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Caregiver Respite
My mom has alzheimers and my dad is her primary caregiver, I am with her every saturday. It is to the point that my mom cannot be left alone and I am worried about my dad. I am looking for adult day services or in home companion care in my area to give my Dad a break- Beaverton, Hillsboro, Aloha, OR, I am completely…
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I’m going crazy out of my mind!
My DH is at the point where finding ways to fill up the day are getting excruciatingly difficult. He no longer is interested in puzzles, which used up a couple of hours a day. He no longer takes care of the yard which gave me a little time alone. We go for walks but two problems have come up with that activity - 1) it’s…
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My DH thinks there are four of me living in our home.
DH is convinced there is a group of us (his wife and her imposters) living in our house. Do any of you have a partner/spouse/LO who suffers from "imposter syndrome" or Capgras Syndrome? I am new to the world of dementia/Alzheimer's. I don't even know if what my DH has is dementia or Alzheimer's. What I do know is that my…
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Travelers to Unimaginable Lands
Sending best wishes to everyone. It’s two years since I joined this forum and since I’ve given up paid work entirely to care for my DH with Alz. Thinking back and looking at photos, it’s at least 5 years since he’s been certifiably loopy. It took me almost all this time to really get a handle on things & I know things will…
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DH getting weaker
My hubby has been treated for metastatic prostate cancer for 2 years. Last week we learned the Eligard is not working as well so we need to add another medication. This will likely make him weaker than he already is. Walking more than a few feet is already difficult so we have chairs everywhere he may need to sit and rest.…
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agression, no diagnosis
im struggling with parents verbally arguing and blaming one another of having dementia/alzhiemers w/o diagnossis,.. i have worked as a caregiver/carepartner for 13yrs, in a facility. I am struggling and dont know how to go about getting a diagnosis, because i see both of there judgement and reasoning completely gone, but…
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Mom doesn't comprehend her disease
My poor Step Father reached a point, with his own health issues, that he could no longer safely care for my Mom. They live in a beautiful home, my Mom used to be able to stitch, sew, crochet, play the piano and was a wonderful cook. She was diagnosed a little less than a year ago with Alzheimers and the last 6 months has…
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Short term memory gone now what?
Curious if there is stage where short term memory is just gone? DH has been declining with his short term memory but the past week it’s just not there! The verbal cues aren’t working, or verbal suggestions. Thought I’d have him literally write a list of 3 to-do’s , read it with him, asked what he will do first, got a reply…
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Unhappy Anniversary
Today is our 13th wedding anniversary. Last year DW jumped out of bed and gave me a big kiss and wished me a happy anniversary. This morning I told her happy anniversary and she had no reaction just continued to talk about something that made no sense. I guess this year is the beginning of unhappy anniversaries for me.…
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Need help with some little things
Hello. My grandma was diagnosed with the early stages of Alzheimer's and dementia about a year ago and is rapidly progressing. Her long-term memory is still okay so far but her short-term memory is definitely suffering and she is becoming more agitated and ornery. She has always been a very strong, independent woman so I…
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Help! A man wants to date my mom
My mom lives in an independent living facility (for now). She is borderline between early and moderate Alzheimers. I spend weekends helping her. It appears there’s a man at the facility who is interested in dating her. He came up to her with me there and put her hand on her shoulder and definitely was interested. My mom…
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Mother insists she can be alone
I searched for posts on this topic and I am sure there are some but I didn’t come across them. As I look back I think my mom has been showing signs of dementia for years. It wasn’t until Nov 2024 though until my dad and I really realize there was a problem - when she got lost in her own neighborhood. She doesn’t remember…
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Cannot post on Lorita's porch thread - technological issues
I have contacted the administrators. I am not able to type in & post anything on your thread. I have refreshed the site and my computer - no luck. Also, when I just went into the thread, I could read but there were no names. It just said "Member." This is only on your thread - crazy. BethL
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Just need to talk to my friends ,(206) June 2025
Thanks for reminding me. Just now started to read. Been waiting for Bryon to come to mow but he hasn't. I'm worried that something may have happened to.him because he is always so dependable. Maybe he was mowing somewhere else and hasn't finished. Thanks, Carl, I'm pretty well today but not up to par. Something has…
