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67 and diagnosed with ALZ 2 years ago
Would like to find others to converse with in the Del Mar area. I retired 2 years ago due to ALZ. Finding it lonely since husband works and I no longer drive. Either in person or online. Thank you.
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Act Normally as if Nothing is Wrong
My wife is a solid ALZ Stage 5. She can no longer cook, drive, use her computer, use a phone, repeats the same questions again and again, and many other things. She is totally dependent on me and she wants me to be with her 24/7. I can't leave her alone. However, through it all I have treated her as if nothing is wrong and…
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Foot amputation
My 71 yo DH is stage 6 and has lived in MC since Sept. 2024. In November, a podiatrist clipped his toenails. A few days later his big toe developed gangrene. I took him to the hospital's wound care center and they tried to clear up the gangrene with Santyl, but it didn't work. The gangrene spread down the toe. A Doppler…
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Bizarre medical episode
I wanted to post what happened to see if anyone else has a LO with AD who experienced this odd condition. My mother has AD. She lives in MC. The staff discovered Mom sitting and murmuring gibberish Monday after breakfast. Her BP and oxygen levels were both extremely low. They called the paramedics and Mom started…
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Teeth pulling
My mother has alzheimer's I say mid stage, but her Dr has never stated what stage. Anyway, she has been telling me for a few weeks that I took her to a dentist that ground all her teeth down to nothing and now every time she runs her tongue around in her mouth all she feels are broken teeth. Well since I know this never…
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VA - Veteran benefits
Just wanted to give an update on possible Veterans Benefits. Service connected disability: File for it if the Veteran meets the qualifications. There is a list of diseases that are presumptive for Agent Orange. Parkinson's is on the list and I believe Alzheimer's & Dementia should be. I would file for Social Security…
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I feel as if I’m suffocating…
This is my first time writing on any discussion boards. When my dad was first diagnosed with a brain tumour leaving (FTD) in 2018 it left just short term memory loss. Since in he was 59 and still active and working at the time. The main focus was doing all the mri making sure the tumour didn’t come back . We didn’t really…
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Easy to use TV for alzheimer's patients?
My mom struggles with using the TV remote to watch TV. We currently use basic cable but she cannot remember which buttons navigate what. I've talked with the provider and we have the simplest package they provide. I can do a streaming service for her it it contains several channels she like to watch and is very easy to…
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Shoulder replacement or not?
Hi guys, my first post. My MIL (82, Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, Cancer survivor) needs a shoulder replacement surgery due to arthritis caused by a rotator cuff tear. The surgeon said to get any invasive procedures done before two weeks before the date, so I took her to the dentist to have her teeth cleaned. It was a…
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Always feeling guilty and I feel guilty about that too!
This disease is so terrible and leaves you feeling guilty no matter your best efforts. Mom is in AL and my brother and I each visit a few times a week. It breaks my heart that she is always in tears and saying “i just want you to stop moving me”. We never argue but try to say we are working on it or simply I am sorry. I am…
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Gene Hackman's death
This is a sobering story for caregivers. We have to think about what would happen if something terrible happened to us, who would care for our loved one with dementia? Do you have anyone who checks on you regularly? I heard of one case in which the wife caregiver had a serious fall and broke something. She couldn't get to…
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And now cancer along with everything else
We have just been told that DH has renal cell carcinoma. We have a visit with a specialist in a few weeks. I really just want to know what the prognosis is for his cancer. He has many other health issues in addition to Alzheimer's, so I do not expect there to be a cancer treatment that would be warranted. I want him to be…
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feeling sadness and panic and heartbreak seeing my mom like this
She was failing at home, seeing things, getting a bit dangerous, not able to care for herself etc so we were lucky to get her in a home. She has not liked it, tried to escape, fought a little bit to get out, but then got weaker so not as mobile. She has been going downhill so fast. She is weak and crying and moaning. They…
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medicaid
I am currently in the process of getting medicaid for my mom. She got approved and got the card; however we now need to set up a pooled trust. Do people do this on their own, or does everyone hire a lawyer?
