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How to deal and handle??
How do you deal with the memory loss?? How do you handle the "false" memories created that a person with alheimers or dementia may create?? Especially if they are adamant about their memories being correct... Do you correct them?? Do you keep correcting them?? Do you just agree with them and let it be?? How do you deal…
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Adjustment to Nursing Home-Advice
Hi everyone. Been absent for awhile dealing with a major decline for my mother with Alzheimers. We ended up having to take her to a senior behavioral unit at a hospital in order to get her back on medication schedule and begin the transition to a nursing home. She seemed to be constantly sunsetting and wanting my father to…
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Ventilation(1)
This is that one day we all have that really makes you just wanna die or disappear or switch lives with someone else. For me, it happens maybe once every week and a half to two weeks. I still haven't given up and believe I never will but, she's bad. And I'm in denial. Always. I'm here for her. I make her laugh and do…
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The sky is green!
Hello all, I haven't written here in while. Mom has Alzheimer's; stage 1 probably going into 2. Lately, Mom is convinced that the reason her townhouse needs repair is b/c she has been gone for so long. Traveling back and forth from her townhouse in Virginia Beach to her other townhouse in Florida. Mom has never…
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LO resistant to moving, advice needed please!
My parents both have dementia: mom is stage 4 on GDS and dad is between stage 5/6 on GDS. They live about 45 minutes away from me. My dad's symptoms are getting worse and he is prediabetic with new pedal edema. Mom refuses to consider moving closer to my family so we can help them. They need someone to check on them daily…
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Help- advice needed
Gosh this is so difficult! I’m really struggling to understand if it’s truly Alzheimer’s or if she’s just really psycho. And I know that sounds so harsh. However, prior to this diagnosis , I thought she knew exactly what she was doing. Ie- deleting messages, lying, hiding things. Becoming angry over nothing. I don’t know…
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Better to deplete savings or move to a nursing home?
Hello, my mother needs memory care. I have found a facility near me that is excellent but stressful expensive; however, it is close and I think they will do a great job with my 88 year old mother. The alternative is a medicaid nursing home, which I have called to go visit and no one has returned my call. I have been…
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An insight
These last several weeks have been a roller coaster - for all involved. It's hard to explain how quickly Peggy has declined over the last month, while still remaining relatively healthy. It's really about her delusions and our ability to try to decode them to try to make her more comfortable. A few new behaviors - she's…
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Where is my mom at?
Hi, so glad I have found this place. Already learning from reading posts. Here's the story about my mother. We always had a pretty close relationship. I am the only sibling that always call her at least once a week. My brother and sister, both dont even bother with her anymore, some family fights that I am not going to get…
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New Member - 2nd Parent With Dementia. Panicking a bit.
Hi all - I am glad I found this group. I am just beginning the dementia caregiving journey with my mom (mid stage) after losing my dad to Alz in 2012. I was also one of his primary caregivers. I guess I am feeling mostly right now like I don't want to do this again! I know too well the journey and I am feeling pretty…
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Paranoia(12)
My 90 year old mother was recently moved to an assisted living facility after the death of my father in October 2022. At that time she was diagnosed with mild to moderate Alzheimer's/dementia although we are awaiting the final diagnosis of a recent CAT scan. After a couple weeks of anger, Mom seemed to adapt quite well to…
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Mom refusing to follow basic medical advice
Mom has mid-advanced Alz. She's in memory care. While often confused, she's also a very social person and has trouble sitting still or being alone. She spends most of her time in MC wandering the halls and/or sitting and talking with the handful of people on her floor who are capable of having a conversation. Recently her…
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Help with Conversations with someone who has Alzeimers?
My husband's aunt has no children of her own, so she gave him durable and medical POA in 2012 when she was still able to live independently (4 hours away from us). In the last 4-5 years we noticed that she was repeating stories, getting confused on how to get home when she went to the store, and heard from neighbors who…
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Shocked by sudden decline
Mom is in stage 7 and we have been seeing more motor and language declines lately (though she is stage 7 she's hung onto more language skills than would otherwise be expected.) As recently as 2 weeks ago, while it was difficult for her to follow conversation or find the words she wanted, she could answer basic questions,…
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CA Elder Attorney Recommendations?
