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Dealing with DH depression.
My DH seems to do well until about 3 p.m. or so when he gets very depressed and confused. Sometimes he gets restless but it is the depression that worries me the most. I can't get him to do any of the things that he used to enjoy doing.
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Is this anxiety or something else?
My FIL can meet most of his ADL's except for an occasional bathroom accident and dressing correctly. He can feed himself but we have to fix his plate for him and lately he seems to have issues maybe figuring out silverware, we have noticed him using his fingers more. IADL's are another story, as far as I can tell he can't…
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Finances and Scams
My father is extremely susceptible to scams. I frequently make adjustments to his phone to help reduce the scammer's access to him. When they get their hooks in him, he is very suspicious of everyone BUT the scammer. He gets mad that his finances are restricted, but he is unable to conceptualize numbers due to his…
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Thank you and update
Thank you for the kind words and support on my earlier discussion post. Monday and Tuesday was at my wits end with Dad. Yesterday and today he has been better. I plan to go to a local Alzheimer's support group the 27th. I also talked to my PCP. My sister is another story, I explained to her I need emotional support and she…
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Hello! New Here!
Hello to everyone. My name is Mary. I am in SC with my DH who was recently diagnosed with early Alzheimer's a month ago. He is 77. He is between stages 1-2 and having a hard time accepting all of this. He has good days and bad. Today is bad and the mood swings are hard to follow. He says and does things that are angry and…
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Goldilocks or The Princess and the Pea
Sometimes we just have to find the humor in some of the ridiculousness this disease causes. The saga we have gone through with my mom surrounding her bed is just so off the wall, it's funny. She has complained about her various beds for years and years, blaming her back pain on every single one of them. She got a new…
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the in between stages
I am so grateful for this space. My mother came to live me and my husband 4 years ago. She is in the moderate stage of Alzheimer's dementia. I moved her from her beloved home and her independence in South Carolina. This is a humble business, and we've learned so much and have so much to learn. We are entering a new stage…
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Thankfull
It is the little things I am so thankful for these days. My Dh is non verbal and is total care and sleeps 16-20 hours a day. Last night my son and I were getting him off the sofa into the wheelchair. He started to slip. I reached out and grabbed his shirt pulling him onto the wheelchair. He stated in a very clear voice…
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To move or not to move... I don't know what to do
I don't know what to do… We looked at a house this evening that would fix a lot of issues. It is in a neighborhood with an HOA. They mow the yard and shovel the driveway and sidewalk. For me, the big deal is that the primary bedroom is on the main floor. I have osteoarthritis and it isn't going to get better. The house is…
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A Petulant Child
its me who feels like a petulant child not my DH who, I really adore. I am so tired of trying constantly and doing constantly, being creative where I can and trying to find solutions,It's so very frustrating and exhausting. I am still trying to have a life for us within the boundaries of dementia. I am trying various…
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Update
I wrote on Sept. 9th about my DH breaking his left hip and wrist. At that time, the doctor did not think he was going to survive since his lungs were filling up. The hospital talked to us about hospice care and I was thinking that would be what would happen when he got back to his MC. After DH removed the cast on his wrist…
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Are there any positive experiences for Memory Care?
