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Keeping a loved one at home vs nursing care
My husband has early onset Alzheimer's, do many people going thru this same thing, keep there loved ones at home vs nursing home??
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Just as my DH is forgetting who I am, I am also forgetting who he is.
It is so hard to remember the old DH - the one who made me laugh, who took care of my car, the finances, and the heavy-to-lift things. He is quiet now, very suspicious of my "boyfriends" who seem to be everywhere, and rarely smiles. He has to be fed and has a hard time swallowing, and most meals have at least one incident…
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Caregivers Dealing With Menopause
Hello, Dad is in a care home, but I do all the $$, medical, have moved him 2x, sold his house, etc. I'm 54, menopause has drained so much of my energy and brain fog is real. Was on HRT which fixed these things, but had to go off bc of other side effects (inner ear problems- vertigo, dizzy, motion sick). The fatigue some…
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What can I do?
My DH is somewhere around stage 6 and we’re dealing with a repetitive behavior which I can’t seem to break. He goes through hours long periods at different times of the day where he constantly gets up to pee. Usually he just goes through the motions and doesn’t go. This happens every 2 to 5 minutes. He’s has other…
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Just need to talk to my friends (211)
Carl. I remember George Gobel but hadn't thought of him.in years. My sister had a fig tree in her back yard and she really enjoyed them At the VA Hospital there was a big fig tree between two.of the.buildings across from the main hospital. We called them the quarters where Doctors used to live. Eventually the doctors moved…
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Newly Diagnosed, starting Leqembi
I was just diagnosed with MCI AD at the age of 59. My mother (81) has AD although she does not have a definitive diagnosis since she lies to her doctors and cancels doctor appts. Because of her, I soke with my Neurologist who I see for a Benign Essential tremor (since age 16) and mentioned my mom. So we did the blood test…
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recommendations for elder law attorney in Minneapolis/St. Paul?
I've looked at the links that could help me locate an elder law attorney, but I'm curious if anyone has worked with, and can recommend, an elder law attorney in the Minneapolis/St. Paul area? I always like getting referrals from real people who have "been there and done that". 😉 Thanks in advance for any ideas!
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Roadtrip from hell - vent
We went out of state for an event. Going wasn't too bad. My pwd only complained about the length of time the trip was taking. When plans were made, knowledge that it was going to be a 10-12 hour journey, was well known. Our return home became "Hell On the Highway, Homeward Bound." For no less than FIVE HOURS, she insisted…
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My mother won't see a doctor and she is not okay
My mom has always been incredibly independent and strong. She is 82 now and the last couple years she has steadily declined and has every last symptom of dementia or Alzheimer's. I live 4 hours away and my sister is close to her and keeps me updated ( I'm in the process of trying to move closer). Mom refuses to see a…
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The morning after....
Good morning all. It is the morning after my first Leqembi infusion. I had worked myself into a tizzy of fear that by the time I got to the infusion center I was trembling so uncontrollably I was almost unable to speak. But... All went well. I had been told that since this was my first infusion that I would have to wait up…
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progression question
Hi all- I have a question for those of you that have spouses who have advanced from early/mid to mid/end stages and this may sound dumb. Can you share how that change happened? Currently, my DH is in early/mid where he is still driving and technically still working even though the walls are closing in and he will be let go…
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You Might Be A Caregiver If...
My morning got me thinking of that old comedian who used to do the, "You might be a redneck if…" If anyone listened to the things I say, agree with and do on a daily basis, they would surely think I had lost my mind. Most of the time, I don't even think about these responses anymore. The simple agreement with odd phrases,…
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newly diagnosed.
New diagnosis, no treatment or medication started yet. I am 68 and have suspected this diagnosis for almost 18 months. Felt gaslit by my family when I mentioned it. They were in denial and basically told me it was just ADHD. Now that I am diagnosed, THEY are the ones that are like deer in the headlights. Husband says…
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Mom from IL to AL to MC in one month
I’m so thankful to have found this forum. Our family has been going through a rough patch with Mom and I find myself coming here often looking for comfort so thank you all. Back story (warning…it’s long) : My mom (87YO) has suffered from mental illness her whole life. She has been hospitalized at least 5 times in her adult…
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Adult day care
My father needs a break from continuous full time care giving of my mother. Any suggestions on where to find adult day care for at least one day a week. I believe she is late mid stage.
