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How to get through the holidays
My father passed away from Alzheimer's in July. It's been a rough month since Thanksgiving. I miss having my father around espically around the holidays.
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What's your pleasure?
This is my first post! This year has been very hard for me. I moved in with my parents in February, got them well enough to move to AL in April. My mom never fully recovered from the shock of moving and she died in June. My dad will go into MC next week. Along the way, I've tried to find a few moments, a few things to…
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Thanksgiving MC
I don’t know what to do about thanksgiving. My mom is in MC. Has been since August. She keeps bringing up Thanksgiving and my sister who usually hosts. My sister and I were hoping that bringing our families together at the MC’s Thanksgiving holiday buffet celebration would help but it hasn’t. She’s fixated on Thanksgiving…
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Dad with early stage, worsening
Hi, My sweet dad, 84, is declining and he knows it. It’s utterly heartbreaking. He has begun saying he lives in another house that is exactly like his. Most days, he falls asleep in his chair in the afternoon. I also have to make sure he eats because he won’t think to or he gets overwhelmed thinking about it. Until one day…
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Awareness and denial in those with A/D
My situation is that my mother-in-law has some level of dementia, whether it's early or later stage I have no idea. My wife and I live 3 hours away from my MIL and we visit regularly to try to help support her and the family members that live very nearby, and deal with her every day. Because we are so far away, we don't…
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I'm new to all of this!
I'm the daughter Of A newly diagnosed Vascular dementia patient , my 86 yr old dad. Our situation is pretty unique. He's living alone For the 1st time in his entire life. The love of his life And my mom died in 2012 After 5 year battle With cancer in which my dad took care of her at home. He moved in with my brother After…
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How long does separation anxiety last?
I’m a longtime lurker who’s been on the dementia train with my husband for about six years. He’s probably in the beginning of stage six. For the past few years, he’s had separation anxiety whenever I’m not in the same room. He attended adult day care for 2 years, but was fairly anxious the whole time. Often the day care…
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Sundowners
Could this be sundowning? My DH was married to his first wife for 23 years. We have been married 32 years. This last week, in the evening only, he keeps telling me that he knows he divorced his first wife, but then asks me - did I ever remarry or do I have girlfriends? I’m wondering if this is part of sundowning because it…
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Anyone else taking care of otherwise healthy dementia patient?
Taking care of 85 year old with late stages but body is amazingly healthy, amazes the nurses and doctors each time,,,strong heart, good breathing, strong appetite, and can feed herself most of the time. One should be delighted right? But she is in late stages requires 24 care, is beyond any kind of converstation, but gets…
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Packing up to go home
I just put my DH in memory care yesterday. This morning the nurse said he had everything packed up to go home. She said he didn’t sleep all night and wouldn’t even take his clothes off last night. Now he’s crying today saying he doesn’t understand why he had to be there. I’ve been told not to go visit for at least a week.…
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Depends
How do you get them to wear deoends? My BF 45yo EOAsoils himself everyday. He has peed on my side of the bed several times and today on his side of the bed. I. Am. Over. It. He is convinced it's not him and yells at me that it's not. I tell him I'm not even home and that I'm potty trained. The caregiver wants him to wear…
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Memory Care and/or Assisted Living facilities in Seattle?
Hi, I am currently in the weeds of looking at memory care facilities in the Seattle area for my father (has had Alzheimers for approx 10 years, mid stage, but moving more towards later stage). Additionally his wife (current caregiver) was also recently diagnosed with early dementia. Ideally I would love to find a place for…
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Stages
Hi all. I'm new here. Caring for my Husband who was diagnosed about 4 years ago with early onset ALZ . I've been reading the messages and see some of you talking about stages. I'm not sure how do I determine what stage my husband is in? Thank you in advance for your help.