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Husband
I’m new here and desperately hopeful I can connect. It’s been about 7 years for my husband diagnoses and lately he is sleeping a lot, has trouble finding words and forgetting almost immediately. Not sure where to turn for information on his progression. Thank you in advance
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new to group
My DH was diagnosed 3 years ago with VD, he also has diabetes..When I look back, I know it started sooner. He is progressing and I am facing new challenges like driving, of course I have the keys but everyday he will ask.
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Had to step back
Long story short, I live long distance from an aunt with dementia. She has family who live near. When it was discovered aunt had dementia, family expected me to take care of aunt. Move in and handle everything. Everything was dire. The family didn't want aunt alone for a second. I did what I could and explained I couldn't…
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Need help accepting caregiver
We're trying to hire a caregiver/helper for a few hours a week, but my wife is very private and gets angry at the idea of having someone else in our home. We need some advice on how to resolve this. Thanks.
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New-ish diagnosis
My father has been diagnosed with MS ALZ and it is clear that the disease is progressing rapidly. What do folks do when the families cannot afford in home care or facility care? His insurances only will cover certain things. He cannot be home alone anymore. Any tips/advice would be appreciated so much we are desperate 😔
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Leqembi infusions
We're looking into getting my DW on Leqembi infusions. Can anyone using this Med tell me if it works or causes more harm?
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AAIC For All; Alzheimer's Association International Conference
The banner for the Alz Connected website indicates this site is "a dedicated community where people with Alzheimer’s, their caregivers, and others affected by the disease can share answers, opinions, ideas, and support." Along those lines, one idea would be for those interested in Alzheimer's research is to attend the…
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Rapid Progression
The progression of Alzheimer’s can jump suddenly. My wife was diagnosed in July 2016. Her rate of decline stayed fairly steady until last December. In memory care, she walked 12 to 18 hours a day, she could feed herself, and she talked a lot of word salad. In the middle of December she was hospitalized with a urinary tract…
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Showers
My DW believes that she showers often but does not. Gets super offended when I mention it. Any thoughts on how to approach the topic?
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Grand tour
On My lunch break today went and visited the possible facility for my bf (45yo eoa, stage 6). I cried my whole drive there kept it together while walking up to the office then when asked how i could be helped the tears just fell. I did manage to get my words out. The lady who does the admissions was on lunch. Then as I was…
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Hygiene and related matters
looking for ideas about how to get my wife to wash her hair (or let me do it) and clip her nails. Once I can get that far I will move on to getting her to shower (am having shower chair and grip bars installed this week). She also refuses to let me bring in a physical therapist, even though she can barely walk up stairs…
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Changing diapers
My dad is double incontinent. Mom wants to move Dad from Al back to home where she can take care of him. One big obstacle is trying to change his diaper when he is bed bound due to multiple fractures on his entire right side. Is there a way to change him without hurting him and how to roll him onto his side? Maybe I could…
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Leqembi infusions
Have your persons been doing Leqembi infusions? Has it helped? What can you tell me about these infusions.
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What do you do when you visit your loved one in MC?
I'm asking because there are times when I leave the MC feeling rather holow inside. Our son was here this week and he said he wished he could do something with his dad besides play rummy. He wanted to do something that would be meaningful for him. I understood since I have the same feelings at times. When I visit, we hug…
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how to shave a man?
DH has macular degeneration plus Alz, its increasingly hard for him to complete a really nice shave. He mostly only shaves once a week, that is OK, his whiskers are not thick and would never be a good beard. I'm looking for tips to help him and eventually take over the weekly cleanup. He uses basic razors, some of them…
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Overwhelmed
New to this discussion and hopeful for some assistance/direction, words of wisdom….my husband was recently diagnosed with EOAD, with lvppa variant. Went to 3 neurologists. Told he is in mild stage. Scored 19, 20 on MOCA. Had a silent stroke but don't know when….cognitive and some immediate memory issues prompted PCP visit…