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Bad Advice?
I just got an Email from some group....CareBlazers? I first assumed any input about care is well received and welcomed...Bring it on! I need all the help I can get! Topic was how re-direction is bad advice. They went on saying how we need to get to bottom of the distress and fix things that way. That we're dismissing their…
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Blood work
Hello everyone.my stage 6e LO will not submit to giving blood samples or taking injections.She refuses and becomes combative.Has anyone else experienced this and what might be done to help her comply.thank you all. Also some personal hygiene resistance
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Her own bank account
My mother wants to open her own bank account because she believes I am stealing/misusing her money. She has already tried to close the bank account we share without contacting SS or the school district she worked for to change the deposit info. Her Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia diagnosis was just done last month, but I…
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Seeking recommendations for services in NYC/Manhattan
hi all. new to the boards and thankful to have found this resource! we moved mom back to NYC (after she retired + COVID) this year. she's officially diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment and anxiety/depression. doctors in her previous home (SC) said she could live independently with a little help, but in 6 months, the…
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New Here-What if she Refuses to take Meds?
Hello all, I just joined this site and I'm hoping to get support and advice when needed along the way as my Mom progresses with Dementia. I sold my home and moved in with her. My mother has never been a fan of taking pills of any kind. She stopped her donepizil abruptly and it sent her into a tailspin of hallucinations and…
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father's paranoia
My 88 yr old father has been paranoid for most of his life (I have felt he needed psychiatric care for many years), however now he seems to be experiencing dementia, some hallucinations, etc. He also can't see well, hear well, is living by himself in the country. He can still bath by himself, needs us to buy him food (is…
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Eeg??
What is an EEG?? Is that a standard test in determining alheimers or dementia?? My mom had a telehealth phone visit with neurology today. She questioned them about her medication, and they went over with multiple times and even though she read along, and repeated what they told her...she soon forgot it, and couldn't grasp…
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End of Life Care
From the NYT. This isn't specific to dementia, but an interesting read about end-of-life choices and quality of life.…
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Not being taken seriously
I know that most agree that telling "fiblets" are the way to handle alot of situations...but what do you do when situations call for a "truth" that is not understood? My mom gets regularly encouraged by her doctors to memorize her medication names, dosages, and scheduling. When she goes to the doctors they directly hand…
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I don't have anybody....
My parents had me much later in life so I'm the youngest and very much out of sync with my 4 siblings who are all married with children and have their other families as support. Me? I have nobody....never married, no kids. My parents were my closest confidants because I grew like an only child. Then my dad died of cancer…
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Rallly and a decline
My LO has been in a Memory Care Facility for about 2 months. When she was first moved there, she didn’t really know where she was but was very involved in activities and talking and eating very well. However in the last month she has had a decline to the effect that she is now confined to a wheelchair, barely able to…
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How to deal and handle??
How do you deal with the memory loss?? How do you handle the "false" memories created that a person with alheimers or dementia may create?? Especially if they are adamant about their memories being correct... Do you correct them?? Do you keep correcting them?? Do you just agree with them and let it be?? How do you deal…
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Adjustment to Nursing Home-Advice
Hi everyone. Been absent for awhile dealing with a major decline for my mother with Alzheimers. We ended up having to take her to a senior behavioral unit at a hospital in order to get her back on medication schedule and begin the transition to a nursing home. She seemed to be constantly sunsetting and wanting my father to…
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Ventilation(1)
This is that one day we all have that really makes you just wanna die or disappear or switch lives with someone else. For me, it happens maybe once every week and a half to two weeks. I still haven't given up and believe I never will but, she's bad. And I'm in denial. Always. I'm here for her. I make her laugh and do…
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The sky is green!
Hello all, I haven't written here in while. Mom has Alzheimer's; stage 1 probably going into 2. Lately, Mom is convinced that the reason her townhouse needs repair is b/c she has been gone for so long. Traveling back and forth from her townhouse in Virginia Beach to her other townhouse in Florida. Mom has never…
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LO resistant to moving, advice needed please!