I am not questioning the need for Memory Care. My mom, with ALZ, is still in AL, but I am trying to be prepared for when MC is needed. I read a lot of sad posts like dbarrylewis on When to Reconsider Memory Care and it was very emotional and sad, and it made me wonder if anyone has experienced a positive outcome. Having to…
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Where are all my men caregivers
Hi All, Decided to place another post. Been going through some things. Although my DW was officially diagnosed with Alzheimers a few months ago, she's been showing signs for years. Forgetfulness, repeating herself, trouble doing things that she used to do without second thought. She has also been having communication…
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Newly Diagnosed MCI with underlying Alzheimer's Pathology
Looking for other people who have very recently been diagnosed and are early in their Alz journey. In addition to first line therapies such as the new Anti Amyloid drugs, what else are people doing to stave off further cognitive decline aside from working out and challenging their brains. The two most promising things I…
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HD has ALZ & Vascular Dementia & various medical issues
My DH besides 2 types of dementia has AFIB, Diabetes with Charcot of the foot which needs diligent care to not get wounds Like making sure always has proper shoes on, using cane, etc. He also has Sleep Apnea which he stops breathing. Medication is a constant monitoring. I become quite overwhelmed with Dr visits, physical &…
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Trying to reduce anxiety with DW's anxiety
Not sure if I should be asking this question on this forum, but has anyone had success with CBD or CBD/THC combo in reducing loved one w/ dementia anxiety levels? I'm from California where it's legal. Let me know-Thanks
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Whipple Procedure for Pancreatic Cancer: Treatment Goals and Recovery
In the classic Whipple procedure (pancreaticoduodenectomy), the surgeon removes the head of the pancreas, the first part of the small intestine (duodenum), the gallbladder, part of the main bile duct, and a portion of the stomach. In a pylorus-preserving Whipple procedure, the pylorus and a small part of the proximal…
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dad talking about -- content warning self harm
Hi friends, Dad has started mentioning wanting to kill himself. He barely has language ability, so for him to get a whole thought like this out is unusual and obviously the content of his thought is alarming. He is stage 6. On hospice. History of behavioral expressions that lead to a geri psych inpatient stay in July and a…
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Boundaries
Hello all, It's been a while since I've written. I've been busy taking care of loved ones. My mother passed away a few months ago, she had dementia and other health issues. My oldest sister also has dementia. She is in assisted living (as was my mother for the last two years of her life). I have been taking care of both of…
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Traveling with a Spouse who has dementia
My spouse is in the later stages of dementia although we still do outside activities. Each winter we do down south for 3 months. I am debating what to do this year. If we stay home LO will be in the house 7 days a week being cold. If we go south, she will at least get outside. I caN'T figure out what to do. Either way I…
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WHAT TO DO?
My precious wife has come to the stage where she either won't eat, or at best eats very little. Is there anything I can do? I have read the articles about eating issues, and know that I cannot force, cajole, or threaten her. Your help in this matter will be greatly appreciated. CWB
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in denial
My husband whom was diagnosed mild to moderate mixed dementia w/alzheimers isn't accepting his diagnosis well. I have explained it to him and even showed him the seven stages and he tells me it isn't going to happen then he goes on to tell me that he hates me deep in his heart and blames me for things that has happened in…
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Rushing into caregiver arrangements
Although being with my DH with Alz 24/7 is driving me crazy, the nuances and limitations of working with a caregiver have begun to reveal themselves. I finally reached out to some people on Care.com and found myself rushing into an arrangement set to begin in a week with the first caregiver I met. The arrangement is based…
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Coping methods
most times i'm fine. sometimes i feed either angry, sad or frustrated. the following help me cope; walking away for several minutes when i'm getting angry. regular exercise both cardio and weights. some cardio gets endorphins flowing providing euphoria. living in the moment -enjoying the good times together and know the…
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who's place is this
my spouse wakes up in the morning inquiring as to who's place is this. (we are in our home of 50 years). How about all those other places that we have…(we have no other places) How should I respond to this. I am her caregiver…married 57 years this month.
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So much!
First, I am glad to have the connection with you all as it does help to read others' posts and ideas for dealing with this disease. Also, not sure why I am listed as a he/him - I am the wife and caretaker of my husband. My hubby really has left me with such anxiety and worry the past 36 hours. He keeps walking out the…
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Eating
Hello, my spouse does not remember that she has eaten and therefore constantly eats. She is struggling to fit into her clothes now and unfortunately, due to a bad hip, won't exercise. I've given up on trying to get her to eat healthy and I just make sure she does as often as possible. She also forgets when she has a glass…
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Constantly in a state of Anxiousness and Anticipatory Grief
For the past year I haven't been able to be "happy" or "calm" at all. I am constantly thinking the "worse" and Anticipatory Grief is truly getting to me. I have my moments where I am calm and all but immediately feel regret, sadness, anxiousness and worry. Every time I call my parents the moment I hand up I start to cry…
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new here - hostile family member with dementia
I'm not able to provide any care. She won't accept it. She lives alone, which is dangerous for her and perhaps her neighbors too, seeing as she could leave a pot burning anytime. She is paranoid and very hostile. I've tried all the social services over and over. They say they can't get involved unless she cooperates. I'm…
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Are our 'numbers' gone?
The numbers in the headings are gone. I sincerely hope this is not permanent, as I found that feature to be very helpful. It was helpful for greeting folks new to the forum, and sympathizing with those going through a rough time who may have been here longer. Just wondering - thanks.