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Not there then right there
I’ve noticed that when I arrive for a visit, my mom is usually a little confused until I acclimate her. She recognizes me, but is not exactly sure who I am. Occasionally, especially if we talk a bit (meaning I talk about normal stuff in my life and she listens attentively), she says REALLY lucid things! Like today, I asked…
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CHERISH THOSE POSITIVE PEOPLE AROUND YOU
If there is anything I have learned…only in the very beginning of this incredibly difficult and challenging disease process is that you truly learn who loves & cares for you.. and spouse (DH) be it family or friends. As much as you will or have gone out on a limb for others in their difficult or challenging times.. it most…
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Favored daughter of three
I’m the middle daughter of three sisters, and I’m struggling with the challenges of caring for our aging mother. I’m a licensed mental health therapist, and I can see signs that my mom may already be in the mid-to-late stages of dementia, but my sisters won’t acknowledge it or pursue a diagnosis. The youngest, who is the…
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Brand new here; question about ptau217 test
My mom (68) was evaluated by a neurologist last month for suspected cognitive impairment. She performed poorly on the cognitive tests that were administered. The doctor ordered bloodwork, and today we learned that (a) she is an ApoE3/4 carrier and (b) her Quest PTAU217 level was 0.19. The note on her e-chart stated that…
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My husband isn’t diagnosed yet
his memory is worse every day. So frustrating with all the repeated questions, plus he cat hear wear and has a cochlear implant, so lots of yelling answers to him. Good thing I have the patience of a saint!
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Help for Caregivers of Veterans-Elizabeth Dole Foundation
The Elizabeth Dole Foundation offers assistance for caregivers of veterans who were wounded or have an illness such as dementia. The veteran does not need to have a disability rating. They offer financial assistance, mental wellness, financial wellness course, webinars, and assistance navigating the VA system with aid and…
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PWD refusing to pee with aide, instead ends up going on floor, help!
Looking for tips to improve a situation! My husband is not incontinent but sometimes needs help in the bathroom, either verbal cueing, or sometimes a bit of physical guidance, to either stand close enough to the bowl to aim or to sit down and pee that way. The problem is that now I'm back at work, the aide (who's in her…
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i am so confused
My DH has been diagnosed with early stage dementia. He has been tested and it is not Alzheimer's. His short term memory is getting worse every day. He cant remember where we are going at all. I do the driving now. As an example I will ask him over and over to put is partial plate in. By the time he gets up the stairs he…
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when to stop work
Hello family, My DH is not remembering who I am. Has our wedding picutures from one room to another. Im thinking this might be soon til , the is last time he remembers us. He sleeps alot and is awake til ??? During day I work 4 days 730-5. Should I quit working? I dont know
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How do I make this decision
My DH has had Alzheimer’s for about six years. He eats well, is somewhat responsive but does not engage in conversations, forgets to bathe and brush his teeth etc. He is not incontinent. We have hospice in once a week to help him shower, which he objects to, and a nurse to check vitals. He also has congestive heart…
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Maintaining my marriage
My MIL has not been diagnosed that we know of but she is extremely forgetful, paranoid, and just plain cruel. She swears the doctors have told her she does not have dementia but refuses to let any family or her husband go into the doctor's office with her so we seriously doubt that is true. My husband (her son) and I are…
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Update
I want to give an update on what's been happening with DH. In my last two thread I shared that the facility said the state told them he had to move because of an incident where he wandered and got into bed with a female resident and touched her in an inappropriate place. The Division of Health and Senior Services (DHHS)…
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PBM laser light therapy for Alzheimer’s
Have any of your love ones had PBM laser therapy treatments? If so, has it helped for cognition? The research on this therapy for Alzheimer’s is promising for delaying the progression.
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Need advice
I am hoping someone out there has experienced a something similar and can provide some guidance. Background: My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s “with a vascular contributing factor” in 2023. I would say he is probably in the moderate stage now. To the average person, he seems normal. Short term memory is really bad;…
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Moving Mom
My sister and I are getting things ready in my mom's new room in Memory care. She will be moving in on the 2nd. Any advice from those that have already moved their parent? What things did you find helpful? What didn't go so great? Necessary items for the room? Any advice would be helpful!
