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Moving
This is the first time I have posted… My husband is 66 and has EOAD. We are moving to be near our son and his family (6 hours away) so I can get some help. They have graciously offered to help as my husband's dementia is getting worse, and requires me to be with him pretty much 24/7. We don't travel anymore as it caused…
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Yes, I'm back for a visit, and need a little input
I hope you are all holding up well. It's been a while since I've visited. As always, make sure you somehow get a little time for yourself, away from caregiving, if possible. Do something nice for YOU. About 2 years ago, I knew of a woman in her 20's or maybe 30s who was working at a local Target store as a cashier. I don't…
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Gas stove knob locks
Looking for recommendations for gas stove knob locks. I have a GE Cafe gas stove with the knobs on the front. My DH has attempted to cook for years but I want to be safe. There are alot on Amazon but mostly geared toward children. Any recommendations?
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Is Zoloft any good?
My DH just got out of the hospital and was sent home on Zoloft for anxiety. I had hoped they would have given him Klonopin or something similar to use PRN. Nope, it’s addictive. He went in for chest pains and my thought is that it’s more anxiety related. All tests were thankfully negative for a heart attack. I told them…
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Onset
Hello, My husband is a vital, active and engaged 74 old man. Lately he has been more forgetful than usual, has some difficulty managing everyday tasks, and I see subtle changes in his personality. Our oldest son came to visit and yesterday I observed my husband struggling to hang a banner with our son. He was having…
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How To Be More Empathetic Towards Mom's Dementia Flashbacks
So my older sister (long-distance caregiver who visits every 1-2 months) just took my Asian mom to her first therapy session to work out the grief from my Dad's death (He died 13 years ago) and other emotional issues that fuel my mom's dementia flashbacks. We are going to do more sessions (virtually since I don't drive)…
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Waiting for the trainwreck: What do you do when your LO refuses to trust family or doctors
I will try to keep this shortish. My younger cousin, 56, probably has early onset Alzheimer's and it's being exacerbated by self-medicating. She had an MRI in January and a PET scan in April that showed elevated amyloid in three of four lobes and borderline in the fourth. Since May she has been manic, paranoid, delusional,…
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Caustic Behavior While Traveling in Our Car
My DW and I used to travel extensively all over the US to visit parks and botanical gardens. With her increasing dementia episodes travel in our car is limited to no longer than 15 minutes. My DW tells me very caustically I drive too fast (as we travel at less than the speed limit) that there are cars always right on our…
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I feel likeI have been mourning for the last two years
My sweet husband had to go to a nursing home two weeks ago. I didn't realize how much I cared for him physically. I feel lonely and lost. I just got a cancer diagnosis, and I have to travel for treatment, and I will be gone for weeks at a time. I don't know how to process this feeling of loss I am experiencing, as he was…
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looking for hygiene video recommendations
The last couple of months it has gotten really hard to help DW with cleaning up after using toilet, and with bathing. I have tried different approaches, but they generally all end at the same place. At some point my patience ends. I just take over and do what needs to be done and she has her meltdown. I watched a few…
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I See and Feel her slipping away
My DW is living with undiagnosed ALZ. DW of our 36-year marriage had a cerebral hemorrhage about 1 year ago and I have seen her gradually slip away mentally at times. She was also left visually impaired by the operation which adds another challenge to overcome. She can see some things but not well enough to read. I…
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Is Rexulti an Option?
Hello Friends, I'm so sorry you have need to be here but I am so very grateful for your input. I recently posted concerns regarding my DH's combativeness and aggressiveness with showers and getting undressed for bed. It's become a significant issue and Rexulti has been recommended. Wondering whether you may have thoughts…
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Update on bringing DH home from Memory Care
It has now been 6 days since I brought my husband home from memory care, and he has regained quite a bit of the ground he lost during the 2 weeks there. He is more able to walk since he is walking in the house without a walker so strengthening his leg muscles (can't fix the really bad knees). His initial confusion about…
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Out of Control
My first husband died of Alzheimer's at age 57 in 2011. I remarried in 2015 and now my 2nd husband has been diagnosed via brain scan with early Alzheimer's. I want so much to be a supportive partner, but I feel so angry and out of control. He does what he wants regardless of my feelings. He orders the wrong things from…
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Advice on DH out in public
My DH is resisting sitting down when we go out to eat. He will just stand at the table without moving. After multiple efforts to ask him to sit he will finally cooperate. I would welcome any advice or perspective on how to help him.
