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Headaches
My Mom’s dementia is getting worse obviously. She is taking Trazadone and some other drugs to keep her on an even state. Poor thing complains of headaches everyday and not sure why? No mater what we give her to help make it go away does not work. Exedrine, Advil, Tylenol - is like popping Pez, does absolutely nothing.…
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MIL with dementia
My first time posting. My husband and I are the primary caregivers for his parents who live in their own house next door. Mom is 83 with vascular dementia and Dad is 86 with Alzheimer’s. Mom is getting more and more agitated. They still love playing game and cards but if mom doesn’t get her way she becomes very mean to me.…
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What small joy did you experience yesterday?
I’m new to the group, and this is my second post. I’ve read many of the past discussions, and one of the messages stood out to me: Take each day as it comes and recognize small joys. Yesterday, I caught myself smiling. We have a goldfish pond, and I briefly caught a glimpse of a goldfish baby dart from under a rock to…
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Removing pictures
has anyone else experienced their LO slowly wanting to remove all family pictures from their room? I don’t know if they upset her, if she doesn’t recognize the faces or what it is but we remove as she asks.
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Hallucinations
I am the 24/7 caregiver for my wife who suffers from mid to early late term dementia. She has had various hallucinations, usually after wakening in the AM, but recently has had one that repeats itself, and she bring it up all day long. She repeated insists that "a man" comes to her bedroom and disrupts her things by either…
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Dad in nursing home
My Dad is in a nursing home for physical reasons and some dementia. He has started to settle down and doesn't call me 20-30 times a day anymore maybe just 5-10 calls. He keeps asking why am I here and I am tired of explaining it. I have had to harden my heart a little just to create some emotional boundaries between me and…
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Continual Grief: I Miss My Mom
I visited my mom again today at her skilled nursing facility. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in 2018 (she had probably been experiencing it since the early 2010s, in reality), and I made the gut-wrenching decision to place her into an SNF in 2021. She's currently experiencing late-stage Alzheimer's. She has…
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Feeling overwhelmed and tired of dealing with this disease
I am so tired of the uncertainty. Whenever I think I can handle the behavior, I quickly fall back into a slump. I want a normal life, NOT this new normal. His hallucinations are off the chain. He gets angry constantly, accusing someone of stealing something or that someone was here. He sees people almost every day. I can't…
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…
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Lonliness when caring for a spouse with ALZ/dementia
My DH is not quite in the middle stage of ALZ, and most days he is "normal", but he isn't really. His critical thinking has diminished in most everything except math. We used to have spirited discussions about matters of faith, politics and so on. Now, half the time he can't hold a discussion about a movie that we watching…
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Hospice at home?
mom has Alzheimer’s, stage four or five. Her husband of 71 years is now going into hospice. We are debating on whether to bring him home so she can spend time with him or placing him in a hospice facility. My fear is that my mom will not remember what is going on and having him here will be harder on her than if we had to…
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Alcohol
My 81 year old Husband has mid stage Alzheimer’s. He is still driving and basically independent. Unfortunately he’s forgotten how Alcohol (spirits) affects him. To avoid him hiding liquor I let him keep in in the pantry. Unfortunately it makes him feel better/brighter but I’ve come home 3 times last week and he’s drunk. We…
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Sister w Alzheimer's wanting to take control of everything
My sister who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's is determined to re-take control of her finances, among other things. Neuro-psychological testing has shown she is incapable of doing so. She can't even write a check. Prior to diagnosis and testing, she had a year of not paying bills, having power or phone shut off…
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Dad very likely has dementia, but Mom terrified to "tell on him"
My sister and I live in Washington, with our parents in Arizona. We don't see them often. Recently, my mom has told us some troubling stories of his memory lapses, weird ideas, not understanding distance and time, etc. She is trying to get him diagnosed, but he gets angry very easily and she is terrified of upsetting him.…
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Any tips to help LO get into bed to rest on their SIDE?