My parents both have dementia: mom is stage 4 on GDS and dad is between stage 5/6 on GDS. They live about 45 minutes away from me. My dad's symptoms are getting worse and he is prediabetic with new pedal edema. Mom refuses to consider moving closer to my family so we can help them. They need someone to check on them daily…
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Help- advice needed
Gosh this is so difficult! I’m really struggling to understand if it’s truly Alzheimer’s or if she’s just really psycho. And I know that sounds so harsh. However, prior to this diagnosis , I thought she knew exactly what she was doing. Ie- deleting messages, lying, hiding things. Becoming angry over nothing. I don’t know…
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Better to deplete savings or move to a nursing home?
Hello, my mother needs memory care. I have found a facility near me that is excellent but stressful expensive; however, it is close and I think they will do a great job with my 88 year old mother. The alternative is a medicaid nursing home, which I have called to go visit and no one has returned my call. I have been…
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An insight
These last several weeks have been a roller coaster - for all involved. It's hard to explain how quickly Peggy has declined over the last month, while still remaining relatively healthy. It's really about her delusions and our ability to try to decode them to try to make her more comfortable. A few new behaviors - she's…
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Where is my mom at?
Hi, so glad I have found this place. Already learning from reading posts. Here's the story about my mother. We always had a pretty close relationship. I am the only sibling that always call her at least once a week. My brother and sister, both dont even bother with her anymore, some family fights that I am not going to get…
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New Member - 2nd Parent With Dementia. Panicking a bit.
Hi all - I am glad I found this group. I am just beginning the dementia caregiving journey with my mom (mid stage) after losing my dad to Alz in 2012. I was also one of his primary caregivers. I guess I am feeling mostly right now like I don't want to do this again! I know too well the journey and I am feeling pretty…
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Paranoia(12)
My 90 year old mother was recently moved to an assisted living facility after the death of my father in October 2022. At that time she was diagnosed with mild to moderate Alzheimer's/dementia although we are awaiting the final diagnosis of a recent CAT scan. After a couple weeks of anger, Mom seemed to adapt quite well to…
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Mom refusing to follow basic medical advice
Mom has mid-advanced Alz. She's in memory care. While often confused, she's also a very social person and has trouble sitting still or being alone. She spends most of her time in MC wandering the halls and/or sitting and talking with the handful of people on her floor who are capable of having a conversation. Recently her…
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Help with Conversations with someone who has Alzeimers?
My husband's aunt has no children of her own, so she gave him durable and medical POA in 2012 when she was still able to live independently (4 hours away from us). In the last 4-5 years we noticed that she was repeating stories, getting confused on how to get home when she went to the store, and heard from neighbors who…
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Shocked by sudden decline
Mom is in stage 7 and we have been seeing more motor and language declines lately (though she is stage 7 she's hung onto more language skills than would otherwise be expected.) As recently as 2 weeks ago, while it was difficult for her to follow conversation or find the words she wanted, she could answer basic questions,…
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CA Elder Attorney Recommendations?
Hello, I last posted here almost a year ago now & much has happened since then. My grandmother passed away. My grandfather who is in some early/mid stages of vascular dementia was finally seen for a second opinion but he passed the test (just barely squeaking by in several areas). So for now, he is free to live life as…
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Those who Comment on BIBLE VERSE TO LIFT YOU UP
Dear Friends, I am aware caregivers of many religious faiths are here on this Caregivers Forum. * Awhile ago, I was warned by Administration my posts were not a place for debating religion. Therefore, I will not respond to comments obviously seeking this type of debate. * I trust we are allowed to encourage and support…
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2nd Parent is Sick
I now have two parents with dementia. My father has been suffering for quiet some time now, and no longer walks or talks. I sit with him daily just looking at him, trying to memorize every sound he makes and what his face looks and feels like. I lay my head on his chest to listen to his heart beat. I miss his daily calls…
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New here(54)
My 87 yr old mom is showing early signs of Alzheimer. I'm very stressed out and joined today hoping to find others going through similar situations. She has been living with my family since my dad passed away 8 years ago. It started out with her just forgetting little things but it's been getting worse every day. This past…
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New to the Group(9)
Hi, My husband was recently diagnosed with Lewy Body Demenia. He has Parkinson's and was diagnosed in April of 2019. Most of the time he doesn't know where he is and sometimes who I am. He has hallucinations and delusions. He gets fixated on something and it can last for hours or days. Night times are the worst. He walks…