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Drinking with Alzheimer's Disease
My mother has Alzheimer's and continues to drink alcohol daily. We're concerned about how it may be affecting her condition and safety. Has anyone successfully helped a parent with dementia reduce or stop drinking? What worked, and what didn't? Any advice would be appreciated.
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Organizing home care
Hi everybody! I have learned much from this forum (thanks!), but now I face a new problem and need your kind advice again. My DW (82) has late-stage dementia. So far, I have been able to take full care of her (besides a bit of respite care from an aide), but all my current arrangements depend on my wife's ability to walk…
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Does anyone have security camera on the inside of house?
I want to be able to monitor my DH when I work,which is only 4hrs 2 or 3 days a week, otherwise he is always with me. So if any one has one what kind? I really need it simple to connect to my phone:)
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Just need to talk to my friends (221)
Morning, it's August, my second least favorite month. It just sounds.hot but this morning the weather is wonderful. May get up to 90 today but right now it's 70 with a nice, North wind. Feels wonderful but the heat returns next week. Good morning, Ron. Hope things are well with you today. Waiting for Bryon and his cousin…
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Mom's first fall
Just felt like sharing, it's so therapeutic, thank you for this platform. My mom, 91, mid to mod (more moderate) ALZ (for 3 years), lives in AL, without added support, but they keep an eye on her and she's not allowed to leave the building without family. She lives in an apartment with pull cord for emergencies by bed and…
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anger at my wife, my sister, my doctor(s), my brain, my "friends"
I'm sitting here in my basement home office (aka "the dungeon", adjacent to the washing machine and dryer) at 5:30 am central time…shaking with anger and grief at all of the above. I guess I brought it on myself, being the go-to person for planning vacations, running errands, loaning money to my spendthrift sister, and…
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We finally have answers
DH finally took the Bach exam and the results are in. The test has three categories, no cognitive decline, possible cognitive decline and probable cognitive decline. DH has possible cognitive decline which requires continued monitoring in four months. The neurologist ordered a blood test which showed DH’s B12 levels are…
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Movie suggestions?
My LO has trouble following plots now when we watch television shows or movies. We frequently re-watch shows and movies that we’ve seen a hundred times. Any suggestions for movies that your LO with Alzheimer’s seems to enjoy?
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Ideas please
I am at the point where I will very soon need to bring in some home care. My LO is still able to do her ADLs, but leaving her alone even for just an hour is becoming way to stressful for her, and for me. Because she does not recognize her Alzheimer's, my LO will not understand why or the need to have someone be at home…
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Wandering to look for caregiver
I learned in a caregiver support group that a PWD may not realize where a caregiver is (may be in another room, or performing a brief errand outside) and may worry and go look for that person. Wandering is common and well documented, but depending on the stage, this scenario makes sense, and isn't mentioned often in…
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I think I've got it..scared and sad
Almost Everyone on my mother's side of the family has had Alzheimer's but I always thought of myself as being more like my dad, so maybe it wouldn't happen to me. I'm 72 and was hoping some of the forgetfulness was just old-age related. I'm going to see my doctor soon, with my husband, and ask for tests or whatever and…
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introduction
Hi! My name is Richard. I'm 74, married, retired from remunerative employment as a lawyer. I was diagnosed with Centiloid middle-level Alzheimer's in early March. I had suspected as much, given prior diagnoses based on word-finding and certain other memory categories, but I am determined to live as independently as I can.…
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What to say to contractors for clear and simple communication about disability?
What do you tell contractors/vendors/businesses, when you must hire help with major household/property projects or renovation? I'm looking for simple wording needed to convey to a contractor how to work successfully with my husband and myself while keeping his dignity intact. ….. ….. Is there a way to quickly convey this…
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So Where Do We Go From Here? This is an old thread revisited
Originally posted Jan 4. There's a number of us here dealing with spouses in stage 7 and a few folks still hanging out who are now in stage 8 (spouse has passed). I'm hanging in stage 7, my wife's in MC, so I have time to think about what's next, i.e, what am I gonna do when I'm in stage 8, and my spouse is no longer in my…
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insomnia and yelling
My DW frequently wakes at midnight and then yells about being unable to sleep for hours and hours. I don't know how to help her and have trouble not being really angry because the behavior forces me to not sleep. any advice?
