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Combative
Before Alzheimers, my mom was one of the sweetest, most caring people you could imagine. She has been living with Alzheimers for about 5 years. Lately, I have noticed that she has become much meaner, violent, hidtile, and hurtful. I know that she doesn’t mean to be this way, and cannot help it- but it still is incredibly…
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Rent due
So I live with my grandma just me n her & we both agree for me to be her caregiver. She has bad mood swings with her dementia that I feel is getting worse, so today we had to pay our rent and I asked grandma if she wanted me to go leave the check in the leasing office & first she tells me not right now, so a few hours go…
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Why does my Mom sigh/ cry almost all the day?
Hello there! My mom is about 75 yrs old. Maybe she is suffering from dementia or alzimer's disease. Her symptoms are : 1. Don't recognise relative or even close family members. 2. Don't know how many children she has, does they all alive or not 3. Incontinence for last 1 year. 4. Unable to walk now. Now loosing the…
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New here(53)
Hi everyone! I am new to this website. My MIL was offically diagnosed in June of this year. Although, we started noticing symptoms about 2 years ago. My husband, sister-in-law, and I are all highly involved with my MIL. We manage all of her finances, appointments, and medications. She is no longer driving so we also drive…
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Does diagnosis matter?
Hi all! My father, age 84, has been experiencing memory loss over the past 5+ years. My mom cares for him, and they have been doing just fine together, for the most part. She was hesitant to get him diagnosed with anything official, then covid hit, and now... here we are, still without a diagnosis. She is concerned about…
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Memory Care(8)
What does a memory care facilty do ?
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Gift ideas
Good Afternoon everyone! New here to AlzConnected, but sadly not new to the diagnosis. My mom will be 55 years old in March 2022- so she is definitely a younger soul to this diagnosis, however, I know she is not the only one. Long story short- She worked for the same company for 34 years until last month. They refused to…
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How to deal with angry dementia patient
Hello my grandma just got diagnosed with dementia back in August 2022 although we have noticed symptoms for about 2 years now , she finally got diagnosed. It’s tough living with her as I’m her only caregiver & she treats me like I’m sh-- , any advice to deal with angry dementia patients , here’s an example of her getting…
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UTI info
https://www.bustle.com/wellness/what-it-could-mean-if-you-have-uti-symptoms-but-a-normal-urine-culture-9985981
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Finally some good news on the treatment of early Alzheimer's disease
This afternoon, Anavax Life Sciences announced results from its phase 2b/3 clinical trial for early Alzheimer's disease and the news was good. ANAVEX®2-73 (BLARCAMESINE) PHASE 2B/3 STUDY MET PRIMARY AND KEY SECONDARY ENDPOINTS, SHOWING STATISTICALLY SIGNIFICANT REDUCTION OF CLINICAL DECLINE IN GLOBAL CLINICAL STUDY OF…
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Regret
My Grandmother has been struggling with dementia for years. I remember the first few indicators I had that this was going to happen. A few years ago, we were out shopping together, and she started calling out my mom's name. She was convinced she had taken her teenage daughter shopping and couldn't find her. My mom and I…
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New to the Group(8)
Good morning! I am new to the group and signed to more help my parents. Father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's earlier this year and progressing. The changes, challenges, and situation has not been an easy one for my mother and the day-to-day. Does anyone have any recommendations for local support groups, ideas for family…
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MIL with EOAD moving to hospice, seeking advice
We just received news that my mother in law is now in late stage of her early onset alz. diagnosis and her doctor recommended we start hospice care. She was diagnosed 8 years ago at age 61. we moved her from her home to a memory care facility last winter, where she has been thriving (loved participating in activities, made…
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New decline….this one is very hard
Hello everyone, Dementia is all about your loved one losing abilities to function. I have read articles attended workshops (in person and virtual) about the coming changes and thought I was prepared. I am prepared mentally, but emotionally I am unprepared and hurting. First of all, mom is using more single words and less…
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Soiled and refusing to bathe/change. Any ideas?