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Organizing home care
Hi everybody! I have learned much from this forum (thanks!), but now I face a new problem and need your kind advice again. My DW (82) has late-stage dementia. So far, I have been able to take full care of her (besides a bit of respite care from an aide), but all my current arrangements depend on my wife's ability to walk…
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The Long Quiet
Dear Friends, I am quickly approaching ten years as a caregiver for my dear wife with late Stage 6 dementia. Alzheimer’s and dementia have long been known as The Long Goodbye because of the painfully long duration of the disease. No one knows how long their journey as a caregiver will go on, but I never imagined myself…
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How to answer questions about going home.
My lo is in assisted living for past 3 weeks, she constantly cries that she wants to go home. She has moderate dementia and is 95 years old
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How to Respond to Family/ Friends who mean well but their comments are a bit much at Times
A family friend says tell your mother Hello, even though she may not remember me. Or I heard she is really bad off.
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A little pick-me-up
Sometimes the smallest kindest can make you feel so blessed. An old friend from our ski club who found out my circumstances sent me a gift box with this beautiful mug. I loved the message on it and wanted to pass it on to all of you awesome caregivers. We didn’t choose this life but we’re making the best of it out of love…
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Should you tell mom that her brother has passed away?
New to the group here. Mom has late stage dementia, is 93 and her brother who lives in another state passed away. My dad who is 94 insists on telling her. I don’t think we should. I’ve gotten advice from medical professionals explaining the risks (and lean towards not telling her). I have to respect my dad‘s decision, but…
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My Heart Will Go On..
I lost my husband and soulmate to Alzheimer’s one year ago today. It’s been a rough day. I miss him so much it hurts. I'm thankful for the beautiful memories we made. Love you LonHo! 🙏💜 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3QAqZQYLIQ Every night in my dreams I see you, I feel you That is how I know you go on Far across the…
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vitamin B12 abnormally High
Hello I recently had a diagnosis changed from early onset dementia to Mild cognitive Impairment after psychological testing. a few weeks ago I had a lumbar puncture test done and some blood work. In my cerebral spinal fluid I had abnormally very high vitamin b12 and abnormally high Red Blood cells in my CSF as well. my…
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Dementia study done by the UK
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-15084673/sleep-brain-ageing-dementia-insomnia-brain-ageing.html Interesting.
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End stage
My father insists on taking care of my mom till the very end. He is struggling medically as well and they need lots of support. They are currently in assisted-living however I’m wondering at one point do I insist on memory care?
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Gentleness and Continuation
I guess after reading about so many other situations I have it very easy. My DH is not aggressive, he’s very sweet and kind the sort of person that everyone loves. He gave up driving relatively easily and is quite good as a passenger, he accommodates most of my wishes if I manipulate the circumstances to suit. We go to the…
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Wedding Ring
My DH lost his wedding a while back but keeps thinking he just lost it. He just told me he lost his wedding ring and said “ I know I had it yesterday” but he didn’t. I’m concerned now cause of the distress this is causing him. I’m acting nonchalant but he’s clearly worried. Should I go buy a new one and pretend I found it?…
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worried about my own memory
My husband was diagnosed with early stage Alzheimers and lately I am wondering if I have alzheimers. I do not know if it is from the stress. He is very negative and constantly talking about what is wrong with him. I try to be patient but it is sometimes difficult with his pessimistic attitude. I am not sure if anyone else…
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Bathing why it’s a struggle
I’m new to all this and the group. Yesterday was a bad day for me I have never reached out before but mum for the first time ever got so angry and nasty to me it was a shock never has she done this before in my whole life and I’m 52. All because I’m trying to get her to bathe. I hope and pray she doesn’t start to associate…
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"Exhaustion" by Michael J Whelan
I follow Michael on X (Twitter). His is a stage 4 cancer survivor & his wife Rebecca has Parkinson's & now Parkinson's Dementia. He has such a way with words. He expresses what many of us feel. He posted this today: "A Letter to Exhaustion.by Michael Whelan Chapter 21. An except from my memoir. Dear Exhaustion, You didn’t…