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83 year old man found dead in walk in freezer.
This is heartbreaking!! I wondered whether to share this but decided that another discussion about AL vs MC is helpful to those making the decision. “A Tampa Bay area family is demanding answers after an 83-year-old man was found dead in an assisted living facility.William Eugene Ray's family said he was found in a walk-in…
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The never ending search
I know many of you have also gone through The Search for an item your spouse has misplaced. Has anyone figured out a way to control or prevent this? My DH has Alz disease & for many years, even before the diagnosis, he would pick up or put away items then not remember where he put them. Now his memory is so poor he can’t…
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Now in stage 8
My DH passed away at age 65 last Saturday, Sept. 27th. I was glad we all got to say our goodbyes before he passed. I now understand stage 8. My days feel like a roller coaster of emotions, but the nights are the hardest. We have been married almost 38 years.
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The Quiet Voice of Caregiving by Michael Whelan
I follow him on X. His wife has Parkinson’s Dementia. He writes so beautifully. TO ALL CAREGIVERS The Quiet Violence of Caregiving. by Michael Whelan There is a peculiar kind of heartbreak in being the one who stays. No one prepares you for how illness can rearrange the person you love. Parkinson’s is not just tremors and…
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Mood swings and anger issues
I placed my wife in memory care for Alzheimer’s two years ago and she is now bedridden. She has always been a very loving person, treating a stranger like a longtime friend or family member. Several months ago she started having mood swings and anger issues. Lately, she has been very happy when I first get there; smiling…
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Never ending search Thank You
I feel surrounded by caregivers that really care about others! Thank you, all of you, that took the time to share your great ideas & your stories, so similar to mine. I will put these into place & rearrange to have some safe storage places! Best wishes to all❤️
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Maybe I’m overreacting?
My husband is my concern. I’ve tried to talk to him about my concerns. Memory, irrational behavior, inappropriate decisions, he will not discuss or answer questions. His mom past of ALZ in 2022. He refused to help in any way with her care. His sister and I were there. HOw can I get him to see a doctor. I bring it up he…
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destructive treatment from my wife's daughter
My wife is afflicted with ALZ. she still loves me but we have had difficulties over the last month or so. We always had arguments over our 46 year marriage. So she asked for help from her daughters and they have offered it. Fine. Now she is 400 miles away. But now the oldest one has taken another step. She has blocked all…
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LEGEMBI
https://breakthroughsforphysicians.nm.org/neurosciences-clinical-article-leqembi.html#:~:text=is%20doing%20something.%E2%80%9D-,Dr.,headache%2C%20confusion%20and%20visual%20disturbance.
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At last a diagnosis!
I have been watching my DH decline for the past six years. At first I thought it was just his age, he is now 84, but soon realized it was more than that. So I started researching and became certain that he had dementia. The frustrating thing was the doctors kept saying he was fine. They would ask him to remember three…
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Assisted living
took hubby to tour assisted living facility. Of course he asks am I trying to get rid of him. He has neurologist appointment next week so hoping the doctor can encourage this. Does anyone have any suggestions how I can get him to agree to this. I’m trying to avoid just leaving him there. Thx!
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help!! constipation
DW has been battling constipation for sometime now. We've (me and hospice) been though the gauntlet of meds. Frist we've done the old faithful prunes and prune juice. Now we're at the point of meds and stool softeners from senna-s, to polyeth glyc powder and the list goes on. Over a period of 3days I finally will resort to…
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Evening g depression
My DH gets depressed in the evenings. We visited with friends today and went for a nice walk and stopped and chatted with a couple of people we know. Now he is saying there is nothing for him here at home anymore. He was talking about leaving and going someplace else to live. I am at a loss as to what to say to him. This…
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help! getting out of bed and falling
My husband gets out of bed constantly at night and sometimes has a fall, recently was hospitilized but nothing broken. Have him back home and manageable during the day. But would like anyone who has or had the same problem and a good recommendation for which bed alarm or mat works the best. Many of them online, would…
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Eye exam
It's time for our yearly eye exam. I'm not sure if the eye doctor will be able to do the exam on DH because he sits, stands and walks hunched over. Honestly he looks like a turtle, the way he hangs his head down. I don't know if he'll be able to put his chin in the machine and look straight ahead, let alone read the eye…
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Trying to self stage DH
I have gotten some wonderful words of encouragement and great information on staging from you and I so appreciate it!!! I still have a question though. I read the stages and see some things in one category but only a couple in a later category. What could that mean? My Mr. Math has gone to someone who is struggling with…
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Guacamole...
