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DW realized her memory loss
My DW had the realization that she has a memory problem. Her two children confirmed it to her. Whether she accepts it or not remains to be seen. She has always called me a liar when I told her that she has become forgetful.
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Getting a Diagnosis
Hi All, I'm new here. Over the past several months my mom has been experiencing severe paranoia and delusions. She thinks the house is bugged, the neighbors broke in to steal her house phone, the FBI is coming to get her, etc. Some of her stories have gotten incredibly dark and concerning, including texting family at late…
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The Pain of Putting Parents in Nursing home
I feel so much pain and sorrow putting my parents into a nursing home. They both have dementia and seem to be spiraling further down since I put them in the nursing home just weeks ago. Both of them seem to not like their situation. It just hurts so much to have them suffer and it causes me great pain and grief.
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Update on Memory Care transition
My DH has been in MC now for 34 days. He continues to have delusions about his safety and mine, but I have found that he starts down that path if I am with him too long and there are no outside activities going on. So for now what is working is coming for scheduled walks and bus rides on Tues. and Thursday, and taking him…
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How to treat impending trauma?
Alzheimer's seems to take the whole family down. What are the ways to avoid that? I've been watching self-help videos about treating trauma. The videos I've come across address past trauma and how it impacts your physical and mental well-being. But what about those of us who are walking towards trauma? We're in the midst…
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Why do they have to be so angry?
My husband has had alzy for 4 years. He is so verbally abusive to me. Like telling me I'm fat, I'm not good enough. He loves to see me get mad when he says these things. I use to talk back, however that doesn't work. So now I don't respond. Is this normal?
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Hello!
My dad was diagnosed with late on-set Alzheimer's dementia type with depression in October of 2024. Although I have suspected for 4 years before his diagnosis. I have been living with him for 15 years, so I noticed the changes in his memory and how his brain worked as it was happening. I also have a daughter with her own…
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Re: Grandson Wants to Watch his grandmother
Hello, I have a question: My nephew (a police detective) his wife and children want to have lunch with their grandmother, and he seems to want me to leave. They say it's so I can take a break. They've never watched her alone before and have two young children, 3 and 8 years old. I've been my mother's caregiver for nearly…
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new skills
Today, I learned a new technique to get DW to change into clean clothes without a conflict. It feels good to be successful and to have learned something new and useful. The awful part of this is that whatever I learned that will work today,probably won't work tomorrow. It feels like the reward for success is decline and…
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Contact Alzheimer's hotline
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Medicaid approval mess
Mom was moved to a snf a few weeks ago. Her money is gone (or almost) and there was no way for her to pay for AL. I have spent the last few weeks getting everything they ask for. I have kept very carful track of money and receipts. They told me yesterday she was approved. I was so excited! I have been stressed about this…
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From The Philadelphia Inquirer: Being Mom's Caregiver is Hard...
https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/other/being-mom-s-caregiver-is-hard-caring-for-her-together-with-siblings-is-harder/ar-AA1EPtI1?ocid=msedgntp&pc=LCTS&cvid=68a1f1ab60494c6fac7692f4bcf5c1e7&ei=25 Surviving caregiving in a sibling group. HB
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Medication depression or anxiety
has your doctor prescribed medication for anxiety that is worth the side effects- I have been experiencing really bad anxiety particularly when it comes to bedtime was wondering if others have similar experiences and any solutions
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Went to memory clinic for my dad's mental health, not a positive outcome.
