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Fibbing about dead people
PWD asks about dead people daily, many times a day. I know that some people oppose fibbnig, but I'd rather not tell the truth that these people are dead, since it brings grief. If PWD wants to see them, I usually say they are traveling, and that answer is usually forgotten and I get the same question later. Or I distract…
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Alzheimer’s
My beautiful sweet wife (70) has just be diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My heart is breaking. I feel numb, lost, disoriented, scared, anxious…etc. My mind races to far ahead and I think of what will be rather then what is for today. It’s early, we just found out last week. it’s raw. Any words of wisdom and/or next steps I can…
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Finding a therapist
Does anyone have suggestions re finding a therapist with experience in Alzheimer's caregivers? I've gone to several websites, selected Alz. and have been given a list. But when I click on an individual therapist and see their specialty not one of them lists Alz. I might be going about this the wrong way. Any advice? P.S. I…
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Over medicating ? chemical restraint ?
I need some advice .. My step father who is only 61 years old has been battling frontal lobe dementia for 2 years now but recently his behaviors have increased to being up at night wandering from room to room , pacing and moderate confusing and anger, with possible treats of wanting to end his life , but he was not…
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Don't treat them like they know...
So, it's been a long journey. DW is fully in the stage 6/7 range. We have hospice. I have known for a very long time that she goes in and out of knowing who I am. Like someone once said, they know who you are but they don't know who you are. But I think up until now my way of handling her in troubled times is in a way that…
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Helpful info regarding Palliative Care
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/what-is-palliative-care Hopefully you guys can access this info by way of this link. All the best to all of you and yours, D.
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tax talk (USA)
2025 was the first year I used paid companion care for DW so that I could go into the office for work. In the USA, if you pay someone to watch spouse with dementia so that you can work or look for work, you are probably eligible for Child and Dependent Care Tax Credit. This is my first year using this tax credit so I am by…
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Mom newly diagnosed
Hi, My mom was newly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s like 2 weeks ago. I’m so lost. I’m mad I’m angry I’m sad and I’m scared. I’m scared of the future and not knowing what that will look like. I feel like I’m failing my mom. Like I should have been able to prevent her getting Alzheimer’s. I have no help. It’s all on me. I feel…
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Newly Diagnosed Physician
I am a 60 yo newly diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I am a retired Family Physician who noticed issues approximately 18 months ago and was diagnosed with MCI. I stopped practicing medicine and was given disability benefits. I am fortunate to have had that option but despite all my expertise the process of getting a definitive…
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Looking to connect in or near Houston Tx area
Hello friends- I am newly diagnosed Early Onset. I'm looking for support groups, counselors or therapists/social workers who can offer support in this stage. I am in my early 50s, still working, kids in college, mortgage, mom with Alz. I need help and a place to be able to talk about what this means for my life. Like,…
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Medication for Anxiety
Our neurologist has prescribed Quetiapine for anxiety as a once per day med at bedtime. I crush and mix the pill into my DW evening food at she refuses to take a pill. Sometimes the 25MG dosage works well and we can get a good night's sleep. Our neurologist has now prescribed a 50MG dosage in an effort to improve the…
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New to Alzheimer's
I'm 58 years old and have been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's. I would like to talk with those who have early onset also.
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Driving my ADLO safely
when in the car on a busy local highway, suddenly he tried to move the gear shift while also attempting to open his door. I pulled into a parking lot as quickly as I could to stop, do what could, so we could return home. My son simply let me know about child locks that easily locked the back door of the car. It is now our…
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Dealing with uncontrollable anger
My mother is 82 and was previously diagnosed with early onset dementia. I didn't think the condition had progressed much, as I was not noticing any severe symptoms, but in the past year she has had more and more outbursts of uncontrollable anger. I didn't know this was a symptom of dementia until I looked it up after a…
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Sleep too much?
My mother’s sleep patterns have changed over the month. She previously would sleep 9-10 and nap once during the day. Now, she goes to bed as early as 5pm and sleeps until 11am AND naps from about 1-4pm. It can change day by day, but she is just constantly sleeping. She’ll eat breakfast but that’s the only meal. No…
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GUIDE (Guiding an Improved Dementia Experience) Model
has anyone heard of this new program and can you explain exactly what it does.
