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First Post seeking guidance
Hello everyone, I am a legal permanent resident in USA. My mother is 83 years old came to visit on January of last year. She has Alzheimer's since 2013 she needed daily assistance with almost everything except going to bathroom. She had a wheelchair to use when we go out. Due to COVID and travel restriction she could not…
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I just started reading this and so far it looks great.
I only got to page 39 since yesterday. https://www.alzint.org/u/World-Alzheimer-Report-2021.pdf
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Time for a nursing home?(1)
Our 93 year old mother, in the late stages of Alzheimers, has been living in a memory care / assisted living facility for 2 years. She is an extreme fall risk, and does not realize she should not walk anymore. Because of this, we are paying extra for round-the-clock personal caregivers to prevent her from trying to walk.We…
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I'm feeling angry, guilty, overwhelmed, and like I'm failing
Hi all! I'm reaching out because I hit a breaking point. I spent my birthday (yesterday) alone in my room crying for most of the day. For a little context, I was doing OK with managing my stress and the situation. I joined a boxing gym for the physical release I needed. It was also less expensive than seeing a mental…
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My favorite folks in the world
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FeczfCOFZE8
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family visits
My mom has been diagnosed with mild dementia. I live with her. She is relatively independent, but needs help with various things. I have a brother who lives out of the area. He came twice this summer, 5 weeks apart. His visits are tiring for both my mom and me. It throws her routine off and makes her memory worse. I feel…
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Questions and Divergence
How do you respond to the same questions over and over again? I’ve tried diverting but she wants the answer and when I give it, it seems to trigger another popular question. The questions usually send us down a rabbit hole of things that are in the past that are not comforting to her. If I make up a fiblet to get her…
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husband wants to come back home
My husband recently entered a memory care unit in the best facility in town. Every time I visit all he talks about is that he wants to come back home which is not possible. His dementia is progressing very slowly. How do I answer him?
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Dementia and Assisted living
Does others on here have dementia or alzheimers living in assited living or still on thier own?
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Dementia and Joint Replacement
Hi there, My mom is in the middle (probably more late-middle stage) of dementia. She has a hip replacement on 10/1. She's in agony from it (it's arthritic) and it has severely limited her movement. I'm also pretty sure it's contributed to some of her confusion and agitation (her sundowning episodes can be pretty bad at…
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Mom see people in the shower
Mom is having hallucinations for a while. Doctor started her on Seroquel 25mg 1 pill night and now 1/2 pill in The morning. But not much help. Now mom has trouble every single day to go shower because she see people there looking at her naked, so she had put a swimming suit to shower or just use a wet hand towel. At first…
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Very bumpy transition to a home
On Monday September 13 I transitioned my mother to a nursing home. I didn't say anything before hand. It's a small room in an older home where my mother has one roomate. The staff really seem to care. After a few hours I tried to frame the facility as a temporary rehab. My mother is able bodied and said no she doesn't need…
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Linden flower tea
Not sure what to do about all that chronic stress you are under; the headaches, inflammation , raised cortisol levels which leads to cardiovascular disease, sore throats colds, fever coughs?? Don't feel comfortable getting hooked on benzodiazepines to reduce your mental stress and raging anxiety due to the fact that once…
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He did it again
It’s 1AM. I am wide awake. I’m supposed to be sleeping in preparation for an overnight visit with a friend tomorrow and a craft festival Saturday. My spouse is off on a well deserved trip of his own for several days, so I was looking forward to the visit with my friend and then a quiet few days in my sewing room Here’s how…
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Hospital bed?
