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Help me understand
I've heard here quite often about the Power of Attorney and a Senior Law Lawyer, but I can't quite make the connection. I know the POA is basically so a caregiver can basically make every decision for the one he/she is caring for because that person can't make those decisions for themselves anymore. And I figure the Senior…
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Do you ever get used to waiting it out? (mostly a vent)
So, it's Christmas (Merry Christmas everyone), and of course just the mention of it to my Mom (moderate ALZ, stage 6 probably, still manages many of her ADLs) has turned things sour (Where are we going? Where is that? What time? Who's that? Who are you? What about my [dead] parents? What am I bringing? etc. On loop of…
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Just need encouragement
I am placing dad in AL Tuesday. My emotions are all over the place. He is sad he is going. At one point this week he told me he is not going. A couple of days ago I lost it and I must have caught him in a moment of reason and he understood that he can’t be left alone and that I am here all of the time away from my home and…
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So, Doctor says Palliative Care
This year has been tough for my mother, 83, with later stage ALZ. Until September she lived in AL, then moved to MC. The move to MC was anticipated but determined necessary by late summer. Mom has had several falls and trips to the ER, resulting in black eyes, stitches in forehead and the latest a small brain bleed when…
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Diabetes and Alzheimer's
I have been a care taker for my mom for over a year now, she is a diabetic and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's around 5-8 years ago and recently she has been getting very "sassy" about wanting sweets all the time. I want to be able to give her whatever she wants to eat but her numbers jump so high that I have to limit the…
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Christmas Day Worries
So my dad as of recent has been VERY choosy what he eats and often doesn't eat his meals (we don't have a large kitchen space) but I do prepare dinner almost every night. He normally acts as if he can't walk but tonight he made his way into the kitchen without a walker and then as I asked him what he was doing he said he…
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OT M1
Art supplies...I use dickblick.com. You could send little "treats". They might have a small storage cabinet she could call her own...
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Dinner is a nightmare
Last few weeks Dad has been challenging at meals. We keep reminding him to take a bite and swallow before taking another. He says ok and literally takes another bite while still chewing and staring at me while doing so. We've tried hard not to get upset but it is not keeping him sason was fe if he chokes. Then he says…
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A disconcerting day
DH has been in memory care since mid August. Thankfully it is in the bldg a 3 min walk from our independent living apartment. He has fallen a few times and today I got the call that he was slumped over in the dining room at breakfast and was non responsive. I have a DNR in place but I allowed them to take him across the…
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'Our Body is thy temple' 'is now airing
Exciting news. Our new series 'Our Body is thy temple' 'is now airing on Glewed.TV. We have been shooting this series around the country over the last year and we take a deep dive into the disparities in the black community and their health and the role the black church can play. We feature such conditions as diabetes,…
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Is ER trip necessary to enter Geri-psych unit?
Today we were told that my dad’s agitated and verbally abusive behavior at the MC he’s been in for seven weeks is beyond the care the facility can provide and they recommend we admit him to a geriatric-psychiatric unit where staff there can figure out meds that will manage his behaviors. In reading on this forum about…
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how to answer questions(2)
I am supporting my 80 yr old mom, who lives alone. She was diagnosed in Sept of this year with Alz dementia. I am struggling with issues of how to interact with her. I know that I should not correct her if whatever she says is wrong and doesn't matter. Today, however, I was there and she was upset because the trash man…
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Good afternoon fellow warriors
Hi. Wow… Mom passed last night. I’m still reeling of course…but overall, I’m so completely thankful for the time that we’ve had bonded together these last years and this last week. Words can’t express my gratitude to her. She actually took very good care of me, I’m in awe. I know Ill be ok even when Ive thought “how can I…
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National Plan to Address Alzheimer’s Disease: 2022 Update
https://aspe.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/documents/59cefdd628581b48b2e389891a675af0/napa-national-plan-2022-update.pdf The 2022 Update includes several notable recent actions to address disparities in ADRD care. Earlier this year, the Indian Health Service (IHS) established the Alzheimer’s Grant Program, a first-of-its…
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hYDROXYZINE FOR Restlessness/Anxiety
Mom is in the later stages of ALZ and is now a high fall risk. She is in a SNF for OT/PT to build her strength and then will move to either an adult family home or more Acute level of Memory care. She is extremely restless at times and is able to get out of bed but falls shortly afterwards. The SNF medical staff has begun…
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Memory Care vs. Care at home
Hopefully I’m not rehashing a conversation I could find answers to elsewhere. My dad (74, very active and healthy aside from stage 5-ish alzheimer’s) has had 24/7 at home care since a wandering-based hospitalization in October. He lived alone up until then, and i’m an only-child that lives many states away. We’ve been…
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Recently moved mom to AL closer to me & new husband
Mom is 74 with mild/moderate dimentia having been single/living alone for close to 25 years. I am 38 year's old, recently married and an only child who luckily has a village of family friends who have jumped in to help because immediate relatives seem to be scared of it all and standoffish. they're "praying for me" and are…
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Total and complete basket case
This is the only place I can come right now. I don’t even know where to begin. I’ll be all over the place but hopefully saying it “out loud” will keep me from panicking further or having my own heart attack. I didn’t come prepared to this gun fight. Totally thought I would be when I signed up for taking care of mom and…
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Dr. Suggesting calling 911 and sending mom for geri-pysch Eval???
