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Finances
Am encountering extreme difficulty removing my wife, diagnosed 3 years ago with Alzheimer’s, from financial access without being accused as controlling or treating her like a child.
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Three Month Ramblings
Tomorrow will mark month 3 since my DW's passing. I've spent those three months traveling and riding on the rush of gratitude I've felt about having ever met her and my relief at not watching my DW suffer every minute of the day. I'm glad to have those feelings still. But, I've also realized that with each bit of business…
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Peeing pants.
Hello. I feel like I’m drowning. My husband was diagnosed 1/22 with Alzheimer’s. I feel like he is late 5 stage or going into 6. He has peed his pants 2 times now. Does this mean he’s incontinent? Today I tried to get him to put on men’s depends. He refused to put them on. How do I get him to wear them? I’ve been touring…
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Activities for care receiver
I am new to the forum. I'm looking to find activities my wife can do. She really enjoyed reading both with physical books and articles on the web. The books have become hard to find she can enjoy, let alone follow. The computer has become too complicated for her to work of her. Any Ideas?
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Coming to peace with Hospice
Last months I posted about ESBL and Hospice. I wrestled for quite awhile about deciding to place my DH on hospice. Many things became clear to me which made the decision more manageable for me. I struggled mightily with the thought I would be killing my husband if I didn’t continue to chase any and all treatments. I…
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New behavior.. looking for dinner
Past few weeks DH has been coming into the kitchen every 10 minutes as I am cooking dinner to see if it was ready! He always has an excuse.. I want to see what you are doing. Wanted to tell you I’m going to the bathroom I want to get a drink ( he has one already) . I know he is looking for his food. So I prepare his give…
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A Full Moon Effect?
Friday and Saturday, my PWD was agitated, anxious, and a lot more verbally confrontational than usual. Today everything seemed OK again—or at least back to our current baseline. This behavior coincided with the full moon, and I am wondering whether you see such an effect in your LO. A quick search of the web turns up…
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Loss of driving privileges
My DH was advised by his PCP not to drive. When he objected, he was referred to a rehab clinic for a driving evaluation by an occupational therapist who subsequently agreed with his doctor's assessment. Since he has anosognosia he does not remember any of this, and is convinced that I won't let him drive the car. Whenever…
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April 30 FDA approved
FDA Approves First Non-Antipsychotic Drug to Treat Agitation Associated with Dementia
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Just moved mom in
Our mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's at 65…it's been a long journey with several moves but today at 79 we moved her into my home for hospice care. She can't talk and is so frail and stiff, my only hope is I've done the right thing for her and my sister and I. I keep wondering if I did the right thing and will I be able…
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Tips for Sundowning
I see many posts about sundowning but not tips to prevent the behaviors associated with it. I saw this today and thought it might help someone.
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MC and the ER
Here we go again. I visited mom this morning and was there when her palliative care nurse came to make a monthly assessment. The nurse noted that mom was pretty drowsy. This was early in the day, which is normally her most alert and interactive time of day. I told the nurse that I have noticed this extra sleepiness ever…
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New Here - Suggestions for Getting Spouse To Give Up Driving?
To be clear - I have joined this group on behalf of my niece who is the caregiver of her 62 year old husband with ALZ. She still works full time (so has little time to do this kind of online research herself) and he is home alone all day. He is now at the point where he shouldn't drive anymore, both because of his current…
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Stages - emotions and functions
I came across this video, yes it promotes a service but I found the video independently did a good job of explaining the Stages in terms of functions and emotions. Also, why PWD "showboat" with Doctors and people they rarely see .
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Hope or Cope?
We finally got an "official" diagnosis on Monday - "amnestic MCI with concern for Alzheimer's." DH's next steps are a PET Scan, bloodwork, and another MRI. Now, I just keep swaying between hope for a "cure" (improvement) and acceptance of the diagnosis. Do we fight the disease or do we learn how to live with it? I…
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Guilt and Obligation
Hello all, I may just be venting with this post but I know there are many here who will hopefully understand. My dad is 87, vascular dementia, living in AL for 2 months now. While it was hell first getting him to give up driving 6 months ago, then hiring a caregiver, then getting him to move, this was the best choice for…
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He is adamant - "don't put me in a home!"
