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To those with LO in memory care
My wife has been in memory care for about 9 months. She had a stroke 10 months ago. Our marriage has not been close for a long time, but she doesn't remember what our problems were. I would like to know how others are dealing with their spouses being in memory care. I feel kind of trapped. I can never go back and don't…
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Clear cup vs opaque cup for drinking
It depends on the PWD but I read of two conflicting views online: PWD forgets there's something to drink in an opaque mug, so putting it into a clear cup makes PWD realize there's something to drink. Otherwise, PWD just forgets or just stares at it. Clear cups may "disappear" or is hard to see for PWD, as do clear contents…
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Fear and refusal of standing/transfers?
Prefacing with my mom seems to be in the later stages. She recently does not want to get up or stand up. In the morning, she will not want to sit up in bed. Once we get her in a sitting position, she is refusing to stand up. She would rather just sit there. When we get her up with a gait belt, she gets very angry and…
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Struggling to make this all work
My dad died in October and that seemed to just pressure cook the dementia into mom....She makes little to no sense when she talks, is aggressive towards my grandkids, tells me and everyone who will listen she hates my m-i-l, who also lives with us, but they chit chat all day, is snarky to my husband, refuses to pick up…
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Giving up outside appointments
How long has anyone been able to keep up routine dental care for your PWD? I have actually been taking my mom for cleanings every 3 months, on the advice of the dentist since she doesn't do a good job with brushing. Staff at her MC are supposed to assist her, but I think it happens in a hit or miss fashion depending on…
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Life Insurance
Unfortunately I had to cancel an expense policy when my husband lost his job. At that time I didn't know he would be diagnosed with ALZ. Now I'm having trouble just getting a basic policy for him. Can anyone offer some help? He's 65. Thanks, CM
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Trouble writing
Hi there...my husband has Alzheimer's at age 64. I can barely sign his name anymore and can write numbers. What do you all recommend I do? Do I need a power of attorney to complete this task for him now? I appreciate anyone with some knowledge on this subject. CM
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New challenge
My dad just recently started saying that there are men in his house. He tells us where they are standing, but doesn't say he knows who they are. So far they have been in the bathroom and living room. Has anyone else experienced this with their love one?
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Research focusing on gut health shows promise
Source: https://news.stanford.edu/stories/2026/03/gut-brain-cognitive-decline-research-aging TLDR: "New research shows that restoring gut-brain communication can reverse memory problems in aging mice, pointing to new treatments for cognitive decline." "These changes are registered by immune cells in the gastrointestinal…
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Dentist
Hi My husband has Alzheimers and I'm looking for a dentist that is patient and kind when handling someone with Alzheimers. I live in the Lincoln RI area. Any referrals would be much appreciated. Darlene
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Having a hard time choosing between home care and memory care
A month ago my DH with mixed dementia ended up in the hospital. Nothing serious. From the hospital he went to a transitional care program where they adjust his medication because of his aggressive behavior and high anxiety. He has been there for a month and is much calmer and a lot less aggressive. He is also almost 100…
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How to stop concerning behavior
How do you stop your LO from doing inappropriate things? Two examples… When we walk in the neighborhood, DH sometimes wants to walk up people’s driveways so he can look at the water behind their house. I can’t think of anything to stop him other than saying that’s private property, then he gets angry at me and cusses me…
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DW that has a dog...
