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World Premiere. We did it.
Dementia family, friends & care partners of the forums, the World Premiere of "Wine, Women, & Dementia" is this month at the Julien Dubuque Int'l Film Festival in Iowa. I can't believe we got this dementia family caregiver documentary this far! I would love to meet any one of you at the festival and share a caregiver hug,…
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NEW AT CAREGIVING
ive been working as a live in caregiver for a week for a 77 yr old dementia patient.im new with absolutely no experience and i am so thankful that there's help out there.thank God for this support group.its like all my prayers have been answered and because of this forum i can find all the answers to all my questions,…
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My story and ? about Gaurdenship
I am so glad I found this site. My parents were together for 40 years, until April 22, 2022 @4:13 pm when my mother lost her 3 year fight with stage 4 lung & pancreatic cancer. Two weeks before mom past away, my dad was in the hospital for 4 days with pneumonia. We initially thought he was having another stroke but soon…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/7/23
CURTAIN TORN WE NOW HAVE ACCESS TO GOD THE FATHER Luke 23:44-46 New International Version The Death of Jesus It was now about noon, and darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon, for the sun stopped shining. And the curtain of the temple was torn in two. Jesus called out with a loud voice, “Father,…
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Living with sister who now likely has dementia
I am thinking I made a big mistake moving in with my sister almost 2 years ago. She is seeing doctors to get diagnosis but thinks it is all bunk (cleaned up her words) am blames me and sees me as the enemy. Even though I manage everything in the house and really her health. She leaves the house for 2 hours every Monday to…
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Neglect
I'm not a caregiver, I'm a friend. My dear, suffering friend is neglected by her husband. He leaves her alone all day. He helps out with pills, etc., when she asks him, but she's too passive to ask for what she really needs. He's helpful, but minimally. He isn't capable of nurturing. N. needs care and attention, maybe…
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Bedridden, frail, but still here
My mom returned from a hospital stay from a UTI and acute kidney injury . She had infiltration from the IV being incorrect and now has nerve damage. She is eating and drinking less and has lost 12 lbs in a month. The damaged arm is the dominant one so the staff have to help her eat. She can still talk. She is too weak to…
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Living w/ me or in AL?
Been following this forum for a month. It's been like falling into a dark pit but finding a diamond. I am trying to make a decision about care for my mother and would appreciate any insights from your experiences. For background: One year ago, I moved my mother across the country with the intention of helping her find a…
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4/2/23 Bible Verse to Lift You Up
GOOD FRIDAY * EASTER * WE REJOICE! Isaiah 53:5-6 Amplified Bible 5 But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was crushed for our wickedness [our sin, our injustice, our wrongdoing]; The punishment [required] for our well-being fell on Him, And by His stripes (wounds) we are healed. 6 All of us like sheep have gone…
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Henry my hubby of 43 years now free from Alzheimers and pain
after a horrible day before he passed peacefully last night. My kids and grandkids heartbroken. Does not seem real. Woke up and looked at his bed as usual to see how he is and realized ...... : (
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Intro - Mom w/ Alzheimer's; Dad w/ Cardiac & vision issues
Hi all! I'm an only child so the sole caretaker of my parents. Dad & I had been noticing Mom's memory issues for several years. She also has mobility issues due to lack of exercise. Dad had a heart attack in January of 2022 and was in the hospital for a few days. During that time I lived with mom and noticed significant…
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This is my intro (long)
Sorry, long post inbound. My mother, 84, smoked from teenager up until her mid seventies. College educated, very intelligent , sweet and kind, loves her family, art and nature. Eight years ago had the flu, which led to a seizure, which Drs presumed was due to low sodium. In the hospital for a few days. The first night she…
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Mom's Attitude
Hello All - New to the board but have been reading a lot. Thank you to everyone that shares, I know I am not alone. We moved my Dad into AL in February. My Dad had colon cancer in 2019 and did very well with surgery and chemo. After the chemo was done my mom felt something was off and went to his family doctor and then a…
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Alzheimer’s/Dementia or Just Narcissistic?
