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VD 93 yr old mom
just found you guys a couple of days ago. Thank you God for this support. I’ve known for quite a few years her mind was bad. Her old PC was not a very compassionate doctor so I finally switched her to a new one. CScan came back as vascular dementia. Her chronic UTI’s are a result of poor hygiene. She’s been on 6 rounds of…
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Caring for my grandmother and my family
Hello! New here and wanted to share my situation, and hopefully get some feedback. My wife and I and our two girls are live-in caregivers for my 93 year old grandmother. My kids are 5 and 6, and we have another on the way. When we moved in with her almost 4 years ago, we realized she wasn't getting the support she needed…
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Do some MCFs accept those who can no longer transfer?
The one I toured told me no, once they get to the stage of not being able to transfer themselves out of bed to a walker for example, they won’t accept them. And if they are already in their MC when they get to this stage, they put them in their SNF, which is like a hospital. No private rooms. Can you all tell me your…
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Waiting
Why do I always feel like I'm waiting on something? My DH has VD and alz. Plus multiple other problems copd cad ect. . Now he almost seems normal. I keep waiting for something to happen. WHY? WHY CANT I JUST ENJOY THE PLATUE HE IS ON?. What is wrong with me?
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New to the group, any advice helps!
My mom got diagnosed in September of this year with Alzheimer's. Right now, it is mild where she needs things explained to her a few times or gets confused about dates. She still has her memory and wits about her and luckily her and my father retired earlier this year so he's taking care of her. She can still function on…
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Navigating emotions and getting help
Hello, I'm new to this group. My mom has alzheimer's. She was diagnosed 1.5 years ago. Since then I have put her home in a trust, Found private care for 2 hrs in the morning M-F, and was sending her to an adult program 3 days a week. She's been to the neurologist and had a psych eval. Believe she's in the middle range of…
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How to help loved one adapt to memory care
My parent went into memory care a couple of days ago. How can family assist in her adapting to memory care? I live out of state but my sibling is nearby as are my parent's siblings. I would like her siblings involved in her care as much as they want to be because it's such a big job for just one person. Right now she is…
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projecting future costs and availability of funds
Today I learned that your investment person, or financial advisor, or ??? can put your information into a spreadsheet that projects how long someone's funds will last if they enter memory care at a given date. Intuitively I knew this could be done but it had never been suggested to me in a "you ought to do this now" sort…
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Why so hard to get diagnosed?!?
:/ I am so infuriated as to why it is so hard to get doctors to take me seriously!! Why does being highly educated, very intelligent and a health professional make doctors think I am "just stressed out." I would not be ruining my career if I did not know that something is happening to my brain!!
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Being Alz”hammered”
Anyone been Alzhammered? Allow me to explain. So there you are finally taking time out, you go for a few hours out to relax and some of your acquaintances happen to be there. Mine happens to be the local Moose Lodge. Not so much friends but people you hang out with when you're there. Everyone asks you how your LO is… how…
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Talking with others in early stage dementia
Talking with others in early stage dementia
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Almost died
Good evening, A little over a week ago, on Jan. 9th, my Dad (pwd) went to the ER from memory care after a fall (complaint of head and hip pain). He had had pneumonia in Dec. and still had a bad cough. Turns out he had bronchitis and pneumonia again, and he was put on antibiotics. The CT scan done on his head didn't show…
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Is Memory Care inevitable?
