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Sitters
My husband is wandering outside during the day. I would like to find a sitter to stay with him once a week so that I can run errands. Has anyone used Care.com, Visiting Angels, etc? What was your experience with them? Can you tell me the hourly cost? Just looking for someone who can keep him company while I am gone. I live…
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Who watches the watchers?
Long article about how things can get "interesting" in probate court. https://calmatters.org/investigation/2026/03/california-conservatorship-conflicts/ One thing that jumped out at me was that court transcripts stopped being ordered. I've had to obtain the court reporters transcripts from probate hearings and the quality…
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When I look back at what I WAS worried about…
I feel foolish. Our problems are slowly getting manageable as far as reigning in my DHs spending and not being able to manage our finances. The real troubles are here now and I just can’t do it. I “feel” so sick. I have amended my statement “I am so sick!” After trying to get help with my lupus and other health issues. I…
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cbd gummies for caregiver
My HWD is extremely difficult and I am with him 24/7 as a sole caregiver. My PCP (his also) is very concerned about my being depressed and has suggested cbd gummies. I don't take any prescription meds and don't want to start on zoloft, etc, but am considering the gummies on a need be basis…not daily. I was wondering if any…
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Spousal Imposter
Posting for my elderly stepfather but does anyone know how to best manage a DW with who does not recognize her husband or her home every single night? She is fine during the day but around 7:00 gets incredibly mean, accusatory, and fearful?
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Please help me keep my sanity
I wrote some of this in a reply to a comment, but thought I need some more support. I’ve been with my mom for the past week and she has done nothing but yell at me for the last 3 days. For context, I came to her house last week to take her to a doctor appointment, where she finally was given a memory test and did better on…
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How to handle behaviors ….
Craving for sweets insatiable, insists on donuts or turnovers for breakfast and lunch! He’s on metformin for diabetes. DH is either really hungry or doesn’t remember he has eaten and will go thru fridge making a sandwich if he can’t find cookies after he has eaten his meal. Wears same stained urine soaked clothes day and…
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Start of incontinence
I knew the day would come. DH is now urinary incontinent for about a week now. I’ve been lucky it held off for as long as it did. He’s always been very resistant to my helping him in the bathroom with cleaning himself, etc, and it’s worse now. I don’t know how I’m going to get him to wear pull-ups when it’s hard to even…
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Ready to give up
Anyone who has been following my saga knows I’ve been staying with my recently widowed mom for over a week because I became alarmed about her confusion during my last visit. At the beginning of this week, I was determined to get her into AL right away. Now after seeing 2 doctors who both basically told her she is fine and…
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DH won't go for testing
First time here - getting to the stage where I need caregiver support. My DH doesn't have a diagnosis, as he's in complete denial that he has any cognitive issues. Our PCP has given a standard test for age-related cognitive decline, which he has passed, technically. What we're living with: he can't manage finances at all,…
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Trouble diverting from calling his mother
My 74 yr old DH often wants to call his mother who passed away 15 years ago. (He is in early Stage 6). I’ve tried the suggestions I have searched for here- ice cream, tasks, walk, going for a drive (actually being in the car is where his questions can be the worst). He gets so locked in on wanting to call his mother and…
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Just venting
Yesterday was not a good day for my DW….It was a total delusional day. she thought there was people in the house, her dead sister, father, mother and our sons who live in another state. when no one has been here. She has been started on a new medication which seems to have very little effect, but it is early. She got up…
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How to answer, "Why are you here?"
My DW in the late evening often asks, "Why are you here?" I say I'm your husband but that agitates her more. I then say I'm here to keep you safe and that has the same response. Any attempt at deflection doesn't work. It usually subsides after awhile but I was wondering what you all have experienced.
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VRBO VS Hotel
I know our traveling days are winding down but DH wants to go see his father in Florida. All his family live in Florida. I think it will be ok because we have family all around. The only change is his father is now in assisted living so we can no longer stay in his house when visiting. DH was very familiar with the house.…
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Stage 8 - One Month In
Hi all. It's a little hard to believe it's been a month since my DW passed. I'm still in the stage of trying to wrap my head around it — I'll never see her in person again. I have cried and cried some more, but honestly, my biggest feelings have been relief and gratitude. Relief she isn't suffering like she was. Relief…
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I need to vent about my grandmother and an endless cycle.....