My covert narcissistic mom has had some off/on memory issues for the past couple years like where she puts things. My brother and I can’t tell whether it is normal aging or more than that. In the past two months, she has suddenly started making up stories about her youngest sister doing black magic, trying to break into…
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This is it
I started on this site with a post called: I Can't Give Up. I have her dressed and with a little suitcase packed by the front door. Not much of a plan except taking her to the E.R and running away. Or finding the closest Geriatric Psych Ward and doing the same. Leave all the information on a sheet of paper taped to her…
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Stage 7A
My father is 91 and with hospice in stage 7A. His appetite is decreasing and l know it won’t improve such as mine would if I didn’t feel like eating temporarily. He uses a walker, slowing day by day. I have been offered the notion appetite stimulants could be given. iF l want them to be. I don’t see this as a good idea and…
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Hubby has stopped eating and drinking
hospice put a catheter in Saturday as he did not void for 24 hours He has only eaten maybe one full snackpack of pudding since friday and stopped drinking from his sippy cup I am swabbing his mouth. He tried to talk when he is "awake" but we only understand a few. My son brought his boxer over, my husband LOVES that dog.…
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One month later...
Moved mom end of February. First week, I was told she was doing really well. As far as nursing care went, I agreed. Diaper rash got better. Then they moved her to the secured side. She got bad diaper rash again, and she has a chest cold, an no one noticed. I had to say something three times to three different people from…
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Intro - I'm new to all this
Hi and thank you for being here! Apologies in advance for being lengthy. My dad was diagnosed at some point before Covid. I'd had my suspicions but it wasn't a topic my mom would talk about. I live several hours away and there has been some estrangement over the years. And my parents, especially mom, keeps every bit of…
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Residential home MC vs Large facility MC
I'm taking care of both my mother and my DW. My DW is deep into Alz and my mother is showing some memory issues as well. My mother is living with me so it is very challenging dynamic taking care of both. I'm going to have to move my mother but the last AL facility she was in noticed an increase in her confusion and will…
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What to do: working mom with 1 year old baby, family member with suspected dementia
Hi everyone, I'm new to this caregiver journey and looking for a place to share my story and any advice/words appreciated. I am a working mom with 1 year old baby. Recently, my husband and I came to suspect my mother-in-law to have dementia/Alzheimer's. I only learnt about this recently, but apparently for the past year…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/30/23
DECIDE TO LOVE * Kind: Having a benevolent, courteous, friendly, generous, gentle, liberal, sympathetic, or warm-hearted nature or disposition, marked by consideration for – and service to – others. From: Wiktionary Free Dictionary 1 Corinthians 13: 4 AMP …love is kind and thoughtful… * me: When we choose to be kind and…
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Need to care for myself...What to do with MOM
Hello, I have medical procedure scheduled in April which may require multiple days in hospital and weeks of downtime/recovery (medical second option pending). Has anyone had experience with placing 90 year-old mom or what to do for planning her care during this period (i.e. 3-4 weeks). As an only child and mom's medical…
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MRI Results(3)
I am not sure if this post is appropriate for this forum but here goes. My wife has had symptoms of dementia for over 3 years but we only recently had her primary care physician consulted. The 10 minute test scored very poorly and he requested an MRI. I read the results of the MRI and discussed them with the PCP. It seems…
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Father wants to return to former residence
My now 96 yo father has dementia and is in a progressive decline. After a safety issue in his former residence in May, 2022, my siblings and I encouraged him to move into AL. He agreed. That was in October, 2022. About two weeks after we moved him in, he began to call everyone, wanting to get the movers back, to take him…
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“Breathing on his own”
Three out of the last four days my dad has called to say once that he thought he was dying and twice that he has to “breathe on his own”. I think by saying breathing on his own that means he thinks he needs to concentrate on breathing or he won’t. He has been in AL for about 2.5 months now. When he says this I have had a…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/28/23
HOW DO WE LOVE? Wiktionary Free dictionary Patient: (of a person) Willing to wait if necessary; not losing one's temper while waiting. Constant in pursuit or exertion; persevering; calmly diligent. Serenity: The state of being serene; calmness; peacefulness. A lack of agitation or disturbance. * 1 Corinthians 13:4 …Love…
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What decisions can mom still make?
Mom was diagnosed with dementia. We went to a lawyer who was very good at explaining what should be done in very clear simple terms. I was appointed durable power of attorney financial and my brother and I for medical. Since the lawyer allowed her to sign these papers my brother now believes she is still able to make all…
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MIL is now in MC doing worse
My 81-year-old MIL is now starting to hold saliva in her mouth. She also will not move unless someone get her up. What does this mean? She does not have a bowel for 7 to 8 days without otc help and wants to drink very little. She will eat and wants to eat everything her appetite goes up and down, but when she eats, she…
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I WANT TO GO HOME(3)
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