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how do you return to the MCF after an outing?
DW has been in MC for four weeks. I've contemplated taking her out of the facility for some activities, like going to a restaurant or a park or the zoo. But I can't figure out how I would get her to return willingly to the facility. Every time I visit, she talks about wanting to go home. Seeking advice and insights…
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Just dropping in
I just wanted to wish all the ladies a Happy Mother's Day. It's really hard to appreciate an occasion like this when you have your hands full, but try to take time to pat yourself on the back, and find the time to do something for yourself that will lessen the load, if even for only a little while. It's been a while since…
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10 Absolutes in Dementia Care
Shared by another member here - Thanks Chug! Here is one you can download or print:
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Is it necessary for Nurologist it ask same questions that upset patient everytime?
some of you know me as I always have lots of questions but for those of you who don’t know my situation it’s that my wife , I feel , is handling this nitemare much better then most that being said I know can change in a heartbeat . It’s 3 yrs and other then not driving or cooking anymore not doing too bad, her short memory…
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Awareness of condition
My DW lapsed into the lost memory phase, and had a particularly hard time. She still knew me but said she felt lost. This made me wonder if she had any awareness that something is wrong.
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On the Upside
I just wanted to share a few positive wins in this land of the seemingly ever-down life. We are now 7 weeks post-MC move-in. Last weekend, in honor of Mother's Day, the care facility hosted a breakfast with mimosas and small fresh flowers for each Mom. It was a treat to share that with my DH since life with FTD is…
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Book that Gets It
Like we have time to reas? If you do, however, this novel by a writer whose husband died of Lewy Body Disease is good fictional treatment t of the rabbit hole we caregivers fall into. https://www.forewordreviews.com/reviews/counting-backwards/
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I moved DW to memory care (part 2)
So, that's the background. All of our family and friends were supportive of placing DW in MC, even urging me to do so, reminding me that I had to take care of myself. The conundrum for me was, how was I going to get her in the door? How was I going to get her things to the MC facility? One suggestion was to say her doctor…
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Started with hospice care .
Lots of help and support . Also I kept a home care person who is working out well . Hoping to be able to have some time to be myself this week . We had a nice mother's day with the grandkids visiting . Of course it was hard for them but important they got to see their grandmother now and not later as this progresses. My…
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Boyfriend with early stage
Does anyone have a boyfriend with dementia, repeating questions and forgets conversations? I could use some support if anyone out there can relate. He is very easygoing and loving, but wonder what this will do to our relationship in the future.
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Hope and hospice
My husband started on hospice a month ago. I find it has heightened my hope that the end will be here soon. Sadly, a side effect is I am getting exhausted from the waiting. I visit every day and don't feel like I can really separate sufficiently to do something like take a weekend away. I don't feel my presence is that…
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Confabulation, anxiety, depression
Moving on into the reality of DH's ALZ. For upwards of a month DH has seemed to be normal and, admittedly, I allowed myself to become somewhat lulled (is that a word?)into my own denial. What I failed to see was that his constant itch was most likely anxiety, that his calling hid brother more often was his attempt to a…
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A Most Sincere Thank You
I don’t think I ever got so many Happy Birthday wishes before in my life, so thank you so very much. I ended up going to a MLB game since I love baseball. It was 74 degrees, sunny and I got to share it with 28000 other people. It went extra innings. We lost but it was a glorious day, until found out DS left my DH alone…
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Seroquel - Anything I Should Know?
Finally was able to get my husband to a doctor for a complete physical. Turns out he's as physically heathly as he can be for a 78 year old. To help with anxiety and sleep issues, Dr has prescribed Seroquel - 12.5mg / per day to start. I can go up if needed. What has everyone's experience been? Good? Bad? Anything I should…
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Sorry, Another Stupid Question
I’m sorry for being so needy today….My birthday is tomorrow and I was wondering if I could spend it alone without any adverse reactions for him. After the 911 incident I just wanted to be alone, but not if he’s affected adversely. His wayward son said he would come over. Thanks
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new member
I am new here. My DH was diagnosed with dementia 3 yrs ago How do you know what stage of the disease he is currently in?
