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Obsession with his cat
My DH was diagnosed with Alz a year ago, but I was seeing symptoms for at least 3 years prior. He still comes across "ok" to others. Just not able to come up with words alot of the time, but I see much more than this of course. We have two cats and DH is particularly attached to one. He now seems rather obsessed with it.…
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Insomnia
hello…me again..so my mother has been tried on Mirtazipine and Celexa and Melatonin and she is not sleeping at night with anything given to her. Her doctor is trying to find a medication that will work, I really would like to keep my mother at home because she always told us that she did not want to be put in a nursing…
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bedtime ritual
Anytime we lay down on the bed, whether for a nap, but especially at bedtime my DW is constantly up and down. She's at that stage where she continually paces and jabbers so I suppose this is an extension. But the bed thing - I can tell she's exhausted but she will spend an hour up and down up and down, in and out. Very…
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in a dilemna re ALZ/divorce...any lawyers or people having had this experience?
My wife and I amicably separated at 65 years with no intention or desire to reconcile. It should have no bearing but to avoid judgement from y'all I will share that I tried FOR YEARS everything I could to address the lack of intimacy (emotional, physical - not talking just sex) and SHE refused and gave me an ultimatum:…
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DW not urinating enough
Lately, my DW is down to one urination in the morning and that's it. I don't believe her fluid intake is any less than usual. I have always known her to have a pretty strong bladder (i.e. not needing to go very often) but this has me worried. I have antibiotics that I give her from time to time but I really don't think…
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🤯😠😩😤🤬 Lost it today 😢
oh boy! Never thought I'd not recognize myself but today after my rant and I mean all day rant I had no idea who I was! He crossed the line, broke my back, went beyond what I could handle. Not just today but building for days maybe weeks and I just lost it! Patience, understanding, etc etc. just done today! Yelling at me…
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Short Term Memory
Just a question…my DH short term memory is almost completely gone. He can do something or ask a question and within one minute have no memory of anything. Here's the question…He can still drive into town and run to the store with no issue. How can his memory be so bad but yet he can navigate into town driving in the car…
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Couldn’t Find the Toilet
I’m thankful that I have had two nights of sleep and could cope with this. In the middle of the night it instantly reminded me of an old joke “he thought it was the WC but it was the cupboard” I didn’t hear my darling DH get up to go to the WC but I woke when I heard the tinkling and he was urinating into our puppy’s…
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I can't believe this life
My husband is going into late stage alzheimer this has been going on 10 years now. I feel like a robot most of the time devoid of emotion because the days and nights both keep me from having a normal thought. It has been nearly two weeks since I been out of the house, The ambulance brought him home from a 5 day stay in the…
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Memory Care Day 1
Today I took my DH to MC. Such a hard decision to make and a hard, hard thing to actually do. The staff was wonderfully welcoming, giving him big hugs, making him feel valued. I got an update this afternoon that he was doing well, had a good lunch, checked out every inch of the place, walked the path outside, enjoyed…
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Days with more sleep
My DH is in late stage 6 AD, and been under Hospice care for 16 months. The past 10 days he sits most of the day, as opposed to waking around the house moving items from place to place. I know this is progression and not that unusual, however, every three days he is sleeping most of the day. A normal day he will go to bed…
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caregiver lonleyness
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CBD & Alzheimer’s
an FYI https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/cbd-help-treat-reduce-inflammation-alzheimers-disease
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Feeling so Sad
Hi there - DH was diagnosed with MCI due to AD in July. He's 66; I'm 58. I posted last month and many of your responses to me were so helpful. I'm meeting with a counselor for my newfound anxiety. I'm anxious about his/our future. Although he's doing so well and he's in the early stages, daily I'm witnessing his…
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Just trying to stay alive through this nightmare
I haven’t been active here, where I do need to be because I just got out of the hospital. I was unable to eat for 4 days and lost another 10 pounds from vomiting, diarrhea, and dry heaving. I’m now at 75 pounds. I see my primary tomorrow. DH has been so mean and cruel. I am broken and grieving the loss of 54 years of…
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In hospital and medicine
In the hospital they have him on serquel in day and Ativan at night he is on Ativan, at night He keeps trying to get out of bed but is too groggy. He is very upset and keeps saying he wants to come home. But more aware, sort of. How can I calm him or should I leave him alone for now?
