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Bummed and needing advice
We finally got the call from the nursing home last week that Mom was at the top of the waiting list. It felt like God had answered our prayer. I am losing our main caregiver October 1 for at least the month and on top of that recently my boss has been giving me the side eye about all the interruptions necessitated by my…
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Finally will be getting in home help for my hubby but worried about COVID
hubby is vaccinated but we've all heard the effectiveness is waning. The city I live in has the MOST vaccinated in the area but also the HIGHEST amount of new cases : ( Now I'm worried an aide comes in that's been taking care of others and that my hubby will be put at risk. I'm very careful when I go out the mask, hand…
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Activities for PWDs
There is a new book called Creative Cares. It is about using the theater arts to engage PWDs, using their imagination instead of their memories. I only read the very beginning of the book, but it sounds very promising. Other art forms can be modified for activities in a care facility or at home. Iris
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Family therapy/therapist for sibling caregivers of dementia mother?
Hello all, My first posting, so please be patient as I try to surf through the forums and resources. My mother is a 86yr old widow use to living on her own in a two-story home. I am one of 5 sisters. Three of my sisters live near my mother (one of which is the POA), one of my sisters lives a couple States away, and I live…
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Has anyone ever heard of this????
Yesterday, my mom saw her Doctor in her AL facility. The doctor called me and said she was pleased as it looked like mom had "made a friend" as she saw them walking around. I was so relieved as she has made no friends there yet! About 30 minutes later, I got a frantic call from my mom saying she had been "kidnapped"!! She…
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Haven't been here in a while
My hubby has been in and out of the hospital twice the past 5 months, first time took a fall while in the hospital got a call his pulse dropping in the 20's and pausing did emergency pacemaker. In June noticed his urine looked bloody and he had a fever called paramedics ended up he had toxic shock was in ICU one night and…
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Please give me comfort
Hello, My mom has underlying dementia which has not been officially diagnosed. She has repetiveness when she talks about things, and circles the conversation back to things we already talked about moments ago. My issue is that she has always been a difficult personality to try get her way. I don't know if this is still…
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Pseudodementia
Had another one of my LOed tested for dementia - neurologist says pseudo dementia. But I’m not sure, she repeats, forgets and doesn’t comprehend situations. I still wonder if she has dementia. Has anyone had a similar situation? Saya
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Just starting out with wife having EO AD
My DW had a PET scan last month which found that she has this terrible disease. I shouldn't be surprised as her father has AD as well. We have a follow up appointment with our neurologist next month and will discuss treatment options. Keeping a brave face...
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my father hit another resident
Reading some of the other recent posts has given me some good advice how to understand this, so thank you all! The MC facility called me yesterday - my dad had punched a resident in the back. She seemed physically ok - didn't need immediate care. The staff didn't see it happen, so they don't know what led up to it. The…
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Making the trade off
A few months ago I got my parents (one AD one with cognitive problems) to independent/assisted living. They transitioned relatively well. Last week dad fell and broke his hip. He had surgery and is now in a pretty grim/basic nursing home for rehab. With Covid there are no other options Mom with AD is falling apart, dad is…
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Did anyone else waste precious time in a study before knowing there was medication your loved one sh
Hello. My name is Amy. We thought my mother might have had a stroke. She couldn't get her words out and when she did they were wrong much of the time. The Neurologist diagnosed her with MCI. BUT referred her to an Alzheimers study. Has anyone else experienced this? Once with the study they said mom had moderate to severe…
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Alarms for Wandering
Does anyone have a recommendation on an alarm that we could have our mother wear along with her Assisted Living Facilities Pendant she pushes when she needs assistance? We need a way to "catch & Prevent" mom from walking out of the facility - we living in MN and cold weather is fast approaching. Does anyone know of an…
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Frustrated!!!(1)
Mom has Mixed dem. and at last neuro visit still deemed mid stage. Is sleeping more, and seems if we press her about something (I.e. for what ever reason we have to urge her to do something she doesn’t want to) she has a bout of diarrhea (from stress?). Then my guilt kicks in like I already don’t enough problems with that!…
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Only children come in
This came up in another thread so I thought I would start a new topic about being an only child and caregiver. My parents divorced when I was very young and my dad is remarried. It was a bad divorce and they were terrible co-parents. My mom has been on her own since my stepfather died 14 years ago. I am her only child. My…
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End of summer decline?
