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Another hit to my heart
I posted a couple of months ago regarding my DW not remembering our anniversary and how it really hurt me. Well guess what, today is her birthday and she had no idea that she had a birthday. I should be used to this but it still hurts. That’s all
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Type 1 diabetes, vascular dementia - stage 8.
I have told bits and pieces of my DW's story. I will tell her story now for the chance that we may be able to help others in similar circumstances. She developed type 1 diabetes when she was 8 years old. In 2012 (age 56) she suddenly developed dizziness and lost excecutive function. She underwent physical therapy and her…
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30 day respite
I just placed my DH/alz in memory care for a 30 day respite. It was a lot of prep work but it went ok. The staff took him to the dining room and I set up his room. I told him the doctors and nurses wanted to monitor his medications for a few weeks. A year ago he would have fussed about it but he just said “Ok”. He does…
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Feeling Vulnerable and Grieving
I am a newbie here, been "lurking" at posts of interest and pleased with what I've been seeing as a supportive group of caring individuals experiencing life as caregiver for LO's. My LO is my DW of 60 years. We have a long history together starting as a military family stationed overseas in the Vietnam era. We had three…
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DH in hospital
Not sure what happened Friday night, but, something went horribly wrong and I had to call 911 for my DH. I knew immediately that vit wasn't normal morning alz confusion. It was more like delirium. They admitted him and so far all tests have come back normal but he has become even more delirious and now aggressive and…
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Sex
Ok all of a sudden, my DH is so interested in sex. Its not like sex was a priority adter all these years being married. He never even talked about it. Whats up with this.
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Respite care for a vacation
As I waffle about MC placement, I know that what I really want is to take a vacation, by myself, preferably for 2 weeks. I have no family who would be free to care for DH. MC facilities in Tucson advertise respite care but they will say "only if we have a bed available" which makes it hard to plan. Has anyone successfully…
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Expat living in France caring for DH know nothing of French system
Im 67 my husband of 39 years is 79. We have only lived in France for 3 years come December. My husband is awaiting scan and the start of the formal process. I wondered if anyone here is in France and can tell me what the care/support/system is like over here for dementia patients please. I’m a Doctor (now recently…
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Lumipulse pTau-217/Beta Amyloid 42 Ratio
Has anyone here read anything about this dementia test? If I ever show cognitive decline, I think I would like to get this test. Then maybe have an exit plan.
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My husband is lucid much of the time
My husband is not so far gone that I could not leave him in memory care or nursing home but when he gets into a rage there is nothing I can do And he is still having trouble walking What should I do? Guilty ridden
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Just need to talk to my friends (209)
We just had a nice shower, just before my groceries were delivered. Still sprinkling a little and it's nice and cool. Wonderful weather for the first day of August. Another six weeks and our hot summer will be getting cooler. I'm ready. Need to finish putting away the groceries but wanted to get 209 started. Back later.
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Just need to talk to my friends (210)
Thanks for reminding me. Time goes by so fast. Partly cloudy here with rain around. I wouldn't mind getting some more. Before I got up I was thinking about snakes. What a subject! I remembered that a woman we worked with was going down the street in her car and felt something on her foot. She looked down and it was a…
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Moving
This is the first time I have posted… My husband is 66 and has EOAD. We are moving to be near our son and his family (6 hours away) so I can get some help. They have graciously offered to help as my husband's dementia is getting worse, and requires me to be with him pretty much 24/7. We don't travel anymore as it caused…
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Yes, I'm back for a visit, and need a little input
I hope you are all holding up well. It's been a while since I've visited. As always, make sure you somehow get a little time for yourself, away from caregiving, if possible. Do something nice for YOU. About 2 years ago, I knew of a woman in her 20's or maybe 30s who was working at a local Target store as a cashier. I don't…
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Gas stove knob locks
Looking for recommendations for gas stove knob locks. I have a GE Cafe gas stove with the knobs on the front. My DH has attempted to cook for years but I want to be safe. There are alot on Amazon but mostly geared toward children. Any recommendations?
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Is Zoloft any good?