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Shaving solution
I switched DH over to a battery operated electric shaver awhile back and found that if I leave it on the kitchen table he automatically picks it up and uses it while I am preparing the meal. At 3 times a day he is doing a pretty decent job and I don’t have to say anything. All I do is clean it under the kitchen faucet and…
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Probiotiques
Bonjour, quels sont les Probiotiques qui sont adaptés à une personne atteinte d'alzheimer ? Merci d'avance pour vos aides Cordialement
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New to group. Married father moved in with us. Undiagnosed
In August we brought my very confused father to live with us, released in family care. Wife is from the Philippines and works 24/7. In the 3 months he has been here he's had 21.4 hours of facetime with her. My father is getting hyper focused on things that last 1-2 weeks. I have tried to involve her in his care but she…
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Major Sundowner
My poor DW has had a few minor sundowning events, but wowzers, did she go all in last night. We ended up dressed and standing on the front porch, ready to “go home” at 9pm with pouring rain and flood warnings. Good thing she didn’t want to get wet, despite the two baseball caps she had put on, and I was able to get her to…
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Starting a new business at 80
Hello all, I’m new as well to the group. With all that cognitive changes I have noticed with my dad, the biggest concern is talks of starting a business with no prior business experience as well as assuming his sister will co-sign on a loan. There are a lot of financial risks that I believe his brain is not logically…
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She has gone to heaven
I cry as I write this. My wife passed yesterday at 2AM. Now I am suffering in stage eight. I don’t know what to do in order to feel better. So I thought I would write my awe full feelings down and send them away. I know others have gone threw this. I am nervous and restless. I am very sad I miss my wife so much. I feel…
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Hypnagogic hallucinations
My wife told me she's been having trouble when trying to fall asleep because she's seeing things like vivid scenes of people and something like static on an old TV. We did a Google search and it sounds like hypnagogic hallucinations. We haven't been able to find any connection with MCI or dementia. But this is something…
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Wife memory disappearing and won't see a doctor
My wife of 53 years has been in memory decline for over a year and it is getting worse. She will ask the same question dozens of time a day. She doesn't want to see a doctor because her mother told her most doctors do nothing useful. For a while I was confronting her with the memory loss information but she always denies…
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Dad won’t stop correcting my mother
Hi I am new to the group. My mom is in early stages. My dad is has not accepted the dementia and still thinks he can “fix” it. He constantly corrects her when she says something that isnt right. How can I get across to him that it isnt good for her?
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Autoimmune dementia
Hello Everyone, I have just read some articles about Autoimmune dementia. I was wondering if anyone had heard of this / pursued diagnosis of this / sought treatment for this? Thank you.
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Everyone is his Friend
My SO who is 45 EOA thinks he knows everyone when we go out to the store or in public. Most people are receptive and understanding. I feel that since he doesn't go to the store as much as he used to and isn't exposed to the public this is a reaction? However I have also read that this is a part of the disease. He has also…
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May God bless you all
l am thankful for this forum that has so many kind and wise members. Thank you all for the sound advice, good comments and overall generous support. They are very helpful.
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Early Onset
Hi, I am 59 years old and was just diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's. To say the least I am devastated. Lots and lots of ugly crying. I am trying to get my hands around all of this, so many things to do and so many questions? Has anyone ever been on a clinical trial? What was it like? I have started taking…
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Dementia at 45
I was diagnosed with HIV associated dementia after having imaging done due to behavioral and cognitive issues, and long term HIV infection. The last five years have been difficult alone, self isolating, now seeing problems completing everyday tasks or just takes a lot longer. I can't even get into the bathroom to brush my…
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This confuses me
Hello everyone, Has anyone else experienced this with their LO. Today my father with moderate to severe dementia wakes up and calls his sister and has a conversation like normal almost without dementia. He was able to give details of things he’s done and elaborate on certain things. This confuses me because I don’t…
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Softening the Bedrails to Prevent Injury
Hello Everyone, this is my first post here, although I have been following many discussions over time as I care for my sweet husband who was diagnosed with mid- stage mixed vascular dementia two years ago. Sadly, he fell and broke his hip two months ago, which of course has affected both his dementia and his progress in…
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New here. Mom with relatively early dementia
I live a long way from my mom, a 4 day drive. She is relatively early in things. Her PCP never actually told her when she wrote dementia on her problem list a few years ago. Recently I went to ophthalmologist’s appointment with her and asked “she has Alzheimer’s, so you should add that to her problem list”. My mom said “I…