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MC and refusing cancer pill
So we placed mom into MC in the beginning of May. It took a couple of weeks, but she did settle for the most part. Then in mid June something happened to make her think someone was waiting outside for her and it got her very agitated that she couldn't go outside to meet them. She almost hit a staff member during the…
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Talking to (and touching) strangers
My mom is in the early stages of ALZ and the most concerning thing for us is that she approaches strangers (usually men) and engages them in conversation often sharing personal information. She will their touch arms or shoulders as she talks to them. I find it very uncomfortable as a companion, but I can't get her to stop…
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I’m too lazy to get therapy but probably need it
Hello kind people-I just joined and wondered if anyone else is struggling with caring for a loved one who was not a good parent? My parents are Korean immigrants who made many poor decisions. Despite that, my brother and I turned out fine. I’ve always covered up for their shortcomings so I have tremendous guilt even…
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Frustration(3)
Sometimes it’s so hard to keep from getting loud with my mom. Hard to keep from telling her “you just asked me this, you told me this a lot, “. Sometimes I’m real patient , sometimes I lose my patience. I have 2 brothers and I’m the one who visits her. Sometimes I just want to yell at her. Her hygiene is getting worse.…
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Abe’s Garden
Wow!!! Just toured Abe’s Garden. So amazing! Abe’s daughter, Judy, showed me around. Everything about this place and the people was impressive and like nowhere else I’d seen. Unfortunately, out of my price range. Maybe O can win the lottery tonight.
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Force glaucoma surgery or mom goes blind?
Hi, I am new to the forums. I have medical power of attorney over my mother instead of my dad because he is too self centered and didn't do a good job. My mom has lost vision in her right eye that was only discovered when I took her to the ER for Shingles. She & my dad kept insisting she fell down and that is why her head…
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DW diagnosed a while ago
Hi, I'm new here. My wife was diagnosed with ES AD last year. But we first noticed her big memory issues back in 2017. Due to another special need person in the family who my wife was caring for we did not think that her own condition was so bad, we all thought her problems stem from her being tired from caring for her…
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Help with Aide asking if my mom wants a bath
We have a hospice aide that comes in to bathe my mom 3 x a week. Every time she asks my mom if she wants a bath. Often my mom answers, No, so she won't bathe her without my mom saying yes. My mom is stage 7 dementia and has no capacity to understand what is being said to her. I am her guardian. My mother can not consent to…
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MRI results(2)
Hi everyone, We are in the early stages of getting my mom care. She had mild memory issues maybe 3 or 4 years ago but the past year after losing her husband if 60 plus years took a huge slide. Now, we finally got MRI results but only preliminary reading (the neurologist she saw who ordered the MRI is away). Basically it…
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Father having difficult time with positive communication with my mother
Hello everyone. I am new to this group and excited to get to know others in this group. My father is struggling with knowing how to communicate with my mother who has gotten more and more irritable with her diagnosis in the past year of Alzheimers. Her sundowners is getting worse and my father just is not the most patient…
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Neuropathy in Hands
Hi, My dad has been having bad pain in his hands. It was mostly happening in the early hours of the morning and his caregiver would massage his hands and make them feel better. She is away and the substitute doesn't know what to do to make him feel better. We gave him some Tylenol,but is there medicine for this? I looked…
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Tooth Retraction
My mom (95) has a molar tooth that has a large cavity in it causing her pain and the dentist said it will need to be removed, as it is too large to be repaired. We are concerned about her being placed under anesthesia as I heard it will possibly cause a worsening of dementia. She is in a mid-late stage as it is and do not…
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Dental extraction
Hello My mother with Alzheimer’s needs to have a tooth extraction. The last time she had dental work was pre COVID-19 over a year ago. At the time, although she did not like it she put up with it and allowed the procedure to happen. This time however, she is more advanced with her disease and has less understanding of what…
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resources for memory care facilities ln and around st. louis
My sister and I are in the process of looking into a long term MC facility for LO. Looking for any suggestions good or bad. Trying to make the best move
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How do we juggle our lives with taking care of our parents?