We had that discussion again last night. I will have to re-evaluate when he gets to that point. Hopefully it won't happen, I've got some plans. So far, his neurology team says he is in mid-stage. He has his ADLs, still driving short distances but I have a tracker on him and he's still doing ok. I have pretty much decided…
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Agitaion and Anxiety
My husband in MC has begun getting up at night numerous times and wandering the halls and trying to go into other residents rooms. This goes on all night long. The nurse told me he goes into the day room and sits in one chair and then another and can't seem to sit still for any length of time. The nurse practitioner has…
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how to care for angry person
How do you care for parent who is angry at you. My mom constantly tells me and others I am stealing her stuff (shampoo, and other stupid stuff) She has gotten to a point where she is banning from her home, but I am the closest of family member and the most available to help my dad. She apparently rants all day to him. How…
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Just want to talk to my friends (218)
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resources until "official" diagnosis of Dementia
What are some resources we can access until we get the official diagnosis. My mom seems to be progressing SUPER FAST, in the matter of months she seems to have moved from stage 1 to stage 5 or 6. We have the MRI and doc appt scheduled in a cpl weeks but she is becoming a threat to herself and others in the mean time.
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Forgetting we are married
My DHWD no longer acknowledges me as his wife. We have been married 30 years and we were very close. About 14 months ago we had an episode when we went on vacation, where he totally did not know me. When we got home after a couple of weeks, he remembered me, but he would occasionally forget. Now he consistently hasn't…
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Can anyone recommend a GPS device in the form of a bracelet or necklace so I can track my mother mov
Looking for a device that my mother can where so I can track her whereabouts? She doesn't always take her phone with her when she goes out. So I thought if she could have a device on that she doesn't remove so I can track here on my phone. She doesn't wander at the moment but I rather be prepared in case she does
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Meds for people with dementia
What medication has proven useful for people with dementia? My parent is at a geriatric psychiatric hospital unit due to agitation and very frequently auditory snd visual hallucinations that were escalating. It turns out the escalation of her symptoms was due to an increased dose of setraline, 100 mg. The drs took her off…
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Getting help through Medicare programs
The last few weeks I’ve been feeling emotionally fragile but hanging in there until last Thursday after my DH’s annual wellness exam. The Dr gave him the MMSE (mini-mental status exam) and DH scored 3 out of 30. I was surprised at how hard that hit me. But on a positive note, the Dr has put me in contact with Home Health,…
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Just need to talk to my friends (217)
About time for bed so will begin 217. Zetta, I could have taken Stormy in and it would have been ok. She is a country girl and is used to animals. Maybe next year. April is a pretty month so maybe we can lose.the wind and get rain. Beautiful sunset, JeriLynn. Happy April Fools Day!
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Love Hurts
In the months since the loss of my DW I find many times when I am sad and feel pain in my body or a catch in my breathing. I see my docs regularly and am confident there are no hiding mysterious medical cause. However, when the discomfort occurs it is a real pain that I feel or at times my breathing changes to gasps for a…
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Vascular Dementia and hyperactivity at night
My mom has been very active at night, talking to herself, calling me, can’t settle down etc. anxious any suggestions? she is on 100 mg of Trazadone, rispiridal, buspar, visteral and nothing is helping her to sleep! She was also recently diagnosed with stage 4 kidney failure from an arthritis medication side effect. i feel…
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Dad with Dementia.
This is my first time posting here. I care for both of my parents. My dad has been living with dementia for nearly four years now. Over the past week, his aggression and anger have increased significantly. Usually, when he becomes upset and fixates on something, I’m able to redirect or calm him down. But this week, nothing…