I'm 39 and currently my 85 year old grandmother has dementia. I've been living with her for a number of years and 2 years ago she was officially diagnosed with dementia. For the past 4 months, she has been packing multiple bags daily to "go home" when she's already at the home she's lived in for the past 25 years. From…
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Don’t want to be a caregiver
My mother is 72 and she moved away from us after we encouraged her to see a neurologist and psychiatrist for mental health problems, persecutory delusions, and hallucinations she was experiencing. My husband and I both work full time very demanding jobs, we have young kids and pets. It’s a 6-7 hour drive now to my mom, but…
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How to keep DH occupied
My DH can still dress himself, feed himself and do a few other basics like emptying the trash but much of the day he spends sleeping because he has nothing else to do. He can’t use his computer much, has little interest in current events, doesn’t read much and has never been a TV watcher. He can’t work the TV controls even…
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MMES test
Finally got my mom to her doctor, discussed with the doctor first our concerns about her confusion and memory loss, they gave her the MMES test — and she scored a 24 out of 30, which is just below "normal." Our experience with her is that she is much worse than this. She has been struggling for a long time with dates,…
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Having trouble with Mom
Hi, I'm new to the Alzheimer's world, as my mom was just diagnosed. The doctor wants her to have a brain MRI and she is giving me a hard time about scheduling the appointment. My dad and I took my mom to the doctor last week to be diagnosed and at that time, both of my parents were fine with the idea of the MRI. Now my mom…
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Mom was just screened for dementia
Hello I am very new to all of this and am reaching out for support. My mom who is 83 was just screened for dementia in the doctors office. She failed the test - was not able to draw the clock or remember the words. My dad is her caregiver and now cooks all meals and is starting to manage her medications and doctor apts. on…
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In my early 60s. At the beginning of this ..
Hi, Are any of you out there going through what I am? Very mild symptoms, waiting for complete diagnosis. Anxious and frustrated.
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Rationales for PT for late stage in MC?
My dad in MC is sleeping most of the time. I recently had a care meeting with the facility director. When I mentioned in passing that he is seeming weaker, she said that maybe PT would help. I said, “Huh, maybe,” and we went on to other things. Fast forward a week, and I am getting email from a PT agency affiliated with…
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Testing, testing, and more testing
I am so impressed with mom's neurology team. It is a large practice. She saw the neurologist in December. She ordered the neuro-psych exam. Unfortunately, they are so backlogged, their testing couldn't be done before end of March. I requested to be put on their "1st cancelation list" to get an earlier appointment if…
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South Florida “Board and Care” Small Memory Care Facility
Hi, I was wondering if anyone has resources about “board and care” small group facilities in South Florida, particularly in the Delray Beach and Boca Raton area. Thank you so much.
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Unsure of how to proceed
i am my 76 year old grandmother’s only family and caregiver. She lost her husband (my pop) 5 years and and her son (my dad) 30 years ago. She has always been hyper independent and very successful. Last year she noticed some changes in her memory and sought treatment from a neurologist. In September she scored a 21/30 on…
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How to find people to stay with DH when I need to go out
Hubby was diagnosed recently with mid stage Alzheimer’s. He needs 24 hour supervision, and though friends have said to let them know if I need anything, I find it hard to ask for help. Most aren’t available during the week, so I have left him alone to run an errand or go to an appointment, usually not for more than an…
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After 10+ years on this message board, I wanted to share my Mom's obituary.
February 18, 2026 My Mom died this afternoon in the bedroom of the old family home where she has lived for the past 62 years. It was peaceful and all four of her children were with her. My Mom has navigated the complex maze of Alzheimer's dementia for the past 12 years. After her diagnosis we put together a team to help…
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Home care aggression
Hi! I’m looking for some advice - mom my was “approved” for 24/7 at home care but we’ve been struggling with her being aggressive to outside caregivers. She’s so sweet - until she’s not- which seems to take about a week then she wants them “out of her house”. She’s on all the typical Alzheimer’s medications & mood behavior…
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Sundowners so bad/ wild women please help.
Hello, My mother came to live with me just a week and a half before Christmas. She was on a memory pill, but while she was in rehab they took her off of it. They said it wasn't know longer helping her. So when she was supposed to have her follow up with her Dr once she got out, she had to see a NP instead. So I wrote him a…