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responsibility for taking to doctor from MC
I'm new to all of this. From a recent assessment and from what I read here, I think DH is at stage 5 dementia. So I think placement in MC is needed, within the year probably. General question: I assume that once placed, I will be the person to take him to MD appointments as needed? (I have done that for him for years). I'm…
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Agitation/Shadowing
My DH is entering stage 6 of Vascular Dementia. He is beginning to get agitated at times and so far I have been able to redirect him. I fear that his agitation will progress. I wanted opinions on medication for agitation. Our PCP said that the meds could progress him faster. I hate to give him anything to escalate this…
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I'm not sure I'm strong enough to do this
My DH was diagnosed a year ago, but was having issues for a few years prior. I thought the progression was slow, but this past week has been a big change. He's either so sleepy, crabby or not eating. I don't know what's happening. He was upset with me this morning for going to work, telling me I don't have enough time for…
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Teeth Grinding
My wife just started something new last week. She is grinding her teeth incessantly. She is 8+ years since Alzheimer's diagnosis and in early stage 7. Of all the symptoms she has exhibited over the years, this is one of the most excruciating. Anybody have any experience with this behavior?
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No purpose
I am struggling with helping my Mom feel she still has a purpose. After 2 1/2 years in AL, she was recently (3 weeks ago) moved to MC. Her anxiety was increasing and staff felt as though the smaller environment would be better for her. In between activities (she would go, but rarely actively participate) she didn't know…
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Does anyone else feel this way?
Both of my parents have memory issues. My mom has a diagnosis of Alzheimers- probably late stage 4, and my dad has dementia, non specified, because he refuses to see a doctor. I don't want to spend time with them anymore because it's hard—— for all the reasons. In an effort to keep this post short, they are safe, have…
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Possible spouse Alzheimer’s
I’m brand new to this group. My husband and I are on a journey to find out what is happening with his health. He has multiple issues (heart, GI, lungs) that we are having tests and appts. When his PCP ordered lab work, I asked him to check his Ptau217 as I’ve noticed some behaviors that seemed off. Well, the Ptau217 came…
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Venting - In Law refuse to move into Memory Care
Three years ago, we added a 600 sq ft apartment to the back of our house for my in-laws. My MIL had started wandering and going to neighbors’ houses saying there was a strange man in her house. (It was my FIL). They sold their house to help pay for the addition to our home. My MIL has advanced AD and is now giving the…
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Big Girl Pants
Just rambling really, however this phrase, which totally amused me and made me laugh ‘Big Girl Pants’ was brought to my attention by our executive daughter on her rise upwards in the work field. She said to me “well I’ve got the job, now I have to put on my Big Girl Pants and show how mature I can be”. I found this phrase…
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Guardianship
Was wondering if anyone here had to go through the courts for guardianship when trying to place their spouse in MC, and how it worked out. My husband with AD has NPD, anasognosia and extreme paranoia/delusions. I am his sole caregiver and have almost reached the point where I can no longer handle him. I know that if I need…
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My First Visit
I placed my DW into MC last Wednesday. At the suggestion of the facility we agreed that I would give my DW about a week to get her accustomed to her new surroundings. I’m planning on my first visit this coming Wednesday. I’m curious to see from you folks that have a LO in MC, how your first visit went.
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Namenda vs no Namenda
My mom (77) was diagnosed with Alzheimer's formally a year ago but has been showing signs of memory loss for about 15 years. She is on Aricept now but at her last doctor's appointment it was suggested they add Namenda in 6 months to a year. I'm not sure why the suggestion and not starting right away but I do know that it…
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Question Re; The Dementia Behavioral Assessment Tool?
I didn't see the DBAT form on the Dementia Resources page here or on the Alzheimer's Assoc site. I'm wondering if this tool is outside the scope of AlzConnected? If it's cool for AlzConnected, does anyone have enough experience with it's use to answer some questions about some of the terminology, who fills out such a…
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Found sitting on the floor again
I guess I'm just venting because the nursing home called again at 6 am to tell me that my DH was found sitting on the floor again at 4:30 AM. This is the second time within the past 5 days that he was found on the floor. DH is stage 7 and on hospice. He can no longer walk, but he can slide himself off the bed, which has an…
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Neurologist Visit for mom
Hi everyone- I am new to this. My mom has some kind of dementia. She is very difficult to get to the doctor, talks in circles and lies and makes up excuses why she can’t go. I need for her to see a physician so they can declare her incapacitated so her Medical POA will be invoked, so I can legally help her stay safe. She…
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I need to vent about my grandmother and an endless cycle.....