Both my father and stepmom have Alzheimer’s and dementia. Stepmom also has aphasia. My stepsisters and I are trying to figure she care of them, have a POA and are taking over the management of their lives. They have a caregiver 5 days a week but still call us 10 times a day to help with emergencies that are not…
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Going places alone
I don’t need advice; I just have something on my mind. My wife is in stage 6 and she is still at home. One of our children still lives with us and I can leave her with him if I need to. There are too many places that I can no longer take her to because she gets restless and wants to return home. I’ve been going places…
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A helpful tip - cold days
So, a hospice nurse that came out the other week made a recommendation that we tried and works great for my FIL and I wanted to pass it along. Because my LO wears only long shirts or gowns, she suggested using leg warmers. We bought some that go all the way up to the thighs. I was always covering his legs with blankets…
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Need advice on whether to move MIL to Alz. Unit
Hello! My MIL is in Stage 6. She's been living in AL for almost 2 years (she was in Stage 3/4 when she moved in). Her basic needs are being met (help with getting dressed, showered, and meds are administered). She attends most of the activities (2 daily). Some she can participate in, some she can not (but they still bring…
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Moving Mom(7)
Our 94-year-old mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 6 ½ years ago. She lives alone but we have caregivers who come 6 times a week for 4 hours a day. We believe it may be time to move her into a memory care facility, but we know that she will be adamantly opposed to such a move. Here is some additional background. My…
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Drug Therapy
My Mom is in MC and has been aggressive, combative,exit seeking, won't let the caregivers help her bath, dress, won't let nurses examine her. Anyway, doctor prescribed seraquel 25mg and Ativan prn. She is definitely calmer but also less aware. I have researched these meds and also the alz meds such as aricept, namenda.…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 10/28/22
10 OVERCOME EVIL GOD THOUGHT: Romans 12:19-21 “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord. On the contrary: “‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap…
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Most difficult times
Add Post Discussion Board » Spouse or Partner Caregiver Forum » Most difficult timesArchive Most difficult times Elshack Posted: Thursday, October 27, 2022 11:22 PM Edit Delete Topic Joined: 5/31/2021 Posts: 75 DH has been in Memory Care for 2 months. In the past 3 mo he has been taken 4 times via EMS to the hospital to…
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Arguing with the condition not my LO
Dad's insistent of getting a new flip phone NOW. It's been ordered but he'll have to wait a couple of business days for it to arrive at my residence then helping him transfer the number and contacts from his smart phone. Sounds easy right? The father I used to know and conversate well with before all this started wasn't…
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fixation on one thing
My mom was diagnosed with vascular dementia in 2015, over the last few months she has moved from somewhat happy and cooperative to angry, states of rage, throwing things at us, says she hates us, (we are her children that are taking care of her). She does not take her daily medication, does not pay attention to her hygiene…
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We're moving out. Good luck dad!
My sister had a bad day at pill time with mom tonight, leaving me with a very worked up and anxious mom. I managed to calm her down somewhat and take half her pills. I took her up to my parents room and got her ready for bed and calmed her down a little more but she was still anxious. I managed to get her to take one more…
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2022 Was Hard - trying to find my way
Hi I'm new here... This year was difficult to say the least. I live in northern Illinois and my brother lives in Kansas. My parents are from IL but moved to Kentucky about 13 years ago for retirement. My father passed away in February 2022 of COVID, and my brother and I had to make very rushed decisions what to do with my…
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Seeking Advice(3)
Good Day Everyone! A little bit about me before I get into why I am here. I am an only child and a single mother to a teenager and I work full-time. I am struggling with trying to adjust and balance life with my mother's diagnosis. My mother (67) was recently diagnosed with AD/VD (I put both AD/VD because her primary care…
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Recall Of Multiple Top Brand Dry Shampoos
https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/unilever-recalls-dry-shampoo-may-144236221.html
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Moving mom to MC
I was able to find a memory care community for my mom that I really like. Thankfully they have an opening and we have started the process of getting her ready to move. She’s on a Medicaid waiver program. Unfortunately, her case worker is on maternity leave and the replacement has been very difficult to get ahold of and get…
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Elder Abuse guide from American Bar Assoc; includes financial
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