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Sling for commode use - hole or U?
My SO can't stand up anymore so I can't transfer him to the commode by myself. Will start to use the lift but can't decide what kind of sling to buy: the one with a hole or the U-shaped? I've been reading Amazon reviews and it seems people can fall through the ones with the hole, while the U-shaped ones are pricier and…
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Teenagers…
I’m just curious if there are others out there in a similar situation. I’ve got teenagers and am their daytime caregiver to my mom. All 4 are challenging and needy.
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unsure if something I did backfired...
My mother has been in AL since early November (against her will, I might add) but she had begun having delusions and seemingly hallucinations. My father died last February at the age of 94. I threw a small funeral together hastily, there were not many people in attendance due to Covid, and he simply had no other relatives…
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Difficult Behavior(3)
Recently my 101 year old dad with dimension was admitted to the hospital with a UTI. He was released after 8 days to a short term rehab center to get his strength back. During this short hospital stay he lost the ability to walk and his mental state is worse. Now he will at times spit out his pills, he sometimes tries to…
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Hospice and Medicare Advantage
Recently my mom was sent to the emergency room. The insurance company refused to pay the claim because she is under hospice care. Medicare also refuses to pay so the bills are coming back to her. When you go into hospice care does that mean you lose all your other benefits?
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Internet scammer targeted my mother
I'm hoping someone has some suggestion on how to handle this situation. About a month ago, my mother somehow began texting with a scammer. I deleted everything on her phone to do with this guy. And I immediately bought the full Norton Lifelock service. Today she emailed an address he had given her. I didn't know that she…
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Showers(2)
My mother and father-in-law both have a form of dementia. They both are at different levels of progression and tend to rub off on each other. They do not shower as often as they should. My mother-in-law does not accept her diagnosis and thinks she is perfectly fine. She is not approachable with a lot of things. My…
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Worried about mum
Hi, I’m in the UK but seeking help anywhere I can get it. My mum has started forgetting certain things. For example she moved a load of stuff to a seat in the house but then 30 mins later she swore blind she didn’t do it and it was already like that. There have been 3 or 4 of these episodes on different things. She also…
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demands to leave facility
Last time I posted here, my wife (moderate-to-severe Alz) was living at home and I was the 24/7 caregiver. Doctors, friends, and relatives all urged me to find a good residential facility that could take care of her properly and let me recover. Until recently she's been doing well there, but lately she insists that she…
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caring for an unliked parent
I feel like there is no-one I can talk to about this. I am spending so much time trying to help my mom; my brother has basically distanced himself years ago, and in the last five weeks of crisis has called and emailed her once, while I have dropped my work and flown across the country to spend three our of five weeks…
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Home Health Aid(1)
Hi, New to the forums. My mom has alzheimers and she lives in her condo. She cannot live here alone, and needs care 24 hours a day. Us, the children, take shifts. She needs help with everything, including how to go to the bathroom. She is homebound as she cannot leave the house. I was looking at her insurance, she has BCBS…
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Mom's Alzheimer's Has Me Spinning
So, I thought I'd try this out, this is my first time reaching out. My mom has Alzheimer's, was diagnosed in August 2021. I met with her, along with my estranged brother (whom she lives with) and my uncle, my mother's brother, in March of 2022 to go over her accounts at her bank. At that time, she was still lucid,…
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Refusing to shower(1)
How can you help someone with AD who refuse to shower?
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Guilt(18)
I feel alone in this battle and yet I know I'm not but the fact that she is not with me every day is consuming me with guilt. I have a child at home, she was diagnosed with a medical condition that did not allow me to keep her at home because I could not be there 24/7. She is in a memory care facility which is wonderful…
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What to say to loved one.
I am asking for advice. My sister and I are the only children and our dad has vascular dementia. He lived alone until it wasn't safe. We are two hours away but visited several times a week and of course called two-three times daily. We started looking for a place but it was so hard with the money situation. He got covid…
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Medications for irritability
Hello. My mom has recently become on edge. She is battling bouts of severe depression and anxiety because she is losing her independence and ability to dress herself. Lexapro has now been prescribed to her but I would like to hear of our caregiver struggles with this topic.
