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Out of state sister with early Alzheimer's is stubborn, petulant and resistant to help.
I am her HCPOA and DPOA. Neurologist explained her diagnosis to her, and told her she needs 24/7 aides if she wants to remain in her home, that she may not drive or be responsible for her medication, and must use a walker (many falls.) But she states she does not have Alzheimer's, is rude to and fires every aide we hire,…
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Just need to talk to my friends (205) May 2025
Thanks, CaroLynn, I kept meaning to do this yesterday and never got around to it. Chilly and c!oudy here this morning. I checked and WM will deliver something so had to go out and open the gate so they can come through and turn around without backing all the way to the road. Then. fixed my cereal and hot tea, got back in…
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Diagnosed with EOD a year ago at 55 years old
Hi. Last year I was diagnosed with EOD a day after my 55th birthday. Then after a lumbar puncture, PET scan and MRI the neurologist said she was doubting her original diagnosis. So then I spent about 5 hours doing neuropsych testing and even though it showed I had all the symptoms of LBD, the psychologist said that my…
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My MIL is getting worse
My MIL has dementia and is now starting to forget to eat, and isn't really taking care of herself. My SIL lives with them, but it's more like lives "off" them and she is NO help! I've noticed my MIL losing weight and not looking as put together as normal. When do I know when the time has come to get her more care. She…
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My Mom has Dementia and now hates my Father
Hello! I'm new here. My Mom has dementia and directs all her anger at my father. He is a wonderful, patient man that takes care of her everyday (we are currently trying to get her into assisted living). She calls me everyday bashing him about how he takes all her clothes, pushes her around and throws out all her important…
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Should we travel?
My DH has been diagnosed with MCI although I suspect that he is further along in the process. He has always been close to his sister who lives several states away; and her husband passed away recently after a difficult battle with ALS. His sister is hosting a "celebration of life" open house at her home in a few weeks in…
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Regressing
DH with ALZ…he has forgotten not only that he loves bbq ribs but also how to eat them. It suddenly occured to me that there have been a number of clues that his eating habits have regressed to early childhood. He now cuts all his foods …asparagus, long green beans, meats…into bite size pieces before eating. I asked him…
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Pairing college students with seniors
new platform “Joey” paired a college student needing housing with a senior couple. DW has EOAD and DH still works. Student can work off some of the rent with chores. It seemed to work out well for this pairing CBS reporting https://x.com/cbseveningnews/status/1928978603959533863?s=61&t=daLMzkQZ7dgrlrf3SDYEoA
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Moving mom from AL to MC
this day is going to be so hard. We need to move mom up to MC. She has been wandering and walked out of the building. It is now a safety issue and we need to do this but it is breaking my heart. I don’t know how to navigate it all and how often I should visit after. I currently go twice a week and sibling goes twice a…
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Unmarried partner not living together
My bf of 77yrar d has had memory issues and I asked him to get evaluated. After months and months with several steps along the way he has been diagnosed with MCI. I can’t keep track of everything he does and it seems like he is forgetting a lot of things. Seems he thought he was scammed the other day and called ti make a…
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How to help with dementia and sundowners
I am new to all this. I worked in a dementia care unit as a companion but it is nothing compared to feeling so helpless when it comes to my grandma. My dad wants to put her in a home and I gave her my word I would not let that happen. It breaks my heart seeing her decline and not know who I am. I had never even heard of…
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New to Group
Good morning community, I just connected to this support group. My 86 yo dad is struggling more each day with memory loss. He has always had some sort of learning disability and suffers from profound hearing loss. The increasing level of dementia is complicating daily interactions. I have a sister who lives 5 minutes from…
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Worried
Taking my DH on a 2 hrs trip. He has VD and Alz. Early stages but has lots of anxiety. I so worried first time this far from home. There will be about 30 people there( all my famil). Just making me sorta nervous. Oh well gonna try might be the last time I see some of my aunts and uncles.
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Am I being unreasonable?
I’m 81, my DW is 82. I have been her primary caregiver since she was diagnosed three years ago. We live in rural Western PA. Between our prior marriages we have 8 kids. They all live far away, the closest is her daughter who lives fours away. She is in stage 5. I have had to take over all the finances, medications, meal…
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Falling issues
So, my grandfather continues to prove that he is the most stubborn person in the world. I and my father are currently full time caregivers of my grandfather who has Parkinson's and Alzheimer's. He is currently a medium fall risk as diagnosed by his doc and physical therapist. He is still very independent, being able to do…
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How do I tell my mom we are where we are because of her illness?
