosed with lung cancer and we are looking into treatments/options to take. So my dilemma is, what is quality of life in the up coming few years? Any thoughts on how long till she is unable to care for herself, or…
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Jewlery
Any recommendations on jewlery tracker I can get my mom to wear that can’t come off?
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Update on my “plan B”
In my last post I stated I broke my ankle and had NO plan B. Turns out I broke my tibia, fibula and 5th metatarsal and now have a cast to my knee. Absolutely NO weight bearing and No driving. So it’s been a fast course in asking for and receiving help. I looked into home health but no return phone calls but seems I may…