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Newest Numbers on Seroquel Just In
Here we go. I have posted how this drug has initially proven to be a lifesaver for me and my mom (In dealing with the "Sundowning" sitch). So, I didn't do much research into this drug I guess because it was such a horrible issue, and I was just glad to hear this might be the answer to my prayers. And it seems to be!!…
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How do you know when it's no longer safe to stay alone
My dad is in moderate stages of Alzheimers (84 y/o) and lives with my mom. As he declines, we are struggling to know how to assess if he is safe to stay home along for short periods of time. It has been fine as long as we have meals prepared for him. He is not yet wandering and spends most of his time napping or watching…
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Another bad morning, wish me luck!
Commiserate with me please. I woke up tired and sore and I've got a migraine in the works that is taking up all my energy today. I can barely focus on anything here before me and we've got a new person coming in shortly for training to be mom's in home aide. Supposedly our regular Monday person is coming and will do the…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/24/23
GOD IS ALL POWERFUL Jeremiah 32:17 NIV * “Ah, Sovereign Lord, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you." * The Lord gives us what we need for today. We may think we need so much more, but He knows what we truly need. And sometimes we want something that…
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The chair story continues
As I was getting ready for bed I heard bumping noises. I come out to the dining room to discover mom has brought 2 dining table chairs back to the table, they were in the sunroom. I tell her those chairs are not safe, they have wobbly legs & loose backs(fiblet). Now she is using the word whatever, just like my dad did as…
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I need help!(1)
My LO has was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2020. He has had signs of it since 2017. He is probably in stage 4 with signs of stage 5. I’m not doing well. We are together 24/7 and he always wants to be with me. It’s hard. He knows he has it but has no idea of how tough it is to be with him all the time. I try to be patient…
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Need to vent - can’t take Mom’s cussing/nasty texts
Just venting more than anything because I’m at the end of my rope today. Our mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and “behavioral disturbance” about 2 years ago. She has refused to move out of her home and into a facility even though the neurologist told her it would happen when she was first diagnosed and asked that she be…
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Best overnight incontinence product?
Does anyone know of any overnight urinary incontinence briefs that work really well? And I mean REALLY well. We've been using Depends Maximum Absorbency (not sure if that's the right name, but it's one of the Depends) for awhile. They are fine in the daytime, but overnight she often leaks through and soaks her pajamas and…
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Worried about being eaten - pt 2 - a partial answer to the mystery
This has take us all some time to figure out. My original thread is here: https://www.alzconnected.org/discussion.aspx?g=posts&t=2147563686 This last week Peggy's friend D talked to Peggy on the phone (D is part of my team of three). Somehow, over the course of the phone call D got Peggy to talk about our uncle without her…
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Stunning Death in Assisted Living With False Reporting
Stunning, horrific, and penalties on facility so low as to be ridiculous: https://www.yahoo.com/news/were-told-mothers-death-peaceful-045500616.html I feel so bad for the family that has to bear this. J.
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DH wants to go all the time
My DH was diagnosed in September of 22, although I am sure he has had Alz beginning about 2014. Since he has been diagnosed and taking Mementine and Exelon patch all he wants to do is for us to go all the time. Per the neurologist the patch should give him more energy to want to work in his wood shop. She told him that his…
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Unusual twitching in sleep
I've not notice this myself but my dad has. He says that sometimes mom (pwd) will twitch a lot while sleeping and then wake up and start meandering around. I think it's not subtle or like REM sleep type twitching if my dad is bringing it up, but he can't describe it as anything other than twitching. This seems to happen…
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Worth Looking At - Significant Discount Pricing On Prescription Medications
Off comes my Peer Volunteer hat. While I am NOT personally recommending this, I wanted to share a bit of interesting news you may want to take a look at as I know from so many Postings written by Members that prescription costs have been a significant problem for many. Billionaire Mark Cuban has been a critic of the…
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Father and Brother
ALZHEIMERS is so interesting. My brother does not sleep well. I can hear him wandering around during the night. While watching him during the day, I have noticed that he falls asleep/naps while he is sitting in his couch. He falls asleep with his chin resting on his chest.This position is eerily similar to my father, who…