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The Road
My biological mother, Rv, has always had a problematic relationship with myself and her family. We frequently step/ped in to assist whenever she painted herself into a corner. We spent a lifetime getting ghosted unless she needed something or saw an immediate benefit in engaging w/ one of us. Needless to say the family…
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move from SNF to MC?
I'm wondering if anyone has input on advantages/disadvantages to moving my mom from SNF to MC/AL. Long story short: in October 2021 we moved swiftly to get my mom on Medicaid and placed in SNF following a hospital stay because of a fall at home. We were directed down this path by both the hospital social workers and the…
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Should we get house out of Mom's name
My mother has early dementia. I've been told that Medicare can take her house to pay for her assisted living costs. Should we think about getting the house out of her name? (if she will even agree to that) Sorry, this is all new to me and I have tons of questions. Thanks, G
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Roller coaster of emotions
DH is in memory care and is on Hospice. On a Monday, he had another one of the events where he is drooling and non responsive for several minutes. He also fell. Hospice Dr RXd an Ativan and DH recovered. On Wed my nephew and wife visited after a 4 hr drive here and DH seemed to be ok. Fast forward 4 days and memory care…
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New - Desperate
Hey there. I'm new here. I haven't looked around, but I will. But I'm desperate for help, support, advice, direction, ideas, or just a shoulder to cry on. I'm 54. My father is 82. He invited my husband and I to move in with him in 2015. The idea was that he'd purchase a house in all three of our names (hubby, Dad, and I),…
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When will she stop packing
Gosh this journey has been so hard. I love my Mom dearly but my patience is running thinner and thinner. She packs up her stuff daily at MC and I unpack and fib that it will be a couple more days before the doctor releases her to go home. When will it stop, been doing this for a couple months.
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Negativity towards CareGiver
My Mom has 24/7 care with a fabulous, kind, and patient in-home care giver. Whenever she is out of the house with someone else, all my Mom does is talk negatively about the caregiver - she doesn't like this about her or that about her, it can be anything! Distracting her, talking about other things, ignoring, etc. isn't…
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New here. I think my mom is stage 4... advice?
Hi! This is my first day here. I live three hours away from my mom and visit every 2-3 months I have two kids at home. My mom and I used to talk on FB messenger most days. Over the past few months, she talks less and less online. I'm concerned that she may be in stage 4 already. She said she sometimes gets lost in her own…
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New to this(9)
We’ve suspected that my mom has Alzheimer’s for about six months. It felt like overnight she went from maybe forgetting the word for something here and there to repeating stories and forgetting details about things she’d known cold before. But we kept hoping that maybe it was something else - she doesn’t (to our knowledge)…
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Can Alzheimer lead to hair loss?
Anyone suffering from Alzheimer may face hair fall at some point. It is common to have such issue but some conditions can rarely end up having hair loss. A few Alzheimer's drug can occur hair fall after 3-6 months of the drug intake. But reducing the drug intake can reverse the hair fall. Being in such a condition can be…
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First conversation with GP regarding possible dementia
I recently flew back home from overseas because my 80-year-old mother was experiencing medical and cognitive problems. Prior to the middle of last month, the only thing I had noticed was her saying she was getting more forgetful, but her doctor had tested her and she was fine. Come to find out this was the simple, three…
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Guiding the Care Journey: Building Dementia Workforce and System Capacity through Care Navigation
Care navigation can help close gaps in dementia care by coordinating medical and social services, partnering with caregivers, and facilitating access to disease education and community-based services. More from @MilkenInstitute here: http://bit.ly/3LGxWQK
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Elder Lawyer vs. Regular Lawyer
I am pretty new to this and doing it alone, my sister lives halfway across the country and the rest of our family is in CA. I keep seeing people talking about Elder Lawyers and was wondering if I need to see an elder lawyer specifically to set up a POA or what ever the state requires or if a regular lawyer can do this? I…
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DH 57 just diagnosed w/posterior cortical atrophy EO
My 57 year old husband of 35 years was just diagnosed with Posterior Cortical Atrophy, Early Onset Alzheimer's. He can no longer drive or work. I'm reeling from shock, grieving what should not be happening at this time in our lives and desperately trying to figure out next steps emotionally, financially, etc. I'm the…
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mom wants to go home(6)
My mom had 2 major anxiety attacks the week between Christmas and New Years that required 2 trips to the ER. I figured out it was from not taking her medicine because she had hidden it and couldn't remember where. Ever since then she does not know/realize that she is in our house. She has lived here for 20 years but keeps…
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How to help my mother in law .