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Help
My father and mother have recently moved in with me because my dad was recently diagnosed with stage IV bladder cancer. We are helping care for him and take him to all of his medical appointments and treatments. My mom has Alzheimer's and he was her sole caregiver. Since moving in she has packed her things daily and wants…
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Depakote added with Seroquel
Has anyone had a loved one that takes both Depakote and Seroquel? If so, I am wondering what reaction you see in the person you care for that takes both medications, and was it also for agitation and aggression? DH is already on Seroquel but the Neurologist suggested adding Depakote along with Seroquel for DH anxiety and…
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GUIDE Program - Medicare & Medicaid
starts July 2025
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Gene therapy shows promise for Alzheimer’s disease
Gene therapy shows promise for Alzheimer’s disease San Diego VA researchers demonstrated in mouse models that targeting specific brain neurons through gene therapy in early-stage Alzheimer’s disease may help preserve memory and stimulate neuron growth. The researchers focused on the protein Cav-1, which promotes the growth…
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parent telling me mean things about sibling
Hi all, first time poster, I've had this come up recently and wondered if I'm the only one. My sibling and I each equally care for our parent, several times, my parent with dementia will say to me they prefer me to my sibling, this really breaks my heart because my sibling does so much for my parent and always, our whole…
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Thickening Liquids
Hello All - Just got a call from Hospice that they are now adding a thickener to my Dad's liquids. From what I understand a thicker liquid is easier to swallow. I guess they add some type of powder to his drinks. Anyone have a loved one on this? TBH I've never heard of this, but I'm sure its just another sign of…
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Private Pay One on One in addition at Memory Care Facility
Hello, My 86 year old mom had a stroke and massive heart attack almost 7 years ago. She survived, but now has vascular dementia and Alzheimer's (Alzheimer's started prior to stroke). She was at a memory care facility that was horrible. We moved her to this new place in February and love it. The staff is very caring and…
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Anyone taking N-acetylcysteine?
Our neighbor was talking with us about n-acetylcysteine benefits for Alzheimer’s. Is anyone taking it and seeing improvements? I’m looking for a reputable product in case my wife decides to take it.
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Caregiving
Never in my life did I ever think that I would be a caregiver to a person with VD with a heart failure diagnosis. Some days I think I can get through it and then other days I question whether or not I am failing and needing to go to the nut house myself. I feel I am living a nightmare that just won't end, and I have no…
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Can’t figure out where he wants to go
The last few days DH has been trying to tell me about a place he wants to go, and for the life of me I can’t figure out what he’s talking about. His aphasia is so bad I can’t even make a guess. I have asked him questions to help clarify but that just leads to more nonsensical sentences. He describes it differently at…
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Therapy, counseling for Alz caregiver
What's the best source for me to use to find a therapist/counselor who's familiar with caregivers for people with dimentia? I don't need it yet, but want to start before I do.
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Taking medication in AL
Moms Al does not watch her take her medication. They set it on the table and leave. I was told when she moved in the it is policy that staff must watch residents to make sure the medication is take. This was important to me since I found stray pills all over the floor in her home and many more in old purses that she had…
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Just Had to Cancel Mom's Move. Again.
For the second time in a month, my mom managed to (mostly) schedule movers to take her from AL back to her home. The information she provided both times was either incorrect or incomplete. She's been in AL about 3 months. When I canceled the first move, I didn't tell her, which made her feel betrayed for not being looped…
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He's forgetting how to eat
and even what food is…at least that is how it seems. I eat lunch with him on Sundays at the MC. For the last two weeks, when they bring his tray he just sits there and looks at it until I tell him to eat it. Then he looks at me and asks what he is supposed to do. This Sunday, I picked up his fork and put a piece of chicken…
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Doesn’t want to go anywhere
My DW doesn’t want to visit family or friends both locally and long distance anymore. I’m thinking it because maybe she doesn’t remember them. Half the time she asks me what my name is. Should I just not worry and take her anyway. I’ve read that changes aren’t good. Maybe I should just accept that our days staying home are…