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Moderate Sedation with MCI
I’m 51 and scored in the MCI range on a recent cognitive screening when I told a neurologist I felt like I had memory issues. The cause is still being determined. Initial blood tests show it’s likely not Alzheimer’s, though I still have an MRI and sleep eeg. That said, my mother has Alzheimer’s, as likely my paternal…
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Just looking for some support
For the past two years my partner and I have taken in his mother who has Alzheimer's and her partner who has dementia. He has since gone to a nursing home but my partner's mother is still at our house. She's in the late 6th stage of Alzheimer's. She has serious incontinence issues on a daily basis and is reliant on us for…
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Vascular Dementia
MIL was finally able to get into a neurologist and had an EEG and MRI. Also had a memory test and scored 6/30. When met with the NP who was sharing the results of the testing, she said her brain was smaller but that was due to her age (86). She told her that the EEG was fine but that she had some white spots on her MRI of…
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Traumatic Head Injury and Rapid Decline
Several months ago, my DW was assaulted by an employee at her MCF. The attack resulted in serious injury to her head and a couple of weeks in the hospital. Prior to the injury DW could perform all Activities of Daily Living quite well. I was able to take her out of the facility for dinner and rides around town. To be sure,…
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Following our Request
Mom moved in Sept 8th, she has moderate dementia, almost no short term memory, long term is pretty good, last 11 years or so are fuzzy. She was mild to moderate until she got a UTI and low sodium and was hospitalized for 3 weeks, now she's fully moderate. It's difficult because she can remember how to use the chair to get…
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Early incontinence question
I would appreciate a little counsel. My DW with is still pretty self sufficient. She was diagnosed about a three years ago. She has had just three accidents over the past few months. She also has anosognosia and doesn't have a clue why she's had the urinary accidents. Each time she's had an episode it was when we were…
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New to the forum, and sooo many questions
I've been reading through many of the forums and getting familiar with topics. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's several years ago; we moved him and my mom to Colorado because two of us four children live here, and we could tag-team their care. They moved into an AL facility near us; mom died of Norovirus within a year…
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The essence of living in limbo
So my son and his fiancee are planning a destination wedding in the spring. This ought to be unadulterated happiness....but honestly, my first thought is how much easier it would be if my partner is gone before then, how much more I could enjoy it if I didn't have to worry about getting back. And of course I feel guilty…
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Humor me and tell me I am not a bad daughter
Mom is safe and settling new place. She actually likes it most days. I go 3-4 times a week. My car is at the shop, a friend is visiting this weekend, and I want a break. Will be 4-5 days depending when car is ready, but truthfully I really just want a break. I called the place and they said they would tell her, and others,…
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Wife pissed off at me
wife pissed off at me , need advice let it go or leave it alone. ??
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Funny, not funny
MIL lost her dentures. She doesn’t realize they’re gone and she’s eating well, so I’m not subjecting her to a visit to the dentist. The staff at her MC is really upset, even though I’ve assured them it’s no biggie. They’ve searched everywhere - they even checked all the other residents’ mouths! I swear sometimes I think…
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Mom was accepted into hospice
it’s rather surreal typing that subject line. I got a call from the hospice agency out of the blue yesterday it has been two months since her first evaluation and they wanted to evaluate her again. I told the first person that called that I wanted to wait two weeks. The AL nurse is on vacation. Two hours later the second…
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Progression from hospitalizations?
My DH has been hospitalized repeatedly this summer for aggression/agitation. After each hospitalization he seems a little worse. He gets better, but not back to where he was. Last Sunday he went from the Geri-psych unit to the ER and then a medical floor with aspiration pneumonia. The doctors say his pneumonia is…
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Circles and circles and circles
I teach elementary school, which means I have circular conversations all day. I have a parent in early stages of degenerative brain disease, which means I go home and have circular conversations. I foresee lots of screaming in my car.
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Respite care services Denver, CO?
Hi- new to this space. My mother was recently diagnosed with beginning stage Alzheimer's and capgras. My father is the primary care partner at the moment and he needs respite. Does anyone know of an assisted living facility in the area that will do short term respite care? Thanks!
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Facebook reel is not appropriate
I’m just going to vent here because I’m sure not going to vent there. If you have Facebook, you know there are public reels that show up on your feed - mostly cute little snippets- gender reveals, military homecomings, new puppies etc. Some middle aged man has been putting up reels of his elderly father with dementia. It’s…
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I Just Don't Care About Work Anymore
As many of you know, we moved from the SF Bay Area about two years ago to a small, rural town far, far north. We thought then that my DW might just have exhaustion from the stress of 17-years as a caregiver for both of her parents who had dementia. I was lucky to get a good job in my field up here, but the rest as a cure…
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Difficult sibling
Mom moved into a mid range $ AL about 6 months ago. I’m her DPOA. For the year prior she lived with my brother. He works and she was alone a lot. The doctor said she should not be left alone anymore. When finding a facility my brother did nothing. Didn’t even visit the place before she moved in. Well I made a big mistake…
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Refusal to go to any kind of DR./No Dementia diagnosis
My mom has had dementia for probably 10 years..ony now getting to late middle stage. She is completely uncooperative with doing anything involving Dr.s (even the dentist) . She throws an absolute fit, and my Dad refuses to just take her anyway. As a result, we have not been able to get her diagnosed, although it's obvious…
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When to move?
My husband was diagnosed with MCI a year ago and is declining. We had planned to downsize, but now I'm wondering if that would be too disorienting for him. He already carries a lot of anxiety before this diagnosis, and I worry that a move will accelerate his condition. On the other hand, it really is time to get out of…
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Need to talk to someone
My husband is 73. I did not know about anosognosia and I was so relieved to read about it on this site. We moved to another state 5 years ago (right before COVID) to be closer to our daughter, her husband and our grandson. It has been a rough transition for my husband. COVID kept us from meeting new people and my husband…
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First MC Visit
I haven't been to visit my wife since placing her in the memory care facility on the 22nd. The thought of seeing her fills me with dread. I'm worried about how we'll both handle the emotions, and I fear she might think I'm there to take her home, which would cause her unnecessary pain. The activity director and the rest of…
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Veterans Home
Is there anyone else other me who has Dementia and is on the waiting list to get in to a Veterans home like I am? I'm on the list to get into the new Veterans home near Boston and it is state of the art each veteran has his own bedroom and bathroom.
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Picture telephone
I am looking for a phone for DH to use that can dial by pressing the button with a picture or name on it. I have Spectrum internet phone service (landline). I purchased 2 so far and neither have worked with this. Has anyone had luck with this?
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Memory care Monday
Provided everything goes smoothly, my husband is moving into a memory care facility on Monday. I’ve struggled with this but, as the kind people here always say, safety has to be top priority. This morning my sweet husband, who rarely talks at all and never speaks above a whisper, told me with his full voice, “I’m ok.” He’s…
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A life well lived
DW is 72 and has been on this road for 14 years . 7 years with me as 24/7/365 caretaker. 7 in a memory care facility, It is more than five years since she had the slightest idea who I was and has had little or no cognitive functioning for 4 years. She will swallow food put in her mouth and that is it. She has no other…
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Missing him so much today…
My husband Lonny passed August 12. MY HUSBAND, MY ANGEL. Your Battle is Now Over. No More Pain No More Suffering. I Still Do Not Understand Why This Happened to You. But I Am Proud to Say You Are My Husband, A Great Man, My Soulmate. Now You Are My Angel, So Spread Your Wings Out Wide, Please Wrap Them Around Me Whenever…