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Just not strong enough mentally or physically
my DH is progressing rapidly with his Alzheimer’s. He is still in denial, but has finally agreed to let me talk to his PC with the next appointment. Finally. However, I am discovering that I am becoming physically ill myself from the stress & worry that goes with taking care of him. Communication is becoming more difficult…
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Won’t help himself
Husband has really bad back issues. I’ve taken him for several procedures over the past 2 years to help relieve the pain. He says that none of the procedures made a difference. He refused to carry thru with exercises at home given to him when he was doing PT - they could not continue PT . He does nothing to help himself.…
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Angery Mother
I’m having major problems with my mom. Within the last four weeks if she doesn’t get her way, she will call me names not the nice ones either. I also moved in with her two years ago when she was first diagnosed with dementia she will also tell me that I need to move out. If she’s not getting her way. We have an appointment…
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Feeling guilt about moving Mom into AL
Hello all, I haven't written in a long while, but wanted to see how others may have handled the guilt of moving their LO to an Assisted Living facility. Before my father passed in 2004, I promised him that I would take care of Mom. Fast forward, and my wife and I have been living with Mom for the last 10 years (8 of those…
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feeling overwhelmed
My wife has had Alzheimers for about five years , and we were adapting . Then she started having seizures and our life was upended. She is now bed bound and everything has to happen while she is in bed. I am so overwhelmed. Suggestions on how to adapt. Ken C.
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Stronger than you think
I saw this and thought about all you great caregivers.
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frozen gait?
On top of all of the cognitive changes my wife has experienced over the last five years or so, in the last 18 months she has developed "frozen gait," which is a symptom of Parkinson's disease, but she does not have primary Parkinson's and the Parkinson's meds do not work for her. The frozen gait and other physical symptoms…
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No diagnosis yet
Im concerned about my husband. He is showing signs of confusion and paranoia. He hates doctors. He will not go. But I believe the warning signs are there. Forgetfulness and false accusations directed towards me. How should I handle this?
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Inappropriate (and Rough!) Touching
As I have mentioned here before, I have a friend who has alz. We are both 70. I have known him for 60 years. He was my boyfriend many years ago, but is now most definitely just a friend. His sister pays me to take him swimming at the local pool twice per week. He and I walk there, and when it gets cold this winter I will…
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new HHA
I have had home health aides for my mother. They came twice a week. One suddenly found another job, the other just kind of disappeared. My mother's physical therapist suggested someone. We met her, liked her and she seemed competent. My mother basically just needs a companion. I keep hoping that a new face can engage her…
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Caregivers, take care
So we lost quite an icon this week with Miss Dolly. Reports have said that she was neglecting her own health at times to take care of her DH, Carl Dean, who passed in 2025. It has not been made public of how he passed, but it is known that he was diagnosed with alz in 2019. (Per newsfeed 8/27/2026) It isn't much of a…
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Praying for God’s Grace
This morning I pray for all of us. I pray that God will show us his Mercy and give us his Grace. I pray that he makes us strong, and keeps us patient and loving as we travel down this road with our loved ones. My DH woke while I was out of the room this morning. He got dressed by himself. The nighttime briefs were still…
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I'm new here as an ALZ caregiver for my younger sister
Hi all, I'm glad to have found this group. I guess every ALZ story is complicated, so here's mine. I raised my younger sister and brother when our parents died at a young age. We went our separate ways for 40 years, but now both sibs are seriously ill and I am once again a caregiver. My sister has been diagnosed with…
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Sleeping excessive amounts
my dh is 83 with late onset dementia and Alzheimer’s. He is sleeping soundly from midnight until I wake him up about 3 in the afternoon. No behaviors issues. Should I let him sleep that long??
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Respite Care Russellville Arkansas
Looking for resources for respite care in the Russellville Arkansas area for my parents.