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Venting!
DH is doing everything he can to avoid accepting his dementia diagnosis. He’s still working and driving even though he has been told not to. I have reported him to the DMV and just waiting for them to do his evaluation. I am under so much stress. DH can’t do the financial stuff, I have to manage his medication, I handle…
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My Girlfriend
My wife has undiagnosed dementia that we have been dealing with for about a year now. Her next appointment is with a neuropsychologist in April, (if I can get her to go). Most of her symptoms now are hallucinations. Her memory is pretty much intact. The hallucinations she is dealing with the most recently are girlfriends…
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Medication Inquiry
MY DW neurologist prescribed Memantine medication to slow dementia progression. I am asking our community what side effects they have experienced and have there been positive results of using this medication?
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Lazy Husband
My husband has alzheimers. He has always been a hard worker. Now everything has stopped. I know he is capable of mowing lawn, taking out trash, weedwaking, helping clean yard. Am I expecting too much. I have been paying to get lawn mowed etc. He always says, oh I will do it tommorow. And doesn't. I'm frustrated with him.
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Gratitude
As I sit here with the love of my life in her last days, my heart continues to be overflowing with gratitude. I’m also the saddest I’ve ever been, but every walk I’ve taken the last few months I’ve been hit by the beauty of this world, the joy I had in meeting and getting loved the way I’ve been loved and loved my DW. I am…
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Trying to understand…
I know DH brain is deteriorating VD is taking it away. His short term memory is declining He is able to do many things - ADL’s are pretty good. This winter has been cold! He is cold I layer him up. At night blinds drapes drawn. The issue is I like to open the drapes in the morning and he doesn’t! Says it’s cold. The house…
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Traveling is a problem
It has become increasingly difficult to travel with my husband. He gets so confused. I put everything on his calendar on his phone since he looks at that all the time (not that he remembers after he reads it…) This past weekend, we were to go watch our grandson play football. We were only going for the day. We had to leave…
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mild to moderate MCI
My DH was diagnosed last year with MCI. For a few months now I noticed changes. He has memory loss, blames anything or anyone for anything . His temper is off, discussions or conversations are impossible at times, becomes argumentative. I am so sad and fearful that I can not handle this. I cry at night .
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Antidepressant usage
I was wondering about other’s thoughts/experiences with anti-depressant usage in Alzheimer’s patients. For context, my mother is late stage 5. She previously was on an antidepressant though apparently not taking it when she was still living at home. I moved her into assisted living (not memory care yet) a little over a…
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How to deal with delusions
my parent is having delusions most of which are relatively harmless but they are consistent delusions she is creating a life around almost. Ie she thinks she is getting married and has a fiancé and she has a whole story around this. I am taking the validating approach and "meeting her where she is at" but I'm not so good…
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Explaining a move to Memory Care
We will soon be taking our LO to MC and are deciding how to explain it. We are leaning towards a therapeutic lie about his old home being required to have asbestos removed (we have a realistic looking letter from the town explaining the mandate) - and so we found a great senior resort for him to live in during renovations…
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Advice on how to reply with DH lack of recognition
I am asking for advice on how to appropriately respond to my DH of 45 years. In the past few weeks, he repeatedly does not recognize me and is fearful of the "lady: who is taking care of him. He calls his sister and our daughter expressing concern about who I am, that I won't give him any money/stealing his investment…
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Admitting Dad to a Memory Care Facility
My Dad is going to be 89 in March and has recently been diagnosed with Moderate to Severe Alzheimers. For the past 8 months, my sister and I have been his main caregivers and we shared the responsibilities. However, in the past week my Dad has fallen twice and thankfully so serious injuries. He doesn't have conversations…
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Looking for Girl Friday help in the Pittsburgh area
My father is caring for my mother who has dementia. She is recently in Memory Care and my father has to spend a lot of time with her in Memory Care b/c she doesn't like it. Spending all this time with mother has left a lot of things undone. He is looking for someone who can run errands for him, light housework, maybe work…