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Secrets
Mom is in AL. She worries about everything! She is probably towards the end of stage 4. She is a bit difficult than most here since her memory is still good. She lacks good judgment, bad anosognosia, and lack of empathy. My adult daughter has been sick since Christmas and just got home from an intensive care hospital stay.…
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speech therapy?
Hi, All, We have a speech therapy order from my partner's neurologist. They provided it at my request even though they were not very positive about yet I have read that it can be helpful for people with Alzheimers who are having difficulty speaking. Has anyone had any experience with this and could share? I would…
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Nonstop for my dad. Need suggestions.
My mother has had dementia for 2 years. My father is taking care of her in our own home. Recently, she has been nonstop needing something after helping her just 5 minutes ago. If no one answers right away, she'll throw her cup on the floor, then she will knock her tray down. She also intentionally tries to roll of the…
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Difficult for him but a bit of "light" for me - SSDI approved
My husband had two appts for SSDI a couple of weeks ago. He hasn't worked for two years, and financially I am struggling. On a side note, I didn't know initially that I could apply for my 15 yr old son as well. I guess I should do that now. I was worried about those two appts because his neurologist has never said "I think…
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Hospital bed time. Moving really fast
I added an Update in the comments I got a call tonight from the AL nurse. Mom rolled out of bed tonight. Since this counts as a fall ( in my opinion), it’s three falls in 9 days. The AL nurse had previously told hospice that mom didn’t need a hospital bed as her platform twin bed raises and lowers at the head and feet. I…
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New to group, in process of getting diagnosis
This is my first post. DH had neuropsych testing done today and now more aware of his memory loss than before. He has been depressed and PCP treating that. Going to first neurologist appointment in 3 weeks. Tonight he gave his drug addicted daughter his credit card number so she could get an uber. This is uncharacteristic…
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In need of support
Hi all, I’m new here, and new to supporting someone with dementia. The long and short is, my aunt has dementia. We haven’t been close, and I hadn’t seen or heard from her much in 30 years. I reconnected with her about 1.5 years ago and she was mostly lucid. She was determined to move to Colorado with me and my kids as she…
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What Do I Need to Learn?
Hello all, Thank you for your collective wisdom. I've been reading posts and learning. My DH was diagnosed with ALZ a month ago. We're early in the process with MCI right now. He works, drives, cooks, etc. (but is slowing down cognitively and short term memory is poor). I'm taking some time off of work to get some things…
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Adult Child Caregiver Support Group
I am new to this forum, but wondering if anyone has thoughts about an adult-child caregiver support group, particularly for caregivers at a distance. My mother is a widow and has MCI and may have mild dementia. We have a somewhat complicated relationship, but I am an only child and thinking of re-locating her to my area…
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Nighttime Delusions and Refusing to Go to Bed
I am not only becoming exhausted and burnt out, but I am running out of effective ways to respond. Trying to redirect him has not helped in his nighttime delusions, nor his times of anger and aggression. Help any ideas or solutions ? I am ashamed to say my patience and compassion is not what it should be right now.
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Long distance sister
I am new to this site. I have a sister in a care facility far away. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer about nine years ago and I had to put her in Memory care in 2018. I have traveled back many times to visit and oversee her care. She is a widow with no children and all our siblings have passed away so I am her soul…
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New Here - I'm Overwhelmed with Guilt That I Am Not Responding to Her Concerns Appropriately
Hi All, I am new here and thought I could seek some guidance from others in the same situation. I am the POA (and medical poa - whatever that is called) for my 82 year old aunt who is in a MCF. She has no spouse, children, or siblings (both brothers passes away in the last year) - so my husband and I are it. I'm not sure…
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How to handle angry people?
I am 74 and have been married for 52 years. I have been slowly declining since 2020. I was happy that I maintained an abiliity to craft a sentence. I have a husband, 74, and two sons, 50 and 48. THe 50 year old is very kind and generous. My husband keeps complaining because I talk too much. My 48 year old son thinks I am…
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Dementia Family Dog Workshop Webinar
I started following this group that’s based in Scotland because my wife who is in the early stage of Alzheimer’s expressed interest in getting a service dog. This free webinar is an “educational workshop to guide families affected by dementia who have, or would like to get, their own pet dog”
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Inhibition
I am sure this has been talked about many times and maybe even by me. Does Alzheimers lower inhibitions so they speak more openly about what they do remember about the past, not counting delusions and hallucinations. When they say something are they less guarded, so their true feeling come out. I know they can be afraid of…
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6 month wait for a neurologist?
