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Helping Mom to Eat
Hi My mother is 78years old and refusing to eat food. We have been trying various solids but does not want to eat, but she is ok to medications. Looking for advise from other caregivers on the options and techniques to help her eat. Questions: 1. What are ways to improve her appetite? 2. What are alternatives to solid…
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Finding Purpose in life of LO with ALZ
Hello everyone, I was the primary caregiver of my precious mother who lived with Alzheimer's for 9 years after diagnosis. She and my m-i-l, who also lived with ALZ, died 24 days apart in July, 2019. While their deaths, both of strokes with lingering 10-12 days, were not a surprise, but the timing intensified our grief. We…
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Caregiver knowledge
My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers around 10 years ago. Both my parents refused help and wanted to do everything themselves and they got by. However my dad got sick in 2019 and ended up in a nursing home and we lost him in 2020. When my dad went into the nursing home that left my mom to care for herself which was not…
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Going to Court
Well my Ego Maniac sister had the nerve to file for guardianship for my dementia 93 year old father. Problem, she now uses my mother, who live at her house, as an excuse she doesn't have time for my dad but once a week and for an hour. As my dad's primary caregiver I couldn't stand by so I filed too. So now a court date is…
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Terminal Cancer and Demented Challenges
My father's dementia was escalated and his cancer came out of remission following a battle with COVID-19. His short term memory is non-existent some days and he now has large gaps in his long term memory. He had to be put on Seroquel to control the hallucinations he was having. During all of this I had to make the decision…
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NOTHING is working for FIL Sundowing!!!!
Can anyone offer any suggestions on how to get your LO to sleep when they have sundowners? My FIL has Alzheimer's and we have had ongoing problems with him sundowing. My MIL is his primary caregiver and we have been dealing with both of their lack of sleep for months now. FIL is pretty quiet during the day and will…
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NUPLAZID-other problems
Have any of your LO been on Nuplazid? My mom went on that a couple of days ago and she became disoriented had "no idea why she is here" and then she said something about committing sucide. Ironically, she had been seeing hallucinations with this one medication, she went off and wasn't seeing them anymore. Then went on…
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Body progressing faster than the mind
Hi all. I'm mostly here for answers to my suspicions. To be very clear, we have no diagnosis for our LO (my grandmother), and it took a hallucinating event and some recent loss of function for me to look back and put the clues together. * My grandmother is about 84, and her mother died of Alzheimer's * For the last 10-15…
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OCD-like behavior common?
Mom is 83, stage 6 (I like to say 6.5, because she's getting worse without going into the next stage), and I am her FT caregiver. I've noticed that she has some very repetitive behavior lately, and some of it needs redirection. For example, after meals, she likes to wash her face and rinse her mouth out in the kitchen…
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Need Input from those who have been there
Hello to all. This is my first post. I have read a lot of the comments on the message board and I can pretty much relate to most of them. My mom started having memory issues about 5 years ago and I did insist she see neurology. Her father's siblings have a significant history (14 out of 19 children), dying of Alzheimers.…
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First Post seeking guidance
Hello everyone, I am a legal permanent resident in USA. My mother is 83 years old came to visit on January of last year. She has Alzheimer's since 2013 she needed daily assistance with almost everything except going to bathroom. She had a wheelchair to use when we go out. Due to COVID and travel restriction she could not…
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I just started reading this and so far it looks great.
