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Dealing with family members death
My Dad is pretty emotional after learning that his brother in law (my moms sisters husband) passed away during the night in hospice care. We tried to get up to see him at the hospice home this morning and Dad wanted to go. They were fairly close so I figured it would hurt more if he didn’t go. He passed during the night…
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Memantine in Addition to Donepezil - What to Expect and For How Long
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The Homeless Elderly
i saw this report regarding the Homeless Elderly; it certainly presents something that one does not hear about: https://www.yahoo.com/news/seniors-flooding-homeless-shelters-cant-162941381.html It is stunning to me that this has not been a significant publicized part of the dynamics re the homeless population issues. it is…
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Alcohol Related Dementia Wernicke–Korsakoff syndrome thread
I wanted to start a separate thread of support and venting for caregivers/family members of people with alcohol related dementias and/or who have been diagnosed with Wernicke–Korsakoff syndrome (or not diagnosed but you suspect this is their illness). This is such a complicated issue because, in addition to the dementia…
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Kidney Failure stage 5/Dementia
Hi my mom is 95 years old. She had stage 4 kidney disease since 2018 which have been stable up to this point. She now has stage 5 since July 2022. At this point of her life she's declining. She can hardly walk, her right shoulder is painful because it's bone against bone, on the right side all the way down her hand is…
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Re: Arranging transport
I am writing as something to think about and to prepare for in regards to a common caregiving situation. My older relative in her 80's cares for her brother in his 90's who has AD. She had occasion to take him in her car for a medical appointment. Despite having the younger woman caregiver and another older man relative…
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Mom with AD said God had not been good to her, what to say?
I was not sure where to put this post, and not sure there is really a great section for it. Overall, I think my mom is quite miserable. I know, there is a limit to what anyone standing outside a person's mind and heart can really do. I do not think I can make this better. What do you say to someone who is just unhappy?…
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My grandmother is very talkative and sad
My grandmother is very talkative and generally negative and depressive. How can we create an environment that makes her happy and that distracts her from her negative thoughts?
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How do we tell Dad that Mom is selling their home?
My father has some form of dementia resulting in short term memory loss. We first noticed the undeniable signs in early 2020. He has refused any and all attempts to diagnose or assess his cognitive condition. He’s an intimidating man and has always bullied his way through life and this situation is no different. He hasn’t…
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Care Giver Needs Advice
I am the sole care giver for my mom who lives with me. I leave her food every day to eat while I am at work. Recently she began accusing me of not leaving her food because she can't remember that I did. She becomes very angry and says I am calling her a liar. I know this is typical, but has anyone had any success dealing…
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Feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and needy
My emotions are on a roller coaster lately. My son graduated from college on Mother's day weekend. I am so proud of him and know he will find his way, but I will always be a mother who worries about her kid. So now I've got a 22yo at home, my parent's dog, and my 2 needy parents in AL. Everything just feels a bit out of…
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Tomorrow is the day we have to separate Mom and Angel
I’m just needing an outlet to vent and cry tonight so I can hopefully get it out and get some sleep before we have to do what we have to do tomorrow. Many of you have been blessed support while my sisters and I have been trying to work out how to keep my mom together with her beloved dog, Angel. And we have been able to…
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Mother's Day Blessing
I send up a blessing for all you mother's today. For your patience in raising your children, for your devotion in caring/advocating for your elders. The kids and the old folks may not see it, may not appreciate it, may not even like you right at the moment. But I see you, this forum sees you, and I want you to know you are…
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Live-in care
Can anyone offer advice on having a live-in caregiver? My sister-in-law is encouraging me to hire someone for my DH. She hired one when my mother-in-law was in decline through some "gray market" channels. I'm concerned about having someone without training and insurance (not to mention having to deal with taxes and such).…
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Role of natural supplements in support of cure for Alzheimer's
I have closely seen many patients with Alzheimer's . And this really breaks my heart. Just last week I came across an article which talks about natural supplements and their potential benefit to support the cure for many decisions. How you guys feel about natural supplements do share your views. Also if anyone using them…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/20/23
GOD IS HIGHER. WE CAN TRUST HIM. Isaiah 55:9 New Living Translation 9 For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. me: Sometimes we kinda understand why some things in our lives have happened, and other times we scratch our heads and say,…
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skilled nursing facility issues
Unfortunately, my mother has been relocated for long-term care to a skilled nursing facility (TX.). Not our first experience with a s.n.f. Issue is how to hold facility accountable. Have found out firsthand that filing a complaint with health and human services is a waste of time. My mother suffers from both ALZ and…
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Upcoming event on Alzheimer's Disease drug development
Join us for an ADDF Virtual Town Hall Meeting Date: Tuesday, May 23, 2023 Time: 1:00pm ET The ADDF funds the largest and most diverse Alzheimer's research portfolio worldwide, with a rich history of pushing the boundaries that shape the field. The ADDF funds the largest and most diverse Alzheimer's research portfolio…
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How to respond to repeated topic?
