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At a loss for direction
I am recenfly learning a family member (grandmother in law) has alz or dementia she had what I best I could call and episode. She is house bound, normally has trouble walking without pain. She doesn''t drive. In This episode she somehow walked to her car, drove to the local Walmart walked into the Walmart, shopped and…
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Coping with agitation
Posted in the wrong forum.. newbie here. I am currently caring full time for my father who has moderate dementia. His partner (not my mother) is away on a 2 week overseas vacation with her friends. He has pronounced sundowning and gets severe agitation in the evenings. His partner is not answering his messages (phone…
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Move Mom In or Stay in AL - Advice Needed
My mom is transitioning from mild to moderate stage and I could really use some advice. Some Background: A year and a half ago, I moved my mother from her home 2 hours away into an AL to be closer to me. She had been living alone and I noticed that Covid isolation was accelerating her dementia. My husband and I then moved…
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Well I tired
Here again, My brother blew everything when he started going down to the 7/11 and getting wine. Hiding it from me in his room. Wine and cancer meds didn't go well together. He called me up to his room saying he couldn't walk. He threw up in his breakfast plate. I called 911 they took him to the ER. and then he was admitted…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/15/23
DROWNING TODAY with fear, anger, sadness or loneliness? HAVE FAITH! JESUS IS GOD'S SON. HE CAN TAKE CARE OF US. He encourages us and guides our thoughts when we call out to Him. Matthew 14:22-33 New International Version Jesus Walks on the Water 22 Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of…
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Moving MIL to MC this month worried of her decline
My husband is an only child, and my MIL is so dependent on him/ the both of us. We are mentally and physically drained. She has lived with us for over a year and now we have both decided to have her placed in MC. He has been the only male in her life since his father passed away in 1998. I have been her primary caregiver…
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Laser surgery
Does anyone have experience with laser surgery and/or any challenges that could impact someone who has Alzheimers? Thank you!
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how did you know when your loved one was ready for placement in memory care facility?
Hello, I was wondering- for those who have placed their loved ones in a memory care facility- how did you know it was time? as far as when you knew you were not able to care for them at home? or they needed more than you could provide? What kind of behaviors and issues did your loved one have at home- that led you to…
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Respite(3)
Hello everyone, I am looking for anyone to provide guidance or the steps to obtain respite, the steps etc. Thank you
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Newly Diagnosed Partner with EO AD. What to expect?
Hello Yesterday my partner (57yo) of 30+ years and I were given the news that he has AD. I am overwhelmed with shock and grief. My life partner, my best friend, my only friend, actually. And I can't talk to him about it, about how I'm feeling. It is the most horrible thing I've ever experienced. I can't believe it's true.…
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Pseudodementia(1)
This name came up at doctor visit with LO today. Geez, like I needed something else to worry about?? Moreover, they note that it could be a combination of dementia and Pseudodementia. The idea is that her depression/anxiety, and sharp worsening of symptoms after losing partner of 60 years could indicate a psychological…
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How to explain going to memory care
There seems to be a lot of topics on this question. I don’t know how to explain to my husband that he needs to go to memory care and can’t stay home any longer. He of course wants to be home, but I can’t support him there. Any suggestions or things you have done that worked would be greatly appreciated.
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New to forum. Sibling verbal abuse
Good Morning. I am new to this forum and this is my first post, although I have been struggling with this issue for months. My parents live in New York, and my mother has dementia, compounded with end stage heart issues. My parents have always lived close to my sister and for years, they took care of her children, my three…
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At a Crisis Point in LOs care.
My mom is 83 dx with MD. She lives in her own home. Her only living sister has had dementia for a few years. They are very close. My aunt, age 79 moved into my mom’s home (at my mom’s insistence) almost a year ago as she could no longer live alone. Allowing this to happen was likely our first mistake. She is extremely…
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Inpatient doctors prescribe antipsychotics against our wishes as POAs
We know from my father-in-law Logan's behavior when there's some health issue that needs addresses. He's had Sundowner symptoms now for the last 2-3 years. We have a home care aid Maddie that comes to his house twice a day to fix meals, do housework, grocery shopping, and provide company for Logan. Maddie was his wife's…
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Separating mom from LO
My parents are together all the time. It is taking its toll on my mom. They both now live with us to make life easier for hem, but my dad migrated to every room she is in without fail. I know she is the anchor for him but she needs a break. Any suggestions on keeping him occupied for more than 10 minutes before he goes to…
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Dragging feet for guardianship - vent?