My DW and I have a dog. She is obsessed over him. I had to remove all of the food from our refrigerator and panty because she kept feeding him, excessively. Luckily, I have a refrigerator downstairs that is out of sight. My DW is obsessed with ensuring that our dog has enough water and food and goes outside. This obsessive…
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In person weekly meeting
I am 75 and was diagnosed with Alzhiemer's in August 2025. I am currently taking Kisunla infusions. I'm in the early stage. My wife and I are interested in starting a weekly in person meeting for sharing and mutual support. We live in Houston, near downtown. Please respond if you are in Houston and interested in an in…
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Support Groups for Younger Onset
Hello. I just joined this forum and am looking for a younger onset support group for my DH, who was diagnosed with vascular demetia at 62 and will be 65 this year. He currently belongs to a support group that meets twice a month, once on zoom and once in-person. All the other participants in the group are at least 10+…
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She’s begging me to move in
My mom received the letter from the doctor telling her not to drive anymore. At least I am no longer the bad guy. But obviously she is devastated. And I think finally seeing that she can’t live alone 2.5 hours away from me anymore. We have a spot in AL near me reserved for her. But now she is BEGGING me to move in with me…
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Happy I can still find things that make me laugh
My husband lost his phone this morning and wanted help finding it. I was in a different room so I told him I’d call it so he could follow the sound. After calling several times with no answer I went looking for him. He was in his bathroom on his hands and knees looking behind the toilet. When I called again I could tell he…
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Good day has me questioning my sanity
I’m at my mom’s and she has been so normal and seemingly fine all day, I’m starting to question my sanity. She cleaned her house before I came, she cleaned out all the expired food from her fridge, she did all the laundry…. Hard to believe this is the same woman who one week ago forgot how her son was related to her……
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Sibling Disagreement on Care
My 85-year-old mother was diagnosed with dementia 7 years ago. My older father insisted on caring for her and hiding how bad things were from my sister and me. We started 4 years ago to try to get him to consider in-home care or assisted living. He finally agreed and they moved into a lovely community in October. However,…
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Alz w/brain bleed complication.
I have been diagnosed with Alz with the complication of excessive existing iron deposits. My neurologist is reluctant to prescribe either of the two infusions due to the risk of hemorrhaging. I have two questions/requests. Is there anyone out there that has this complication and has been prescribed a medication other than…
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Desperately seeking housing
For those that read my first post, you know what I've gone through, and now I'm trying to locate housing for myself after spending seven years caring for my mother with alzheimer's. I'm trying to find a room for rent or a kitchenette in the Bryan/College Station, Texas area. If you can help, please reach out to me. Thank…
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New here, young adult child looking for connection and support
Hi, I’m 33 years old and my 74 year old mom was recently diagnosed, although we’ve seen it for the last couple years. I live in California and she lives in Ohio with my dad. I also have an older sister that lives a few hours away from my parents. Mom and I have been really close and talk on the phone every day on my drive…
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Imaginary People in Our House
My DW sees imaginary people in our house at all hours. Right now at 10 AM she is talking to them and telling them to get out. She asks me ifi they are my friends and why I let them in. I am at odds at how to deal with this every day and night occurrence. I welcome any input you may have to help me deal with this. how have…
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The time has come-transitioning mom from AL to MC
I'm at a loss with my emotions and smarts. My mom's AL nurse called today to let me know that they ran a few tests and screenings, and my mom scored low across the board. The staff has been monitoring her and is seeing a noticeable decline with her memory, increased confusion, and also depression (mostly loneliness and…
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Adult Day Care
I live in Cabarrus county, North Carolina and am considering enrolling may DW into an adult day care program I was wondering if anybody has any experience/recommendations on adult day care facilities in the Cabarrus county area. Thanks
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Need to get grab bars and hand rails installed
DH's mobility is declining. He uses his walker when we leave the house but doesn't use it at home. We have a step from our house going into the garage and also one going out the front door. A handrail and a grab bar would help him navigate these steps. I know they have to be anchored into studs. I'm thinking of calling a…
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Word of caution. Seeming to be normal is not being normal.
I got an abrupt wake up yesterday. We had a minor problem with filing our income taxes and I asked my DH with AL, Stage 3, where did he put the copies of the papers we sent to our accountant. When I finally found them, some were missing. He has seemed so normal (other than word and memory loss) for a number of months that…
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We are all walking somebody home
My niece arranged for the Threshold Choir to come sing for my DH yesterday. It was a beautiful experience. Four people came and arranged themselves in a fashion so my DH was the audience. They sang four or five songs and left quietly. The last song was, We Are All Walking Somebody Home. That hit me like a ton of bricks and…
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Devices or To ablet Apps with Pictures
Hi Folks, My 70 yr old DW cannot put names to items she wants or things she wants to do? Can anyone recommend a book, device or application for a tablet or cell phone that she can point to? Bill