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Caring for my grandma
My grandma was recently diagnosed with dementia and has move in with us a couple days ago. It's me, my brother and mom who all live here and we each help out when or where we need to. For the last 2-3 years, I've helped to care for my mom sometimes since she has serious health issues of her own. She has also been taking…
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Continual Grief: I Miss My Mom
I visited my mom again today at her skilled nursing facility. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in 2018 (she had probably been experiencing it since the early 2010s, in reality), and I made the gut-wrenching decision to place her into an SNF in 2021. She's currently experiencing late-stage Alzheimer's. She has…
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Prayers appreciated
Hi my name is Charity and for the last 4 years I have been the live in sole cargiver for my daughter in laws aunt and was for her uncle before he passed. I have worked in Healthcare for 28 years and memory care and dementia have been the majority part of my career. I never thought of how hard it would be to become the live…
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How much is too much?
My DH is in early to mid step 5. I still work and he is at home by himself all day. I recently installed cameras so I could keep an eye on him. I’ve noticed he sleeps a lot. Today he told me he had slept most of the day and he doesn’t understand why. He’s wondering if there is something physically wrong with him. Should I…
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Never know when something will trigger profound grief...
I went to get a band-aid for my finger and found this. As my husband's dementia progressed, he couldn't remember the word for Band-Aids. So he took them out of the box and put them in this zip-lock bag and wrote BAND-AIDs on it…. I found myself with tears coming down my cheeks. Such a small thing but such a sadness… I know…
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New here...finally reaching for help!
Hi! I am new here, I was finally getting so lost and frustrated, that I needed to reach out for help. I am a caregiver to my mom (74) with Alzheimer's. I am still trying to figure out which stage she is in. After reading through the many discussions I feel like she is probably moderately severe (5). She lives with me, but…
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MC to Nursing Home
my DH has been in MC for 5 months. He has declined substantially. He now can’t name objects, unsteady in feet, sometimes incontinent/BM so in depends, can’t understand to put medication in mouth, resistant to bathing/shaving/depends change. He wonders in and out of residents rooms as he can’t find his. I was just told he…
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Mom has become aggressive and mean
My mom fell and broke her hip a little over 4 weeks ago. She had early dementia with confusion for the past couple of years, but since the surgery/anesthesia her dementia has dramatically changed. She will become highly agitated and say incredibly mean and hateful things which is not my mom at all. She has been in the…
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New member
I’ve been following this forum for some time now & finally figured out how to join. Having the real experts so handy with experience & suggestions is a Godsent help! My DW is 75 and been declining for about 5 years. Have to help her with about everything, but happy to do it after 51 years married. Biggest challenge us how…
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Memory care question
Has anyone ever had your MC facility ask you to spend the night with your LO? Mom fell. She went to hospital and is ok but sore. They gave her some meds but MC wants someone with her in case she tries to get up overnight. Something doesn’t seem right
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Not Political... but for Texas voters on the forums
On the Texas ballot this November is Texas Proposition 14 which establishes the Dementia Prevention and Research Institute of Texas using $3 billion from general funds. The amendment would task the institute with researching causes, means of prevention, and treatments for dementia and dementia related diseases such as…
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Desperate for Help
My mom has been recently diagnosed with rapidly progressive Alzheimer’s. She lives in Louisiana with my brother and SIL and I live in Maryland. Any tips or suggestions on caring for her from afar? Because I’m really close to having her come to meet me up here.
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shingles vaccine
A study, in Wales, found that the zoster vaccine reduced the probability of a new dementia diagnosis by approximately one-fifth over a seven-year follow-up period. https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-025-08800-x The Zoster vaccine in the United States is no longer available, and has been replaced by the two dose…
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General housekeeping, found a little money
I took over responsibility for bills a year or so ago, credit cards and all. We have various loyalty accounts from banks, from credit cards, and from traveling, points with American Airlines, Southwest, etc. Over the past year I have combined/closed various accounts. Closed a checking account at a bank we no longer use.…
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Falling
In the last six days my dad has fallen 4 times and landed in the ER 4 times. it is always when he is getting out of bed in the morning. He is in AL and he has a UTI at the moment. The facility keeps telling me they have him but they clearly don’t. I believe his weakness is temporary and caused by UTI but we cannot be in…