My DH just got out of the hospital and was sent home on Zoloft for anxiety. I had hoped they would have given him Klonopin or something similar to use PRN. Nope, it’s addictive. He went in for chest pains and my thought is that it’s more anxiety related. All tests were thankfully negative for a heart attack. I told them…
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Waiting for the trainwreck: What do you do when your LO refuses to trust family or doctors
I will try to keep this shortish. My younger cousin, 56, probably has early onset Alzheimer's and it's being exacerbated by self-medicating. She had an MRI in January and a PET scan in April that showed elevated amyloid in three of four lobes and borderline in the fourth. Since May she has been manic, paranoid, delusional,…
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Caustic Behavior While Traveling in Our Car
My DW and I used to travel extensively all over the US to visit parks and botanical gardens. With her increasing dementia episodes travel in our car is limited to no longer than 15 minutes. My DW tells me very caustically I drive too fast (as we travel at less than the speed limit) that there are cars always right on our…
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I feel likeI have been mourning for the last two years
My sweet husband had to go to a nursing home two weeks ago. I didn't realize how much I cared for him physically. I feel lonely and lost. I just got a cancer diagnosis, and I have to travel for treatment, and I will be gone for weeks at a time. I don't know how to process this feeling of loss I am experiencing, as he was…
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looking for hygiene video recommendations
The last couple of months it has gotten really hard to help DW with cleaning up after using toilet, and with bathing. I have tried different approaches, but they generally all end at the same place. At some point my patience ends. I just take over and do what needs to be done and she has her meltdown. I watched a few…
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I See and Feel her slipping away
My DW is living with undiagnosed ALZ. DW of our 36-year marriage had a cerebral hemorrhage about 1 year ago and I have seen her gradually slip away mentally at times. She was also left visually impaired by the operation which adds another challenge to overcome. She can see some things but not well enough to read. I…
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Is Rexulti an Option?
Hello Friends, I'm so sorry you have need to be here but I am so very grateful for your input. I recently posted concerns regarding my DH's combativeness and aggressiveness with showers and getting undressed for bed. It's become a significant issue and Rexulti has been recommended. Wondering whether you may have thoughts…
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Update on bringing DH home from Memory Care
It has now been 6 days since I brought my husband home from memory care, and he has regained quite a bit of the ground he lost during the 2 weeks there. He is more able to walk since he is walking in the house without a walker so strengthening his leg muscles (can't fix the really bad knees). His initial confusion about…
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Out of Control
My first husband died of Alzheimer's at age 57 in 2011. I remarried in 2015 and now my 2nd husband has been diagnosed via brain scan with early Alzheimer's. I want so much to be a supportive partner, but I feel so angry and out of control. He does what he wants regardless of my feelings. He orders the wrong things from…
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Advice on DH out in public
My DH is resisting sitting down when we go out to eat. He will just stand at the table without moving. After multiple efforts to ask him to sit he will finally cooperate. I would welcome any advice or perspective on how to help him.
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No long term insurance
I know this is not the forum for this but this group may have some good advice and resources to look at, that we may all benefit from Thank you
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Now the hospital has him in a cage?
Because he is so combative and aggressive they said they needed to put him in a Cage ( nylon netting). This was also done so he wouldn't fall. I think this is elder abuse but they said it was for his protection and the staff. Has anyone heard of this and isn't it elder abuse?
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Questions
I don't even know where to start. How this awful disease progresses? What to expect in each stage. Where to get information.My DH sometimes seems perfectly okay, an hour later he ask the same questions over and over. I am very patient, it is so hard to see him go through this, he was always kind, loving, helpful, now I see…
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Son in denial
My wife's son knows his mother has dementia. I tried to talk to him about what happens if I, the sole caregiver, cannot provide for her. He says not to worry, she'll go first. He doesn't understand that it is just me passing away that could cause her to need a new caregiver. I could become incapacitated and not be able to…
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Leaning how to adapt.
Hi, My wife has been diagnosed with dementia for over five years. I been taking care of her the whole time. Now things seem to get worse and I’m not sure when I should contact professional help. She was enrolled in the memory center for seven years. Just reaching out for the first time to learn what’s next for me to do.…