My mom is back in the hospital. We're moving her to memory care this week. She's having a hard time sitting up, standing up. We need to move her current bed to memory care. I'm wondering whether it's time to consider getting her a hospital bed that can be adjusted. What are your thoughts on this? In another thread someone…
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Mom does not understand she should not walk
Our 93 year-old mother with late stage Alzheimers lives in a memory care facility. She was already very unsteady on her feet, and would forget to use her walker. She had several falls, and ended up breaking her hip about 6 weeks ago. It is not a bad break, but would require surgery and rehab to fix it. With input from…
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Antipsychotics Lead to Dementia; New Research Illuminates Why
https://www.madinamerica.com/2021/09/new-study-sheds-light-antipsychotic-use-leads-dementia/
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terminal or paradoxical lucidity
I was wondering if any of you have heard of this in dementia patients. I have heard of this in coma patients, and those who have been severely ill for other reasons. From what I have read it can occur for hours, days or even a month before death in dementia patients. The reason for my asking is that my father has had a…
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My Mom has later stages Alzheimer's
Hello, I haven't been on here for a long time. I have always gotten great advice in the past and am so grateful. I need some advice, if someone can kindly respond with experience on my question. I would really appreciate it. Sorry I get emotional when I ask for help. Okay so My Mom is in her later stages of Alzheimer's,…
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I Miss My Mom!
I cared for my mom for three years before I made the decision to place her in a skilled nursing facility. The transition was rough for both of us, but she adjusted shortly after entrance, and now she is pretty content. However, we are officially in stage 7, and all that comes with this stage has been quite overwhelming to…
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Anyone else not want to vacation for fear of LO going downhill
Last year before she was too bad , my family put the guilt trip on me for not taking our annual mountain vacation. I finally gave in for a shorten period. Moms confusion grew & she started to get more confused when we came back & it never stopped . She lives with us full time. My husband has been understanding, or so I…
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Eye issues
My mom had an eye exam just a few months back. Doc said not issues, prescription stays the same. The issue is that her left eye is getting 'lazy' her eye lid doesn't open all they way and she is telling us she doesn't see well any more. At least that is what she says one minute, next she says she sees fine. Problem is that…
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MIL has urinary urgency/ accidents
My MIL who has dementia is having urinary accidents and we''re not sure what to do. It''s not like she''s completely incontinent. During the day she''s usually capable of getting herself to the bathroom without a problem. It seems more like when she is asleep she can''t recognize that she has to go until it''s too late…
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Moved mom to MC yesterday
Yesterday was the big day and it went OK. Following the advice of many here I said not one word to her about the move before hand (which killed me and felt SO disrespectful but I knew it would only agitate and then she'd forget). My husband went and picked her up and took her to breakfast while I went into her apartment…
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Bummed and needing advice
We finally got the call from the nursing home last week that Mom was at the top of the waiting list. It felt like God had answered our prayer. I am losing our main caregiver October 1 for at least the month and on top of that recently my boss has been giving me the side eye about all the interruptions necessitated by my…
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Finally will be getting in home help for my hubby but worried about COVID
hubby is vaccinated but we've all heard the effectiveness is waning. The city I live in has the MOST vaccinated in the area but also the HIGHEST amount of new cases : ( Now I'm worried an aide comes in that's been taking care of others and that my hubby will be put at risk. I'm very careful when I go out the mask, hand…
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Activities for PWDs
There is a new book called Creative Cares. It is about using the theater arts to engage PWDs, using their imagination instead of their memories. I only read the very beginning of the book, but it sounds very promising. Other art forms can be modified for activities in a care facility or at home. Iris
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Family therapy/therapist for sibling caregivers of dementia mother?
Hello all, My first posting, so please be patient as I try to surf through the forums and resources. My mother is a 86yr old widow use to living on her own in a two-story home. I am one of 5 sisters. Three of my sisters live near my mother (one of which is the POA), one of my sisters lives a couple States away, and I live…
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Has anyone ever heard of this????
Yesterday, my mom saw her Doctor in her AL facility. The doctor called me and said she was pleased as it looked like mom had "made a friend" as she saw them walking around. I was so relieved as she has made no friends there yet! About 30 minutes later, I got a frantic call from my mom saying she had been "kidnapped"!! She…
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Haven't been here in a while
My hubby has been in and out of the hospital twice the past 5 months, first time took a fall while in the hospital got a call his pulse dropping in the 20's and pausing did emergency pacemaker. In June noticed his urine looked bloody and he had a fever called paramedics ended up he had toxic shock was in ICU one night and…