So it's been about half a year since we were told that we will (probably) have to go with guardianship for our mom but nothing has really happened since then. I'm starting to get really frustrated with it. We've been leaning towards our older sister (os) being mom's guardian. However, she's worried both about the cost of…
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Guilt, Regrets and Fear
We moved mom to Memory Care on 12/30 after two years of in-home care. I did not live with mom but visited 2-3 times/week, bought groceries, managed meds and finances, handled doctor appointments, dealt with the house upkeep and coordinated the caregivers. Last few months we had live-in caregivers. Mom started some serious…
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Does the guilt ever go away?
It’s been a little while since I’ve posted but a lot has happened…a recap - my 72 yo mom has dementia and was living at home with my youngest brother but she has refused medications and any assistance for months, we’ve found her wandering at night in the cold and she has auditory and visual hallucinations. We’ve been…
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Strokes and more strokes
To recap, After getting my mom into AL in April, she was starting to settle, I went home to another country to try to get my life back in order, (and to have covid and various other crises of my own!) then she had a bad stroke in June. She had ALL the treatment and rehab and then AL took her back and did a lot to get her…
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Sleeping issues
Hello!!! My mom has finally started to have sleeping issues. She has had Alzheimer’s for almost 8 years and we felt in a way fortunate that she always slept through the night. But as the desease has progressed and the introduction if varios medications, she has been trouble sleeping. She sleeps a good 4-5 hours but wakes…
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Lack of diagnosis, what to do next?
I've known my mom was struggling with memory loss for a couple of years. It took me awhile to get the rest of the family to see what was happening, but now we're all on the same page. My mom spends most of her time in deep denial about what is happening, which creates some really difficult and occasionally dangerous…
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Strange ability that SIL still has despite dementia
First of all, haven’t posted since we put SIL in AL. It was very difficult at first. These message boards were so helpful. Less than a month after going into AL, SIL got COVID, was in ICU for two weeks, skilled nursing care for 3 weeks, and then finally we had to put her into memory care. She lost so much physical and…
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Take me home
My mom has been in a memory care facility for about a month now. I’ve been able to visit one time and my brothers have visited as well as her sister, a couple of friends, etc. she’s on hospice car so nurses, aids and chaplain have been there too. Since I live out of state, I also call her a couple of times of week - every…
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Catheter Help
My 101 year old dad just got home from a 3 week hospital/rehab stay. He now has a catheter that he never had before. He does not understand what it is or why he has it. (Explained it to him 1000 times) Ever since he has got home he is shouting that he has to pee, says it is itching, and is pulling at it. I'm afraid of the…
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Reclusive client exhibiting ALZ… what should I do?
Hello all… I’m a newbie and neither a health care professional nor caregiver, but I’m acquainted with a long term business client exhibiting obvious cognitive decline and symptoms of Alzheimer’s. He lives alone, he’s very reclusive, and he’s a curmudgeon… rarely leaves his house, has no social interactions, no immediate…
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SIL with Signs of Dementia
My older brother and SIL are visiting for a month, and I’m noticing that she is showing signs of mild dementia. They are in their mid 70s. She has poor short term memory, remembers things that didn’t happen, and has become short tempered and irritable. She laughs inappropriately and, yesterday, refused to wear shoes. My…
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Daughter caregiver preparation
I have looked around but not found this topic. DW has Alzheimer's, early to mid-stage now probably. I, the DH, and my daughter will be the caregivers as we try to keep her in her home as long as possible or practical, both for comfort and financial considerations. I would like to treat this as a part-time job for my…
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Care for Dad
My 101 year old dad just got out from a 3 week hospital/rehab stay. He has regressed so much. He can barely walk now. They placed a catheter in and he doesn't understand it at all. I am afraid he is going to pull it out. He is now also fecal incontinent. He is totally uncooperative and will not do anything we ask him to do…