I just joined this forum today and am hoping for some suggestions. My dear MIL has been diagnosed with early stage Alzheimer’s. I am married to her oldest son and she has 3 more sons, no daughters. As the DIL that has been in the family the longest (37 years) and am the closest to her, it is falling on me to be her main…
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Mother WD verbal abuse
My 82 yr old mother resides at home with my 84 yr old father. We have seen her memory decline the last 2 years or so. Six months ago, we were together with my 2 siblings at the wedding of my niece. Since that event my mother has spiraled out of control with verbal abuse, accusations and physical abuse toward my father. My…
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Disheartened that memory care is recommended-help please
I “put” my 91 year old mother in AL in November due to delusions/paranoia/hallucinations. She longed to go home and it was heartbreaking to hear nearly daily. She began to isolate more and not go to the dining room. The Nurse Practitioner changed some meds, and it seemed she became angrier, not violent or verbally abusive,…
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Mom in Law in Late Stage - Advice Needed
She's getting increasingly verbally combative and today went for a walk thinking she was going to walk to target (more than 5 miles away). When my husband and family friend went after her, she tried to flag a policeman down because he wouldn't take her to target. There's a reason we don't. They finally got her home and she…
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Therapy for the LO
Some members of my family want my EO LO to get therapy. Has anyone actually done this before? I understand the need for the family to experience therapy to support my LO. But I am not sure how beneficial it would be for the EO LO. She is entering the later stages of the disease. Any opinions/thoughts? TIA
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Missing mom
Just over two weeks ago, my mother with dementia moved from my house to a SNF. I was told she was fitting right in and attending all the activities and doing very well. I just called yesterday, and they said she is wandering around a lot, into other people's rooms, and hanging out by the door trying to get out. It's an all…
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Incontinence(24)
My mother is declining mentally. She is in assisted living. But, she is incontinent and refuses to wear the adult underwear at night. Any suggestions on how to get her to wear them? She is a very stubborn woman, and her stubborness has only increased as her mental decline is progressing. She is 92 Thank you for any…
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Income tax write off
My niece's husband is a CPA. For the first time I was able to write off my DH's memory care rent for the 4 and 1/2 mo he was in Memory care in 2022. Making out the long form you can also deduct medical items like Depends, RX's etc. This gave me a much larger federal return.
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Activities for a workaholic
Hi all, My mother loved work, and even when she fought cancer she continued to work since it brought her joy and purpose. Now in her middle-stage dementia, it is clear she misses it, but ends up being a little destructive! She is constantly moving papers and books around her room, seeing "deadlines" and worrying about…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/19/23
GOD’S UNFAILING LOVE * Romans 8:38-39 New International Version “38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in…
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Type 1 Diabetic LO with Alz
Hi everyone, My mom has an insulin pump with Type 1 diabetes and Alzheimers (diagnosed by a neurologist). Her endocrinologist gave her a 1 month trial period for us to get a grip on how her independence with diabetes management is declining. My dad is her primary caregiver and is in such denial. He's refusing for her or…
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My mom has dementia and my dad just passed away
Hello, my mom has dementia and she keeps forgetting my dad has passed away. Sometimes, throughout the day, she remembers. But everyday, at least once, she forgets. She will start looking for my dad and she asks where he went. It’s very hard for me to tell her and make her experience it all over again. But if I don’t tell…
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Disappointed & sad
I went to visit Mom today. I went to her room and she wasn't there so I went to ask somebody where she was. They said that they moved her to the secured side already. I was a little upset. Apparently they took her clothes and nothing else. Her favorite blanket was on the other person's bed and all of her pictures were…
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A word of hope (power of attorney/advance medical directive/ will)
Spent the day with my mom getting will, power of attorney, advanced medical directive done. Doctors appt in 3 weeks Now all that is left is to be annoyed when she calls 10 x a day, feel guilty for being annoyed, be relieved she is somewhere safe; feel like I’m spending too much time with her, worry I’m. Kt spending enough…
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First post and question on impact of other health issues
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