My husband was diagnosed with Alz. a year ago, though I had been taking notes on things I had been noticing for at least 3 years prior to that. He's still quite capable of caring for himself and still does small projects around the house. Most people only seem to notice that he can't think of certain words now and then.…
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Memory Test struggles
My wife was diagnosed with early onset about 6 months ago, although I had been noticing problems and changes several months before that. She is currently receiving monthly Kisunla treatments - she's had three so far. At her last treatment she was given a "memory test" - she was asked several basic questions (what State do…
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Feeling So Lost
Hello everyone, I’m thrilled to have found this site. I have been feeling so lost, confused, sad, and hopeless. my husband of 54 years was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s over year ago. He is progressing rapidly and as I continue to just try with all my strength to make it through another day, I’m thankful to have found this…
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Delirium vs night terrors, what's the difference?
My DH has VD and has interrupted sleep for over 7 yrs. I don't notice any afternoon or early evening agitation. He falls asleep within 5 min of hitting the pillow and is asleep for 60-90 min and then the up/down repeatedly going to the bathroom begins. 150 mg trazadone has helped decrease the uo/down frequency from 20+ to…
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Report to DMV
have any of you resorted to reporting your loved one to the DMV due to their diagnosis? How did that go? Was it really anonymous?
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He won’t go to the bathroom
My DH is recently incontinent. Luckily I’ve been able to get him to wear depends. But lately he just will not go to the bathroom. He’ll go hours without urinating (or I guess urinating in the depends). When he acts like he needs to go, I ask him if he needs to use the bathroom and he says, yes where do I go? I take him to…
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Stages
Who determines the stages and how are they determined? The most frustrating p pop art of this disease for me is not knowing exactly what my DH has Dementia or Alzheimer’s). And what stage? His primary referred to his disease as Dementia and the neurologist referred to it as Alzheimer’s. They have him on 29mg of Memantine…
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Heartfelt Gratitude
I’m overwhelmed at the kindness, concern, and helpful suggestions of books, online therapy, and other resources- especially the reminders of the importance of self-care. The latter is the one I have always had a difficult time with but I know and heed all your comments. That said, does anyone have any recommendations for…
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What Happened?
Hello. I am new to this resource and have greatly appreciated all the advice/stories/information I have read so far! The clinical suspicion for my DH is EO AD. Less than 2 years ago, dimentia hit my dad hard and fast. I spent 6 months supporting him and my mom through it all. My mom needed a high level of emotional support…
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The Good , the Bad , and the Ugly of late stage 7
I’m posting this mostly for Josey Wales, and for others who are now in 7 . I want to be fair and give an accurate picture of what it looks like for others. So just as a little review, my husband 59 has had Alzheimer’s for 7 years. He has never hit a plateau , but just crawls along at a glacial pace. He is at home on…
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Could incontinence be from medication?
My DH is on a low dose of risperidone 0.25 mg twice a day and 25 mg Zoloft once a day. A few weeks after starting them he became incontinent. From what I read it’s a rare side effect and at this low dose I thought it was just a coincidence and that it was just the inevitable progression of the disease. Has anyone else…
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Taking Away Driving Privileges
My DH (57) was diagnosed a little over a year ago with EOAD. He’s not quite in stage 4 yet, and still drives only to places in a 5 mile radius of home. And only to places that he goes regularly like the grocery store and they gym. I know that eventually he will have to stop driving but I dread that because he feels that’s…
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Reminder: hospital induced delirium is real
My husband was released from 2.5 days in the hospital. I spent all day Sunday and Monday with him except to run home to feed the dogs and let them out to pee. I left the hospital at 10 both nights to sleep at home. First night he had sun downers, calling me multiple times until 2:20 am. The 2nd night was pure hell. We live…
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App for Medication Reminders
Is there an app you would recommend for medication reminders? Thanks in advance.