We have a quickly escalating situation with the lack of bathing/hygiene issues. My mom's stomach was upset yesterday, and she either had a bowel accident, or did such a poor job wiping herself, that she is soiled through her clothes. She is still refusing to change her clothes or bathe (it's been months). I just talked to…
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Anxiety around food
My mom has been in MC for about 3 months. At home she had some anxiety around food but mostly it just involved lots of checking to make sure her favorites were on hand and telling me over and over again what to buy at the store. Now she is getting obsessive about food, when it will come, where does she eat, will it be…
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Care givers app
Anyone have advice on an app that can be shared between family members to coordinate care
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Wandering at Night in Memory Care
My dad was recently moved to a memory care center. He's wandered out of his room and into another patients' room/bed overnight twice already. My mom and I are relatively certain it's just confusion about his surroundings/where his bed/room is, but the staff is suggesting he's lonely and misses sleeping next to my mom. But…
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eye movement change as part of Alzheimer's?
Hi everyone, My mother is late-stage Alzheimer's, bed & chair bound. She still communicates in multiple ways - holds hands, looks at and speaks to others. Sometimes her speech makes sense, and sometimes it is very difficult to know what she's saying, but it's always clear that she intends to communicate (even if the words…
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Nervous about meeting new geriatric specialist
Hi All, I'm looking for feedback/advice on the following scenario (and also just getting my thoughts down): I have a video call with Mom's new geriatric specialist this week to discuss possible SSRIs for helping mom with her general anxiety (Mom's probably in stage 5 and doesn't recognize Dad most of the time which causes…
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Overwhelmed Dealing with Dad
Hello everyone. I'm Tyler. 35. I'm not sure specifically what my dad has but it seems to be a cross of several things. Dad doesn't get up to go to the bathroom, however he can make it out of his bed when he needs to go to the kitchen for a drink or a snack. We feed him three meals a day with medications given at morning…
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Hospice Rollercoaster
After a number of falls and not allowing the staff at mom's MC care for her, she ended up in a Geriatric Psych unit, which only took 3 ER visits in about 5 days. Mom spent about 2 weeks in the hospital and they did treat her for a bladder infection and get her stable on meds. When she came out, she was no longer physically…
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Cutting Back on Meds
My dad is 94 on this long slog. He takes about 12 pills a day since the Serequel, and Gabipentiene was added to his list. I spoke to the doctor and she eliminated the baby aspirin and an OTC called D'Mannose. I am going to ask her if he can come off the statin he has been taking for close to 30 years. Does anyone have…
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Three years this week
My parents have been in assisted living for 3 years this week. The 18-24 months before that brought noticeable issues, culminating in that UTI that the doctors refuse to believe existed, which allowed it to turn into urosepsis. . Since then, we’ve had the covid epidemic which caused them to be restricted to the facility…
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Pull-on Pants/Jeans for Men
My dad likes jeans and that is what he wears. We've tried to introduce sweatpants but he will choose jeans over them if he has a clean pair. As his dementia progresses he has having more trouble with buttons and zippers. So I am wondering if anyone know where I can find men jeans that are pull-on/elastic? I know I can find…
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Interesting observation to share
DW 59 years was diagnosed 13-14 yrs ago with AD. Advancement is slow but in late stage 6 about now. The past few weeks she has had chronic pain in her lower back and down her legs, spinal stenosis and osteoarthritis pinching nerves. Had to go to our local ER last Sunday and after 7 hours, tests, drugs etc. they said if she…
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Husband has Mild Cognitive Impairment
I'd like to connect with other women whose spouse has been diagnosed with MCI. While the behaviors associated with MCI are certainly far less challenging than those of individuals who have progressed to dementia, they are challenging nonetheless. It is difficult seeing a loved one struggle with things that once were…
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Guilt, questions
I am faced with putting my dad in MC. He lives alone since my sister passed in August, she lived with him her whole life. The doctor when we just visited said he should not be alone. I spend 5-6 hours a day with him. I have no other siblings and my mom has passed away too. He is aware enough to know where he would be going…
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Sharing my story... fellow caregivers: do you also feel like you're gaslighting yourself?
Hello all. It's been a long while since I've signed up for a forum. I'm happy to be here though To start, my dad is a 79 year old Vietnam Veteran. He has quite the medical history, from type 2 diabetes to hypertension and heart disease. Everything he has is very clinically apparent... but I have suspected some form of…
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Another Respite - What to tell Mom?
Tomorrow will be my second respite for several days. I've made plans and this is the last respite from the program available to me for 2022 (use it or lose it). Although, I told mom 1 or 2 days prior to the first respite stay it didn't go well. Then I told her she was going to the same facility she had gone before for…