My DH is stage 6. So far I’ve been able to be the sole caregiver. Family sometimes gives me a break. He won’t cooperate with in home care, just follows me everywhere trying to get away from them. Thank God for meds that keep him agreeable (mostly) He is incontinent and at times bowel incontinent. The underwear from…
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DW recently put in MC facility
My DW is 82 , and has middle stage Alzheimer's. After being a 24/7 caregiver for 2 years, I had to place her because I just couldn't do it anymore. She has been there for 3 months now. I visit her often, and she knows who I am and that we are married. However, she seems to be attracted to several men in the facility, and…
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Daughter to Mother with Dementia, just moved from the Lebanon to Los Angeles
My mother, almost 79, was diagnosed in November 2020. We've had to move out of our home of 20+ years in order to make a new life here. The move has been really hard on both of us, especially her. My dad had to stay behind until he can get his visa to move in with us. Her body is suddenly failing to do simple things, she…
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My mom is declining
Hi everyone. My mom is declining now and I am so afraid. I knew eventually this decline would come but I am still struggling so bad with it. She is still awake and eats some. But she is not drinking much, if anything, at all. She doesn't talk or walk anymore. She rarely smiles anymore. She was admitted to hospice 3 months…
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From Maybe to Reality
DH in ES thought. Then, several episodes of mis-rememering, including asking our adult son if he remembered a certain episode from his (DH's) youth. For the past 3 weeks he has been just fine, more or less, just the occasional lost word. In my mind I knew he still had Alz, but it just seemed like , well, maybe it will be a…
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Looking for Support: MCI Diagnosis with Normal Test Results at 51
Hi everyone. I'm looking for others who might have gone through something similar. I'm 51 and recently received a diagnosis of mild cognitive impairment (MCI) after experiencing memory issues, headaches, and possibly some minor balance issues. Given that my mother has Alzheimer's (I'm her primary caregiver), this diagnosis…
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step down symptoms of vascular dementia
Hi, my mom was diagnosed 9 years ago with vascular dementia. She is currently 92. Does anyone know the stages or steps of this disease? Just trying to better prepare myself. I am her only caregiver.
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How can I get DH to sleep at night?
Hubby would probably be a wanderer if we still lived in a large house rather than a condo. He also needs my assistance getting around, even with a walker. So every night we're up and down going from the bed to toilet, to bed, to living room... he wakes me 8-10 times a night. Sometimes he does need to urinate but usually he…
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Paranoia
My wife has become paranoid. She has accused me of stealing her mail, and is convinced that our daughter has stolen bed pillows and jewelry from her. I’ve tried reasoning with her, but to no avail. Any ideas on how to deal with this?
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When you have to correct LO
My LO is certain her home is across the street and will head that way from time to time. The only distraction is to offer a ride home. Works. I know we are not supposed to correct lo’s, but how can you tell your LO that that house and others are not their home with out creating a stressful situation… Kind of an odd…
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Spinning our wheels
I got a call this week from a speech therapist my mother saw a year ago. She said the staff at the MC facility had asked her to renew her services with my mother and that she sent me paperwork via email to sign that would allow her to begin a consultation. There is a copay agreement. Apparently, the staff was having…
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New here and trying to start vascular dementia discussions
Hello, I am FaustinaMary and am hoping to learn more from you. My loved parent is supposed as suffering from vascular dementia after an extended bout of rapid ventricular response. I am hoping to begin a subgroup here for those associated with "Vascular Dementia". Please join it for discussions if this pertains to you,…
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Excellent Handout Packet: dementia, stages, CGs, actively dying - Tam Cummings
(Sharing here as well as Spouse/Partner CG Forum) - Recently there was a post requesting Stage 7 information. The attached includes some staging tools and also 1 pg info sheets on what to expect in final months, weeks, days, hours. I also am seeing for the first time, a nursing care notes section with Tam Cumming's staging…
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Sitting Vigil
I am sitting vigil tonight at DH's bedside. It took three tries to insert a new Foley catheter this morning. Each insertion in recent months had been more and more difficult. He began bleeding out. He has an enlarged prostate and a latent tumor that he's had for 23 years. He may have a new tumor, too. He has lost a great…
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I Think It's Time
Not for MC, though that will be coming soon. Time to quit my job. I thought I could hang in there with it, but I simply cannot do it. I find the job so frustrating — a super dysfunctional org with lots of disrespect thrown around. And, I'm an utter wreck from feeling split every hour of the day between trying to keep some…
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They are still there
My wife was formally diagnosed with early onset ALZ in 2018 at age 61. Her symptoms had started 2-3 years earlier. She was enrolled in a research protocol in 2019. Unfortunately the disease has marched on and now she in in a memory care facility with late stage disease. It has been a difficult journey. One thing that keeps…
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Cost of Memory Care
If you have a LO in memory care or you've done some pricing please post the prices you've found/paid and whether Medicaid or Medicare cover any of the cost. I am in Massachusetts and the average cost of memory care (according to Google) is $8,500. I am sure you can pay much more. Thank you!
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Catheter in RCFE or MC
I've searched posts on catheter issues…and i'm concerned. (i'm a new member). Dad is 82, slow advancing prostate cancer, ALZ and probably undiagnosed Parkinson's. He is in AL but since mid dec we've hired 24 hour care due to fall risk in AL. We have plans to move him in one week to a board and care. Stage 4 or 5 of ALZ. No…