I am nervous to go down this road. We've done everything by the book including getting Guardianship of our mother. I've read some of the forum topics that mention geri-pysch and looking for more information. Mom has dementia which is getting worse. She is refusing to ever leave her home, she has been prescribed meds to…
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gym membership
I signed up my LO for a gym membership yesterday so that she could have a safe place to walk (with me) on an indoor track (with and without her walker) during the cold weather. I was surprised to find out that with her AARP/United Healthcare, they would pay for her membership and that the YMCA would allow me to be her…
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Notes from physicians vs. POAs
Hi everyone, Question: Can notes from medical professionals specifying a LO's diagnosis and/or capacity count for anything in lieu of a POA? Does it vary in different situations? Can certain processes be helped by having documents like these? My mother (who is currently diagnosed with MCI) had a large outburst the last…
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Elder Attorney vs Advanced Directive?
My DW has EO at 52. I would like to make sure things are in order while she is still able to. She is willing to sign an Advanced Directive with a notary public that I got from her primary doctor. Is that the same thing as what an Elder Attorney would do to give me power of attorney? I'm very happy that there is so much…
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Another Seroquel Question
I'm so confused about this medication. I noticed several people on here mentioned their LOWD has been prescribed Seroquel. My mother was prescribed Zoloft, but I didn't notice any difference. When she was admitted to the hospital, they added Seroquel to her Zoloft to try and calm her since she was contantly trying to get…
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Thinks everyone steals from her
My Mother has moderate Alzheimer’s and has been living with us for five months now. Before living with us Mom lived in a 55+apartment building just a few minutes from us. I received a call from the police department, and I was told that my Mom keeps calling them saying that people are coming into her apartment and stealing…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/19/22
GOD LIFTS MY HEAD PRAY: Lord, my God, I thank you for Your love and faithfulness. Amen. HOPE: Psalm 3:3 AMP But You, O Lord, are a shield for me, My glory [and my honor], and the One who lifts my head. COURAGE: I am not alone; God walks with me. JESUS IS WITH ME ALL THE TIME PRAY: Lord Jesus, I praise You for being the…
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Seeing things that are not there
Hi,I am new here. My husband was recently diagnosed with what they say is memory issues. I believe he has early stage dementia. He see's things that are not there, sometimes calls me the other lady. Be comes upset when I say that I am sure you see them but I don't. Some of his tests have shown that he's had a silcent…
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insisting to go home nightly
I have cared for my 86 year old mother with Alzheimers in my home since her initial diagnosis with vascular dementia approximately 5 years ago. In the last 3 months my sister has moved cross country to live with mom and I in my home to assist with her day time care so I can return to my work in person during the day now…
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Suggestions for snacks to gain weight
My mom (age 94, PWD) is eating so little that the NP put her on Periactin. I keep Boost on hand, but she refuses it. She used to have a sweet tooth but still hasn't wanted to even open box of Valentine's day candy! I want to make her a snack basket to keep on hand with *somewhat* healthy snacks that might appeal. Thinking…
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Hello, new here, need help please
I am a retired physical therapist, so I have dealt with ppl with dementia as a clinician. Now it is more personal. I am helping a dear friend who was dx with EO Alzheimers a few days ago. She has no relatives or other friends to help her. I have been helping her with finances for a few months, she sees pop-ups and has…
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Reluctant participant for moving to M.C Facility
It's been 3 years battling with our mother who was diagnosed with MCI in early 2020. She has been declining ever since and still living in her home alone refusing to believe anything is wrong. We have POA's, we have end of life, a will, a trust but didn't have control over her medical decisions till this past September.…