I'm 39 and currently my 85 year old grandmother has dementia. I've been living with her for a number of years and 2 years ago she was officially diagnosed with dementia. For the past 4 months, she has been packing multiple bags daily to "go home" when she's already at the home she's lived in for the past 25 years. From…
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indifference to eyeglasses
When DW was diagnosed about 5 years ago, she was wearing contact lenses. Soon after diagnosis, she willingly changed to eyeglasses. Recently, she is increasingly indifferent to wearing her eyeglasses. She is now stage 6. Having been with her during her last two eye exams, I doubt her prescription has changed much. She has…
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first visit to inpatient geri psych hospital to see Dad today
Hello dear community, This afternoon I get to see Dad for the 1st time at the geri psych hospital. I am glad to get to see him and much like going to MC I am wondering what might be awaiting me on the other side of that door. He went Thursday during the night by ems transport from his MC. I scheduled this appt by speaking…
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Need a "buddy"
I'm 67 and caring for my 79 year old DH. I would love to connect with someone living a parallel life…He is on the cusp of 6 and 7 on the FAST scale. I have been trying to take him to the bathroom on a "schedule" that is quickly disappearing and I'm finding myself changing him instead. I don't mind the incontinence as much…
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Sell car
I need advice on what to tell DH about his car. A year and 1/2 ago I gave his truck to my son as DH should not be driving. At the time I told him it was being serviced dead battery engine light coming on - all true. Well 11/2 yrs. later he is still demanding to get his car back- yelling, bagging his cane, calling my…
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Do delusions end, go away, stop?
My wife has is now having delusions. Most are just odd. But now she has decided that I (a 78 year old) have married a wealthy 45 year old woman in Montana! Yes there is some humor to that, but she is intensely angry with me. My wife is in an MC facility here in AZ. I have no idea what triggered this delusion. Will this…
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FTD Complications
Yesterday morning, around 2:00 am I awoke to a crash sound coming from our kitchen. My 76 year old DW who has FTD and has an inverted sleep cycle, meaning she sleeps most of the day and gets up during the night, had fallen in the kitchen while getting a drink without turning on the lights. I rushed to the source of the…
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Paranoia
My father is remembering that we used to have a kerosene heater in the home…like in the 1980’s. He keeps yelling at my sister because he feels she removed it from the home…now. She tries to reassure him that we had to get rid of it years and years ago due to my mom’s copd. Nevertheless, He keeps yelling at her because he…
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P Tau 217 Score Variability
I had a P Tau 217 test score of .2 in November 2025. Anything over .18 was considered positive. I then had a PET scan with a centiloid score of 46. In late May 2026 I participated in a research trial with Care Access and received a P Tau 217 score of .47, with anything over .18 considered positive. I am very concerned…
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Move to be closer to mom? Or move her close to me?
Hi- these forums have been really helpful, thank you. I’m currently struggling with a new dilemma. I moved my mom into memory care this April, 2026. I see her monthly, and stay for 3 to 4 days at a time at my niece‘s house. I’m realizing I don’t even get to see her very much while I’m there because I’m running around…
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Sibling Disagreements
So after my mom's meltdown against having a caregiver on Sundays, she told my sister she wanted to go live in a home for seniors in Orlando. My sister is now insisting I send her to a home instead of keeping her at home with me. Have any of you had siblings that thought they knew what was best of your parent? How do you…
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Disheartening news on Captain 'Sully'
Captain Sullenberger has been diagnosed with alz. This is just disheartening, and yet he is taking the news with such dignity. https://people.com/where-is-captain-sully-now-11885424 I HATE 'this', and to me, Captain Sully is a true hero. And for now, he is accepting that 'this' has happened.
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a move needed after geri psych inpatient treatment
Hello dear community, Dad seems to be doing better thankfully. Discharge back to his MC is planned for Monday. His memory care has suggested that he may need a smaller environment now. Sounds like I need to add him to some waitlists. The constantly shifting sands of Alzheimer's. I think this may mean that they think it is…
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Advice Needed After Moving My YOA Mom from AL to MC
I posted here a while back when my mom was first diagnosed with ALZ and I was trying to move her from FL to GA to be closer to me. She’s 65, I’m 30, and I’ve been her POA for about a year. She’s divorced, so this has all been pretty overwhelming at times. After a really tough few months, my sister and I were able to get…
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Suggestions for Sundowning and Agitation? Medications?
I am getting stressed out! DH has been Sun-downing for the past several months to the point where he gets into everything, gets agitated, will not sit down and when it comes to bed time he becomes angry. He had a brother, now passed away, who had this issue but his wife did not remember what medications the doctor put him…