Hello, I last posted here almost a year ago now & much has happened since then. My grandmother passed away. My grandfather who is in some early/mid stages of vascular dementia was finally seen for a second opinion but he passed the test (just barely squeaking by in several areas). So for now, he is free to live life as…
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Those who Comment on BIBLE VERSE TO LIFT YOU UP
Dear Friends, I am aware caregivers of many religious faiths are here on this Caregivers Forum. * Awhile ago, I was warned by Administration my posts were not a place for debating religion. Therefore, I will not respond to comments obviously seeking this type of debate. * I trust we are allowed to encourage and support…
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2nd Parent is Sick
I now have two parents with dementia. My father has been suffering for quiet some time now, and no longer walks or talks. I sit with him daily just looking at him, trying to memorize every sound he makes and what his face looks and feels like. I lay my head on his chest to listen to his heart beat. I miss his daily calls…
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New here(54)
My 87 yr old mom is showing early signs of Alzheimer. I'm very stressed out and joined today hoping to find others going through similar situations. She has been living with my family since my dad passed away 8 years ago. It started out with her just forgetting little things but it's been getting worse every day. This past…
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New to the Group(9)
Hi, My husband was recently diagnosed with Lewy Body Demenia. He has Parkinson's and was diagnosed in April of 2019. Most of the time he doesn't know where he is and sometimes who I am. He has hallucinations and delusions. He gets fixated on something and it can last for hours or days. Night times are the worst. He walks…
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Have you moved a LO into memory care when they were sick?
We have found a memory care facility we like and have had plans for them to come out for an assessment of my mom to determine if the fit was good on both ends. My mom's health is declining. We've started palliative care and will help my mom as much as she lets us. We were already overwhelmed but now with the additional…
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So much ice cream!
Hello! My 71 y.o. mom has dementia (presumably Lewy Body) and is living in an asst. living facility. I live out of state and talk with her daily, handle her finances, etc. My brother is local, visits her weekly and takes her to appointments. She is in the later middle stages with daily hallucinations, not oriented in time…
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Purewick
Hello, I did a search and read through some old posts. I saw people who were going to buy this and information, but no first hand experience with it. Has anyone purchased and used this? If so, what did you think? I'm considering it. Thank you!
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Is Lying a thing?
I first wrote last June - then I had to help run a camp. I was grateful for the suggestions then I forgot about this site due to life. When I returned from camp, Mom had a UTI and had worsened to the point that I couldn't believe. Thankfully, I left people to care for her. Then a few months ago, she climbed on a step-stool…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/8/23
DO GOOD * Psalm 34:14 New International Version "Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it." * When we stay close to Jesus and obey Him, we are able to do good with Holy Spirit's assistance. When we seek to please the Lord, we find peace. * Take away: Every morning say, "You and I together Lord." He is our…
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When to plan hospice?
Hi, I'm a family member that lives out of state from mom who has AZ. She's having delusions, hallucinations, and sometimes physical aggression. She is talking about death a great deal and has some pain. We have her in the very best facility possibe and they provide round-the-clock care. One of use family members (Dad,…
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Hospice while in Memory Care
The medical director at my mom’s memory care facility reached out to me about putting my mom on hospice. I was surprised to hear this because when I hear hospice I think of someone on their deathbed, but my mom still has a number of years before she’s close to death. While she is in the moderate stages and her dementia is…
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MC Facilities for Dad in San Diego CA
Hello All, My Dad has moved into the stage where he is having bouts of aggression and was sent to the ER from his MC facility (Truewood). The hospital is working on fixing his meds but we now have to look for a new MC facility. The current facility does not have staff to deal with my Dad's care needs. The family has…
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Question about calling out for help
I am looking for suggestions on sun downing and saying “help me” while lying in bed also wanting to get up and down out of bed! My mom is 94, early on set dementia that started about 1year ago!
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Vascular Stroke and Dementia
Hi all. I joined the forum a few weeks ago and reading everyone's posts has been very insightful and acknowledge the sacrifices we are all making for our LO. Here's my story: I am the sole caregiver for my previous partner, 74. We have lived together for many years and are best friends. He has no children, parents…
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Introducing Mys
Hi, all. I just joined ALZConnected! My wife has a lot of health issues, beginning with multiple myeloma (diagnosed almost 13 years ago). Last year she developed serious arrhythmia which resulted in 60 hours in ERs, two hospital stays, ablations, and a pacemaker--all the while being partially blind due to much-needed…