I only got to page 39 since yesterday. https://www.alzint.org/u/World-Alzheimer-Report-2021.pdf
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Time for a nursing home?(1)
Our 93 year old mother, in the late stages of Alzheimers, has been living in a memory care / assisted living facility for 2 years. She is an extreme fall risk, and does not realize she should not walk anymore. Because of this, we are paying extra for round-the-clock personal caregivers to prevent her from trying to walk.We…
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I'm feeling angry, guilty, overwhelmed, and like I'm failing
Hi all! I'm reaching out because I hit a breaking point. I spent my birthday (yesterday) alone in my room crying for most of the day. For a little context, I was doing OK with managing my stress and the situation. I joined a boxing gym for the physical release I needed. It was also less expensive than seeing a mental…
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My favorite folks in the world
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FeczfCOFZE8
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family visits
My mom has been diagnosed with mild dementia. I live with her. She is relatively independent, but needs help with various things. I have a brother who lives out of the area. He came twice this summer, 5 weeks apart. His visits are tiring for both my mom and me. It throws her routine off and makes her memory worse. I feel…
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Questions and Divergence
How do you respond to the same questions over and over again? I’ve tried diverting but she wants the answer and when I give it, it seems to trigger another popular question. The questions usually send us down a rabbit hole of things that are in the past that are not comforting to her. If I make up a fiblet to get her…
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husband wants to come back home
My husband recently entered a memory care unit in the best facility in town. Every time I visit all he talks about is that he wants to come back home which is not possible. His dementia is progressing very slowly. How do I answer him?
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Dementia and Assisted living
Does others on here have dementia or alzheimers living in assited living or still on thier own?
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Dementia and Joint Replacement
Hi there, My mom is in the middle (probably more late-middle stage) of dementia. She has a hip replacement on 10/1. She's in agony from it (it's arthritic) and it has severely limited her movement. I'm also pretty sure it's contributed to some of her confusion and agitation (her sundowning episodes can be pretty bad at…
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Mom see people in the shower
Mom is having hallucinations for a while. Doctor started her on Seroquel 25mg 1 pill night and now 1/2 pill in The morning. But not much help. Now mom has trouble every single day to go shower because she see people there looking at her naked, so she had put a swimming suit to shower or just use a wet hand towel. At first…
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Very bumpy transition to a home
On Monday September 13 I transitioned my mother to a nursing home. I didn't say anything before hand. It's a small room in an older home where my mother has one roomate. The staff really seem to care. After a few hours I tried to frame the facility as a temporary rehab. My mother is able bodied and said no she doesn't need…
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Linden flower tea
Not sure what to do about all that chronic stress you are under; the headaches, inflammation , raised cortisol levels which leads to cardiovascular disease, sore throats colds, fever coughs?? Don't feel comfortable getting hooked on benzodiazepines to reduce your mental stress and raging anxiety due to the fact that once…
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He did it again
It’s 1AM. I am wide awake. I’m supposed to be sleeping in preparation for an overnight visit with a friend tomorrow and a craft festival Saturday. My spouse is off on a well deserved trip of his own for several days, so I was looking forward to the visit with my friend and then a quiet few days in my sewing room Here’s how…
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Hospital bed?
My mom is back in the hospital. We're moving her to memory care this week. She's having a hard time sitting up, standing up. We need to move her current bed to memory care. I'm wondering whether it's time to consider getting her a hospital bed that can be adjusted. What are your thoughts on this? In another thread someone…
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Mom does not understand she should not walk
Our 93 year-old mother with late stage Alzheimers lives in a memory care facility. She was already very unsteady on her feet, and would forget to use her walker. She had several falls, and ended up breaking her hip about 6 weeks ago. It is not a bad break, but would require surgery and rehab to fix it. With input from…
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Antipsychotics Lead to Dementia; New Research Illuminates Why
https://www.madinamerica.com/2021/09/new-study-sheds-light-antipsychotic-use-leads-dementia/
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terminal or paradoxical lucidity
I was wondering if any of you have heard of this in dementia patients. I have heard of this in coma patients, and those who have been severely ill for other reasons. From what I have read it can occur for hours, days or even a month before death in dementia patients. The reason for my asking is that my father has had a…
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My Mom has later stages Alzheimer's
Hello, I haven't been on here for a long time. I have always gotten great advice in the past and am so grateful. I need some advice, if someone can kindly respond with experience on my question. I would really appreciate it. Sorry I get emotional when I ask for help. Okay so My Mom is in her later stages of Alzheimer's,…
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I Miss My Mom!
I cared for my mom for three years before I made the decision to place her in a skilled nursing facility. The transition was rough for both of us, but she adjusted shortly after entrance, and now she is pretty content. However, we are officially in stage 7, and all that comes with this stage has been quite overwhelming to…