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Talking and doing things together
My DH with Alz often says he misses me . Even though we've been tosh all day. Especially if we've had a particularly quiet day without too much communication between us. I try to think of things to do together, but not every day. We live by the beach and do take walks together most days. He has given up most of his…
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Coconut Oil
I just heard about using coconut oil at one of the caregiver's groups. They said 1and 1/2 tsp per day. Has anyone used this and did they see an improvement?
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It’s finally happening. Placing hubby in MC
this week he gets TB screening required and I get medical forms filled out. Date can be as soon as next week. Telling him we are checking out a new building for brain fog care. He calls what he has brainfog. I’ll work out with place to take him somewhere and then I’ll get suitcase from car and leave with them. Any other…
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Tips for husbands
I mentioned these in a reply a few days ago but thought they might be worth repeating in a post. For those husbands caring for DWs here's a few things I've picked up along the way: bra straps for bra straps. Yes, they make these small straps that go in the back that connect the two that go over the shoulder if your wife…
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help with legal and other issues
I have a friend whose housemate has very significant memory loss, but no diagnosis. The friend has asked for some input from me since I have a little experience in general. I have tried to search some of the discussions about the legal, financial and interpersonal challenges, but haven't hit on exactly what I'm looking…
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Hubby Moving to MC Wednesday
These knots in my stomach come and go. It’s awful thinking about leaving him there without him knowing. I have always been as honest as I could. Getting there 11:30 then noon is lunch when they will transition him. I have to find out what will we be doing for 30 minutes. I keep thinking what if he won’t transition. I was…
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Just Sad
I think this is the saddest and lowest I have felt for a while. It has just struck me how quiet it is in the house if I’m not talking or prattling on or the radio isn’t turned on. My darling DH with Aphasia, VD, now bent over most of the time and creeping silently around the house, it’s quite awful. I’m getting tired, the…
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Tips for getting LO to listen to my advice
My DH with EO is starting to do things that are potentially destructive. Beginning a couple months ago, my LO began getting concerned with the car oil level and has been checking and adding oil. Yesterday, my LO added oil to the car. And the car leaked a lot of oil and smelled like something was burning. My LO got it…
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If and how to tell others about the dementia
Need some advice about telling others about my DH's dementia. We play pickleball and while he can play pretty well, he forgets (and will never remember) some of the basic rules. The other players at the facility are just acquaintances or sometimes strangers if we have not played with them before. With pickleball you're…
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Alzheimer/Dementia and the Emergency Room
This was posted in the support after loss forum but was suggested to also be posted here> I just wanted to offer up a watchout regarding taking a loved one with AD to the emergency room. I have now experienced this personally and heard similar reports from others. The medical community does wonderful things to treat health…
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Friend wants to learn about ALZ
We have a friend who we haven’t seen in years who reconnected with us a few months back. He is flying up for 4 days to help with DH (in early stage 5) during our move to a new house. I am so grateful by his generosity. He stated that he knows very little about ALZ and wants to read up about it. What websites, etc, would…
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Frustrated and conflicted
My husband is 77, had several strokes, VD and other serious health issues and does not acknowledge he has serious problems, including dementia. He does not want to go to any more drs appts but his sleep has been seriously disrupted for over 6 yrs. He's on trazadone 150 mg which has decreased up/downs to about 5-7 x per…
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Goodbye
My cancer has progressed to stage 4. I have stopped treatment. As this forum told me, I can’t care for my DW with the side effects of chemo. I’ve entered hospice. After an aborted attempt to move into an assisted living facility locally, I found an opening in memory care facility near where her daughter lives. I told my DW…
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Fundraiser Flyer Agitates Husband
Hello AlzConnected Community, I am new to the discussion group. My 74 year old husband went from Mild Cognitive Impairment to Alzheimers diagnosis in the Spring of 2025. I look forward to learning from others in the same situation. This morning my husband opened a fundraising letter from Alzheimer's Disease Research. It…