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Help
I am 55 years old this year my fiancé is 56. He had a very rough life. His family tried killing him a lot when he was a child so he has a lot of anger built up so he became a very bad drug addict and an alcoholic very bad, his clean of drugs For nine years now and clean of alcohol for two years very proud of him in all…
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Sundowning now all day
My DW has been sundowning for quite a while but this past week it seems to start up each morning. She goes to bed crying and wakes up crying. I can calm her down most times and get her redirected but next thing I know she is crying again. When I ask her what’s going on, she says she doesn’t know anything and doesn’t want…
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From Maybe to Reality 3
Family had a big birthday party for DH (ALZ). I was afraid that it would be too much for him but he had the time of his life and at age 90, he danced every dance. The only think that I noticed was when 2 of the grandsons came over to the house before the party and spent time alone with him. He was telling some of his life…
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Trying to think ahead
What type of documentation does the Police Dept need to show that a spouse has dementia? Does taking the med bottles as proof meet this requirement? Just thinking ahead …just in case.
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911 saga
Does anyone have a suggestion for getting DH to the neurologist? I called to get an official letter from DH neurologist but they said he hasn’t been seen in 11months and he needs to be reevaluated. I explained I needed some documentation for the police. So she fit us in on Monday, but should I tell him the appointment is…
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Picking Skin
There is a big fancy word called Dermatillomanina which is a OCD thing of picking one's on skin. My spouse picks her arms over and over and over. They bleed. It is messy and it is frustrating. The Doc raised the antidepressant but it didn't help. Just curious if anyone else has had this issue and any luck of how to control…
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At My Wits End
At 830 tonight, my DH called the paramedics on me. So I’m in my locked bedroom and I hear footsteps…. 2 paramedics and 2 policemen are banging on my bedroom door. I’m shaking so bad I can’t even type. He told them I’m not taking my medicine ( I only take one blood pressure pill and a Zyrtec for allergies ). They were…
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Any spouse caregivers of Alz patient with teens in the house?
This is my first post. My DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in February with APOE3/APOE4 variant. He has had two Kisluna infusions. I am 56 and he is 70, and we are both still working, though he will not be as actively working now. We have a 10th grader at home. She knows about the diagnosis. I am so worried about her and…
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Unusual Question
When moving to MC, should I take lots familiar photos in frames….or will this make DH realize people/dogs are not around and be a constant ‘where is everyone’ thought. Any advice of things to take/not take will be appreciated..
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What next when they can't swallow pills?
I know from experience that today's occasional problem is tomorrow's permanent limitation. In recent weeks, my DW has struggled with swallowing her pills. What comes after unable to swallow pills and how do I know it when it is time for that?
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Gotta work, DH can't be alone but not ready to be placed, holy Cr. what do I do?
I work part-time because we can't make it without the extra income. Both of us are on SS. I've been able to leave my DH for 6-7 hour stretch for the last year an a half but that's coming to an end. He is good when I'm home and can take care of him and make sure he's safe, but in the past month I am realizing that he's not…
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Freedom feels so good!!
I’ve been the solo caretaker for my DW for almost three years. We moved back to California after her diagnosis to be closer to her family. Well to say the least it didn’t help me with her. Virtually no support except maybe a short visit every couple of months. Her best friend since the third grade lives about 900 miles…
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Dementia, meds, alcohol
This has taken me a very long time to post and I'm not sure why. Perhaps because I'm disclosing the thing that my DH would most like to keep secret, but I need help. In addition to dementia, hubby has had multiple health problems, including numerous surgeries which have left him with chronic pain. As a result, his pain…
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Buproprion vs. Seroquel
DW has been taking buproprion for many years for anxiety/depression. She has been in MC for three weeks now. She seems to be having some trouble adjusting, and sometimes she's very down. The facility's psychiatrist plans to wean her off the buproprion and start Seroquel. Does this sound like a good idea? (I realize I…