First, my mom refuses to come to terms with the fact that she is mentally declining and that we need to address the fact that she is not just forgetful, but that she has severe memory loss, had a small stroke, and is starting to experience delusions. Of course, she denies and becomes enraged when these things are brought…
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Dealing with Medication Management
Hey Y'all! I'm a 27-year-old caregiver for my grandfather with VD, while also working full-time. He is probably mid-stage by now. Medication management has been difficult to deal with, to say the least. He is very resistant to change and likes to feel in control of things. He's been this way all his life. He's been an…
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Brain Exercising
i would really like some opinions. We are involved with a disability sailing group. One particular friend, in her 50’s, double degree, has been a mother, a teacher, piano and trumpet player, sailor and scuba diver, a very accomplished all rounder. She has had 3 traumatic head injuries, lost her memory completely and the…
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I'm Hitting My Limit
I am so lost right now and really need to vent. I don't know that I can take the complaints, shadowing and delusions anymore. Perhaps it's because I keep hoping for something back, even though I know my DW can't offer anything back. I feel like a complete failure in this caregiving and wonder what kind of person I am that…
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Should we move our loved one
My ex has no diagnosis but has many symptoms of memory decline. She wants to move several states over to live close to hers and my son. But she can only afford an apartment 30 minutes away from my son. Does anyone know of similar situations and how they turned out? Thanks
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Declining mobility and VD
There are so many on this site with much bigger issues than mine and farther along on the journey. DH has VD after several strokes in his parietal lobe. He has executive function issues, receptive and ecpressive language defecits but very little problem with memory. He can still do his ADLs but is declining physically at a…
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Kinsula treatment
Is anyone in this group being treated with Kinsula? If yes what has been your experience. I would like to know more about it before making a decision to start treatment.
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don't know what to say to DW
I visited DW yesterday at her MCF, and it was pretty disheartening. I managed to record a bunch of our conversation and transcribe it. The key points: * She asks why she is there, what changed between us? * Why didn't I talk to her about the change? * Why don't I want to be with her? * Is there someone else? * What's the…
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NYT: A Woman with a Rare Genetic Mutation ... (FTD)
From the NYT: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/22/health/frontotemporal-dementia-genetic-mutation-linde-jacobs.html?unlocked_article_code=1.jU4.Pogt.lww3UxG0uYFK&smid=url-share https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/22/health/frontotemporal-dementia-genetic-mutation-linde-jacobs.html
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A new experimental treatment - in a nasal spray
Something to keep an eye on. The study focuses on those with moderate Alzheimer's. Can this nasal spray slow down Alzheimer's? Once couple is helping scientists find out
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My Mom Finally Got An Official Diagnosis
So after almost three months, my mom has officially been diagnoised with major cognitive disorder, aka dementia by a geriactic care provider. According to her, silent strokes from a while back (which affected her brain) and my mom's unresolved grief with my Dad were major contributing factors. It has been recommended that…
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So I guess this how it goes? One day your are fine and the next you are not
I realized I cant take care of 2 dementia patients on my own. So now I need to get agreement from my Dad to go into the nursing home. I spent 8 hours today dealing with them, doc appoints, falls, ambulances, hospitals - all in one day. I can't take all this stress. Its destroying me.
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Mom girgals after eating
Hello, has anyone noticed this with their LO? It looks like she is choking and is in pain.?
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DH has a hernia should he have an operation
My DH has been seen by urologist. He does not have any pain in the hernia but it is large. . The doctor has said that it is not urgent for my DH to have the operation. My husband has stage 3 dementia. He was in agreement that day but has forgotten about the examination and now said he doesn't want the operation. What…
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Dad with dementia survives mom
Mom had a massive brain hemorrhage and as medical POA, I had the difficult decision to take her off life support after 3 days in a coma. She passed 2 days later. Funeral was on the 19th. Now I'm focusing on taking care of Dad as he has late stage vascular dementia. We were supposed to plan for Dad to pass first but then…