Hi, looking for any information, that may help my parents financially? Not sure where to start? For the past almost 8 years, our family has been struggling to keep up with my dad's mental condition. I would say out of the 8 years, the last 4 years has been really stressful. Recently went to a memory clinic, my dad scored…
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Unbelievable rage
Last night we argued about sleeping in his jeans I asked him wouldn't you be more comfortable if he took them off Hours later he raged downstairs and told me to get out of the house He said he was going to call the police I had to leave for my safety slept in a hotel But let down my guard and went home Now I wish I just…
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Anosognosia, alcohol and dementia
DH has AL and small vessel disease. I was thinking that he was living in denial but I'm pretty sure that is is anosognosia. Having said that and my pointing out to him that alcohol will destroy more brain cells, he still has a glass of wine every night, sometimes two and a margarita if we go out. He is borderline dementia.…
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GLP-1's in Demetia Patients
Hello Everyone, Itws been quite a while since I"ve posted and been around. I have some things I'd like some advice on from our community. My Dad started this journey about 2 years ago and it has only become more complex and complicated. He has a myriad of health issues so I wont get into all of them, but with his Demetia…
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Showering
DH is late stage 5 and into 6. Limited vision and quite unsteady. We have a shower with a built in bench, but to get into the shower he has to step over the border that goes around the floor. I am considering a remodel, but am interested in tips and practical suggestions on getting the shower done overall. Do you both get…
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Mom lives in Independent Living Fac, needs to move to AL, hard 'No!'
I am new to this forum. I have found many discussions relevant to my situation. I received a lot of good information from these discussions, but I figured I'd post my question on the off chance some more information may come to light. I currently care for my Mother with the help of my wife. My mom moved from out of state…
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Frozen in time for a minute
I would appreciate any insight into this issue. My DH and I returned from a night flight Portland Oregon to Philadelphia, PA after seeing family for a week. Two days later he awoke around 7am as usual talking about going for a bike ride. Suddenly his body seemed to freeze, arms in mid-air for about a minute. He was staring…
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ugh I am just so sad
I hope that everyone on this platform is surviving this nightmare. I have been taking care of my sweet husband for 5 years or so. This past week, he ended up in the ER for a bowel obstruction, which is not the first one he has experienced, so I was aware of the signs before it got out of hand. While he was in the hospital,…
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…
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I am forgetting, too
I usually am very organized, but with the stress of a DH with dementia, I am forgetting appts, lose things, and run around and getting nothing done. I know it is because of the caretaking, and am the ONLY caretaker because family has turned away from us because they just don't want to deal with this private hell
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Phantom Pain
I was just wondering if your loved ones with dementia experience phantom pains. My DH has been complaining of his thigh hurting for a few weeks. No visible signs of anything. I thought maybe a pulled muscle but after a few weeks it did not go away. He doesn't do anything physical activity except walk and that is only one…
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To My Fellow Warriors
This journey is the worst, yet we all get up, stiffen our spines and get back at taking good care of our LOs. We get irritable, cry, depressed, exhausted, and we still get up and take good care of our LOs. We put our needs second to make sure our LOs are safe and comfortable and get up the next day and do it again.…
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Struggling
My DH gets belligerent when I tell him No. We have a rodent problem in our subdivision and I’ve had to hire an exterminator to place bait traps in our fenced yard as I’ve explained to my DH that he cannot let the dogs out. And there are kill traps set in our shed that must remain closed. I just came out of the bathroom and…
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Lost partial denture - what about eating?
My wife lost her partial (upper only) dentures. It's been about 10 hours now. She has had new partial made but she can't get them for at least another week. The center she goes to has the dentist on Fridays only. I have several teeth missing, both top and bottom, and it doesn't bother me to eating soft or hard food. I do…
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Happier When I leave
Hello, So I noticed after 9 years of seeing my mom. I am happier when I leave the NH than when I go. I noticed that with the other visitors today as well. However thank God I saw her again. God bless.
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Medication control
I have a delemia. HWD can no longer be in charge of taking his main pain med. He forgets when he takes it then takes more. I have started controlling the med bottle and omg it'd causing so much stress for him. I put his daily dosage out for him and as of late he's becoming more hostile and defiant. Name calling too. I hate…
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Refusing Treatment
My DW has moderate-to-advanced AD. I am her caregiver and managing without help thus far. DW has arthritis in her thumbs and frequently suffers from strained muscles in her lower back. We have seen specialists for both problems. The doctor's instructions were to use diclofenac sodium gel for the thumbs and lidocaine…