We are in NY & although prior to summer , mom was not doing well, it seemed like the vitamin D , sunshine, flowers , etc turned her around . It’s only been a week, but weather is changing , she’s not outside as much & her daily phone calls from family have declined from every day . I’m seeing a noticeable difference in…
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Snapped
Hi. My MIL has Alzheimers and lives with my husband and I. I don't know what stage, but most people do not realize something is wrong. She is going to be moving to an independent living facility connected to memory care. I'm not sure how this will work, as she cannot make a pot of coffee and nearly burned down the house…
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Struggling!
Good Morning, This is my first time on this site, as many of you it has been a difficult year. Last July my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. At that time, I moved my mom and dad (who has Alzheimer''s/dementia) up to SC to live with me an my husband to help care for them both. Unfortunately, we lost my mom to her cancer…
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Please help me change lives
Hi folks, I need you help ideas and if you have funds, I need them to. As many of you know I have been an advocate for this cause for a very long time. What you may not know is that I do this work all over the world. I have focused a lot of my work in Africa were they believe dementia is which craft and may are locked in…
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New to Alzconnected
Hi all! My name is Julie. I’ve just started my journey with my Mom, although I believe she’s been struggling with Alzheimer’s since May, 2018. She’s been hiding it for a long while and can’t anymore. She’s declining fast. There’s no denying it now. I’m very scared and looking for help. If I know what to expect, I do…
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She’s forgotten what her walker is for
Every solution causes a new problem. No matter what I’ve tried these last few weeks, I haven’t fixed a single thing. The newest “solution” that will make more problems is the walker she’s used for 3 1/2 years. The walker makes no sense to her unless she has both hands on the handles. It’s dragged around by one handle or…
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Handling LO wanting to live alone
Hi, my Mom's partner of 40 years (and caregiver for 3) was suddenly unable to care for her any longer 3 weeks ago and has moved out of their shared home and I have moved in with my Mom as a result of this until I figure out what to do permanently. Mom was diagnosed 2 1/2 years ago with Alz, but it is mild to medium I…
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How do you manage very active LOs?
My LO is very active and thinks he's ok. He's in middle stages of dementia. We are having trouble with him tinkering & thus breaking home tools. He takes everything apart! Right down to every last nut and bolt. He's done this with the grill, lawnmower, weedwacker, and the list goes on. Last summer he took apart the…
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Kicking out the help
My mother with mixed dementia, whom I live with, had one of the worst days ever. It was the second session with supervision from a very experienced private caregiver. We had a brief initial meet and greet visit that went well. In the first session my mother asked to leave to visit a friend in an apartment on our floor.…
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Question about eating(1)
Hi I rarely post here but when I do I appreciate the input. A do follow this forum and it has been a godsend for us. Mom and I along with a team of caregivers are helping my Gram through her dementia. She has VD+AD and is now in advanced stage. She also has recently been put on seroquel and we have lorazepam avail as…
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struggling(4)
been lurking for a while now, but this is the first time i'm posting. i wasn't sure where to start. there's been so much to manage. plus i've been hiding from the sadness and the fear and My Feelings which are intense to the point of overwhelming, but time doesn't stop because i'm not ready for what's next, so i'm trying.…
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How long to clean out mom's apartment?
For those that have dealt with cleaning out your LOs house or apartment after a move to AL or MC how long did it take you? It is a one bedroom condo but mom was a bit of a "collector" so there is lots in there. And there is a storage locker in the basement that I have never seen that is no doubt filled to the brim. It will…
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Drinking
My DW is cheerful and fun in spite of having lost 100% of her short-term memory. She enjoys the taste of wine, and I of course want her to enjoy it. But she can no longer keep track of how much she has had; will keep filling the glass until the fridge is empty; and when there’s none left, she accuses me of pouring it out.…
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A good day(1)
Yesterday is what I would call a good day on the dementia journey. (Background...my 95 yr old father has dementia around stage 5 and my 96 yr old mother is his primary caregiver living in their own home). When I first came here, my biggest worry was that my mother would not consider outside help or moving to independent…
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Mom is understandably angry about shower assistance
It's been clear for a while now that my Mom who lives in MC needs help showering. She believes that she showers herself every day, and maybe she stands in the shower or something, but she is not washing herself. Yesterday, she received her first assisted shower and she is absolutely irate today. I totally understand her…