Hello, My DH sleeps better if lying on his side, but he doesn't know how to get into that position, and weighs too much for me to put him into it by lifting or pulling. He suffers from apraxia, so has (cognitive) trouble with coordinated movements. If he starts by sitting on the bed (coming from the side), then lays his…
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Seroquel / Quetiapine Dr. prescribed
In reading the posts here about this drug, it appears that it is given for those that are not sleeping at night. It was prescribed to my DH for hallucinations. The man does not have trouble sleeping at all. Just a few episodes when he had too much coffee or has had long naps during the day. Is this something that will work…
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In Loving Memory of “Jo C”
I’m reaching out, again, on behalf of my beautiful mom, Johanna “Jo C” Richardson, a passionate Peer Volunteer for nearly 20 years. Many of you knew that Jo C had been diagnosed with a progressive lung disease a couple of years ago. The disease did progress and Mom passed away peacefully at home the evening of June 19,…
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Asked to move from Memory Care Facility
My gal is 70, 5ft, 115lbs and mobile, she was diagnosed MCI 2018 and progressed to Alzheimer's her memory and cognitive issues became too much for me and she has been in a Memory Care Facility for 8 weeks. She did not adjust well and after 3 weeks they sent her to a Psych Hospital where they put her on some pretty serious…
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Avoid all types of confrontation?
Hello, My husband is newly diagnosed, and I have so many questions. I'll start with just one today. For background: My husband is 56, and he has had memory issues for about three years, probably longer. He went through many doctor's appointments and tests and received the final diagnosis last month. I attended an…
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accept help
How to get DW to accept help with personal hygiene?
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Recommendations of Videos to watch
We are bracing ourself for a long haul ;) would love recommendations on Videos my family and I could watch to help us understand this incredibly destabilizing disease so far I watched a few videos from Teepa Snow , good but not very well filmed ..
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Looking for therapist or support for son caring for his mom with Alzheimer's in NYC
Greetings, I am the primary caregiver for my mother who has Alzheimer's we live in NYC. I am having a hard time finding a therapist who knows how to support me through this process and finding support in general. This is my first time on this post. Thanks
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Just need to talk to my friends (207)
Judith, I didn't get on the stepstool, stood on the floor and used a mirror. Hopefully, Beth will be able to post on 207 now.
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She walked out
Tonight she packed a bag and went to stay at her daughters. I am hoping this is the beginning of our “official separation” and that she will go into assisted living. I’ve known for sometime that this is what I’ve wanted, but did not have the courage to have the necessary conversation or take the necessary action.…
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Next?
Mom has a brain hemorrhage and is in critical condition at a local hospital. She is going to die before my dad. He has step 7 vascular dementia and he will accept the fact that Mom died? Geeze, both parents with life threatening conditions. I'm medical POA and need to make the ultimate decision. This is so hard.
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Newly diagnosed
I’m 54 and was diagnosed formally 3 weeks ago. Having a tough time dealing with it, but I’ getting help, have lots of support and understand that all these emotions are pretty normal. I had my first Leqembi infusion last week and am hoping that helps. I am just not sure what to expect in the near term and could use some…
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Sleeping excessive amounts
my dh is 83 with late onset dementia and Alzheimer’s. He is sleeping soundly from midnight until I wake him up about 3 in the afternoon. No behaviors issues. Should I let him sleep that long??
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Here's what helped us <3
Hi everyone. We recently lost my Dad after many years with Alzheimers. I wanted to share what helped us, in case it can help someone else! 1. Check to see if in home hospice care is available to your loved one - it might be available sooner than you think. The criteria for in home hospice care are kind of complicated. In…
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eye exam for late stage
My DW used to wear contact lenses. After EO ALZ diagnosis, she switched to wearing eyeglasses. Her prescription has expired. It is a matter of time before she breaks her current glasses. We barely made it through her last eye exam which was 2 years ago. How are people managing vision care and eye exams in the later stages?
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Family Visit
Our beautiful son, daughter-in-law and two young grandchildren are visiting next week. Staying elsewhere but I'm a stressed wreck already. Our son and wife are the nicest, kindest couple but this situation with his dad (VD and aphasia) is hard for anyone to comprehend, understand and cope with. He knows that his dad is not…