Hi all, I’m unfortunately new here so thanks in advance for your support. My mom (79) has recently been diagnosed with ALZ but still in the early stages. Onr big issue right now is that she often comments that she and my dad did not have any children, and will generally follow up with accusing my dad being the cause of…
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Angry no matter what we do
Mom lives with a family member but she still has her house. She is a hoarder and there is much that needs to be addressed at the house. She insists on going over to the house regularly. She is upset that we are going through her things, looks through trash (making sure we didn’t toss anything), demanding it’s her house and…
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Respite Grants, San Jose California
Hello Everyone, I am looking for any or all information re: applying for respite grants for an individual living in San Jose, CA needing facility respite care. Thank you, Lori
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FDA Approves Rexulti for Agitation in Alzheimer's Disease
The FDA approved atypical antipsychotic Rexulti for the treatment of agitation in patients with Alzheimer's. This class of medication (which includes Risperdal and Seroquel) has been used off-label for years, but this is a new indication for the medication previously approved for severe depression and schizophrenia. This…
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How Do You Cope With Repeated Attacks
Hi. I am having trouble coping with the personal attacks from my mother. She is hallucinating a whole group of people in the house and swears that I am "ministering" to them and having "group meetings". She also secretly told my brother that she feels I am doing something sinister. Sometimes she will look at me as if I am…
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Aggression and Refusal
I care for a 70 yr old woman with late stage AL. She has lately become very agitated, aggressive, angry and refuses to do the mandatory things in life such as going to the bathroom, showering and eating. She refuses help, calls me and her family that she lives with names, tell me she hates me and has even slapped my hand…
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By Dio - Medication(s) to Calm Agitation
I got a call from MC today requesting permission to contact DH's doctor to prescribe medication to help calm DH. Apparently, today it took four people to change DH, as he got extremely agitated when he needed to be changed and have dirty clothes taken away to be cleaned. This behavior is consistent with what I had to deal…
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Incontinence Odor
I moved my best friend into a lovely nursing home over the weekend. She does wear diapers (usually 2) but still manages to get wet through them. She has wet her bed and clothes, chair, etc. After only a few days there, her room reeks of urine. I am changing her sheets, airing her mattress out, collecting the wet items and…
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American House
Just wondering if anyone has experience, good or bad, with American House assisted living. I'm looking at one of their facilities as an option for my mom. They contract out to a third party for personal care services, so I'd also be interested in anyone's experience with that set up, even if not with American House. Thanks.
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Father Refusing In-home Care
Hello, I’m new here, but have already learned a lot from reading posts. This is my first, asking for advice. My father needs 24/7 care but refuses to accept a caregiver. He might for a day, but he’s fired that 8 we’ve found for him in the past 6 weeks, telling them to leave and not letting them come back. He’s independent…
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You are cordially invited... WWD Sneak Peek
As a thank you to all your advice/support/empathy throughout the years I invite you all to a special, FREE, half-hour Sneak Peek of the dementia family caregiver documentary... Wine, Women, & Dementia - Wednesday, May 24 - Noon EDT - 9am PDT - @ Zoom Online Followed by a half-hour Q&A with me (Kitty Norton, Director), Beth…