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No long term insurance
I know this is not the forum for this but this group may have some good advice and resources to look at, that we may all benefit from Thank you
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Now the hospital has him in a cage?
Because he is so combative and aggressive they said they needed to put him in a Cage ( nylon netting). This was also done so he wouldn't fall. I think this is elder abuse but they said it was for his protection and the staff. Has anyone heard of this and isn't it elder abuse?
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Questions
I don't even know where to start. How this awful disease progresses? What to expect in each stage. Where to get information.My DH sometimes seems perfectly okay, an hour later he ask the same questions over and over. I am very patient, it is so hard to see him go through this, he was always kind, loving, helpful, now I see…
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Son in denial
My wife's son knows his mother has dementia. I tried to talk to him about what happens if I, the sole caregiver, cannot provide for her. He says not to worry, she'll go first. He doesn't understand that it is just me passing away that could cause her to need a new caregiver. I could become incapacitated and not be able to…
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Leaning how to adapt.
Hi, My wife has been diagnosed with dementia for over five years. I been taking care of her the whole time. Now things seem to get worse and I’m not sure when I should contact professional help. She was enrolled in the memory center for seven years. Just reaching out for the first time to learn what’s next for me to do.…
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Having difficulty in getting mom help
My mother is experiencing episodes of paranoia, loss of memory and irrational behavior and was taken to the hospital on numerous occasions. How do I get help with the process of being diagnosed with Dementia/Alzheimers if she refuses to see her primary care physician?
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Want to bring him home not nursing home
Husband probably need physical therapy to get his legs stronger after being hospitalized for falls and the rage of a dementia episode. and bed bound for a week so far. I am not sure of his cognition or aggression since he has been sedated to keep him calm and stay in bed for fear of falling. How can I request the hospital…
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New way of life
Hi I am new to the group and had many questions and the alz community has been most helpful. The person I'm caring for has always been a very quiet reserved man now all of a sudden he's become so talkative he mumbles and talks all day I'm just wondering if anybody else goes through this? Thank you all for being there and…
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Looking for input on situation with my mom
Hi! My mom is 77 and has mid-stage Alzheimer's. She and I have always been super close. I wanted to share a bit about my situation to get some opinions on it. I live about 3 hours away from her, but since I work remotely, I go live with her every few weeks, for about a week or so. She is currently living alone in her…
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Dad’s posture is declining rapidly
My 78 year-old dad with LBD has begun leaning significantly to the left and forward. In just two months, he has gone from being only slightly stooped to hunched at almost a 90 degree angle when standing. This causes him to look at the floor instead of forward so his caregivers are becoming reluctant to walk him (he can…
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MC in Minnesota
Does anyone have experience with any of the SuiteLiving facilities in the Twin Cities?
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Starting with hospice
at the primary care doctor he suggested it might time to involve palliative care and/or hospice. DH is still ambulatory but needs 100% help and care. Doctor said he would qualify because of weight loss and skin breakdown ( he has pressure sores on his rear). I’m wondering how early others have involved, and what your…
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Overwhelmed at times
I am caring for my wife of 46 years. Her moderate Alzheimer's is progressing every month. Her 2 medications may be working, bit I can't really tell. My emotional and physical albitites are taxed at times. I can continue this hectic pace but feel the need to reach out for help. Any suggestions? My cousin did offer respite…
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Dealing with DH depression.
My DH seems to do well until about 3 p.m. or so when he gets very depressed and confused. Sometimes he gets restless but it is the depression that worries me the most. I can't get him to do any of the things that he used to enjoy doing.
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Feeds cat 4-8 times a day
My mother has one cat. Sometimes she thinks there are more that pop by. But when prompted, she catches herself and realizes there is only one cat. Regardless of the number of cats that she perceives, she overfeed them. She sets out 4-8 bowls filled with wet food per day. This creates a bad situation as most of it rots, or…