My DH clearly suffers from dementia. Can't do any of the things asked by his doctor's nurse (Draw a clock, remember 5 things, draw a square inside a circle...), sundowning daily. Yesterday he was frantic because he thought an airplane had flown into our building above us and the bldg was going to collapse. He wanted to use…
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Tired and Sad Need to Talk
Things seem to be getting worse although it’s hard to tell. Sometimes my DH is relatively responsive but everything seems to be getting harder and slower. He is having an ECG next week an irregular heart beat, he has swollen ankles and sleeps a lot during the day and most of the night until 4.30am anyway. Has trouble…
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Hospital stay - now what?
My mom (72) has been in MC since August. Minimum assistance w ADLs. Took her to ER on Saturday bc Flu and low BP. They admitted her to monitor her heart rate, oxygen, dehydration and kidney function. Pretty much was severely dehydrated which caused the acute kidney injury and low blood pressure. She’s stable but wheezing.…
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Care Giving Conundrum
Been away for a while. Doing my best to keep up. Last week things changed from somewhere in Moderate to Advanced. Still waiting for the new instructions. [:o). Things are changing. Still greeted most morning with "how do I get out of here!". Needs to go home are still based on some kind of family emergency and difficult to…
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It was a long and scary week
Last Thursday, January 9th, MC called and said my DH was very ill and an x-ray showed he had bronchitis and pneumonia and needed immediate medical attention. They sent him by ambulance to the ER. We were digging out from a blizzard that had dumped over a foot of snow on our area and I was still not able to get out. A…
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Oh no. New low
My DH as certainly been declining lately. Just now he asked me where our kids are. He says they aren’t here. Of course they are not. They are 47, 44, and 43 and all have their own homes. It reminds me of his mother who had Alzheimer’s and who called 911 saying the kids were playing in the yard and were now missing. I think…
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Mom stopped walking, starting hospice consultation
I’m exhausted. Mom moved in with us 2.5 months ago. We rehabilitated her after a failed rehab stay following a hospitalization. But she’s declining. Hospice support sounds promising because I need more help. She stopped walking today due to intense pain in her bad hip, but she also shuffles/drags her feet so maybe it’s…
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New Alzheimer’s treatment being studied!
https://scitechdaily.com/a-breath-away-from-a-cure-how-xenon-gas-could-transform-alzheimers-treatment/
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LO Continues to Lose Weight
I had posted earlier about when it is time to get Hospice involved. I have been busy getting my LO set up with home health three times a week, and Palliative care. My concern is still that my LO will not eat food. This weekend she aspirated twice on soup and coke. I also noticed that she is not snoring at night. This is a…
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New issue
My DH had a physical spell early this morning. He wanted up to go to bathroom about 5 a.m. this morning. I made sure he made it to the toilet and let him have some privacy. He was in there a little longer than usual, so asked if he needed some help. Found him weak and very pale and clammy. I helped get him back to bed and…
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When to move?
My husband was diagnosed with MCI a year ago and is declining. We had planned to downsize, but now I'm wondering if that would be too disorienting for him. He already carries a lot of anxiety before this diagnosis, and I worry that a move will accelerate his condition. On the other hand, it really is time to get out of…
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I wrote this essay to help others after losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's.
After losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's, I wrote this essay to help people navigate through the devastating journey of having a loved one with Alzheimer's, because it is the family and those closest to the individual with the disease who bear the greatest burden. Most people find themselves thrust into…
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obsessions
New to this support area. My DW seems to be declining slowly but in bursts. Latest is waking at 2-4 AM very agitated, obsessing about eggs and chicken, angry, saying she is leaving, spitting and hitting if I try to calm her. Some nights doesn't happen? Can occur during day too--no idea where this came from. No matter how…
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Lequimbe
Hello. I'm new to the group and I'm hoping for advice and information as I navigate this new life with my LO. A year ago at 59, he was diagnosed with MCI. This has been going on for four years now, and in the last six months it seems to be progressing quickly. The dr wants to start him on Lequinbe but he hasn't had a…
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Daily Catholic Mass Podcast
For any Catholics, lapsed Catholics, or Catholic curious here’s a link to the daily mass readings. I left the church at age 14 & became an atheist but returned this October at age 52. It’s the best thing I've ever done for myself. I hope this gift reaches others.